FLYing through March: Fledglings Assemble

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SilveryMoon Thu 28-Feb-13 20:10:22

Welcome to the March Fledgling FLYers thread

... where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of and chatting along the way.

This little-and-often system is designed so that we can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in weekly designated zones of the house; defining and minimising housework - which in theory should leave us with more time to do other, more interesting things instead!

At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling we get when we are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once.

To avoid being inundated with details, we advise not signing up to the Big Tent

We are in the process of following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

- start or repeat baby steps

- repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone

- reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

[And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.]

Flylady site here

Don't worry if you are behind; just jump right back in and it will all come around next month again anyway!

All the links for the babysteps and missions will be posted here every day and we'll all be here to cheer each other on.

thanks to SC and Blue for leading us through January and February and for the brilliant OP I've just cut and pasted .

Let's get the old dust balls rolling for March!

Thanks Silvery and thanks Blue for Feb. I'm going to try a bit harder this month.

SilveryMoon Thu 28-Feb-13 20:30:05

Hi WhoKnows I'm going to try harder this month too.

Here are the links we'll need for tomorrow:
babystep 1 - Shine your sink. This is the most important one and the foundation of the system we follow.
mission for Friday. Set timer for 15 mins and do something that needs to be done in zone 1.
Information on zones Zone 1 is Entrance, Porch and Dining room.
daily focus should update itself.
this months habit will all become clear in the morning (hopefully)
the flightplan if anyone needs a quick check on where we are.

Use the parts that you want to and remember there is no such thing as being behind, just jump right in.

Hope all those links work and I have included everything we need.

Engelsemama Thu 28-Feb-13 20:47:39

Marking my spot.

Must do better in March!

NickNacks Thu 28-Feb-13 21:04:52

Another one checking in with must do better!

I really will. And for the whole month too, I'm a great one for doing well in the first two weeks and then I tail off...

<disappears off to set up the naughty corner bar and sun room>

LillethTheCat Thu 28-Feb-13 22:06:41

Thanks for the new thread Silvery

Right tomorrow's list
- Make beds
- Turn Washing machine on
- dry laundry
- put laundry away
- wash up 3X
- Shine Sink
- Frugal grocery shopping (Im trying to not spend the pennies too much)
- Appointment in town
- coursework for 1 hour
- 15 min DDs bedroom

please may I join? I need some motivation to get on top of the chaos that is my house...

<Joins Bitchy in the naughty corner bar>

Still, have definitely been doing errands day today, running round like a mad thing! And yesterday I anti-procrastinated calling the piano tuner, so the piano is now tuned... smile

Thanks for the new thread, Silvery.

DewDr0p Thu 28-Feb-13 23:12:30

Not done this before (although am familiar with the basic idea of flylady) - please can I join in?

ToffeeWhirl Thu 28-Feb-13 23:23:54

Thanks very much for running the February thread, Blue. thanks

And thanks to Silvery for running this one.

Starting badly, as kitchen is a mess and I will have to sort it in the morning <sigh>. Must do better.

<joins Bitchy in the naughty room>

SilveryMoon Fri 01-Mar-13 00:53:02

Welcome dew and mrsb
Jump right in, we're right at the beginning
Of a new cycle so a perfect time to get started.
We suggest you have a look at the above links and navigate through the flylady website at leisure. Do not sign up to the emails as your inbox will quickly become cluttered with messages you won't need. Any questions, just ask, someone will be around to answer them.
It all starts from a shiny sink.
This is a simple system that allows us to tackle our homes without it taking over our lives.
Babysteps is the key word. Our homes did not get how they are in a day, they certainly won't become clutter free in a day.
Complete the Babystep and declutter for 15 mins a day, enjoy it, tell us about it and chat and take back control.

Someone stop me when I start to waffle!

Not sure what I'll do for the 15 mins in hallway. Think it'll have to be something in the bathroom as I tweaked this zone. The toothbrush holder could do with a rinse and there's some limescale round the taps. I hear white vinegar is good for that so will have to Google instructions.

MercuryRising Fri 01-Mar-13 04:09:08

I am slinking back in determined to stick with the thread for the whole of March hmm Although I won't be able to post today as Im currently at work and will be spending the day in bed ready for another night shift tonight. So I will climb back on the fly wagon on Saturday if that is okay.

Big wing flaps to all grin

SilveryMoon Fri 01-Mar-13 06:34:10

My list:
Get up and make beds
Get breakfast
Shower and dress
Swish and swipe
Clear breakfast
Feed cats
Rubbish out
Go to work
Home and change
School bags
Cook dinner
Feed cats
Sort dry clothes
Non iron away
Ds1 to football
Clean kitchen
Lay out clothes
Shine sink

Have a good day all.

elliepac Fri 01-Mar-13 06:34:51

Morning all. Apologies for absence last month and probably more absence this month. I can't go into details in here but we have an horrific family situation at the moment which means this has probably been the most difficult week of my lifesad. Hence rl is taking priority at the moment. I shall be back when things have calmed down and I have managed to sort my head out. Happy March flying to you allsmile.

issimma Fri 01-Mar-13 06:38:26

Checking in!
wine for ellie
I love looking at other people's lists and ticking off what I can here. Am that sad.
First task of the day (before the sink) is putting away the clean laundry mountain that is taking over the bedroom!

NickNacks Fri 01-Mar-13 07:23:34

Oh ellie so sorry to hear that sad We are all here for you whenever you're ready to come back. Lots of sweet brew for you.

I'm working 8.30-6pm today but will try to get a few bits done in between and will post a ta da list later.

Happy Friday everyone smile

Engelsemama Fri 01-Mar-13 07:24:55

<hugs> ellie

Engelsemama Fri 01-Mar-13 07:26:41

List for today

Shred with friend later
washing up
empty bin
one load of washing
tidy lounge
food shopping
what's for dinner?
must do a tiny bit of school work - report comments for one class or mark set of lower school work
do student loan paperwork

superfluouscurves Fri 01-Mar-13 07:31:57

Hello everyone - just parking my mop and bucket

Thanks for shiny new thread Silvery!

thanks A multitude of thanks to Blue (and Toffee) for leading us through February.

A very warm welcome to Dewdrop and MrsB

Ellie sorry to hear things are so difficult atm. Hope you and yours are ok x

Funeral is on the 4th (800+ km away) so hope to be back on here from Mon 11th if not before, when some serious Flying will need to be done - house currently a cess-pit.

[Slopes off to help Bitchy stock bar. Looks around hopefully for Just to come on and state that March is the new January (it being more authoritative coming from her grin)]

Honu Fri 01-Mar-13 08:03:54

Eternal thanks to those running the fledgling threads. I read and feel I'm not alone even if I don't post that much.

{{HUGS}} to Ellie - look after yourself.

<Prepares for flack> I have signed up for Flylady Lite. This seems to be one email a day so not so overwhelming and has the occasional good bit in it.

We now have hard floors (necessary for DH) over most of the ground floor. What a faff! Instead of muck sitting comfortably in the carpet until I vacuum it the dust and dog / cat hair rolls accusingly all over the floor every day. Maybe it's more hygenic but I'm under-impressed. Any tips?

PeasandCucumbers Fri 01-Mar-13 09:03:38

Hi, I am also new to this thread though I did lurk (briefly!) once last year. I am determined to give it a proper go this month. Will try and have a look through the above links and post a list later though realistically I may have to start tomorrow as I have lots of deadlines at work today and am out at 7 tonight!!

Jdub Fri 01-Mar-13 09:40:32

Hello everyone, what a lovely new thread!
I hope you all are well and have a productive day. This week has gone fast, and I have more or less stayed on top of the general clutter at home! (time to recharge and eat chocolate!)
to do this weekend
all round dust and hoover
make cake
wash floor
choose a good book from the library

Happy Friday x

GoingGoingGoth Fri 01-Mar-13 09:46:14

Morning all

Thanks for then new thread Silvery and for February's Blue

Hope things pick up Ellie, nice to see you back.

SC will be thinking of you, I'm also waiting to here that March is the new January as February definately wasn't!

Waves to everyone else, then goes to investigate whatever Bitchy has in the naughty corner.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 01-Mar-13 09:49:02

Ellie - really sorry to hear that. I hope the situation can be resolved. ((hugs)) in the meantime.

Honu - hadn't heard of Flylady Lite. Am intrigued...

Welcome, PeasandCucumbers smile.

<waves> to everyone else - and apologies for not doing more personals.

Silvery - thanks for the links. I wasn't going to do the missions, but my dining room is a mess again, so I think maybe I should do at least 15 minutes in there, which means I will have done the mission anyway. I'm not sure 15 minutes will touch it, but it's better than nothing.

Woke up to a cold house, as usual, but the heating engineer arrived at 8.15 and had the spare part in his van instead of having to send off for it shock <swoons> <kisses engineer>, so we now have a working boiler and a warm house again grin.

Lots of home ed to catch up with today. It's DH's birthday on Sunday, so I think we should make some cards too.

Have won a prize grin: a copy of 'Dorkius Maximus', which DS2 will probably enjoy. I never win anything, so it was a nice start to the day.

Any of you following Trazzle - she is having a particularly hard time at the moment sad.

Hope you all have a good day.

GoingGoingGoth Fri 01-Mar-13 11:11:55

Toffee grin at working heating and winning book.

Just flapping by to say Welcome to Peas and provide a hug for Ellie, so sorry to hear that you have had such an awful week.

Jamillalliamilli Fri 01-Mar-13 14:12:56

thanks Blue for February’s thread, and more thanks to Silvery for March.

Ellie sad Sorry unpleasant things are going on. All best wishes for the crisis to pass leaving the least damage it can.

Hello to dew and mrsb, and peas

Toffee glad you have heating back, and thank you for heads up.

Honu do report back if FL lite works. I think you need one of those oblong fabric dry static ‘mops’, but a friend with 20 plus shedding cats and laminate floors, has one of those automatic Roomba vacuums and it works really well. Now that my favourite cat that used to stop it by trying to hitch a lift, has sadly gone

Waves to everyone else and hopes to manage more personals later.

Bugger there goes my plan to sneak up on SC and quietly whisper ‘March is the new January!’ grin
So Goth and SC (with dispensation until post funeral , and hope it goes as well as it can) March is the new January, right?! (Authoritative enough? grin)

It certainly will have to be here. I've had ‘time called’ on our situation, along with a survival offer. So push pull is making decisions for me.

So March for me is a tall, but must suceed, order. ‘Sludgefest’ must be emptied, all damaged items into insurance cage, in two piles according to which incident they were damaged in, the rest entirely cleared into another cage, (and out again two weeks after completion, so that's half of April decided too!) all damaged skirting’s and hardboard removed, and stripped back to floorboards, plaster cut back etc just before the end of the month, if I want an insurance repair ‘deal’ that I’m about to take as best option out of a bad bunch.

It’s an agreement that would spare us all court, (time consuming and currently looking like a bad option) stop me running out of money and being evicted trying to get to court, (currently likely) that I may not win at, (two of the main offenders have filed for bankruptcy) and while it’s not really ‘fair’ and we have to do all the prep work, and will leave us very out of pocket, it will give us back a basically dried out, repaired home and our tenancy undamaged, to start again in, quite quickly, and possibly a pay out on some of the damaged property. (from the one company behaving professionally)
So deep breaths, and sign.

Still to do

Confirm agreement.
Small shopping
Prep psychology
Go down and start re-sorting insurance cage.
Pick up ds
Psychology and maths
Catch up home ed file
Listen to friend

superfluouscurves Fri 01-Mar-13 14:38:01

Thank you Just!!! Beautifully done if I might say so grin

So pleased to hear that there is finally light at the end of the tunnel for you and your housing situation - albeit not fair or ideal (which is so wrong after everything you have been through) - but I hope it will bring you some much deserved peace of mind at least. thanks

A very warm welcome to Peasandcucumber

Honu we only have hard floors throughout - old floor boards - and I find them wonderfully easy to clean - quick hoover and light mop and you are away but that could be because all the detritus falls in to the rather large gaps in between each plank. Would never go back to carpet now. Particularly easy with spills etc. Have you set your hoover to right setting? (Sorry if stating bloody obvious.) Anyway, apart from floors, hope you are enjoying the end of the building trials and enjoying your newly transformed space.

Toffee yay for warm houses!

Great to see all the familiar names back!

LillethTheCat Fri 01-Mar-13 14:47:36

Afternoon everyone

- Make beds
- Turn Washing machine on
- dry laundry
- put laundry away
- wash up after breakfast
- Frugal grocery shopping (Im trying to not spend the pennies too much)
- Appointment in town

to do
- wash up 2X
- Shine Sink
- coursework for 1 hour
- 15 min DDs bedroom

ellie Sorry to hear things are tough at the moment. Hope things get sorted soon.

Welcome mrsb and dew and peas

Yey to the warm house Toffee and to the win

Im not following Trazzle but sorry to hear its not going well ATM. I will go and check it out (assuming she has a thread on MN about it) and pass on my wishes.

So its Jan again is it SC and just yey. grin

Sounds like a busy time just though it sounds promising in the end.

<waves to everyone else>


PeasandCucumbers Fri 01-Mar-13 15:39:56

Ok, I have just read the lesson on how to shine my sink and I'm wondering do people really use window cleaner (windolene?) or car wax on their kitchen sink?!? Mine is a fairly standard stainless steel sink and I think my DH, family, friends etc would think I had gone bonkers if I tried to car wax it!!

ToffeeWhirl Fri 01-Mar-13 16:12:52

I did try Windolene on my taps once after Flylady recommended it, but haven't bothered since. To be honest, they didn't look any more shiny than they do after a wipe down with a e-cloth.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 01-Mar-13 16:14:41

That was to Peas, by the way.

Just dashing off to take DS2 to a party. He is very excited! Will get back and catch up later.

Peas - I have tried various things on my stainless steel sink with the following results:

Vinegar and newspaper - cheap and good but messy and needs a lot of elbow grease
BarKeepers friend - effective but takes a lot of rinsing off to avoid white Magic powdery smears
Magic Eraser Foam block - brilliant and no chemicals. Quite expensive though as it doesn't last long.
Flash Bleach Spray - great for teastains and plugholes but no use on limescale
Ecover Limescale remover - the other way round
Kitchen Power Spray - a really good all rounder but not always easy to find in the shops.

Whatever I use on the sink the taps get the same.

I shined my sink! first I had to do the washing up and put it all away though.

tomorrow I have to wear shoes with laces, which means trainers cause they're the only ones I own with laces. not sure what the point of that is.

peas I did use windolene but not sure if it made any difference.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 01-Mar-13 19:41:06

mrsbugsy - the point of shoes with laces is that you can't take them off easily. The point of the shoes is that you feel as if you are dressed to work, so are less likely to lounge around. Flylady's explanation is here. Most of us don't bother with the 'dressed to shoes' business.

SilveryMoon Fri 01-Mar-13 20:23:36

Evening all.
Let’s see what everyone’s been up to today………
ellie popped in to say hello - look after yourself. Will be thinking of you and hope to see you back soon
issimma likes to look at everyones lists - I can be quite lazy about posting mine, I have them all written in my cj.
Honu is after tips for cleaning hard floors. I have no tips myself, but have hard floors and 2 cats. I still only hoover once a week, occasionally sweep through the week but not often blush
Peas Welcome to the thread. Yes, I use window cleaner on my sink (and oven, bathroom tiles, bathtub etc) because it is easy, a quick wipe and is smear free. I just swish the sink out before washing up,
Toffees boiler is working and she has a warm house - great news!
Just I’m overwhelmed just reading your post about ‘sludgefest’ grin
MrsB The point of lace up shoes is so you can’t just kick them off. The shes is all about attitude and how you’re more likely to have a get up and go if you have shoes on rather than slippers. I find it to be true, but I don’t wear shoes in the house.

I’m really glad this week is over. Has been horrid.
I’m not talking to ‘d’p. Let’s call him fuckwit. He’s being a knob about me wanting to go for a drink with a friend. A male friend. Ok, I kind of understand, because me and my friend have in the past engaged in sexual activity, but that was long before fuckwit, and this guy was my best friend for 3 years.
I’m really annoyed because it’s like he doesn’t trust me. He says it’s not normal to keep in touch with an ex, but this guy is not an ex. Me and fuckwit are not seeing where each other are coming from and I’m really fucking cross.

Anyway, tomorrows links to follow

SilveryMoon Fri 01-Mar-13 20:32:04

babystep 2 - Get dressed to lace up shoes. Most of us don't bother with this one, but I do agree with the reasoning.

No missions over the weekend, this is the time to enjoy ourselves!

daily focus for Saturday - family fun day

flight plan should update in the morning and gives a rundown on the days tasks.

So, oldies, normal routines and have fun
Newbies, shine your sink, get dressed to shoes.

ellesabe Fri 01-Mar-13 21:44:30

Hello, can I join please?

My house is a state due to the arrival of dd2 three months ago and I feel it's time to get things in order!

peas I have wondered about dh's reaction to this whole flylady thing too. I haven't told him about it as he would think I've had a bump to the head or something. I shined my sink the other night for the first time while he was out and his first words on returning home were "what the heck has happened in here?" blush

honu I have laminate floors downstairs and vacuuming is fine. Or if I haven't got time to Hoover I just crawl around with a damp cloth and blitz the areas that get the grubbiest.

Phew, today has been intense! Lots of mild child-related hassle combined with work piling up - nothing to what plenty of other people are going through but it's left me shattered and in need of wine.

Ellie - hope things improve soon.
Peas - I mainly use white vinegar and water in a spray bottle for the sink and hob. Smells like a chippy but shines up beautifully with an e-cloth.
Honu the laminate floor in the kitchen/dining room needs sweeping every day - small children dropping crumbs everywhere - but in the sitting room it gets hoovered at the same time as the rugs.
Toffee - glad to hear you have heat again
Just - glad there's a solution, however non-ideal.

Big waves to everyone else, especially newbies. smile

NickNacks Fri 01-Mar-13 22:24:49

Welcome to all the newbies!

Big waves to everyone else!

I've had a very productive day- spent 5 hours (in sections) sorting out all the paperwork in the house after a manic morning looking for insurance docs to tax the car which resulted in me having to call up and have them emailed to me. I now have a very large storage box of such to be shredded which frankly is going to take me months to get through. The rest is all neatly filed smile

GoingGoingGoth Fri 01-Mar-13 23:03:19

Quick post this evening, did the usual routines.

I also emailed the Regeneration Agency about my self employment as I haven't heard anything since emailing them 2 weeks ago. Turns out some emails haven't been coming through hmm, mine included, anyway the guy rang me straight away, said my business plan was excellent <preens> and hopefully will be approved NEXT TUESDAY! Which means I get the new business funding and can sign off grin

Then Dd went to play with the children from the flat downstairs, ended up staying for dinner & watching a film. Finally comes home at 9! So she feels really grown up. See what she's like in the morning, we're supposed to be going to the cinema.

So a productive day, and relaxing evening- Result!

drivingmisspotty Fri 01-Mar-13 23:22:38

Hi everyone can I join please?

Funnily enough discovered this thread a couple weeks ago and on the exact same day our letting agent called to say our landlady wants to give us notice to leave. Cue me forgetting the sink shining and panic cleaning oven for a couple of hours. Then I saw something on fly lady where she said 'FLYing - Finally Loving Yourself'. Cheeserific but it rang true - have been happy enough keeping my family, who I love most in the world, in a less than clean home but as soon as I hear landlady ia returning I want the place spotless. ....

Anyways have started by shining my sink today and will carry on with fly lady system until we move and then will have the luxury of starting afresh smile

Good luck for March everyone!

PeasandCucumbers Fri 01-Mar-13 23:41:13

Thanks to all those who have posted tips on how they shine their sink. ELLESABE I think if your DH appreciated / noticed the change you must have done a great job grin

I am feeling quite chuffed with myself as although I didn't really plan to start this until tomorrow I have managed to clear all washing up, sort some laundry and begin shining my sink (I have filled my sink with boiling water & bleach before bed) in the hope that this will make the job easier tomorrow!!

May have had too much wine this evening but am feeling optomistic about getting stuck in tomorrow grin

thanks for the explanations re. shoes. I am going out tomorrow so will be wearing shoes anyway grin

silvery no real advice but I also find jealousy really annoying, I agree it shows lack of trust.

I'm annoyed with dp for more trivial reasons, i went to bed earlier and he promised to do the washing up, now he's just crawled into bed after falling asleep on the sofa and says he will do it in the morning. so I have a lovely shiny sink full of dishes...angry

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Mar-13 07:45:10

Good morning.
I’m still really pissed off and haven’t spoken to fuckwit. I’ve left my eternity ring on his bedside table. I really think I’m done.
I was very close to leaving before xmas, had made appointments with the housing officer etc to find out how I’d have to go about it and find somewhere else to live.
I just can’t believe I am in a relationship where I spend more time miserable than happy.

Anyhoo, Today’s List:
Up and make beds done
Feed Cats done
Get breakfast done
Clear breakfast
Shower and dress
Swish and swipe
Empty rubbish
Get out the house for the day
Menu plan and write shopping list
Food shop
Glass shelves/mirrors etc
Clean litter trays
Change bed sheets
Wipe out fridge
Clear purse and bag
Quick hoover car
Cook dinner
Sort dry clothes
Non iron away
Play and tidy
Clean kitchen
Check diary
Shine sink

Probably won’t get it all done. For the newbies: This is not how a weekend is supposed to go, but I haven’t the energy for daily focus stuff during the week so try to get it all done over the course of the weekend. I couldn’t get back from work on a Monday and change beds and hoover. No way.
In terms of family fun, not sure what we’ll do today. I need to go into town but would like to not have to come back until much later.

Welcome elles and daisy

Happy Saturday, have a good day.

Honu Sat 02-Mar-13 08:24:08

Have already gone over my allotted mn time today but hey - it's Saturday (or some such excuse!)

Thanks for advice on floors but am amazed only Blue finds she has to do them every day. And I'm not noted for my housewifely skills blush. Must be the dog <looks at adored black lab who wags her tail>.

To add to the sink shining - being a simple soul I have a product (sold by Mr Tesco, the only supermarket in town) called 'Shiny Sinks' which does exactly what it says on the plastic bottle.

Silvery men just don't seem able to accept that women can have perfectly platonic relationships (on her side at least) with other men. I have an ex-colleague (male) with whom I used to go out after work, walking the dog and then to the pub for a meal. This was before I even got together with DH. For years after I carried on walking with him a few times a year (even before he fell DH never wanted to go walking), sometimes he brought the latest girlfriend. DH hated it! In vain did I explain I didn't fany my ex-colleague, he wasn't my type, etc... I finally stopped after DH fell and this would throw him into an 'I am worthless' type of depression which took days to subside, so it wasn't worth the effort. Hope you manage to get this sorted - good luck!

drivingmisspotty Sat 02-Mar-13 08:34:00

Okay, good start today, long may it last...

Laundry folded and put away, one load in drier another in machine
DC (x2) breakfasted, washed, dressed
Kitchen surfaces, table, highchair wiped down
Breakfast dishes washed up

to do
Get self washed and dressed!
Persuade baby to nap
Take DC to library
Lunch and wash up
Fold and put away washing from drier
Hang or dry washing from machine
Sort out new credit card
Play with DC park this afternoon if weather ok
Sort new credit card

Would love to see your lists for further inspiration. ..

drivingmisspotty Sat 02-Mar-13 08:35:43

Oops sorting credit card twice, subconsciously stressed?

NickNacks Sat 02-Mar-13 09:02:09

I'm chewing my fingers off this morning waiting for middle school allocation to arrive in post...

I am in bed bfing dd and looking around at a messy bedroom. we are going out in an hour and a half so before then I will attempt to

get up and dressed (to shoes grin )
do last night's dishes
make bed
wrap presents and write card for friend we are visiting
write shopping list

will stop at the supermarket on the way back.

later when we get home I need to
put shopping away
do laundry
shine sink

issimma Sat 02-Mar-13 09:29:53

We are dressed. The sink is not shiny. The house is a pigsty. <sigh>

ToffeeWhirl Sat 02-Mar-13 10:38:40

Silvery - so sorry you are going through this sad.

Like Silvery, I will be catching up on the housework today in direct contravention of Flylady rules. However, DS1 is out at his best friend's house and DS2 is going out with his friend for the day, so I will have a child-free house for once and need to make the most of it. Also, it's DH's birthday tomorrow and we have invited MIL for a birthday lunch, which means we need a tidy dining room to sit in <looks ruefully at piles of home ed stuff on dining-room table and basket overflowing with stuff to iron>.

Am not even dressed yet, but have spent a nice snuggly morning with DS2, playing Monopoly and chatting. He says he is so excited about his outing with his friend that he might 'explode with happiness' grin.

Hope you all have a good weekend.

LillethTheCat Sat 02-Mar-13 11:47:27


- Parkrun (knocked 30 secs off my PB grin )
- Turn on Washing Machine
- 2nd Load (now have an empty wash basket grin )
- Make beds
- receive Oil delivery

to do
- Dry Laundry
- put laundry away
- Wash up 2X
- Shine Sink
- Sort out homework for DS
- jigsaw with DD1

Silvery sorry you are having problems with DH. I think mine would be the same.
Toffee Aww bless your DS exploding with happiness grin
Nicknacks Good luck with the middle school letter. Hope you get the school you want.
Peas and elles Ive not uttered the words Flylady to DH, I just get on with stuff.
driving Good luck with getting your home ready for the landlady. Also moving is a good motivator to sort things out. When we moved we hardly took anything with us to the new house and skipped a lot of stuff after we moved before we handed the keys back. Now Im determined not to let this house get as bad as the last one, although its not far off blush

Im semi annoyed with DH. I want to be frugal and try to save as much money as possible. Not for anything exciting, but just so I have a bit of money put aside for whatever. Both me and DH are very much of the spend frame of mind which I want to change. DH isn't that keen. Everytime I mention that I would like to go to Aldi instead of Tesco or Morrisons he just moans. Im feeling the only way I can be frugal is to lie about how much money I have, but that's not right is it?

Anyway been looking at jobs and there's a couple I want to apply for. Just need to get my CV better. Im not sure its that good just yet. I need to blow any possibly future employers away. They are all 45 mins drive away, but that's doable even though Ive never travelled for longer than 30 mins to work before (and it was only that long as I walked), but that was before we moved to the middle of nowhere. Really hope I get somewhere with one of them.

Jamillalliamilli Sat 02-Mar-13 13:47:50

Quick hello to Elles and Driving

(New people should ignore my lists. I ‘FLY’ in a completely different way at the moment due to circumstances.)

Good luck to NickNacks

Silvery sorry it’s all miserable right now. Might be worth trying to take a step back and think things through carefully.

And again apologies to all for not managing more personals, but must keep it together here..

Still to do
Run out for fab conditioner
Repair boots
Exhaust manifold properly onto car
Pay bill
Insurance unit
Listen to friend

NickNacks Sat 02-Mar-13 18:14:59

Dreadful day.

Not only did we not get the school we put first or second but bit even the third choice either! We've been given the forth (and only four to choose from!!). It's just not suitable for him.

Ds (and we) are really really gutted. Lots of tears in the NickNacks house today. sad

LillethTheCat Sat 02-Mar-13 19:00:18

Oh no NickNacks sad can you appeal? What happens next then? 4th is a long way down to get I think (could be wrong there though)

- Parkrun (knocked 30 secs off my PB grin )
- Turn on Washing Machine
- 2nd Load (now have an empty wash basket grin well did earlier, now have things in there - boooo )
- Make beds
- receive Oil delivery
- Dry Laundry
- put laundry away
- Wash up 2X
- Shine Sink
- jigsaw with DD1

tomorrows list
- Strip beds
- Wash bedding
- Dry bedding
- remake beds
- Wash up 3X
- Shine Sink
- Sort out homework for DS (totally forgot all about it blush )
- Coursework
- Revision

<waves to everyone else>

NickNacks Sat 02-Mar-13 19:05:44

I don't know tbh lilleth. I think we'll go on the waiting list and will be quite high in the 2 nd choice one which was DS favourite. We only have four in our LA and three choices given. This was the only one we really didn't want. It's massive and he's currently at the smallest first school in the LA. All his friends have got into the 2nd choice one so really do have our hopes pinned on that. sad

well I have done everything off this morning's list, except make the bed, and that was because the cat was sleeping on it and I am too soft to move her.

just got in from shopping, dp is putting shopping away, I am feeding dd, and the washing is on.

I will shine the sink again later although presumably I don't need to repeat the whole process again?

ellesabe Sat 02-Mar-13 19:22:01

That sounds tough nicknacks sad You might be pleasantly surprised at how quickly the waiting list goes down for choice #2 though.

Today's ta-das
Make beds
Swish and swipe
Laundry washed, tumbled and ironed
Kitchen floor wiped down
Bag of stuff assembled for charity shop
Trip to the beach and Starbucks with dh and dds

Still to-do
Shine sink
Pack tomorrow's bag
Plan tomorrow's leadership training
Check emails
Mend dd's tshirt

Leadership training for toddler group
Clean bathroom floor

Quick question - I have been looking at the fly-lady website and a few times it mentions a '27 fling boogie' but I can't find any explanation as to what it is! What is it? I'm thinking it probably sounds more fun that it really is smile

LillethTheCat Sat 02-Mar-13 19:27:37

Good luck with getting a place at choice no 2 NickNacks Hope it gets resolved really quickly for you

Elle - I think it is where you get a binbag and go round one room throwing out 27 things. I'll have a little look on the website in a minute.

Oh no Nick, fingers crossed that the waiting list route proves fruitful. My two are at primary so we haven't had to do this for middle school, but there was a fair bit of movement of children between the various schools in our area in Yr 3, hopefully this will be the case for you.

Here it is 27 fling boogie

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Mar-13 19:45:45

Good evening fledglings. Hope everyone’s had a good day.
I’m in a really fucking foul mood. I’m am literally at breaking point. I have to get away from children. Thank God Monday is INSET, I’m on the brink of snapping.

So, today I have:
Got up and made beds
Got breakfast
Swished and swiped
Showered and dressed
Cleared breakfast away
Went into town for some shopping
Cooked dinner
Laid out clothes
Fed cats
Stray items away
Cleared out bag
Wiped down fridge
Menu plan for next week and wrote shopping list

Tomorrow I have to :
Morning routine
Clean litter trays
Mirrors and glass shelves
Change sheets
Make and freeze sandwiches for weeks lunches
Clear out car
Polish shoes
Get bags ready for school
Evening routine

Sorted that issue out with dp about seeing my friend.
Now I’m pissed off because he can see that atm I do not possess the skills to effectively parent the boys, but does he take over? No. He just lets me stand here screaming at everyone, even though I have told him that if I have a moment where it is clear I am at the end of my tether, I expect him to jump in and try to help the boys with their behaviour and take over from me so that I can calm the hell down.
But, he just sits there like some sort of fucking arse.
I sent ds1 to his room in floods of tears because I’d shouted at him, so told dp to go in and offer some emotional support and calm him down, explain that I am just in a bad mood and don’t mean to take it out on him etc, but he goes off, comes back 2 mins later and ds1 is still in bits, so I have to go and calm him down myself.
I know I shouldn’t take my work stuff out on people at home but I really am fucking fed up of havin g to do everything everywhere.
I had to cover my teacher for half the week with little or no planning, the he asked me to re-do behaviour plans and annual reviews which I don’t think are my job, then asks me to get the pupils books for book week from waterstones and generally takes the fucking piss and I have to come home and do everything here myself as well.
The universe is having a fucking laugh!
Rant over. For now.

GoingGoingGoth Sat 02-Mar-13 20:02:53

Silvery winethanks <hugs>

Nick hope it works out, hopefully a short waiting list.

Maybe useless at doing my lists this week, but did a good Family Fun Day

Wash up
Litter tray
Washing hung out
Soft play area with go-carts &climbing wall
Washing in

To do
Washing up & SS
Laundry in

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Mar-13 20:08:30

Right, what have you lot been up to today?
drivingmisspotty has made a great start with a nice list.
NickNacks has been waiting for school allocation info to arrive but unfortunately it was not the news they were hoping for sad - so sorry Nicks. Can you appeal? My parents had to appeal for my place at my secondary school.
issimma had a moment of focusing on what wasn’t done (sink shine) rather than what was done (you all got dressed). - FWIW, I think we need to celebrate our achievements more, no matter how small.
Toffee was having a child-free house today so catching up on her main housework. Toffee’s ds2 was so excited about going out with his friend that he said he might explode with happiness - that is just too cute! Hope he had a good day and you got all your bits done.
Lilleth wants herself and her dh to start putting away for a rainy day. - I too am a spender. I never save. Should really but we’ve been skint for so long, I’m going to spend for a bit longer wink
Lilleth has also spotted some jobs she wants to apply for but wants to brush up her CV a bit. - I had some CV advice from the next steps people, they told me to have my personal statement at the top, include all relevant info first and def don’t have it anymore than 2 pages long, but 1 page is better.
Just came to say hello and tell the newbies to ignore her lists as she’s FLYing a slightly different way right now. - Good to see you Just.
mrsb Had a great day and got her whole list for today ticked off! Well done you, that’s great! And no you don’t need to repeat the whole bleach process again. Now that that bit is done, you know it is hygienically clean, so now when you use it, you’ll dry it off when finished and before bed every night, you’ll squirt a bit of window cleaner on it and buff with a micro-fibre cloth.
ellesabe wants to know what a 27 fling boogie is. I love this one. You get a black bag, go into whichever room you are working on and put 27 things in the bag and throw it away! Love it. Thinking about it, I’m actually thinking I’m sure there’s the option to throw away or take to charity shop/give away but I love to get things in the bin.
here is a link to the FAQ page where there is info on 27 fling boogie.

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Mar-13 20:14:22

babystep 3 - take some time to look around the FLYlady website
No mission for Sunday but daily focus is to renew your spirit. Do something for you.
flight plan for anyone who wants a quick reminder of what we're doing.

ellesabe Sat 02-Mar-13 20:14:50

Thanks whoknows and silvery smile

ToffeeWhirl Sat 02-Mar-13 23:49:38

So sorry your DS didn't get any of his school choices, Nicknacks sad. That's just awful. I hope he gets second choice, especially as it is where his friends are going and the school he wants - but what a stressful time for you all whilst you wait to hear.

And sorry for you too, Silvery. You really are having a tough time.

The good news here is that DS2 had a wonderful day out and came back all happy and chatty.

On the other hand, DS1 clearly found staying over at a friend's house last night just that bit too stressful and took it all out on me. He really lost it with me this evening when I wouldn't let him watch a late film because I said he needed to catch up on sleep. Ended up with him following me round the house, shouting at me and arguing and later wrestling with me over the XBox control lead (which I was trying to remove). He then threatened to break a mug, but I managed to take the mug and walk out.

The good thing is that he is obviously learning some modicum of self control as he matures because, whereas once he would have lost it completely (he used to hit me, but doesn't do that now), he did manage to stop himself from breaking the mug and decided to take it out on old Simpsons comics instead, tearing them all up. DH went up later and quietly picked all the pieces up and DS actually helped him. Then he calmed himself down by strumming on his guitar.

On the bright side, I suppose at least DS1 did some decluttering, even if it was unintentional!

I feel miserable now though. We don't have many of these episodes these days - and far fewer than when he was at school and constantly anxious - but when it happens it's exhausting and harrowing. DH was very sympathetic, but I just want to be on my own now.

Family day tomorrow as it's DH's birthday and MIL is coming for lunch. Will try to cheer up by then.

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Mar-13 23:57:08

Toffee Sorry to heaar about ds1's melt-down (and that h used to hit you, must have been a very hard time), but fab that he managed to control himself enough not to break the mug (I am trying to celebrate and focus on positives, hope you don't mind)
If you don't mind me asking, how old is ds1?
I don't blame you for feeling miserable, sounds like an emotionally draining evening.
FWIW, I like to be on my own to deal with my emotions etc when shit hots fan.
Hope tomorrow goes well for your dh birthday.

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 00:29:12

Thanks, Silvery. DS1 is 13. We had help from CAMHS with the hitting stuff and he never does that now. It wasn't his fault; he was struggling with being a square peg in a round hole at school (he had undiagnosed SNs at that time) and I was a safe place for him to take out his anxieties. I suspect he was overtired tonight and had also found being at his friend's house more stressful than he would admit. Plus, the teen hormones are kicking in and he doesn't like us telling him what to do. Hopefully, he will be in a better mood tomorrow. You are right to focus on the positives, by the way. His self-control is improving as he grows up and he is also becoming more articulate so that we can discuss these issues (once he's calmed down, that is).

I do feel better now, thanks. It's nice to have sympathy and browsing through MN threads has relaxed me and taken my mind off things.

Sorry to use the Flying thread to offload, but it helps.

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 00:34:55

Hey. I was told this is a safe place to off-load. We are all here for each other. I didn't mean to imply that any behaviour challenges are his fault, of course i know there are many factors that come into play, was just being nosey I suppose.
Sounds like you guys are handling it perfectly and is great he is maturing and understand appropriate ways to let off steam.
Glad you're feeling a little better.
We all need a place to rant and off-load, we all have things that challenge us, i'd like to think this thread is a safe, non judgemental place

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 00:37:56

My ds1 is 5. I know this is cmpletely different, but a couple of years ago he went through a violent phase. I gave him an 'angry pillow' to help him channel his aggression without hurting anyone else.
It worked at the time, think I may need to re-introduce it, although his aggression is more verbal atm sad

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 00:59:27

shit. Just reading posts back and I meant to say in my post to you toffee, he used to. Not 'h'. I wouldn't want anyone skim-reading to pick up my typo and misunderstand.
Apologies for typos, I have new nails on that are a little longer than I am used to.

Goodnight, see you all on the other side wink

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 01:13:02

You didn't imply anything negative, Silvery - please don't worry. The angry pillow is an excellent idea, although DS1 used to prefer me or the wall, unfortunately. Sorry your DS1 is aggressive at the moment - DC can say such hurtful things, then they breeze off and you are left smarting.

I understood the 'h' as 'he', not a reference to MrToffee. Am sure others will read it as I did.

Should go to bed now otherwise I will not be up to cooking a decent birthday lunch.


MercuryRising Sun 03-Mar-13 02:22:07

Hello all smile

Im suffering with insomnia after working nights for the last two days. I thought I would catch up with the thread before reading and hopefully heading back to
bed and sleep.

It sounds like lots of us are having a hard time at the moment sad

Im really sorry to read that you are having such a shit time at the moment Silvery. It's so hard to deal with the dcs calmly when you are stressed. I hope things get better for you soon. Is there any chance of you getting a couple of hours to yourself away from home, the family and work just to have some time to yourself? Sometimes I find even just an hour walking the dog by myself helps me to destress a bit.

Nicknacks fingers crossed the waiting list isn't too long. Is there any way you can appeal against the school you have been allocated? Its heartbreaking when the dcs are upset and the situation is beyond your control isn't it? Fingers crossed it all works out the way you want it to.

Toffee I hope ds has a better day tomorrow once he has caught up with some sleep and that you all have a fantastic time celebrating your dhs birthday.

Ta da
Made beds
Washing off rads and airers folded
Wash load in
Hoovered upstairs
Dw unloaded/ reloaded
Living room tidied
Lovely afternoon spent at sils.

Tomorrow my dm is taking the dcs to visit my dsis so dp and I have a very rare childless daygrin. We are hoping to get the bathroom sorted by the end of the month so we are off to look for new tiles and to have lunch tomorrow and then back home to see how easily we can remove the old tiles.

To do for Sunday:
Make beds
Dust and hoover downstairs
Washing out
Wash in
Iron school uniforms
Empty the car (which currently resembles skip on wheels) and hoover
Dcs homework
Spend lovely day with dp

Big waves to all.

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 08:34:00

DS1 has just come downstairs and said breezily, "You were right, Mum, I did need that sleep." No apology though, let alone any indication that he knows he behaved badly and that he might have upset me.

I slept with DS2 because I didn't want to disturb DH last night, so had lots of sleepy cuddles from him.

Mercury - it must be really difficult coping with a sleep routine of any sort when you work nights. I hope you managed to get some sleep in the end. Thanks for your kind words. Enjoy your child-free day.

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 08:43:03

Good good Toffee I was at the bottom of a bottle at that point last night!
Mercury Have a great child-free day. smile

Morning everyone else.
Today we renew our spirit. let's all try to fit this in today. I'm going to read my book in the bath, shave my legs and not wear any make up today.

Clear breakfast
Bath and dress
Swish and swipe
Empty rubbish
Clean litter trays
Change bed sheets
Glass shelves/mirrors
Polish shoes
Make and freeze week's sandwiches
Dig out ds1's swimming trunks
Get pe kits etc ready for school
Pay credit/store cards
Bleach plugs
Food shopping
Go through paper work that's in the glove compartment, no idea what's in there
Feed cats
Cook dinner
Clean kitchen
Lay out clothes
Shine sink

Have a good day smile

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 08:54:47

I will renew my spirit by wearing make-up, Silvery! Hope you manage to get that time to yourself in addition to your (very long) list. I am still sitting on the sofa drinking tea whilst DS2 watches children's telly. blush

Oh hang on - that's me renewing my spirit, isn't it? Might have another cuppa then... grin

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 09:16:14

I'm still on the sofa too. Drinking hot chocolate. Having a CBA moment.

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 09:18:30

Look what I've forgotten to link to this month habit for march is to get dressed to shoes.

morning all. sorry to hear people are having a hard time.

I am in bed as dd went back to sleep after feeding at 6am, and so did I, and has only just woken us up againsmile shock . a lie in has definitely renewed my spirit.

is it against the'rules' to have a housework day at the weekend? this is what we usually do as dp is home so we can both muck in -- one of us keeps dd from crying while the other one tidies--

I think you have to do what works best for you MrsB - Flylady seems to think we all have a fair amount of time at home during the week to do all the daily stuff and it isn't true for many people either because of work or young children. I do have plenty of child free weekday time (2 school age children and only work 2 days) but I prefer to spend a lot of it studying and exercising at the moment, so a fair amount of the housework tends to get shunted to the weekends.

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 11:22:26

mrsb That's great about the lay-in grin
Tomorrow, you will find out about the 'weekly home blessing hour' which is the main housework jobs.
The point is to be able to keep the weekends free to have fun, not spent catching up with the things we didn't get done in the week.
We all have to make adjustments to this system so it works for us individually.
For example, I don't do the daily focus things, I do everything spread over the weekend (food shopping, home blessing, bag clear out, fridge etc), I have merged my bathroom into my hallway and entrance zone so zone 3 is now just the boys bedroom (this bit will make sense soon, don't worry).

These kids are driving me potty! Why can't they just do things the first time I ask. Again, it's taken 2 and a half hours from when I first asked them to get dressed til they've actually done it.

Engelsemama Sun 03-Mar-13 12:43:03

<waves at one and all especially newbies>

nick nacks and silvery sorry to hear about bad news and the hard time you're having. keeping my fx for you NN

silvery I can sympathsie with feeling like you have to do everything (see my comments about DH below wink )

Ta da
Washing up
cleaning kitchen surfaces/hob
Pie filling cooking in oven (another hairy bikers special)
DS changed, fed, changed, fed, changed, in bed and talking to himself grin
Made enough noise and PA sighing that DH got the hint and went to bed instead of mooching and snoring on the sofa the whole day (like yesterday) so I don't feel I have to tiptoe around him
3 sets of reports for school

To do
One set of marking
Go for a run
Finish pie
One other thing in the house...not sure what yet! But would feel good to do a mini mission/15 minute declutter somewhere.

LillethTheCat Sun 03-Mar-13 12:55:19

Well I suppose I should put some sort of list up for today.

- Strip beds
- Wash bedding
- Dry bedding
- Wash up after breakfast

to do
- remake beds
- Wash up 2X
- Shine Sink
- Sort out homework for DS
- Coursework
- Revision
- redo CV
- Apply for jobs
- stop reading MN

Sorry to hear there are bad times for people. Hope things get resolved quickly.

Yey to the lie-in mrsb It was just this morning I was discussing with DH when it was likely to be our next lie in. I think we're talking some time in the next 5-10 years.

DD2 has started to open doors now so whenever one of us leaves the room she follows. Its a bit of a pain when DH is cooking etc.

Was planning to go for a run this aft, but its gloomy and I should really get on with coursework and applying for jobs. I know I said I was going to concentrate on coursework, but Ive seen a few jobs I want to apply for so figure why not. Besides I want more money (even though I probably wont end up with more money by the time Ive paid to get to and from work)


NickNacks Sun 03-Mar-13 13:37:17

Thank you all for your lovely supportive messages. We're all feeling a bit more positive this morning and accept that we'll just have to wait until the 28th March (right before the long bank hol weekend!) to find out whereabouts we are on the waiting list. Ho hum.

General Sunday jobs going on here, homework, bags being packed and laundry getting washed.

Sorry I don't feel like posting a ta da list. And apologies for the lack of personals. I'm wallowing sad

hmm, housework in the week is usually' damage limitation', with big jobs done at the weekend. maybe this will change as dd gets older or as I get to grips with the fly lady system?


clean bathroom
hoover floors
mop kitchen
sort stuff onto new bathroom shelves
change bins

to do:

washing up
sterilise baby things
shine sink
clean windows
sort paperwork
make dinner

ellesabe Sun 03-Mar-13 19:05:59

Today's TA-das
Swish and swipe
Clothes away
Put wash on
27 fling boogie (which I actually found much more difficult than I thought I would)
Successful leadership training with achievable 6month goals set
Tumble drying
Dinner cooked and eaten

Still to-do
Clear up from dinner
Check tomorrow's schedule
Shine sink
Glass of wine and Oceans 12

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 19:33:38

Ta Da
Clear breakfast
Bath and dress
Swish and swipe
Empty rubbish
Clean litter trays
Change bed sheets
Glass shelves/mirrors
Polish shoes
Make and freeze week's sandwiches
Dig out ds1's swimming trunks
Get pe kits etc ready for school
Pay credit/store cards
Bleach plugs
Food shopping
Go through paper work that's in the glove compartment, no idea what's in there
Feed cats
Cook dinner
Clean kitchen
Lay out clothes
Shine sink
Print training certificates for work
Complete appraisal review form and e-mail to head

Back in a bit to round-up and post tomorrows links

ellesabe Sun 03-Mar-13 19:46:45

Is it bad that the first thing I'm doing from my still to-do is have a glass of wine? grin

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 19:57:32

So, since the last round-up:
I got drunk and then paranoid about post to Toffee wink
Toffee waas pleased her ds2 had a good time with his friends and also happy that ds1 is continuing to learn how to better regulate his emotions when he becomes a bit stressed.
mercury had a bout of insomnia last night after coming off night shifts. Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight. Also hope you had a productive and nice child-fee day (show-off wink)
mrsb had a lovely lay-in thanks to her sleeping dd. Jealous!
Today we have mostly been discussing housework (no shit, Sherlock I know) and when we do the main jobs. It’s all about tweaking people smile
NickNacks and co are feeling more positive today about the school situation and are now going to wait to find out how high on the waiting list ds is for his desired school.

Been very quiet on here today so hope that means everyone has been having a nice day doing lovely things.

Really looking forward to INSET tomorrow for the child-free time (not the training we’ll be doing though, hope it’s interesting)

We are in my favourite zone this week: The kitchen.
here is some info on zone 2 and how to get started
babystep 4 is one I think most ignore. It's writting reminders on post-its and putting them in your bathroom and by your sink. If you did have anyone over, they'd think you were insane!
mission to clean countertops
daily focus for Monday is weekly home blessing hour and this link should update automatically
sneak peek for the week for those of us who like to pre-plan to within an inch of our lives

The habit of the month is getting dressed to lace-up shoes.

That's a lot of links. Just take the bits you need, and newbies, you are doing the babystep (1-4) and decluttering for 15 mins. Anything else, don't worry too much about.
We advise you to take it one step at a time, by all means ignore the crap ones, but don't do too much.
FLYlady talks about how it didn't take a day for your house to get how it is, it won't get straight in a day.

Happy FLYing everyone grin

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 19:58:53

Ha ellesabe I'd join you but had 2 bottles last night blush so trying to have a night off. Pouring a drink is the first thing I do after ds's have gone to bed.

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 20:29:47

Hope you are enjoying that wine, Silvery grin. Am drinking bubbly to celebrate DH's birthday.

Ta das :

Decluttered dining room (which means all the stuff is now in our bedroom again sad)
Cleared dining-room table
Loaded d/w
Put washing on
Mopped kitchen floor
Cleaned and cleared kitchen surfaces
Cleaned mirrors
Polished brass
Emptied bins
Made up with DS1 and had a cuddle smile
Ironed school shirts for DS2
Ordered Ds1's World Book Day token so he doesn't miss out by not being at school
Made DH's birthday lunch (roast)
MIL here for lunch
PM - had a nap to catch up on lack of sleep last night
DC's dinners
More washing on
Opened Cava
Bedtime routines

Hope you all had a good day.

Thanks for your round ups and links, Silvery.

ToffeeWhirl Sun 03-Mar-13 20:30:53

Looking at my list, I think I have just done a 'home blessing' one day early grin.

Cuddledup Sun 03-Mar-13 20:53:54

Hi All - Good to see what everyone's been up to in recent days. Have done lots today including a home bleurgh a day early.

Ok does the death of a gold fish whose tank was in the living room count as de cluttering for the living room zone?

Another question - how often do you change your sheets? I do them weekly but it's a real faff doing duvets. I thought if I change the bottom sheets weekly and then turn over the duvet then I could change the duvet cover fortnightly.

Off to do the before bed routine.

drivingmisspotty Sun 03-Mar-13 21:15:49

Thanks silvery Yes, the post its on mirror are a bit nuts!

Sorry to hear about your goldfish, cuddledup

And Lileth, yes hopefully the move will be a good opportunity to declutter. And I cannot believe the clutter! Unfortunately spending too much time procrastinating on right move app at mo...

So, today's tada
Everyone up, dressed, breakfast
Church (only 5mins late)
Bit of shopping
Baby nap
Play with preschooler
Tesco online shop
Sort laundry from drier and put away
Washing machine full ready to go on in morning
Clean inside microwave
Washing up loads of times
Bathe kids plus stories and bed
Lay out clothes for tomorrow
Email work re return dates following mat leave

To do tomorrow
Tackle fridge before online delivery!

SilveryMoon Sun 03-Mar-13 21:25:30

cuddle I change all sheets weekly. I know some people who have a sheet on the mattress and then a sheet under the duvet so when they get in the top sheet is in contact with their body not the duvet cover, you know?

GoingGoingGoth Sun 03-Mar-13 21:47:45

Hello all

Silvery & Toffee read your lists and thought "is it Monday?" Wow, you've both been busy.

Wash up
Litter tray
Hang washing out
Play board games with Dd
Washing in
Change DD's bedding
Dry laundry away
Wash up & SS
School bag & uniform ready for tomorrow

Just about to do small pile of ironing whilst watching Stardust -love it

Washed to bottom of laundry basket
sorted filing cabinet
cleaned Hoover filter
filled in job application (that's how great my first week went!)
Swept and mopped floor
Sorted out maternity clothes to lend to a friend

to do
post parcels
get laminating pouches
Dust babies room
start decuttering 'office'

pleased to say Dh noticed how tidy the house is looking and was very impressed! He spontaneously tidied up after tea every night this week!

Well, my delegating to the DCs programme has worked well today, between them they have emptied the DW, done the handwashing up, two lots of clothes washed and dried, and a small amount of hoovering. Just need to keep the momentum going.

Other than that, not much Flying, I seem to be reasonably on top of the daily routines at the moment but am not getting much of the detailed stuff done. Too busy with OU work and life in general. DH has been away this weekend so just me and the DCs today, we went for a nice walk in a local country park with a lake this afternoon, then on to their swimming lessons.

cuddled I only change beds fortnightly.

silvery thanks for the links and updates

I did everything off my list except paperwork, maybe tomorrow? also haven't washed up but dp says he will do it before bed.

MercuryRising Sun 03-Mar-13 23:03:37

Hi all. I can honestly say my spirits are renewed. Dp and I had a lovely childfree day and then I popped to a lovely country pub with my oldest friend for a drink and catch up grin

I conpleted my list as well so a successful day all round.

Silvery and Toffee your lists are amazing I really need to get on top of things tomorrow.

Toffee I bet you feel much better after cuddling and making up with ds. Its amazing how much distress our dcs can cause us without even realising!

Cuddledup in answer to your question I try to change bedding weekly but in all honesty it depends how up to date I am with other washing as I don't have a tumble drier and only limited drying space. I absolutely love getting in to bed with clean sheets - its one of my favourite things (I know that is a bit tragic blush)

Quick list dump for Monday:
Dcs up, fed and ready for school
Make beds
Dw - unload/reload
Fold up dry washing
Hang out washing
Reload wm
Mission - kitchen worktops
Clean bathroom
Hoover/ dust upstairs
Hoover/dust downstairs
Mop kitchen floor
Clean mirrors
Change beds
Meal planning
Food shop
School run x2
Dinner and

Shine sink
Declutter microwave

Bath/ bedtime for dcs
Collapse onto sofa

If I manage all that it will be a miracle but at least I have something to aim towards hmm

PeasandCucumbers Sun 03-Mar-13 23:52:00

Well if the weekends are about relaxing then I have done what I should have done and more grin

Am very pleased to be going to bed with no ironing (but plenty of laundry) to do and a clean kitchen. I even started cleaning some windows today though didn't get that far as we were going out.

Am actually quite looking forward to seeing what the weekly routine is, which for someone who hates housework is amazing!

I am very glad I found this thread and am hoping (optimistically?) that the momentum continues grin

Engelsemama Mon 04-Mar-13 07:30:05

Morning all.

Managed to do everything on my to do list yesterday except go for a run. Didn't really renew my spirit though. I really have to make more effort to get out of the house more, whether or not my grumpy DH wants to come with me (he always says lets go later, then falls asleep, or is ill...either way it's very frustrating! I know it's my failt and I need to be more active and just go!)

To do
Shred with frind this morning
Set of marking
Hot spot
Online banking
Stock up on stamps and post letters/cards

ToffeeWhirl Mon 04-Mar-13 09:03:58

I have both DC at home today because DS2 hates school says he feels ill. Now DS1 is annoyed because he likes our days together, just him and me, and doesn't want his little brother here too <sigh>. No idea what to do. I feel sorry for DS2 and I refuse to drag him into school crying, as I had to with DS1 sad.

Oh well, at least the house is tidy, thanks to my efforts yesterday.

Ta das :

Packed lunch made
Washing on

To dos :

DS1's breakfast
Home ed
Walk into town - shops and library
Collect friend's son from school
Eve routine
Bed at decent hour

Hope you all have a good day.

ellesabe Mon 04-Mar-13 09:41:20

Well we have had a very slow start to the day as nobody woke up until 8am shock

Make beds
Clothes away

Wash up
Swish and swipe
Charity shop
Buy flowers
Daily mission
Home blessing hour
Dancing group with dds
Drop mortgage application at mortgage advisor's house

GoingGoingGoth Mon 04-Mar-13 11:42:01


I seem to have lost my CBA-itus. grin

Dd ready for school
Weighed on wii -meh
15 minutes step on wii (it won't last)
Litter tray
Recycling out
2 loads laundry
Laundry hung out (up 2 flights of stairs, so that has to do some good)
Washing machine on bleach/washing soda/hot wash - it WILL NOT go black again<shudders>
3 phone calls

Stopping for quick bite to eat snoop round MN

BigPigLittlePig Mon 04-Mar-13 12:10:24

Hello, am de-lurking as am now largely de-cluttered (sort of) and am determined to get my house looking shipshape!

I already have a sort-of routine to each day -

Make beds
Hang out laundry (washed overnight)
Litter tray (bleurgh)
Prepare what I can for tea

It all takes a while as it is interspersed with feeding/cuddling/playing with 3 month old dd smile but I'm aiming to get into a good routine wrt the house within the next 3 months, when I go back to work.

LillethTheCat Mon 04-Mar-13 13:41:40

Afternoon everyone.

I seemed to have caught Goths CAB-itus. Thanks for that grin

- Strip DSs bed
- wash bedding
- Dry bedding
- Go to Business course

to do
- Remake bed
- Go to AAT course
- Wash up
- Shine sink (if DH has washed up tonight)

Hope everyone is well.

Sorry for no personals, like I said Ive come down with CBA-itus. Am feeling tired and low energy today. Hopefully I will feel better soon.

ToffeeWhirl Mon 04-Mar-13 14:36:50

Managed to get DS2 to school in the end grin. Had a quick word with his teacher and asked if we could discuss his reluctance to come to school and ways to encourage him.

Have walked into town with DS1, bought him new headphones for his XBox, visited the library and been to the petshop. He now wants a gerbil. Easier than a dog, right? And he says he will do all the feeding and clearing out hmm.

Quick bit of home ed, then off up to school again. I hope all this walking is going to help me lose weight <eyes flabby stomach ruefully>.

issimma Mon 04-Mar-13 14:44:08

A thrilling sink question for you - how do I get coffee stains out of a stainless steel sink?

Not getting much housework done and am exhausted. Up two nights ago puking all night and up all night last night feeding baby. Still recovering but feeling cooped up with toddler, baby and now picking DH! Grim.

Oh dear Issima sounds like a bad start to the week. I either use Magic Eraser block (a JML thing, a sponge that is brilliant for spot cleaning) or bleach to get the coffee stains off the sink, either spray it with Flash bleach spray or put the plug in and fill it with dilute bleach (squirt a bit in the plughole first to clean the grid bit).

ToffeeWhirl Mon 04-Mar-13 17:31:21

issima - Oooh, yes to WhoKnows's suggestion - Magic Eraser is brilliant. You can buy it online. It is incredibly satisfying to use. I used it to clean the bath the other day and was finally able to rub out some scratches (from toys scraping the enamel). It gets tea stains off my tea cups, so would probably work on coffee stains too.

DH says we can't get a gerbil because his mother is terrified of rodents and won't come in the house if we get one. I feel sorry for DS1 now. He wants a pet, but DH doesn't want a dog, I'm allergic to cats and MIL is phobic of small furry animals.

toffee how about a rabbit? or a fish?

big pig we are in the same boat, dd is two months old and we are just coming out of the newborn fog of the first few weeks, and trying to get into a routine and clear some junk.

I did 15 mins of decluttering which was very therapeutic. I took some stuff to the charity shop and will put a couple of other things on eBay.

that was about it for housework, as I took dd to be weighed (good weight gainsmile ), then went to a baby group, then went shopping for a birthday present. busy day!

ellesabe Mon 04-Mar-13 19:13:39

Clothes away
Swish and swipe
Charity shop
Bought flowers
Scrubbed kitchen counters
Chucked old coupons out
Dancing class with dds
Dd's dinner
Kids bathed

To do
My dinner
Friend round
Wash up
Shine sink

I attempted to do a 'home blessing hour' today but only managed 10mins of dusting and 10mins of vacuuming before dd2 woke up needing nappy change, outfit change (x2) and bfeed grin I don't think that counts!

ellesabe Mon 04-Mar-13 19:15:17

toffee - how about a tortoise? They are fur-free and hibernate for half the year grin

I'm currently trying to persuade dh...

GoingGoingGoth Mon 04-Mar-13 19:22:01

Lilleth I do like to share

Dd ready for school
Weighed on wii -meh
15 minutes step on wii (it won't last)
Litter tray
Recycling out
2 loads laundry
Laundry hung out (up 2 flights of stairs, so that has to do some good)
Washing machine on bleach/washing soda/hot wash - it WILL NOT go black again<shudders>
3 phone calls
Sort paperwork
Couple of emails
Post Office
Collect Dd
Wash up & SS
Spelling practice with DD

To do
Another batch of ironing

Plan to do weekly bleugh & mission tomorrow as DH is out of the house

NickNacks Mon 04-Mar-13 20:00:48


Well today has been largely consumed by admission/ appeal/ waiting list research. Making baby steps in progress but it's keeping me busy.

Ta da

Ds2 bed stripped and washed
Daily laundry load
Swept dining room
Large bag to charity
Swish and swipe
Bills paid
Kitchen tidied after dinner

Tomorrow's list

Daily laundry
Make ds2 bed
Clean clothes away
Loads of shredding
Have a bloody good tidy of playroom!

MercuryRising Mon 04-Mar-13 20:17:18

Hi all.

Just quickly popping in as Im exhausted and am planning a soak in the bath and then an early night with my book and a hot chocolate.

I am very proud to report that I completed
my list today. Im really hoping that I can keep up with flying this month as I always start really well and then become less and less enthusiastic as the month goes on.

Sorry for lack of personals.

SilveryMoon Mon 04-Mar-13 20:19:29

Evening all How are we?

Ta Da
Up and made beds
Got breakfast
Swished and swiped
Cleared breakfast
Showered and dressed
Took boys to cm
Went to work
Quick Tesco run
Harvester for dinner
Washing up
Clothes out
Cleaned kitchen
Mission/detail (wiped kitchen cupboards, skirting boards, counters)
Sorted dry washing
Non iron away

To Do
Catch up with thread
Drink wine
Empty washing machine


WhoKnows has ropped her dc’s into FLYing, they are doing very well and got loads done yesterday. Well done to them.
Mercury had a good childfree day yesterday and managed to get to the pub for a catch up with an old friend.
Peas Was looking forward to seeing the routine of FLYing. Hope it works out.
Toffee Has had both dc’s at home today. Hope ds2 is feeling better.
BigPigLittlePig de-lurked to say hi and share her morning/daily routine. Is looking good, well done. It’s all about baby steps, so keep with it smile (welcome, btw)
Lilleth Has caught CBAitis from Goth lol Hope you’re feeling ok and not coming down with anything.
issimma wants to know how to get coffee stains off a stainless steel sink. Not got the foggiest personally, lemon juice? White vinegar? Bicarb soda?
Toffee What about a bird? I love budgies and would have some if it wasn’t for the cats.
ellesabe 20 mins of home blessing def counts! We’re all heading in the right direction.

Impressed with everyone's lists, we are doing well and keeping busy. Well done everyone grin

ToffeeWhirl Mon 04-Mar-13 20:23:55

I'm afraid DS1 finds rabbits and fish a bit boring. He used to have fish, but the only person who loved those poor fish was DS2. I love tortoises, but I don't think you can buy them anymore and they aren't exactly cuddly.

Am looking into hypoallergenic cats now. I think I'm more of a dog person, but they are so much work, whereas a cat would look after itself mostly. I just don't want to spend the next 18 years wheezing and sneezing, with swollen, red eyes.

Those of you with babies - you have more than enough to do without worrying about housework. I know it has to be done, but please don't beat yourselves up about it. I remember the endless demands of babies - they are a full-time job! Anything you achieve in the house is worthy of congratulations, in my opinion. (Personally, I think all new mothers should have staff wink).

DS2 is in bed. Have to go and do some more home ed with DS1, then promised him I'd watch 'Freaky Friday' with him. Am ready to go to bed, actually, but have poured myself a large coffee to stay awake.

Night all.

SilveryMoon Mon 04-Mar-13 20:31:11

babystep 5 another crap one that most of us ignore. Identify the negative voices in your head and write down something nice for yourself.
I say this is crap, but I did on Jan 1st start up the positive-note jar here so when good things happen, I pop a note in the jar and we will open it on NYE and celebrate the good things that have happened this year. I have 5 notes in there atm.
mission de-clutter plastic containers and food storage
flight plan if anyone wants to look at a basic daily routine.

I've not been pasting the detailed cleaning lists as I think that's a step further than where most of us are..........
please, if I am forgetting to do anything, link to anything etc, just let me know and I'll do more. grin

issimma Mon 04-Mar-13 21:23:24

toffee I agree about needing staff. Especially a night nanny... <daydreams>

Silvery that sounds like a lovely idea! I might have to steal it...
Well my washing basket has refilled alarmingly quickly- DS is full of a cold and being sick after every meal- last night he was sick in the night and we didn't hear him, so woke up to it dried onto his sheets, babygrow, sleeping bag and hair! Have aired his room all day so it doesn't smell to badly now. I feel really bad that I didn't hear him, but neither did DH and I usually wake up at the first whimper as I feed him back to sleep.

Ta da
Two loads of washing done and put away
Nappy bin cleaned and disinfected
Clothes for work sorted out and ready
Made tea
Washed up, put away and wiped down kitchen and dining room

To Do
Post parcels
Dust DS room (how many days has this been on my list!)

Toffee - you can buy tortoises because MIL did, and they sell them at the local garden centre. They have to be bred in this country though so you buy them as tiny babies - a very long term commitment! And I think the breeders have to be licenced.

Would your MIL really not come into the house if the small furry creature was safely hidden away in DS1's bedroom?

Have done no flying at all today, but the plastic pot cupboard has degenerated into chaos again so may have to at least attempt the mission tomorrow. Was mostly a nice day, though, with minimal child-related hassle, a trip to the park with DS2, a visit to friends with both boys, no cooking and choir this evening. smile

Big waves all round...

MercuryRising Tue 05-Mar-13 06:34:25

Morning all. Im volunteering in school today so just a quick list dump before I have to get ready.

Make beds
Wm on
Dry washing folded
Dcs up, fed, dressed and to school
Dw unloaded/reloaded
Rubbish/recycling out
Hoover downstairs
15min declutter - junk drawer
Mission - plastic pots
Listen to ds read
Washing in machine for wed
Small pile ironing

That will do. Im getting a lot more done when I have a list to refer back to.

Have a great day everyone smile

NickNacks Tue 05-Mar-13 06:48:52

Awful night ds2 has a temp, ds1 a chesty cough and dd wet the bed. Aargh!!!!! Happily DH slept through it all even though he has a day off today and I'm still working hmm

Will dump a list a get up before I nod off and sleep in.

Daily laundry
Dry ds2 and make up bed
Make up dd's bed properly
Tons of shredding
Bloody good tidy of playroom
Mission- Tupperware
Charity bag out
Clothes to friend
Trousers to mindee
Reply to emails
Visit SIL
Wash hair (extra greasy this week- no idea why)
Swish and swipe

SilveryMoon Tue 05-Mar-13 07:13:40

List dump:
Up and beds done
Breakfast done
Feed cats done
Laundry done
Shower and dress half done
Swish and swipe
Rubbish out
Collect ds1 from club
Clean kitchen
Bath boys
Shine sink
Put out clothes
Early night

Have a good day

Sorry you had such a bad night Nicknacks - extra strong brew coming up.

Ta da!
Washing on the line for the first time this year. smile

To do
Everything else, but hey...

GoingGoingGoth Tue 05-Mar-13 09:42:23

Morning all,

Quick list

Dd to school
Wash up

To do
Cry laundry away
Hang washing out
Litter tray
Weekly bleugh sad
Blood donors
Wash up & SS

Mount Washmore is coming under control (yikes, jinxed it now)

NickNacks hope your day gets better brew

Jdub Tue 05-Mar-13 10:05:53

Good morning, and it's so beautiful to see the sunshine, and hear rumours of temperatures reaching 15 degrees!

Fell by the wayside over the weekend, but back on track today!
empty d/w
put away laundry
all up, fed, dressed and to various destinations intact!

to do
meal plan
kitchen surfaces
wash kitchen floor

Take care and enjoy the sunshine if it's out where you are x

BigPigLittlePig Tue 05-Mar-13 10:31:48

Could do with a very strong brew this morning, bad nights sleep in the pig household.

Make bed

To do:
Get dressed
Deal with overflowing bin in babys room
Everything else but brain too tired to think of words

issimma Tue 05-Mar-13 11:09:36

bigpig here, brew. Ds (3mo) has finally gone to sleep after being up all night. I am prioritising caffeine over flying, and trying not to get frustrated at how little I achieve. Have put a wash on and recycling out, and done meal planning and weekly shop. Good going, I know, but far from what I want to do. Control freak that I am.

LillethTheCat Tue 05-Mar-13 11:22:36

Just popping in quickly, bit of a busy day today

- turn on washing machine
- dry laundry
- make beds
- pop to town for mothers day cards and to pay in cheque

to do
- revise for exam tonight
- go to exam tonight
- shine sink if DH has washed up after tea
- fill out Mothers day card for my mum.

See you tomorrow when hopefully I will have more time (and more energy)

ellesabe Tue 05-Mar-13 13:48:52

Ta da
Shower and S&S
Changed dd's bedding
Load of washing
Get dd2 weighed
Toddler group
Watch One Born while dd1 naps

To do
Clear up lunch
Marinade dinner
Sort out Tupperware
Cook dinner
Wash up
Tumble drying
Finish making taggie for friend's baby

I have to say that since I started swish and swiping I am amazed at how much grime I get off on a daily basis. I used to only clean my bathroom weekly fortnightly shock blush

issima I am just the same, I get really frustrated with how little I achieve during the day. I think it is because before I had dd I worked and studied, and got used to getting a lot done in a short space of time. today I have just about managed to get dressed and eat lunch in the gaps between dd needing feeding or comforting. I put a load of washing on first thing and still haven't had chance to hang it out shock

I had a total breakfast fail - made toast, put some pate on one slice, then realised it was mouldy. tried to put jam on the other slice but dropped the jar on the floor and it smashed. swept up glass, then dd started crying so grabbed a kitkat instead and ate it while feeding her.

today I am waiting in for a parcel which still hasnt arrived, so can't go out and enjoy the sunshine either sad

ta da
washing on
feed dd 643 times
eat lunch

to do
washing up
hang washing out and put yesterday's load away
shine sink
take recycling out

NickNacks Tue 05-Mar-13 17:21:54

Gosh I'm such a moaner aren't I? I do apologise! blush

Glad to see all the new flyers are doing well.

My list is done (can't post it because I write it in 'notes' app and delete as I complete. Just emails to reply to which I will do when I've finished work.

Off to see my SIL tonight for a girly catch up which I always enjoy a lot smile

GoingGoingGoth Tue 05-Mar-13 18:07:49

Nicknacks we all moan sometime, and this is a good place to vent.

Morning all,

Quick list

Dd to school
Wash up
Dry laundry away (there was loads-literally grin)
Hang washing out
Litter tray
Couple of phone calls & emails
Blood donors
Washing back in

to do
Wash up & SS

My business plan was approved today, so I can sign off tomorrow! Just got to hear now about when I start my temporary work. Going to be busy grin

SilveryMoon Tue 05-Mar-13 19:40:24

Evening all
Hope everyone's well.

babystep 6 This is a good one. Hotspots, learn about the 2 min timer. Very useful IMO.
mission cleaning out small appliances
daily focus for wednesday is anti-procrastination day. Do the things you have been putting off
flight plan for routine.

had a bad day. Feeling very meh about everything. Need to get the energy to do the ironing but have done my routines and the mission/detail.

Watching EE and will do some ironing, will try to get back on to round-up and catch up before The Following. I will not be distracted from Kevin Bacon grin wink

Crikeyblimey Tue 05-Mar-13 19:46:31

Hi all. Long time no post.

I had a very busy February, the new full time job has ramped up several notches and its taking some adjusting to.

Sink is shiney. That's about it for today.

Will try harder tomorrow.

SilveryMoon Tue 05-Mar-13 20:44:16

Right. 20 items ironed (I count it out like that or else I become too overwhelmed).
Let’s see what you lot have been up to since last round-up smile

SpecialC has a poorly ds who has been being sick after eating, which is a worry for her and not good for Mt wash more! - Hope he’s feeling better.
Toffee is thinking about pet tortoises. I’ve seen some in my local garden centre too. Lifespan of about 50 years though isn’t it?
Blue had a good day yesterday but no FLYing. <eyes the naughty corner suspiciously looking for occupants wink>
Mercury was volunteering at school today. Hope it went well and you had a good day.
NickNacks had a rough night last night with both boys not well and dd wetting the bed. My ds1 wet the bed last night too.
issimma and BigPigLP had rough night’s sleep last night so were feeling shattered this morning. Hope you’ve had a peaceful day and get more sleep tonight.
Lilleth had an exam tonight. Am sure you nailed it!
mrsb was thinking she’d miss the sun as she was waiting in for a delivery- hop eit came early. Yuk to mouldy pate, but all been there! grin
NickNacks I love a good old moan! Moan away grin
Crikey came back! The new job is going well so she has been very busy but is keeping the sink shiny smile

That’s it from me tonight I think.
If I start ‘talking’ I will start moaning and I won’t stop!
See you all tomorrow I think

LillethTheCat Tue 05-Mar-13 21:56:14

Hi all,

Just popping in to sort out tomorrow's list.

I dont like not knowing what Im doing when I first get up.

to do
- turn on washing machine (I still need to load it tonight first)
- 2nd load
- dry laundry
- put laundry away
- make beds
- wash up 3X
- Shine sink
- fill washing machine for Thurs
- Ring adult learning about possible work experience and ECDL course thats running at a time I can make
- Homework
- meet up with MNers

See you all tomorrow.

ToffeeWhirl Tue 05-Mar-13 22:10:17

Actually going to bed at a decent hour tonight. Unheard of. Night all.

thanks for the links, silvery

I left the house at 4.30pm and caught the last of the sun in a beer garden having an after work drink with dp.

did everything on today's list except filing again

MercuryRising Wed 06-Mar-13 06:10:26


Im awake bright and early as not so 'd'p got up for work at 5 and woke dd, who in turn woke ds and now the whole Mercury household is up - Im in school again today so it is going to be a long day!

Silvery I also count how many items of clothing I am going to iron as it's less overwhelming than trying to work my way through the whole pile/mountain!

Yesterday I did everything on my list except the ironing - I went to see my dmum for a brew and a chat instead, which I think is time well spent.

So here goes list for today:
All up fed, dressed and to school
Wm on
Washing hung out
Dry clothes folded
Clean clothes put away
Ironing - must get this done
Dw on, emptied and reloaded
Downstairs dusted and hoovered
Beds made
Vounteering at school
Start preparing presentation for interview
15m declutter kitchen cupboards
2m hotspot - kitchen table
15m mission - clean small appliances
Hopefully trip to the park after school if the sun is shining smile

Have a lovely, productive day everybody.

feetheart Wed 06-Mar-13 06:38:11

Only 6 days late and have to be quick as need to sew yet more feathers on DD's World Book day costume. The whole school are doing Roald Dahl this half-term so that's the theme and she wants to go as the Roly Poly Bird (think Bird of Paradise) As she is usually very quiet and shy and hates being the centre of attention I have really helped her 'go for it' with this one. We are both rather excited now smile
Luckily DS wants to go as George from George's Marvelous Medicine so he is easy!

Haven't read much of thread yet but:

Welcome to newbies, it takes a while but it works if you don't burn yourself out in the first week - slow and steady is the way to do it. Says she who has been here for 3 years and still doesn't have a show home <<sulks>>

ellie - wishing you strength to get through life at the moment

SC - I hope the funeral went as well as these things can do and gave everyone a chance to say goodbye in the way they wanted. Go easy on yourself re everything else, you need to look after yourself if you are to look after all the others <<stern look>>

Trazzles - you are in my thoughts as always

Mercury - hope day isn't too long

Quick list:
- More feathers
- Laminate posters
- All up and out
- Posters up at school
- Back to school for Mother's Day crafts session
- Sainsburys for petrol and Marvelous Medecine chocolate milk
- More feathers
- Parent's evening
- Hopefully final feathers

PeasandCucumbers Wed 06-Mar-13 09:32:39

Morning all, well this week has been so busy that I haven't had time to post but have been trying really hard with actually doing some form of housework everyday including cleaning up dog vomit

Day off today so am going to try and catch up on the missions I have missed this week (although I have recently culled my storage containers so that should be fairly easy)

To do
Feed & walk the dog
Finish cleaning the window I started on Sunday!!
Change my/DH bed
Sort some laundry
Tidy & dust sitting room
Sweep and mop floors

Dressed to shoes (I'm including this one as it is always very easily doable for me as I have to take DC to school and makes me feel like I have actually achieved something on the list grin)
Kids at school with all the correct bits of homework / kit

If I get all that done I will be very chuffed with myself. I am gong to a friends this evening for the first of a craft evening we have started so will hopefully really feel like I have earned it grin

Day off today so I should be able to update later as to how I got on!

MrsB Lovely to hear that someone caught the last of the sun in a beer garden with DH yesterday. That is exactly what I wanted to do but instead had a mad rush to get DC from after school, take them to Beavers, back to school for parents evening so had a manic evening with DC both late to bed and me collapsing on the sofa shattered and with no wine

issimma Wed 06-Mar-13 11:19:08

ta da
Dw on
Wm on x 2
Wipe kitchen down
Mop and Hoover kitchen floor
Bins out
Dd to nursery (explains why I'm actually getting stuff done)
Downstairs, stairs, landing, dd's room hoovered
Dd's room cleaned and tidied
Banisters and stair wood bits wiped first time in a year

to do
Collect dd at lunchtime
Hang washing out (load 2)
Another wm load on
2 things on eBay minimum
Sort dd's clothes
Clean bathroom
Phone builders re final (haha) snagging bits
Buy tablecloth
Buy nursing bra and shapewear, bag and make up so am vaguely presentable at old friend's wedding
Clear table
Today's mission

BigPigLittlePig Wed 06-Mar-13 11:21:05

Suspect today will be a bit of a fail. Another bad night as dd is full of cold bless her - puffy eyes, streaming nose, runny bottom. She's feeling very sorry for herself sad

We've been food shopping though, and to the butchers to get venison for a casserole (yum), bought a greenhouse, paid the credit card bill. Haven't unloaded any of the purchases from the car yet but hey ho, the day is young <clutches at straws>

GoingGoingGoth Wed 06-Mar-13 12:04:46

Morning all (well almost)

Dd ready for school
Washing up
Dry clothes put away
Signed off at Jobcentre grinand onto New Enterprise
Had prize form Belvoir arrive with 6 bottles of cordial, now where's the vodka?

To do
Couple emails/ phone calls
Catch up on this week's missions
Start my own business (see how nonchalantly I put that in? grin)
Collect DD from school
Early celebratory dinner out
Dd to Woodcraft Folk
Subdue overexcited DD, and get her into bed.

GoingGoingGoth Wed 06-Mar-13 13:56:21

It's all go in the Goth cave today!

Just had a call from Glasgow Life (Council), my induction for starting work is on the 25th.

Dd ready for school
Washing up
Dry clothes put away
Signed off at Jobcentre and onto New Enterprise
Had prize from Belvoir arrive with 6 bottles of cordial, now where's the vodka?
Couple emails/ phone calls

Currently cleaning wall cupboards, following the Fat Fairy's advice, 1 cupboard at a time. Just allowing crockery cupboard to dry before putting plates etc. back in

to do
Catch up on this week's missions
Litter tray (ew, forgot this morning)
Start my own business (see how nonchalantly I put that in? )
Collect DD from school
Early celebratory dinner out
Dd to Woodcraft Folk
Subdue overexcited DD, and get her into bed

Quick question, as I was cleaning the tops of the wall cupboards, I suggested to DH that I put a layer of paper or something down, to ease future cleaning, which got a hmm. So what do you think? Good idea or a faff?

ellesabe Wed 06-Mar-13 14:08:32

Sounds like a good idea Goth although slightly reminiscent of cleaning out a guinea pig hutch!

I'm having a BLEUGH day today. Dd1 woke up in the night (unheard of) and when I went to her I realised all our electrics were out. Cue lots of rummaging around in the dark. Then dd2 woke up unusually early this morning.

Was supposed to be having a lovely morning at toddler group this morning but dd1's behaviour was terrible and we couldn't come home because I run the group. Spent the whole time feeling angry which makes it v difficult to be welcoming to new people.

Also, we are remortgaging at the moment and have a surveyor coming to value our flat on Friday so I'm supposed to be getting things all spic-and-span but I'm way too knackered and pissed off today.

The girls are asleep now - maybe I'll just admit defeat and go to bed...

well I havent done any housework yet today and i have just got home from town, am feeding dd, and have to take the car to the garage in just under an hour. and I haven't had lunch yet.

No housework here yet either, helped in school, went to the Drs about elbow strain, spent several hours on an OU essay that I have been struggling with and 15 mins crafting for World Book Day outfits. Which if I had all the time in the world I wouldn't mind, but I don't so I do IYSWIM. Oh and two loads of washing done.

I need to do a litter pick on the floor, there are small toys and various bits of debris everywhere.

Goth well done on the work front. I do sometimes put newspaper on top of my high cupboards but It's been a very long time since I've looked up there (would need a stepladder as standing on a chair isn't high enough, they stop about 4" below the ceiling so not very easy to clean). I definitely used to do it in my old house where they weren't so high.

my high cupboards are so high that only dp can reach them, from the top step of the step ladder. Therefore they never get cleaned.

My DH is shorter than me so he's no use for cupboard top cleaning either.

Need a list....

ta da
book car in for service
3 loads of washing done
take out recycling
put bike and skate board away in garage
collect recycling sorting boxes out of garage
meeting in next town
Bank in a different
Shopping for crafting bits need to finish off a project
financial review
shower and hair wash in peace
Speak to ex
ring credit card company
ring saving account people to find out wtf they have do re account changes
remove recycling from car
pick up a pocket money tin for ds so his pocket money is inaccessible and not scattered all over the floor
find the new uniform bits needing labelling for friday ds has grown AGAIN
sort out paperwork for school trip
Sort out paperwork for Ds' camhs meeting
Go to the post office
Get folding up to date
Yell at ds about getting lounge tidy (currently littered with his toys that he refuses to tidy up)
Deal with several hotspots in the lounge
Sort a box that was in storage in the study
Drink far too much but somehow not enough caffine
sort new diary cos i lost the last one blush
15mins in my room
Remove nail varnish
check fb/twitter/mn

About to sort out the remaining internet stuff before i head out to deal with more car stuff and then crack on with the lounge and laundry. <sigh> All fun here hmm....

LillethTheCat Wed 06-Mar-13 17:21:05

I feel so rubbish ATM regarding DD1. She is 5YO and while she can read letters and easy words, she is finding it hard to read, but refuses at home. School probably think Im the worst parent in the world. OK so I dont read with her every day (I can't 2 nights as I go out to courses 45 min drive away), but when I do try she wont read. Im just rubbish. School have already told me off once.

Now Ive just had to move DD2's hand away from the plug for the upteenth time and its the end of the world for her.

Anyone else have days when you feel like the worst parent in the world? Im feeling like that now. Why did I have children if I can parent them the way I should?

Sorry for a whinge. Just want to get it off my chest and nowhere else to say it unless I start a thread, but dont want to be flamed.

Anyway today's list

- turn on washing machine (I still need to load it tonight first)
- dry laundry
- put laundry away
- make beds
- wash up 2X
- Ring adult learning about possible work experience and ECDL course thats running at a time I can make
- Homework
- meeting at school regarding DS

to do
- wash up after tea
- Shine sink
- fill washing machine for Thurs

not doing
- 2nd load
- meet up with MNers (double booked myself)

Will be back later with personals.

update: am back from the garage, the best part of 200 quid lightersad

instead of spending my spare half hour doing housework earlier I got distracted by dd giving me big cheesy grins- her new trick. no regrets theresmile

ta da
car to garage
smile at dd

erm that's it blush

to do
sort stuff to go on eBay (free listings this weekend)
shine sink
make dinner (dp doing)
clear hotspot- dining room table
sort parcel to return to Amazon (I bought one of those mirrors to go in the back seat of the car so I can see dd in her car seat, but it has a crack in it)

lileth no advice but you have my sympathy. I feel like that sometimes too, when I get impatient with dd crying .

GoingGoingGoth Wed 06-Mar-13 18:31:45

Lilleth I think we all get like that, Dd is currently in her bedroom instead of out at Woodcraft, as she played up when we were out this evening. She wasn't really naughty, but she was warned a number of times to stop. I find wine helps. Hopefully she'll calm down soon, and maybe go to sleep. Quite disgruntled, as I was looking forward to it too.

ellesabe Wed 06-Mar-13 18:37:01

lileth I too completely sympathise. Try not to stress about the reading and ignore the school of they're making you feel bad. You are a good parent and know your dd better than anyone so back-off the reading for a while if you think it would do her good to have the pressure taken off a bit. She'll get there smile
If it's any consolation, I am also feeling like I have failed miserably today. I had a nap this afternoon which was probably good for me but dd1 woke up in just as foul a mood as she was in this morning so I've spent all afternoon snapping at her every misdemeanour. She is full of a cold so I should probably cut her some slack but my patience goes out of the window when I'm this knackered blush

Have done no housework today which doesn't bode well for our valuation on Friday. Does anyone have any top (and easy!) tips for how to get our flat valued highly by the surveyor?

Lilleth - I struggled with both mine and reading at that age, they are 7 and 9 now and both very good readers, despite for a long time being in the bottom quarter or so of their classes (which wasn't very cheering for me when I went in to help with reading). You just need to persist and ride it out, maybe try some home books instead of the school ones. I also struggle with DD (7) and very easily fall into shouty mode with her when she JUST WON'T BLOODY WELL LISTEN. I am really trying, sometimes she is a perfect angel, but getting her out the door in the morning drives me demented. DS played up at school hometime and we had a tantrum from him too, but I am better at walking away from it with him somehow (he isn't quite as militant as DD, but has AS and therefore melts down a bit more easily).

Anyway, I have been pressing on with the DCs and their chores (or learning to be a grownup as we are calling it, haha). Each DC has been out with me on their own one night to the supermarket (while the other was at cricket or Brownies) and done the shopping with as little intervention from me as possible, including the self service checkout and loading it into the car. DD did a really good job of helping get dinner ready tonight too, and the sausages she chose on Monday were delicious.

ellesabe Wed 06-Mar-13 18:56:01

Whoknows 'learning to be a grown up' is a genius idea!

Can't wait for mine to be old enough for that smile

SilveryMoon Wed 06-Mar-13 19:53:48

Evening all.
MrsB Managed to get a drink in at the pub yesterday with her dp. Sounds lovely, can’t wait for summer, think we’ll be doing a bit of that sort of thing ourselves
Mercury Has been up since literally the crack of dawn. Hope you’ve had an ok day at school and manage a bit more of a lay in tomorrow.
feet heart Has been sewing feathes onto her dd’s book day costume. Roly Poly bird is a great one, hope she copes with the attention ok.
Ds1 went today as Peter Pan (his theme was traditional story characters) and ds2 went as a dinosaur (his theme was animals from books. We have been reading Dinosaurs Love Underpants my favourite book).
Peas Has been trying to keep on top of things. Just remember there is no ‘catching up’ you are where you are, if you miss a mission, don’t worry, they too roll around again quickly.
Enjoy the craft evening, sounds fun!
BigPigLP has a poorly dd so still not much sleep happening. Hoping she feels better soon and you can all get some rest.
Goth has been doing lots of cleaning in her kitchen and wants to know how we all feel about putting a layer of paper or something on the top of the cupboards to make cleaning in future a bit easier. Well, I am a fan of it. Not sure what would be best to use. Clingfilm maybe? I have clingfilm on the top of my fridge/freezer so I just rip it off and put a new layer on. I’m a bit scared to look at the top of the cupboards.
ellesabe has had a rough day. A disturbed night, early morning and a dd whose behaviour was challenging at parent/toddler group. Hope you are all feeling a bit calmer now
Lilleth You are not the worlds worst parent! I know exactly how you feel though. My ds1 (also 5) struggles with literacy. His teacher says he is a full year behind.
I do loads of stuff at home with him, we read every night, we look at flash cards, we practice writing in different forms (ie lists, letters, etc), we go onto websites and play literacy games, we play sight word bingo, we watch phonics songs etc on YouTube, we play games that encourage memory, play rhyming and audio games and he is still behind.
My ds1’s strength is maths, although he is still below national average in that, but he is much better and confident in maths than literacy.
What’s your dd good at, what does she enjoy?
Literacy, although vital is not the be all of the whole world, and she may just be in a plateau and fly next year. Don’t be too hard on yourselves or each other, encouragement and modelling behaviour is the way to go. Let her see you reading, writing, gaining enjoyment from these things, it will all come, honestly.

Had the meeting with ds1's headteacher today. Told her I didn't think that enough was being done to enable my ds1 to succeed and that although I am happy to support the school in his education, I do expect them to support me in doing that by informing me of his targets and giving me information on what he;s been doing and what he needs to work on.
I told her that I was very dissappointed with the level of negativity i get from the teacher and if she is like that with ds1, then I don't blame him for not even wanting to try.
I also told her that his teacher spoke of an IEP and SENCO and why have I not seen and signed the IEP? Or been told of SENCO's involvement.
Turns out these things are not happening, that ds1 is progressing and if he continues this progress he will be on track at the end of next year.
I am feeling better about it all and the head told me about the new measures she is putting in place to improve pupil assessment etc.

SilveryMoon Wed 06-Mar-13 19:59:21

babystep 7 A good one! laying your clothes out before bed.
mission cleaning the taps
daily focus is errand day. Food shopping, appointments etc today's the day.
flight plan for that routine if you want it
habit of the month is getting dressed to shoes.

LillethTheCat Wed 06-Mar-13 20:31:54

Well all done apart from homework as Ive been applying for jobs instead. I was on the Reed jobs website and I applied for a few jobs through there. Anyway I went into my emails as I have been copying and pasting the advert, my letter and each CV (these have changed slightly to emphasis each job) so I can save them so I know what I have put should I get anyway. Yeah so I went into my emails and there was an email in my inbox from one of the people I had to apply to saying:

Dear Lilleth

I have identified the following position that I believe may be of interest to you or possibly someone you may know.

Position name, position place

Please click on the link below to view details of the job.


If you are interested in this position please contact me on phone number or apply online.

I look forward to hearing from you in the near future.

Yours sincerely

name and contact details

This was sent at 7:41PM. Does it look like a real email? Obviously I have changed a few things there so no-one gets identified. Its a bit late for people to be working unless she's stayed late or works from home. I was thinking of ringing tomorrow. What do we think?

Anyway, I have a plan re DD1 and reading. She likes to be read a bedtime story. So I have said why should read to her if she wont read to me. It will only take 5 mins a time to read her book. So thats the plan, although she said she didn't like it.

Tomorrow's list
- turn on washing machine
- dry laundry
- put laundry away
- make beds
- wash up 3X
- Shine sink
- fill washing machine for Fri
- Ring about job
- Homework
- running club
- Read with DD1

Silvery Hope things start to improve at school now you have had a word with the head.

<waves to everyone else as DH is waiting for me to watch some stuff we have plussed>

SilveryMoon Wed 06-Mar-13 20:39:00

Lilleth You have nothing to lose by making the call re job. You'd soon know if it was dodgy. Don't agree to anything that you ahve to pay for.
Any chance the e-mail is cebtrally sent? I get e-mails at bizarre times on-line job search pages telling me they have found so and so post, please use these contact details.

Re the reading, if my ds doesn't want to read, I don't force him, I agree to read to him (they still get a lot out of that) and every now and again I'll say "ooohhh, I don't know that word, it;s hard for me. Can you help me please?" And he'll say "that's easy, it says 'dog' or 'the'" or something that I know he knows so we build up confidence like that and then I ask him to help with a word I know he struggles on so we can work on blending.
Whatever compromise works though.
Good luck with it

Lilleth - I wouldn't click on any links if you think they might be even remotely dodgy. If there's a number to call you could check it out on the phone first. I frequently feel like the worst parent in the world too - I think it comes with the territory. I remember the HV saying to me "babies are machines for making parents feel guilty". Oh, and re reading, maybe you could take turns to read a page each of her book? Works sometimes with DS1 when he's not in the mood.

Silvery - glad school meeting was encouraging.

Going - started new business - what a great thing to have on a ta-da list! grin

Should have been doing house bleugh in between work today but went shopping instead. Nice to have the opportunity once in a while. I think we've nearly chosen the tiles for the bathroom too, with a lovely Mediterranean blue border that really lifts my spirits smile

MercuryRising Thu 07-Mar-13 06:43:15

Morning all smile

Dd slept until 6 this morning which is definitely an improvement on yesterday.

What an intriguing email Lilleth!

Good luck with the new business Going.

Im at work tonight so I am only aiming to do the basics as I need to have a nap this afternoon.

To do
Make beds
Dcs up fed, dressed and to school
Swish and swipe
Unload/reload dw
Hang out washing
Reload wm
Fold dry washing
Put away socks, pants etc
Small pile ironing
Mission - scrub kitchen taps
Declutter/tidy food cupboard
Dcs swimming lessons
Make dinner
Work until 6am sad

Snowgirl1 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:38:13

[limps quietly back onto thread after being ill AGAIN]. I'm hoping to get started on FLYing properly again next week, I'm just trying to catch up with the mountain of washing at the moment and marking my spot. I was warned by friends that having DD would mean broken nights, nappies, unending washing and all that, but no-one warned me that I would get ill every other week. I thought the babies were the ones with the week immune system, not me! Moan over.

Glad to see you're all still managing impressive ta da lists!

GoingGoingGoth Thu 07-Mar-13 10:42:35

Snow hope you're feeling better, maybe have a word with HV as you do seem to be run down.

Dd to school
Post office

to do
Litter tray
Play with cat-he looks bored (or maybe sleepy)
Finish kitchen cupboards (about half way round now)
Do some 'work'! Researching mainly today
Collect DD
Wash up & SS

Jdub Thu 07-Mar-13 10:44:05

Morning all!
I do love a good list!!! Spurs me on, and reminds me of what else needs doing!
Hopefully today I'll make up for lost ground yesterday (my day off!)

empty d/w
up, fed, beds made and all out with relevant forms/snacks etc etc.

to do
MANY things....
bag up charity shop stuff and put in car (or DH will go bonkers!)
mealplan for wknd

Have a good day x

todays lists:

ta da

up, dressed and been to postnatal group
took stuff to charity shop

to do
shine sink
hotspot (dining room table, as I didn't do it yesterday)
sort stuff to eBay (also didn't do yesterday)
sort parcel to go back to Amazon (ditto)
lay out tomorrow's clothes

issimma Thu 07-Mar-13 13:39:02

mercury dd also had a lie in until 6.30. Makes such a difference!

ta da
Washing machine on
Kitchen sides wiped
Up and out to playgroup and lunch out

to do
Stuff I didn't finish yesterday
Package up eBay parcel that sold grin
Laundry mountain away

ellesabe Thu 07-Mar-13 14:07:39

Today is a new day smile
Dd1 was quite difficult at toddler group again this morning but I felt much more able to deal with all the pushing/snatching/screaming so don't feel quite as disheartened by it as I did yesterday.

Beds made
Shower and S&S
Wash on
Eat and clear up breakfast
Toddler group

To do
A mountain of stuff before tomorrow's valuation!
Clear up from lunch
Clean hob
Prepare meatballs

Luckily dh has the afternoon and because of the significant financial incentive, he is mucking in for once! grin

MercuryRising Thu 07-Mar-13 14:08:07

Issimma it is mad that as parents we consider that a lie in, prior to dcs nothing before 9 would have been considered a lie in!

List complete with the exception of swimming lessons and dinner. grin

I hope everybody is having happy productive days.

GoingGoingGoth Thu 07-Mar-13 14:31:07

Quick update

Dd to school
Post office
Litter tray
Play with cat-he looks bored
Finish kitchen cupboards & drawers inside & out
Cleaned outside of oven, wiped down fridge freezer & washing machine

to do
Buy some oven pride & clean inside of oven
Do some 'work'! Researching mainly today
Collect DD
Wash up & SS

Am having 15 minute break before collecting DD. phew

Louise85 Thu 07-Mar-13 19:45:55

Hi, am new to this whole FLYing thing - I like the idea of it, but really don't like the new format of e-mail from them (can't see it on my phone). I notice lots of you seem to have babies/toddlers - when do you do the de-cluttering etc?? My baby is 6 weeks, and toddler nearly 3, am struggling to find the time to do the extra's (even 15 mins)...currently have someone in once a week to help (we have a massive house that I hate!!)...but would like to be more on top so we cld save that money you all post your tada/todo lists - does that help?? Sorry for all the questions - I just need to get my head organised :-)

ToffeeWhirl Thu 07-Mar-13 20:00:34

Louise85 - from personal experience I would say forget decluttering until your babies and toddlers have grown up a bit. You have enough to do already.

DS1 and I watched 'Freaky Friday' the other night (the Disney film where the mum and daughter swap bodies and have to live each other's lives for one day) and he has suggested that we do our own Freaky Friday. So, for tomorrow only, he will do all my jobs and I will do all his. I have just handed him a two-page list, starting with 'Wake up DS2' and ending with 'Bedtime routine' grin. I don't think he's going to know what's hit him!

Anyway, if a Flyboy adds a 'ta da' list tomorrow, that might be my DS1.

Have a good evening all.

SilveryMoon Thu 07-Mar-13 20:27:15

Evening. Not long been in from work (parents evening) so will post links now and try to muster up the energy to catch up and do some personals/roundup.

babystep 8 the first step in creating your control journal. I like having a control journal, so I think this one is worth it.
mission wiping down the cabinets
daily focus this link should update itself. Clearing out bags and purse. Also car IIRC.
flight plan

BigPigLittlePig Thu 07-Mar-13 20:34:07

lilleth the job email sounds promising, good luck. My brother could read, but refused to do so out loud until he was 6 or 7. My poor mum tore her hair out over it, but even now he will admit he just didn’t want to read aloud, and it was quite the battle of wills. It doesn’t mean you are a bad parent just boys are awkward

louise I have a 3 month old, we moved house 5 days before she was born (5 weeks early) so there was a lot of decluttering to be done. I have literally done 5 minutes a day, whilst she’s on her playmate or asleep, and we’re getting there. Enjoy spending time with your lovely little baby though, the clutter can wait!

LO has had a streaming cold for 2 days now, hence the lack of sleep and general grumpiness earlier in the week. Despite this, I managed to clean the patio doors, and the oven, on Tuesday and Wednesday. The house is passable, and I’m up to date with laundry. DH is going to do the hoovering tomorrow, so I feel less bad about spending an awful lot of time on the sofa watching Greys anatomy and eating chocolate.

Fingers crossed for a better week next week, am getting quite embarrassed reading everybodys tada lists, I just have a very long to do list blush

SilveryMoon Thu 07-Mar-13 20:40:18

It has been quiet on here today..................hope all the MIA's are ok.

Mercury Glad you got a better sleep last night.
Snow Hope you’re ok. Having a baby is tough, I got immonia (sp?) when ds1 was about 8 weeks old. We get run-down and our immune systems aren’t as effective. Remember the mummy-mantra “this is a phase, it too shall pass”
Mercury Before dc’s, I’d get up at 11 am on a work day! Now, even a lay in is up before 9.
Louise Welcome to the thread grin and congrats on the arrival of new baby smile
I have lists on paper in a folder and I find ticking jobs off really helps me. I don’t always post to do/at da lists personally but is encouraging to see what everyone gets done.
Do you need to declutter? FLYlady is all about baby steps, so can you break the 15 mins into 3 5 mins sections?
Or just start off with basic routines for the morning and evening. This system is made for tweaking, not 1 person here does it 100% to the letter, we have all made adjustments to fit our own homes/families.
Just do whatever you can, and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small.

GoingGoingGoth Thu 07-Mar-13 21:02:38

Final post for today

Dd to school
Post office
Litter tray
Play with cat-he was bored
Finish kitchen cupboards & drawers inside & out
Cleaned outside of oven, wiped down fridge freezer & washing machine
Collect DD
Buy Oven Pride
Wash up & SS
Put oven trays into soak & start oven clean
Do some 'work'
Write 3 letters and Mother's Day card, already for posting tomorrow


Ta da!
Mothering Sunday cards posted and flowers ordered
Laundry done & clean stuff put away
Few hotspots
Cleaned up kitchen
And a bit of work and admin as well.

Hi to Louise. Most of us have unsubscribed/never subscribed in the first place for the emails although I think a couple of people like them. The links you need everyday will be on the thread.

Toffee - hope your "Freaky Friday" goes well!

Snowgirl - hope you feel better soon.

evening all

I've done everything on today's list but only got part way through my eBay pile. I'll carry on with it tomorrow.

I haven't shined the sink yet either. our current routine is that dp washes up after dinner, but he never does it until really late by which time I am in bed giving dd her late night feed. I really can't be bothered to get back up out of bed to shine the sink. but there is no point doing it before he does the washing up because he leaves the sink a mess. so I might start doing it in the morning instead.

louise I just do little bits when dd is sleeping, and don't worry if she has a bad day and I don't get anything done at all. there have been days where I haven't even made it out of my pyjamas...I do find the decluttering helpful as I need to chuck stuff out to make space for dd's things.

big pig dd was also 5 weeks early. I blame the state of the house on her, cos my plan was to totally sort out the house when I went on maternity leave grin . how is your lo doing now?

Bit lapsed over the past 6 weeks, but popping back on for a catch up and because to be fair I am in need of an entire house rescue. Big house bleurgh planned for the morning as it is DS's birthday (how is he 2 already shock ) and then his part on Saturday so a proper clean is definitely required.

My routines are pretty much, erm, routine now after all this time, but I've lapsed on the detail cleaning and missions since Christmas so really need to get back into it a bit.

<slumps in naughty corner and swigs wine from bottle>

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Thu 07-Mar-13 23:57:24

Happy Birthday to Mini PMPY I remember when he was born <sniffle> Oh how it has changed around here <sniffle>

Need to hit ground running tomo. Be afraid be very afraid. You have been warned!!!!!

SilveryMoon Fri 08-Mar-13 07:48:41

Hope you both have a good and productive day All and push

Happy flying people

superfluouscurves Fri 08-Mar-13 08:10:21

Hello lovely fledglings! Hope you are all OK. [Waves from amidst pile of suitcases/dirty laundry/general chaos.]

Funeral went as well as these things can (although lots of rather long tense delays at funeral home and crematorium where the official/bureaucratic machinations of the French State were much in evidence in much contrast to how things were organised with regard to my late ma in UK).

Just dropping in to say hello. No time for proper catch-up/personals etc because cleaner is coming this morning and the house was chaotic before we left - have to getg on and clear some paths for her to navigate!!

Great to see you Pushme!! A very happy birthday to mini PMPY!!! Can't believe he is two!! I remember when he was born too [sniff] [sniff] xxx

A warm welcome to all newcomers too!

Big wing flaps to everyone else! Will be hopefully back and functioning a bit more normally from Sun/Mon if not before!!

Hi Tits and SC. Thanks for the birthday wishes for DS. He is in the middle of the living room surrounded by a big pile of presents and paper.

So sorry to hear about your MIL SC sad

I too will be back shortly with a big big list!

Hi SC, good to have you back.

<puts coffee on for Tits, think she's going to need it>

Happy Birthday Littlest PMPY, can't believe you are two already.

OK, for me, Ta-da!

Morning routine - half-hearted
DCs to school dressed up for WBD
I have been moaning about it, but they are so excited and it was lovely to see them all in the playground together. The staff had all dressed up as well.

More OU work planned today, plus I need to fill in passport form, a friend and I have arranged to countersign each other's over coffee later.

Right then <rolls up sleeves>

I have 30 hours before DS's party. Ideally I should sleep for at least 6 of them and we're off to The Deep today for a birthday treat so I have maybe 12 hours to clean and tidy before tomorrow.

My list (which will span both days) by room as as follows

To do

Master bedroom/ ensuite
Clutter clear/fling
Make bed
Clothes away
Quick clean of bathroom floor
Clean basin
Toys downstairs
Washing downstairs

Main bathroom
Clutter clear/fling
Clean floor
Scrub loo
Clean glass
Clean bath
Clean basin
Wash bathmat

DC bedrooms
Make beds
tidy toys away
Washing downstairs
Clean clothes away
Tidy books

Halls, stairs and landing
clutter clear
all stacked items to their correct places
Coat rack cleared of extraneous stuff
Ditto shoe rack

Living room
Clutter clear/fling
All wrapping paper away
Clear under sofas
Cups downstairs
Find new homes for new toys
Trampoline outside!
Possibly clean carpets (covered in pen and general grub)
Wash sofa cover
Get stickers unstuck from floor
Bleach radiator (don't ask!)
Dust everywhere

Sweep floor
Mop floor
Clean hob
Dishwasher lots
washing lots
Clean out fridge
Clean and oil worktops
Polish table
Clean large applicances
Clean cooker hood

Ta Da
Write list.....

<nicks the coffee>

Sorry Tits grin


GoingGoingGoth Fri 08-Mar-13 09:30:57

Well I was going to post my to do list, but now I think I'll go for a lie down after seeing that list <rocks gently>

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Fri 08-Mar-13 09:39:04

Holy shit. Dude that list is like stupid proportions!!!!!

<hides own list that seems slightly pathetic now>

ta da
get up
do all online stuff (mn/twitter/email accounts/news/fb) etc
Play hunt the glasses
Threaten ds with calling police to get him to school
Find out further the extent of the bullying that he is suffering
Get sworn at by random parent at school because i dare shout at ds in school playground and she got startled
Speak to teacher
1 load washing on
find number for opticians and play the wait for them to open game

yeah, but I have to actually do it now. And it is a 2 day list. And does reflect the rubbish state of my flying of late. I think I need a lie down just thinking about it grin

Sorry to hear about DS tits sad Hope the teacher was suitably helpful, do they have a good bullying policy?

Jdub Fri 08-Mar-13 09:51:08

Oh my goodness! pushme that is EPIC! AND a party to prepare for! You rock!!! Hope it all goes well and you all have fun!

I can't believe it's Friday already (and I still feel full of energy!) There is nothing worse than lack of sleep (my eldest never entertained the idea of sleep or rest until he was 3) but when 'normal' sleep returns, you NEVER take it for granted, and you really feel SO much livelier!

Hope everyone has a good day and a lovely weekend.

My list
up, beds made, fed and out
s&s bathroom
washing done and hung up

to do
change all beds
sort out some clothes that are too small now

have a lovely day x

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Fri 08-Mar-13 10:45:47

ta da
get up
do all online stuff (mn/twitter/email accounts/news/fb) etc
Play hunt the glasses
Threaten ds with calling police to get him to school
Find out further the extent of the bullying that he is suffering
Get sworn at by random parent at school because i dare shout at ds in school playground and she got startled
Speak to teacher
3rd load washing on
find number for opticians and play the wait for them to open game
weird phone call with opticians and now playing the wait for them to call back
recycling taken out
trip run done
cloak room cleaned
benches emptied
stuff from lounge that should be in bedrooms relocated
speak to sister on phone
bread machine running
play another round of hunt the glasses.
30mins decluttering/discovering lounge
sort out person to sign ds' passport forms

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Fri 08-Mar-13 12:29:33

Did we scare everyone off pushme?

<waits with posting new ta da list in vague hope of returning people>

Perhaps we've been too efficient grin Doesn't seem all that likely though really...

I have managed about 50% of the tidying/decluttering elements of my list but only about 15% of the cleaning! Ah well it's a reasonable start.

On our way to The Deep now to play with the sharks grin BBL

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Fri 08-Mar-13 12:57:45

envy enjoy the sharks!

GoingGoingGoth Fri 08-Mar-13 13:18:04

Ok, so I can't compete with Pushme or Tits, there's not enough caffeine in the world that could get me to do that much! grin

Dd ready for school
Washing up x2
Laundry on
Litter tray -bloody cat missed, I should never have laughed at this
Washed bathroom floor because of ^
Completed cleaning oven
5 min room rescue in lounge

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Fri 08-Mar-13 13:51:25

Clearly you have too much blood in your caffine stream Goth wink

ta da
get up
do all online stuff (mn/twitter/email accounts/news/fb) etc
Play hunt the glasses
Threaten ds with calling police to get him to school
Find out further the extent of the bullying that he is suffering
Get sworn at by random parent at school because i dare shout at ds in school playground and she got startled
Speak to teacher
5th load washing done
find number for opticians and play the wait for them to open game
weird phone call with opticians and now playing the wait for them to call back
recycling taken out
trip run done
cloak room cleaned
benches emptied
stuff from lounge that should be in bedrooms relocated
speak to sister on phone
bread machine running
turn dough into bread
play another round of hunt the glasses.
30mins decluttering/discovering lounge
sort out person to sign ds' passport forms
Book opticians appointment
find ds' glasses and get them to school
completely declutter/tidy lounge
hoover rug
lift and turn rug
hoover underneath rug
relay rug
replace furniture moved to facilitate rug turning
make a second batch of bread rolls of correct size
wipe down benches
clean bathroom
hoover other bits of lounge, dining room, kitchen, hall, porch and upstairs
tidy dining room
dust lounge, dining room
clean porch
Find paperwork that needs filling in and taking to next town

Right rechecking internet stuff, doing paperwork and heading out. I think cake will be needed!

ellesabe Fri 08-Mar-13 14:03:01

Wow I'm feeling super inferior right now!!! We had the surveyor round thus morning to value out flat so got loads done this morning to get it ready but still nowhere near as much as you lot!

Make beds
Shower and S&S
Scrub taps
Hoover whole flat
Declutter lounge and kitchen
Wash up from breakfast
Put stuff in car ready to give parents
Wipe bathroom floor
Sort out bedroom cupboards
Chuck a load of crap toys out
Clear crap off the front of the fridge
Wipe down kitchen cabinets
A load of washing
Menu plan
Shopping list

To do
Go to asda
Cook and eat dinner
Persuade dh to wash up
Watch a crap film
Drink wine
Shine sink

On the plus side, it looks like we will get the valuation we need on our flat for the lower interest rate so hurrah! My hard work hopefully paid off!

elliepac Fri 08-Mar-13 15:11:47

Afternoon all.

Welcome back scsmile. Hope things are as ok as possible.

pmpy bloody hell. That is all i have to saygrin. Enjoy the Deep. I don't like it and find it overpriced <picky emoticon>.

tits hope ds ok. Nothing to say to you really. Just had to write titsgrin or can i call you ass, either works for megrin.

Life is slowly returning to normal. Little flying though. We are away to the caravan this weekend for the first time and am looking forward to a break. I won't be around over wkend but wanted to pop in and say hi to my lovely fledgling friendssmile.

ToffeeWhirl Fri 08-Mar-13 16:20:37

Too many scary lists on here today. I'm not even going to try and compete.

Freaky Friday here today, which means DS1 and I swapped roles. So, MiniToffee :

Was up and dressed by 7.30 (usually sleeps till at least 8.30)
Made DS2's breakfast (which DS2 refused to eat)
Tried to get DS2 to dress (which DS2 refused to do)
Attempted to get DS2 out of the door to go to school (by this time, I had to be involved)
Home for breakfast
Put the recycling boxes and bags of bottles out
Found a slug on his trousers and a woodlouse on the floor - both from the recycling boxes <yuck>
Gave me a lesson on the history of video games
Put a load of washing on
Loaded the dishwasher
Washed up remaining dishes and saucepans
Emailed my best friend to report on the day so far
Begged to stop roles back because he didn't like pretending to be a grown up and wanted to be 13 again smile

The experiment certainly changed his perspective. He was shocked at how much had to be done. He would have had another page and a half of jobs to get through if he'd carried on.

As for being a 13-year-old boy - it was great grin.

GoingGoingGoth Fri 08-Mar-13 17:18:22

Toffee what a brilliant day, not sure if I'd want to be 13 again, I remember the acne sad. Wonder if Dd would like to swap, being 8 looks to be lots of fun.

LillethTheCat Fri 08-Mar-13 17:36:25

Ive been slipping.

Just going to concentrate on keeping up the habit of washing up after every meal and doing a load a night. I will gain some motivation at some point.

Hope everyone is well.

I hope to catch up properly tomorrow.

pushme I feel tired just reading your list....

ta da
up, dressed, breakfast
took dd to baby group
washing on
15 minute declutter - tights drawer
cleared hotspot
tomorrow's clothes out

to do
dinner order takeaway
make bed
hang washing out
put dry washing away

eBay stuff I will do tomorrow and I now have an incentive to sort the paperwork mountain as I have just had the letter from the student loans company saying I need to send them my payslips in order to defer my loan payments, and these will be buried in there somewhere.

SilveryMoon Fri 08-Mar-13 20:56:09

Just coming on to post links for tomorrow and hopefully get back to catch up in a bit, have soooo much to do

babystep 9 5 min room rescue
No missions for the weekend, so just continue with your regular routines and enjoy some time 'off'
daily focus family fun day

I need to:
pack for me and boys to stay overnight at my mum's/dad's tomorrow
paint nails to match top for tomorrow
Eat chocolate

Tomorrows list:
Get up and make beds
Get breakfast
Shower and dress
swish and swipe
Clear breakfast
Finish packing
Litter tray
Go to parents
Meet friend for drink

Is there anyone who wants to take over for tomorrow? I can't link from my phone and i might be a bit drunk by the evening wink

nettiespaghettisminieggs Fri 08-Mar-13 21:02:19

Hello hello hello It has been many moons since my last post. I would like to sneak in and drop a tada list and run off to bed. (early to bed clever girl grin)

Today DH away so it was all up to me. 2 children cajolled outa door and off to school and nursery. Quick pop into school to hand over governors notes as I have officially resigned. [phew] confused blush sad angry grin wine

Work all morning took till 11.30pm to do my first job of the day wages!
then pick up DD after lunch, rush to town to pay installment on holiday. rush back for school pick up. DD had fab time in puddles = soaked to armpits. Rush home change, rush to mcrappy mcD's, rush home forgot purse, rush back to mcrappy D's. Eat and rush children to eat. rush to supermarket, rush round, rush home, rush kid to bed.

Enough rushing i think you get the gist! grin

Sorted some washing out
sorted out huge pile of towel in effort to clear space before workman comes to build mahoosive cupboard to store xmas decs at top of stairs.
swish and swiped bathroom
swept kitchen floor
wiped tops
moved washing on.
tidied living room
piled all paperwork in one hotspots instead of 12.
Poured glass of wine

tomorrow i intend to

put ironing away
finish washing
do homework with ds
take ds and dd on a countryside walk. DS been learning countryside code at beavers
wrap DNeffipoos present
wrap dfriends new babies present x 2 [2 babies]
pack case for trip to scotland for funeral
pack school bag and make sure lunch money is ready for monday
convince dh tht we need to eat dinner out all together as a family as we have and will be apart for almost a week in one form or another.
hopefully chill and watch a film with dc.
bed early for early start for flight to scottieland.

Huge waves to sc toffee pmpy whoknows tits nicknacks sm toffee blue ellie feet swan who must surely be around somewhere.

A big wave to all the new people who probably arent new its just i havent been here.

I am fairly sure it is around the anniversary of my finding this lovely thread its got to be over 3 years ago shock

hope to be back soon. grin

Nettie! Welcome back. Sorry to see your list has a funeral in it sad.

Ta da
Clutter clear and tidy bedroom, bathroom, DC rooms and stairs
Make bed
Clothes away
Clean bathroom - flylady perfect including oiling bathroom cabinets <smug>
Wrapping paper thrown away
Wash sofa cover
Cups downstairs
Clean carpet
Clean hob
washing x2
Clean kitchen surfaces

Still to do
Everyfeckingotherthing <less smug>

Party bags
Wrap pass the parcel (I know a 2 year old doesn't care but there will be mostly older sibs)
Assemble delicious party tea from M&S

Hello nettie lovely to see you grin I see you're getting in the Easter spirit already! Is it really three years shock I think I joined when DD was one so probably about the same for me.

Ellie, you are sooo right about The Deep. Luckily we had a voucher for free children so not feeling too ripped off and DS does love a sparkly fish! Have a lovely relaxing weekend at the caravan (it's not at Filey is it? We go there quite a lot as we've got friends with a caravan there).

Lilleth don't worry about the lapsing, that's the whole flylady thing - dip in, dip out and don't feel guilty

Tits your ta da list is much more impressive than mine envy

Toffee freaky Friday sounds fab, what a fantastic way of teaching a bit of appreciation. I'd love to be 13 again for a day grin

Hi to whoknows, ellesabe, goth, silvery and everyone I've missed.

I have actually managed most of my list so by way of celebration I have left some toddler birthday cake and much wine in the naughty corner. help youselves smile

Had a total CBA day today flying-wise but got quite a lot of work done and made a nice mushroom lasagne for tea. smile

Nice to see you again Nettie!

Glad to hear things are getting back to normal, Ellie.

grin at your Freaky Friday, Toffee.

Big waves to everyone else.

AllAboutTheTitsAndAss Sat 09-Mar-13 00:43:49

And i have just got in from a nightout PMPY the evidence is already starting to appear on fb. blush

Cba to add the other stuff but did have a very nice meal with family before the night out with friends. Now for some sleep

Hello Netti bloody good to see you! gringrin Sorry about funeral being on that list sad

SilveryMoon Sat 09-Mar-13 06:38:03

Morning. Am so sorry I didn't get back to round up last night.

Would be great if someone could take over today so I can get drunk!

Nettie I remember you from this thread years ago. I too have had a 2/3 year break and came back in Jan.

Everyone's asleep but I am dying for a wee so will have to get up sad

Loads to do. Will try to pop on a bit later bud hopefully won't get distracted by mn too soon wink

Cuddledup Sat 09-Mar-13 08:31:49

Yesterday I celebrated International Women's Day by putting my head in the oven and cleaning it !! grin I think this is the second time it's been cleaned since we moved here four years ago! Does this entitle me to the slattern award ? hmm

Have a good day all x

Very liberated cuddled grin
Nearly there now!
To do
Shop for final party bits
Trampoline outside
Set out for party

ToffeeWhirl Sat 09-Mar-13 11:28:49

Sorry, Silvery, I am also getting drunk going out tonight. Hopefully someone else will be able to help out.

I'm hoping to collapse with a glass of wine, but I can post links if that would help?

Have a good night out Toffee smile

I'm also out getting drunk tonight but I'm sure no one will mind one missed day of links. Or whoever gets up first in the morning could do them.

Day not quite going to plan here. Our plumbing has been playing up so we have only a trickle of hot water, I called the plumber earlier to see if he could come next week and he has kindly come over now. It has turned into a big job sad. Also I have woken up with a seriously bloodshot eye so got an emergency optician appt later. Oh well.

DidEinsteinsMum Sat 09-Mar-13 12:19:54

I can post links and attempt a round up if you like?

shock and envy at all the fledglings off out tonight. Don't forget to slug some water before bed to stave off the hangovers!

SilveryMoon Sat 09-Mar-13 12:28:05

Thanks did that would be grand.
Hope all those off out or collapsing with aglass have a great time. We all deserve some down time

DidEinsteinsMum Sat 09-Mar-13 12:34:59

<sits on hands and tries to behave>
<reminisces on past fledgling history>
Ah happy days wink


DidEinsteinsMum Sat 09-Mar-13 12:38:33

<contemplates suggesting she takes over for april...>


<Looks stern> grin <gives up>

I was thinking of offering to do April as well. Perhaps it should be a joint effort. I imagine that would run smoothly and be trouble free...

SilveryMoon Sat 09-Mar-13 14:21:58

Is March not running smoothly? Ish wink

LillethTheCat Sat 09-Mar-13 14:29:24

envy I want to go on a drunken night out. Its been over a year now.

It's running perfectly well Silvery. We have had occasions in the past when it hasn't done <looks sternly at DEM>

NickNacks Sat 09-Mar-13 18:53:16

Have we had some name changes? Could someone PM me if I'm allowed to know because I'm confused confused

I hope you all enjoy your evenings out, not jealous at all

Does anyone still keep in touch with PA ? Would love to know how she is getting on.

I hope your little boy has a lovely party PMPY I too remember when he was born. I think it was one of the first months I joined. smile

Dull day here. DH is working a late shift so just me and the DC snuggled up with trashy Tv on.

Signed up another mindee this week to start NEXT YEAR! I am sooo full that I've even filled the spaces that my current mindees will create when they leave for school. Get me! apologies for the shameless boasting I'm so utterly proud of myself for actually building up my childminding into a proper business to contribute to our family.

Tomorrow DH has to work a late shift again so with the morning taken up with visits to our own mothers, plus a visit to a family member for birthday, I don't think I'll get much of a mothers day sad Not even a lie in because DD will still wake at 7am and DH needs to sleep in.

However I hope you all get spoilt rotten and definitely no FLYing!

Nick - our twice namechanger is someone who has form for it. PA is fine, her DH has a blog which I follow, I can PM you if you are interested.

Oh yes, it's running very smoothly silvery absolutely no criticism of March intended smile. I was mildly taking the piss out of myself and DEM who have both been known to be a bit haphazard in our thread leading grin

NickNacks Sat 09-Mar-13 19:24:40

Thank you! I guessed the first one but didn't cotton on the second time!

All toddlers dispatched to their respective homes. Apart from my own obviously! The house looks like a bomb's hit it and I am knackered!

Congratulations Nicknack -that's very impressive. It's so hard to build a business up from scratch. You must be very proud of yourself smile

Right 10 minutes of sitting quietly then bath and bed. Then to tackle the chaos with a big wine

nettiespaghettisminieggs Sat 09-Mar-13 22:31:37

Evening allgrin

Lovely day with minimal shouting

Kids rooms done including beds
Lunch money sorted for next week
Walk in woods done and Pizza Hut
Washing done
House passable
Hallway cleared for workman
Tried to leave dh instructions on who would be where when. He said it was too complicatedhmmconfused
Case packed
Chilling to the blind side!

nick well done on business go girl
Everyone getting drunk enjoy!

I cannot believe it is bloody snowing angryangryangry whenever I need to fly anywhere it snores.

Have a lovely Mother's Day everyone. Prob be back Wednesday when I return from Scotland smile

SilveryMoon Sun 10-Mar-13 00:28:50

Evening. Glad to hear that March is going Ok. wink
I had a nice evening with my friend, was lovely to see him and catch up.
Hope everyone else had a good evening.
See you all tomorrow

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 00:46:03

Hello, good evening and welcome to the chaos. Unexpected evening out blushgrin

So first things first linkies:

Being sunday it is renew your spirit day. Do a pamper mission. Enjoy mothers day for those who are celebrating.

No missions because it is the weekend!!!!!!

And the babystep is: the power of 15mins

Some of you like the sneak peek to get ahead although with it being mother's day i reserve the right to think you are crazy

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 00:57:59

So roundup:
silvery had a nice evening
feet has an established business grin well done!
Whoknows has been explaining stuff to other fledglings in a very clear manner
nettie rejoined us and gave us an excuse to blame her for any snow that should fall
Pmpy survive ds' party and associated toddlers
Lilleth was jealous of all the night outs/drinking
cuddle nah heard far worse tails of cookers not being cleaned and more exciting ones of how to blow them up. Slattern you are not. wink ignores own oven which she has no idea when was last cleaned or if it has ever been cleaned

<waves to the awol fledglings>

<passes out in the corner>

thanks for the links DEM

well last night we had a dreadful night with dd then caught up with friends in the day. so managed to do precisely nothing to the house. oops.

jealous of all the night's out envy

nights not night's

ellesabe Sun 10-Mar-13 08:53:47

Happy Mother's Day everyone.

No flying allowed in this house today grin

Happy Mother's Day everyone smile

Lots of flying required here I'm afraid. Still have a fair amount of party tidying to do so I'm going to be forced to post a list I'm afraid!

To do
Change our bed
Washing x 3
Hoover living room (why why why did the party poppers not say on the packet that they were filled with tiny metallic ninja death stars?)
Clean kitchen
Dishwasher x lots
Go to tip
Dye hair
All bins out

Morning all,

Nice start to Mother's Day when DS appeared by my bed with a bunch of flowers and a handmade card. I hoped DH might get up and make me a cup of tea but he rolled over and went back to sleep so I have made my own tea, just as well I am not a great advocate of Mother's Day. I sent my mum an email (Dparents are gadding around South America at the moment) and she'd forgotten all about it.

Lots of Flying needed here today too, didn't get much done yesterday due to unexpected plumbing/eye events. I have instructed the DCs to strip their beds and wash the sheets, they are a bit behind on their job lists this week. They also have massive piles of clean clothes to put away, I asked DH to make sure they did it before bed last night but he forgot, I also have to put back the entire contents of the airing cupboard that was cleared out for the plumber.

Got to go and take DD to ballet in a minute, back later.

superfluouscurves Sun 10-Mar-13 09:59:32


Just trotting through to wave a hoof and wish everyone a happy mother's day (different date over here!).

Back to Flying properly tomorrow ....

Not having a great Mothering Sunday here. Just feeling really down and lots of shouting and awkwardness. sad

DH cooked a great roast dinner though. smile

Hope everyone else is having a better day!

elliepac Sun 10-Mar-13 16:46:48

Blardy hell. Go away for 2 days and somebody let did take controlgrin. Come back silverygrin. And i also miss the return of nettie. Marvellous to see you my lovely. Now are you really back or is this one of those times where you pop in and then give up againwinkgrin.

No flying this weekend. Just returned from caravan and DH is cooking dinner. pmpy yes the caravan is at Fileysmile. At one of the larger parks there. We spend half our weekends theresmile.

Am going to try and get cracking again this week so will be back tomorrow.

ToffeeWhirl Sun 10-Mar-13 17:43:46

Blue - sorry your Mothering Sunday isn't very happy. Glad you had a roast dinner cooked for you though smile.

I insisted we all go out for lunch together today: DH has a cold and felt ill; DS1 felt anxious and sick and asked to go home every five minutes; and DS2 sulked because he didn't want to come. Neither of the boys ate. DH didn't enjoy his meal. I drank Prosecco and had a lovely roast chicken with Yorkshires and roast potatoes. Was determined to have a good time! I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but I really wanted to have just one time eating out with my family. And it was good practice for DS1 to sit in a restaurant (one of his sources of anxiety).

Have mostly had a lazy day, but am now cooking dinner and doing the ironing, so back to normal again.

SilveryMoon Sun 10-Mar-13 19:58:28

Good Evening. Happy Mother’s Day
Apologies for my lack of thread running this weekend.
DEM Thank you for taking over yesterday and posting links and round-up. Much appreciated. Have a wine
MrsB Hope you’ve had a better day today and can get some decent sleep tonight
ellesabe Decided no FLYing allowed in her house today what with it being Mother’s Day and all smile
pmpy had no choice but to FLY and list-dump after her ds’s party. Hope he had a good time.
WhoKnows Had a nice start to the day with a hand made card delivered to her bed by ds, but had to get up and make her pwn tea.
sc flew by to wish everyone a happy mother’s day. <waves>
Blue Sorry to hear you’re not having a good day.
ellie is back from her caravan break and will be on tomorrow.
Sounds like we’ve all had a break and plan to get back to it tomorrow
Toffee Went out for lunch with her family. Wasn’t easy due to illness and anxiety but the Whirl’s had lunch (some of them) - Good for you toffee.

So, I’m well. Had a nice weekend. Had my first ever drive on a motorway yesterday which went fine, but took a few wrong turnings on my journey from Middlesex to London, but got there and back safely.
Had a busy afternoon but did all my FLYing jobs I normally do on a weekend. Have even done some ironing!
Back in a mo with links for tomorrow

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 20:03:31

shock ellie I am not that bad far worse then that grin

done precisely fuck all.

elliepac Sun 10-Mar-13 20:09:53

dem yes you are that bad.grin but wouldn't have you any other waywink grin
( sits on fingers, desperate to mention name change debaclewink )

I too did fuck all.

Thanks for links and roundup silverysmile .

SilveryMoon Sun 10-Mar-13 20:12:29

[[ babystep 11] is one to ignore - inspirational page in your control journal (IMO anyway)
This week we are in Zone 3 the bathroom and one other room (this month's other room is the laundry room)
(I personally have adjusted this zone for myself and my zone 3 is my ds's bedroom and the bathroom is incorporated into zone 1. Just to explain incase anyone gets confused by my lists)
Sneak peak for the week with the missions for each day (I will re-post this in all daily links) - monday's mission is to wipe the base of toilet and all surfaces in the bathroom and for the laundry room declutter all of the laundry supplies. Details in sneak peak link.
detail cleaning for anyone interested or at that stage
daily focus is home blessing link should update to include details tomorrow
flight plan

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 20:53:56
elliepac Sun 10-Mar-13 21:07:09

gringringrin. Never fails to amuse me grin.

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 21:08:00

Can you believe that it is over 2 years ago now?!? shock

elliepac Sun 10-Mar-13 21:15:12

I know! Just had a quick scroll through. pmpy's birthday boy not even arrived yet! Some things are exactly the same thoughgrin.

God, is it really shock. I used to get very confused by the namechanging, now if there is someone I don't recognise and everything seems a bit strange I just assume it's you grin

I expect we have a fleet of newer fledglings who are now going through that process for the first time grin

See I always assumed that you DancingIceDragons, what with the dragons and the ice and all, but based on that thread obviously not <confused all over again> confused

In my defence i was quite pregnant and easily confused at the time!

Cuddledup Sun 10-Mar-13 21:34:26

Belated Happy Mothers Day to one and all.
DH cooked lovely big lunch and left me with lovely big pile of washing up! (Thank heavens for dishwasher).
Today I have scaled the heights of Mt Washmore and have finally got to the bottom of my ironing pile - HORRAH!! (Mind you I haven't put it away yet!)I've I've decluttered a massive pile of old clothes etc.

BUT my other big achievement is after months of procrastination I've finally started my control journal. Aside from including all the blah about zones and routines I've added in a section called ME time.

It's all very well having morning and evening routines and zones but what about ME? So now I've decided to do a different "ME time" activity each week. Eg: week 1 - 15 mins of sewing / crafting each day, week 2 - 15 mins of researching family history. Etc.... Anyway this is the theory it'll be interesting to see if it works.

I actually came on to report on my quite inefficient day of flying and have got all distracted!

Short version is I have done most things but not very well, and still haven't changed the beds.

Sorry to hear you've had a bit of a rubbish day blue. My trick this year has been to set my expectations firmly low, so the highlight of the day was taking DD to Sainsbury's to choose me some flowers. They are birght orange gerbenas with pink roses. I am considering indoor sunglasses grin.

Then we went to both sets of parents, DD ate too much chocolate, got hiccups and was sick on MILs white carpet. I cleaned it up <sigh>

Everyone is nicely in bed now though and I have wine, so all's well that ends well.

thanks for the links Silvery. I have adapted this week too as I don't have a laundry room. I tend to add in the ensuite and a bit of extra living room time. Does anyone else find it really annoying that the living room (the messiest most heavily used room in our house) onlu gets a couple of days at the month end? I rely on the weekends to do most of my decluttering and detail cleaning and the living room often doesn't have its own weekend.

Glad you managed a meal out Toffee, though it sounds like it wasn't an entirely relaxing experience. Well done to DS1 though for managing it. I am joining you on the Prosecco this evening grin

I love Filey ellie. Do you get fish and chips from Inghams? They are fab <hungry>

Just read the old thread a bit more thoroughly. I need either more or less wine

<holds head in hands and runs out screaming 'it's all happening again'>

SilveryMoon Sun 10-Mar-13 21:41:49

As thread leader this month can I say no name changing? I am easily confused wink
Just got into bed and remembered I have not shined my sink. Ggrrrr.
It will be the first thing I do in the morning.
So, list dump
Up and make beds
Shine sink
Get breakfast
Swish and swipe
Shower and dress
Feed cats
Clear breakfast
Rubbish out
School run
Go to training course
15 min detail
Cook dinner
Clan kitchen
Boys Bath
Lay out clothes
Shine sink
Stray items away
Bed early.

That'll do

SilveryMoon Sun 10-Mar-13 21:47:03

cuddle your me time schedule sounds perfect. Might have to take that on board myself although not sure there is a spare 15 mins a day sad
pmpy agree re living room time. There is loads I need to do in there. For a while the living room was exclusively my room rescue place but I knocked that on the head because struggled with that 5 mins but might get back to it.

Quite a productive day here, I took DD to ballet this morning and both DCs to their swimming lessons this afternoon. Did another pile of filing later, one more pile to go. Also refilled the airing cupboard so it is much tidier than before, did battle with homework and spellings and supervised DC's chores.

DH changed all the beds and washed all the sheets, did a bit of food shopping and cooked dinner, so we're all even.

PMPY - I also find it annoying that the lounge is a bit of an afterthought, it deserves a zone of it's own.

Blue - sorry to hear about irritable start to the day, dinner sounded good.

Toffee - well done on lunch, our lunches out tend to be a bit tense but we feel it is important to keep trying.

MrsBugsy - were you really posting at 4am, hoping you are either in a different time zone or that you got some rest today.

Snowgirl1 Sun 10-Mar-13 21:56:00

Evening all, hope everyone had a nice mother's day (sorry to hear yours was a bit rubbish blue). I'm hoping to have a better week of FLYing next week - fingers crossed.

elliepac Sun 10-Mar-13 21:58:35

pmpy dancing ice dragons was demgrin. I reckon all this skating lark is bollocks and instead she practices some kind of dark art style mind fuckwittery on the rest of uswinkgrin.

I love Filey too. Like the quainter, quieter version of Scarborough. We used to stay there as a child as grandma owned a holiday flat on seafront and all the family including both sets of grandparents would descend. Happy timessmile. Hopefully now, by virtue of my mum investing in a, rather posh, caravan we are now also creating the same happy memories for our dc's.

I too struggle with the living room. I actually hesitate to call it a living room. It is a play room/art studio/cinema/games arcade. It is only my sanctuary at the end of the day when dc's are in bed.

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 22:07:08

<sticks tongue out at Silvery and ignores in true petulant toddler style>

DidEinsteinsMum Sun 10-Mar-13 22:07:46

Shhhh ellie wink


and the thing is you can see me go through exactly the same process the first time on the earlier thread

<rocks quietly in corner>

whoknows I have a two month old and am often on mn in the middle of the night when I'm bfing.

today was our housework catch up day so did all the usual jobs. I also finally defeated the pile of filing, there was stuff from last summer at the bottom.blush

Also i put a few things on eBay, my plan is to declutter and supplement my maternity pay at the same time.

MrsB - my car insurance from last year was in my filing pile. The renewal came yesterday. blush from me too. When my DCs were babies we had one desktop computer and probably no broadband, all I had to keep me company was Teletext. Youngest is 7, things have come such a long way technology wise.

DidEinsteinsMum Mon 11-Mar-13 00:43:24

Urgh. life is mad. Tired, grumpy, too much to do. Can't see the wood for the trees. need to sort out a plan but not sure where to start as there is so much to do that it is impossible to find the start of the great big knotty ball of string.

<gets lost on mn>
<considers it some more>
<pulls up relevant quote>
"Sports addicts make bad patients" they also make bad flyers
<heads off for some supper>
<thinks about it>

To do:
school run
finish sorting post ready for posting
sort out training stuff
sort out stuff for scanning

err to much to even list the whole lot. need to take this into serious flylady breaking down. The fat fairy has branched out into every single aspect of life - money, health etc etc etc. think i might think about this fly style and take some time to plan. Tuesday might be fly lady planning day but i think that there is going to be a switch about and a sort out for the long term planning.

<considers some more>

DidEinsteinsMum Mon 11-Mar-13 01:06:10

been working my way through that old thread and so far i have encountered myself in at least 5 different names!!! bloody hell i have been behaving recently shock

DidEinsteinsMum Mon 11-Mar-13 01:53:33

Also it has been around 4 years since i have a proper sleep pattern. And that only lasted 6mths and prior to that there was a whole heap of really bad night's sleep. No wonder i am doing so badly!!!!

SC and pmpy various pms are floating about.

SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 06:16:39

Morning. I'm awake half an hour earlier than I need to be sad
At least there's no school for be today
did 5 name changes on 1 thread?! Wow
Have a good and productive day all

elliepac Mon 11-Mar-13 06:41:56

That sucks silvery.

cold and snowy here this morning and I have a bad case of cba even though I o ly have 3 lessons today.

Today is the day I get back on the fly wagon. I was doing really well after Xmas but things have slid since we returned from half term but am going to out that right today. So I need a list:-

Morning routine
Washing up
Washing on
Washing on airer
Washing away
General maintenance tidy.
Might try house bleurgh tonight
Dd's parents evening
DS to cubs
Prep for work
Evening routine.

issimma Mon 11-Mar-13 06:44:55

Morning! Fell off the wagon last week, but today is a new day and all that.

to do
Make the house less disgusting while entertaining poorly toddler and baby. I fear it will be one of 'those' days.

DidEinsteinsMum Mon 11-Mar-13 06:49:18

Oh god no there was at least 2 different nc/day on that there. i had five different names which is kinda different. hence why that particular thread is err, fine example of how not to lead a thread? hmmgrin

no sleep at all. pass the coffee?

Morning silvery, ellie, issima and DEM (if that is indeed your name wink )

Back on the fly wagon for me too today ellie. I do find it very hard during the week.

To do
Dye hair
Change beds
Fold and put away clothes
Room rescue living room
Online shopping

I expect I will need to add some more things to the list later, but that'll do for now!

Jamillalliamilli Mon 11-Mar-13 09:19:01

Looks suspiciously at name changers, but reckons all will become clear in the end.

Just turned up to waylay SCfor the hell of it, and say Blue sorry Sunday wasn’t much fun.

Much madness here but still hacking away at it, I have just over two weeks to create miracles and am trying to believe I can do it regardless of how impossible it seems right now.

I know there’s other stuff that I can’t think of right now but:
Still to do
Put parking permit on vehicle
Prep psychology
Photographing /filling Insurance unit
p/up ds
Oversee psychology
Oversee maths
Catch up home ed file
Listen to friend

LillethTheCat Mon 11-Mar-13 09:38:12

Just checking in as I dont want to fall off completely. Ive not done much, but yesterday I did clean the bathroom floor. The problem is once you start doing something you notice other dirty bits and it carries on and you can never get it perfect so I said to myself "perfection is the enemy of acheivement" Left the room came back in and saw how much better it looked. So Im pleased with myself. grin

Im still washing up after every meal and shining my sink and Im still loading the washing machine on a night and doing a load every day. The beds are still being made on a morning, but that's it. I started off with good intentions too. It should be easy to set aside 15 mins a day to do some proper cleaning or to do each mission (Im not a big fan of most of the baby steps), but I just never do and I can't tell you why.

Hope you are all well.

Engelsemama Mon 11-Mar-13 10:06:42

Checking in to give myself a kick up the arse.

Am ill again with a stinking cold, so have spent yet more of my time on the sofa surrounded by tissues while the house disentegrates around me. Starting to feel a bit more normal today, just in time to go back to work tomorrow angry

Ta da
Last night's washing-up
Saturday's wash out of td, folded
Wash on, just about to put into td
2nd load of washing lined up and ready to go
Changed batteries in DS's toy god help me
light bulb in utily room changed
coffee table cleaned
what's for dinner - chicken and pastry out of freezer for another hairy bikers special

To do
Get out of the bloody house - walking up to playground
dump unwated boots in clothing bank on way
polish shoes/boots
give ds a bath
hoover up and down
change beds
sort out old paper for pick up tomorrow
pop to supermarket for bits that I forgot on Friday

also confused by all new people/'old' people/nc's blush

Let me introduce myself - I'm engels, stranded over in the Netherlands with DS (17mo) and Dutch DH who is lovely but depressive and therefore not always the most helpful when it comes to Flying. I work 3 days (teacher) so also trying to juggle school work with flying and I must say am not doing very well right now! I've been flying since May 2012...coming up to a year shock How did that happen and why doesn't my house look any different

Jdub Mon 11-Mar-13 10:11:09

Morning all! Everyone seems to have been mega busy this weekend.
We went on a MothersDay bike ride (VERY cold!!!!!) but ending with coffee and cake!

done last night and this morning
wash floor
polish school shoes
run d/w
empty d/w
up, dressed, fed and out

to do
Open afternoon
make cakes for cake sale tomorrow
receipt filing
read new book
put charity stuff in the car

Have a good day and keep warm xx

Louise85 Mon 11-Mar-13 11:01:03

Glad to see I'm not the only one that fell of the wagon last week!!

issimma I feel for you as am in same position -today's list is trying to make house less messy while entertaining poorly toddler and baby :-(

Hopefully the day improves....

issimma Mon 11-Mar-13 11:29:24

wine louise! Toddler has asked to go to bed (she must be feeling bad) and baby asleep on me.
I have made piles of things that need to go upstairs, put 2nd wash on and sorted some of the too small baby clothes for freecycle.
Snow but brilliant blue skies here, am pretending I'm on a skiing holiday smile and trying to ignore the dirty house.

Washing is mounting again so tackling it on and off this morning.
Must post parcels! But did finally manage to dust DS room.

To do:
Sweep living room (DS is crawling around eating organix baby crisps- cute but messy!)
Mop living room
Do Tesco shop
Pick up car from MOT
Reload washing machine/tumble dryer
Empty dishwasher
Prep for interview on Thursday!

Engelsemama Mon 11-Mar-13 13:55:24

List update to keep me going

Ta da
Last night's washing-up
Saturday's wash out of td, folded
One load of washing done, td and folded
2nd load of washing on
Changed batteries in DS's toy god help me
light bulb in utility room changed
coffee table cleaned
what's for dinner - chicken and pastry out of freezer for another hairy bikers special
Get out of the bloody house - walked up to playground
dump unwanted boots in clothing bank on way
Order repeat prescription

To do
make dinner
polish shoes/boots
give ds a bath - just about to get him up form nap and will do
hoover up and down
change beds - going to do now
sort out old paper for pick up tomorrow
pop to supermarket for bits that I forgot on Friday - going to go later after dinner when DH is home
send engagement card to best friend
put away washing - doing now

Enelya Mon 11-Mar-13 14:12:48

Hi ladies, can I hijack your thread to ask a few qs about the FLY system and your DHs?

When you post your lists, are they your lists or are they family lists? If the lists are for you, what does your DH do? I'm keen to find a system to help me keep on top of things when I go back to work in the summer, but DH can be a bit of a sod at delegating responsibility to me and I fear that he may use it as an excuse to do less " in case he interferes with my system".

Any words of wisdom?

superfluouscurves Mon 11-Mar-13 17:05:25


Thanks for way-laying me Just! grin

Happy to take a break from things right now. Really tried to make in-roads in to the horrendous state of this house today and although I have got back on top of the laundry - there is loads more tidying/decluttering to do before I can admit visitors- and everything seems to be taking ages and ages!! And it's freezing again with snow on the ground ...

DD has also just come back from school really upset with a note from the teacher who has asked her to explain to us why she lied about her French hwk to him and another teacher. Really silly reason for getting in trouble - she forgot to write down her hwk in her hwk agenda when it was given out - intending to write it down in the next lesson. But she forgot. Then, because she knew I had to sign her hwk agenda at the w/e, she did three French exercises that weren't the set ones so that I would think that she had done the correct hwk - except she failed to explain this to the teacher or me! I'm cross that she lied to me too - but I'm more bewildered by nine-year-old logic - all leading to a load of upset and unecessary wailing! Bad enough trying to get her to ballet on a Monday night ...arggghhhh

Sorry for "me" "me" post. Again, not much time for many personals as have to get the supper on.

Also confess that I am very confused by namechangers/newcomers etc etc!! Not sure who I am addressing!!

Hope you feel better soon Engels

Enelya could you make your lists/routines obvious to your dh by leaving them out in conspicuous place? Then perhaps one day "casually" ask him to finish one or two items on it? My dh responds quite well to lists ..; and no excuse for shirking if written down in black and white! Good luck!

Sorry - haven't caught up with everyone else yet - must get back on here tomorrow and read through the whole thread from when I left.

Huge waves to everyone though!

superfluouscurves Mon 11-Mar-13 17:07:18

Lawd, just had a quick peep at that old thread and realised that I was struggling in exactly the same way with the state of this house two years ago

blush blush blush

MercuryRising Mon 11-Mar-13 18:50:36

Hello fellow fledglings!

Sorry for going awol. I worked Thurs and Fri night so slept a lot of Fri and Sat and then had a very relaxed/lazy Mothers Day. Today I took my DDad to London to visit family so I have only been doing very minimal flying but I am going to catch up with the thread this evening and then get back on track.

Hope you all had lovely Mothers Days smile

ellesabe Mon 11-Mar-13 19:17:38

Hi all! Quite a productive day here!

Shower, swish and swipe
Load of washing
Change our bedding
Cook dinner
Declutter bedroom shelves
Take dds to dancing group
Dinner and bath time

To do
Clear up dinner
Send some emails
Confirm booking for dsis' hen party
Clean bathroom floor
Declutter bathroom cabinet
Shine sink

Dh was supposed to be going out tonight but we're snowed in so I don't know if I'll manage everything on my list with him hanging around.
My incentive for finishing my list was last nights Call the Midwife which I certainly won't be watching now angry

SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 19:20:25

I have just typed out the longest fucking rant about my fucking shit fucking day and I fucking deleted it. I am about to fucking explode.

Up and made beds
Shined sink
Got breakfast
Showered and dressed
Swished and swiped
Rubbish out
Fed cats (x2)
School run (am)
15 mins detail - I cleared under bed, organised puzzle box, wiped down toys that live under bed
Cooked dinner
Cleaned kitchen
Make tomorrows lunch
Sort dry clothes
Non iron away
Clothes out for tomorrow
Poured wine

To Do
Eat my dinner
Post links and round up
Shine sink

I feel like I’ve done more than my tada list, feel like I’ve been really busy but doesn’t look much there. I must be forgetting something.
Back in a mo to see what you’ve all been upto

SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 19:55:44

Right. Going to start where the last round-up left off smile
WhoKnows had a productive day yesterday (well done)
snow Is joining those of us who want to make a better effort at FLYing this week
ellie also struggles with the living room not having it’s own zone, and has been telling us about her childhood caravan holidays in Filey.
<blows raspberry> at DEM poking her tongue out
mrsb Managed to finish the filing. Great!
DEM May be in danger of over thinking her FLYing habits wink me too Dem, me too.
issimma has a poorly toddler and baby, hop they’re ok and today hasn’t been completely awful wine Ah, just seen you were handing out the wine at half 11 this morning shock piss head…….wish I’d been here needed one by then
pmpy what colour did you dye your hair? Is it a regular thing? Looking good? (Need to do mine, I don’t want to look silvery and now I’m on the wwrong side of 30, there are a good few coming through sad)
Just has 2 weeks to perform miracles in her place. We all have faith, you can do it one step at a time wink
Lilleth is still here (Good good) and finding out all about perfection being the work of the devil! I completely agree that it is really hard to get 15 mins a day to do missions/detail. Don’t knock yourself, you have your basic routines that you are sticking too, massive achievement. If I may say, I do think you a crazy lady wink for washing up after every meal. Sod that. I wash up once in the evening. Al bits that get used during the day, get dumped in a plastic storage box in the cupboard under the sink so no one sees it and I do it all in the evening whilst cooking dinner. It is a bit embarrassing to have to explain this system to friends when the ds’s go to theirs for dinner and put their plates in the cleaning cupboard after dinner blush grin
Engels is here, has a cold and has been feeling rough, but sod’s law, is feeling a bit better just in time for work tomorrow. I know that one, if it wasn’t for bad luck, I’d certainly have no luck at all wink
Hope you’re ok.
Louise Hope your dc’s are ok and feeling better.
Enelya Came in to ask some questions about the system, our lists, and the dreaded dh/p issue. Right, for me, my lists are things that need to be done. Years ago, when I first joined (4 years ago now) it was just my list because my dp was a useless fuckwit, but as I have continued to have this system, he has become more responsive to it. He has now started ticking off on my paper lists what he has done so I no longer have to walk around the flat to check.
My dp always used to say he didn’t do anything because he didn’t know what to do. I forget how many times I have literally screamed “There are lists!!!!” I think you need to take the approach that this system is for you and not expect anyne else to join you (just yet). As time goes on, you will be able to gently encourage your dh to do a little more. That’s my opinion anyway, I’m sure there are loads of different ways etc. I wouldn’t put too much presssure on, but my dp does need clear, precise instruction.
sc well done on getting to the bottom of mount wash more! Reading your bit about dd, I was thinking, oh she’s secondary age, but 9?! Wowzers, at least she did something, her teacher sounds a bit tough. Hope she’s ok.
Hi mercury Glad to hear you’ve been having a noce few days in RL.

<waves> to anyone I’ve missed. grin

Snowgirl1 Mon 11-Mar-13 20:04:11

Unexpected day at home due to DD having D&V. Poor thing was sick in her bed last night and didn't even cry, just went back to sleep sad. Got lots of extra loads of washing done, through necessity - lots of sicky sheets and pjs. Couldn't even get some FLYing done as DD was very clingy and just wanted lots of cuddles. Not sure I can face going to wipe the base of the toilets.

SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 20:04:20

babystep to delete all FLYlady e-mails from your inbox.
mission wash all rugs, mats and show towels from your bathroom. In laundry room, wipe down washer and dryer.
daily focus for Tuesday is planning (I will update in morning)
flight plan for anyone who wants to check what we're doing.

SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 20:06:33

snow Hope your dd's feeling better soon. How awful for you all

ellesabe Mon 11-Mar-13 20:14:46

Well my plans for this evening have well and truly gone up in smoke. Dh is hanging around like a bad smell, grumbling at the prospect of Call the Midwife, and my throat is reeeeally sore all of a sudden. Maybe I'm finally catching the cold that dd has had for a week. I think I'll just have a bath and sod the list go to bed grin

elliepac Mon 11-Mar-13 20:41:58

Not bad today, not bad. Am in phone so
can't copy list from earlier but:

ta da:-

Morning routine
Washing in
Washing on airer
Washing out away
Washing up
Maintenance tidy
Evening routine
Ds to cubs and back
Dd's parents evening (fantastic - clearly there are two versions of dd doing the roundswinkgrin)

Getting an early night tonight as have Yr 7 parents evening tomorrow night so long day.

NickNacks Mon 11-Mar-13 20:47:01

What the fuck is a 'show towel'? hmm

ellesabe Mon 11-Mar-13 21:21:20


SilveryMoon Mon 11-Mar-13 21:27:33

NickNacks I'd love to have show towels and be all 'sleeping with the enemy' like, but far too much effort I think!
I do not know 1 person who has show towels......
All a bit Monica Gellar like with her different categories for her towels, guest, fancy guest etc. Hilarious

Evening all!

Actually have a ta da! list after days of CBA:
Mopped hard floors
General room rescues
S&S x2
Scrubbed taps and sinks
Wiped off random mysterious marks
Work admin stuff
Post office
DS2's 3yo booster jabs sad
Afternoon at boys' friends' house
Cooked tea
Cleaned kitchen
Caught up with last ever Being Human

Silvery / NickNacks - to me a "show towel" conjures up images of Crufts, so maybe it's a particularly fluffy one??

Ellie - the personal/social bit of DS1's midyear report had us thinking "are we talking about the same child?" too... grin

Big waves all round.

Evening smile

Well for once I too have a ta da list....

Ta da
Dye hair
Change beds
Fold and put away clothes
Room rescue living room
Online shopping
Meal plan
First coat of gloss on the Cupboard of Doom (floor length cupboard in the living room where all clutter is stowed until an inevitable annual collapse)

I'm not planing on being too ambitious tomorrow as I'm working in Cheltenham, which is a three hour drive each way so flying will probably be minimal and routines only tbh. I will try for the mission though as the bath mat could do with a wash grin.

silvery my hair dye is a sort of mid ashy blonde. I don't do it very often as it is only a shade lighter than my natural hair colour but it just tips the balance between mousy and blonde.

Hope your DD's feeling better snowgirl. Actually have just noticed the time - hope she's asleep!

Right there with nicknacks on the show towels.

Enelya my DH has his own elements of daily routines - I also let him know which zone we're in and he sometimes makes an effort to notice weird obsessive chores that need doing in the relevant rooms. Filling gaps in the skirting boards with decorators caulk is his current obsession hmm

Would like to write more personals but am absolutely knackered so need to go to bed. Big waves to sc, ellie, ellesabe, mercury, DEM, engels, issima, jdub, louise and everyone I've missed.

MercuryRising Tue 12-Mar-13 06:39:15

Right after days of doing as close to nothing as possible I need to get back on track so here goes:

To do
Make beds
Up and dressed
Dcs up, fed, dressed and to school
Dry washing folded
Washing hung out Wm filled for Wed
Dw loaded/on/unloaded and reloaded
Rubbish/recycling out
Mission - wm wiped down
Hoover and dust throughout
Volunteer at school
Dcs lunchboxes made - today and tomorrow
Sort laundry so there are actually pants and socks in dcs drawers
Clean bathroom
Throw out old bath toys and empty bottles
Dinner and tidy
Dcs parents evening

I will be amazed if I achieve all of that, but I need to at least try and do that plus a few five minute room rescues as after just three days of doing not a lot the house is in a state of CHAOS.

Ive also got to bite the bullet and return to Weight Watchers after a month off - I am not looking forward to that!!

Big wing flaps to all smile

superfluouscurves Tue 12-Mar-13 06:59:26

Blimey O'Reilly it's been snowing all night... there is a proper blizzard blowing down our street ...

Morning meercury good luck with the list smile. I am doing the 5:2 diet myself, but in stark contrast to what feels like the whole of the rest of mumsnet I have yet too lose weight!

Quick morning list dunp

To do
Tea out of freezwe
Unstack and restack dishwasher
Put online shopping away
Fold and put away clothes

I am sure there is more, but that will have to do for now. Hope everyone has a lovely day smile

ellesabe Tue 12-Mar-13 08:11:44

push and mercury I take my hat off you for sticking to any sort of diet. I am crap at it.

I have woken up feeling like complete death this morning. My glands are not only painful but visible on the side of my neck sad

I'm definitely not up to leaving the house today but I can't imagine I'll have much of a Tada list with a baby and toddler to entertain all day when I just want to curl up in bed.

My only saving grace is that we are also snowed in so dh can't get to work. Hurrah hmm

was stuck inside yesterday as dd had a tummy bug and we had heavy snow.

I hate the snow at the moment as I live on a hill and don't feel safe taking dd out in the pram, so I am stuck inside. just saw that my work is closed for the day so if I wasn't on maternity I'd be happy.

enelya my dp is OK at 'helping' with the housework but rarely takes the initiative, he won't clean unless I ask him to. he doesn't seem to see the dirt.

silvery sorry you had a bad day yesterday.

to do
shine sink
15 minute declutter
list things on eBay
room rescue

that doesn't sound much but if dd needs constant feeding and cuddling again it will be plenty!

Jdub Tue 12-Mar-13 09:46:52

Good morning, so sorry to hear of tummy bugs and illness. Hope everyone is feeling better very soon. We are just cold (and that could be the reason behind dc1's mega strop this morning! Adamant he didn't want a hat though!!!)

d/w emptied
cake sale cakes plated up (and delivered)
up, fed, beds made and out

to do
meal plan
bag up books for charity shop

Have a good day and keep warm x

GoingGoingGoth Tue 12-Mar-13 10:36:52

Hello all, had a few CBA days, but hopefully back to flying today. Have kept a shiny sink though. grin

Dd to school

to do
Weekly bleugh
Veg prep for dinner
Possibly baking (unless Dh goes out and then the sewing machine is coming out)
Collect Dd
Dd to dentist
Dd homework supervision
Wash up & SS

Louise85 Tue 12-Mar-13 10:57:28

Right, so yesterday was a complete ended up worse than the today is a new day, but ds is in my arms and won't settle, so not too sure how much i'll get done....

Dd to playgroup
Pick up script from pharmacy (and wait half an hour for it!!! gggrrrr)
Pick up delivery from post office

to do
bottle prep
tidy breakfast things
unload dishwasher
put yesterdays washing away
fetch dd
baking with dd
wash up & (hopefully) shine sink :-)

issimma Tue 12-Mar-13 11:30:23

louise, think you're my flying buddy! I have taken DD to nursery and am now pinned to the sofa by fussy DS!

ta da
2 lots of washing
food shop for today/tomorrow (free coffee at waitrose while ds actually napped - heaven!)
sorted out some more too-small baby clothes
listed some clothes on the MN pinterest swapboard.

to do
Try not to despair at how laundry rules my life
Buy some tights
collect dd
sort more toddler/baby clothes
wipe kitchen sides
clear dining table

DidEinsteinsMum Tue 12-Mar-13 12:11:49

list bed

Ta da
Up and out
early training
ring sheffield
get changed
hand washing in to soak
collect laundry
consider plan of action wrt timings
1st load laundry on

to do
painkillers and coffee
google ways to bring out bruising
clear out car
listen to car and try to isolate where horrid noise is coming from

GoingGoingGoth Tue 12-Mar-13 13:59:50

Did have your tried Arnica cream or gel?

Argh my day not going to plan, Dh didn't go out until after lunch.

superfluouscurves Tue 12-Mar-13 14:05:33

DEM I'll raise you three 'urghs' grin

superfluouscurves Tue 12-Mar-13 14:08:28

Very envy of Pushme working near Cheltenham?

Get to see any races???

ellesabe Tue 12-Mar-13 15:10:46

Well dh has finally made it to work now the snow has started melting and I'm feeling a bit better so here is a tentative list.

Ate breakfast
Go back to bed with dd2
Ate lunch
Changed dds' beds
Send emails
Showered and dressed (only just!)
Sent dh to work with instruction to get some shopping on his way home

to do
Cook dinner
Tidy living room
Wash up
Shine sink

I find it absolutely impossible to declutter when dh is at home. I just put a load of dust covers from kids books in the recycling as dd just pulls them straight off and they end up tatty and all over the house. He took them out of the recycling and has left them on the sofa in case we 'need' them hmm

How do others deal with hoarder husbands??

Snowgirl1 Tue 12-Mar-13 15:58:11

Silvery and PMPY thanks for wishing DD well. She's much better today - DH is at home with her today.

Ellesabe hope you feel better soon. I live in dread of catching some nasty bug while DH is away and having to look after 14 month old while sick. Hope your little ones are gentle with you today. My DH is a bit of a hoarder. Of all things he hoards wood. We go to visit relatives and he will eye up bits of random wood lying by their skip and we end up going home with a bootful of wood. I shouldn't complain too much, as it's wood it tends not to be stored in the house. Although he has no room in the shed or garage left, so now has a trailer on the drive full of useless useful bits of wood and other tat.

Show towels? Them's the towels with impractical fancy embroidery on aren't they? Show towels makes it sound like towels that shouldn't be used, so a bit pointless to me. We don't have show towels, but will chuck all our bog standard towels in the wash in lieu of show towels. If our guests get a clean towel, they should be grateful. Show towels..pah!

Ta da
Up, dressed
Sandwiches made for DH & I
Bed not made as DH was still in it when I left - hope he's done it

To do
Hang washing out (unless DH has already done <hopeful>)
Play with and bath DD
Cook door - lacking enthusiasm and inspiration for that, just CBS
No decluttering tonight - out for quick drink with some other mummies
Chuck bath mats and towels in wash
Shine sink


My mum has a hand towel on a little hook next to the sink for guests and another one on the rail over the radiator for family, woe betide anyone who uses the guest towel if they are actually family. The argument that I haven't lived there for 25 years and am technically a guest doesn't cut it.

SilveryMoon Tue 12-Mar-13 19:20:26

Not much of a FLYing day here.
Up and made beds
Swished and swiped
Put out aand cleared away breakfast
Showered and dressed
Fed cats
Rubbish out
Ds’s to childminder
Collected ds1 from club
Cooked ds’s dinner (pizza)
Cleaned kitchen
Laid out clothes
Sorted dry washing
Non iron away
Laundry on

No mission here or much else, horrid day at work again. Really pissed off so have ordered curry for me and dp which has just arrived, so gonna stuff my face, drink some wine and will be back a bit later with links etc

DidEinsteinsMum Tue 12-Mar-13 19:56:06

Unfortunately the bruising is accompanying broken skin so don't think it is an option? goth

Done more stuff. will consider updating ta da list when I have found the medicinal pack of peas, made a hotwater bottle and suggested to ds he might like to hightail it to bed.

superfluouscurves Tue 12-Mar-13 20:09:48

EVening all