What chores does your DH do everyday as a bare minimum?(149 Posts)
Mine, not much because he 'works full time' (9am-5pm from home office).
My dp leaves the house at 7.30, and gets home at 6.30, his everyday jobs are washing up, and clearing up the living room after me and dd have
trashed it played for the day!
Sorry - can you repeat the question please? I'm not sure I quite understand - DH, daily, chores? Nope, you've lost me there....
<disclaimer: I am being facetious, obviously --but only a bit-->
Goes to work, apparently. As I've just been reminded.
My DH works full time from home and does pretty much everything He puts washing on, loads and unloads the dishwasher, cleans / tidies the kitchen, puts the rubbish and recycling out, often cooks dinner. We have a cleaner so no vacuuming or 'proper' cleaning (like bathrooms and floors) but he definitely does more than me. I do more at weekends and washing putting away is solely my job as he hates it. I start maternity leave next week though, so will inevitably do more whilst I'm off work. I couldn't sit by with my feet up whilst he tidies up around me
Mine also works from home about 50% of the time. I work PT and we have a 4 month old.
He also does:
- some tidying
- most shopping
- most washing up
- often puts wash on (I usually hang up and put away clothes)
- usually cooks evening meal
- baths the baby
- takes out bins
- makes bread
- often brings me breakfast in bed if I am feeding the baby.
- often runs Hoover round at weekend.
Probably does a bigger share of the housework than me, on balance.
On a daily basis? He usually stacks the dishwasher (because I usually put things away and cook) and he usually puts the bins out (weekly). I couldn't tell you the last time he cleaned anything other than a quick wipe in the kitchen. He is capable of doing washing, but usually random things like the shower curtain.
Daily chores Hahahaha
To be fair he does have a ridiculous work load at the moment as they are short of 2 consultants at the moment so he's at the hospital all the bloody time.
He does muck in when he's around - with the dishwasher or cooking, or wiping round the kitchen or ironing. He does also take lone responsibility for mowing our 1.5acres of lawn (but I'm not sure that's a chore)
He used to do a lot more but since it's got crazy at work he's been less useful which is a pain as I end up taking up the slack and that has a massive impact on my fledgling business.
when I freak & roar? Lots!
Cooking, cleaning the kitchen, washing dishes, putting clothes to wash/dry. General tidying up.
About the same thing than me.
He is out of the house 7-6.30 5 days a week and does the following
Cooks every other day. Washes up every other day. Mops floors. Puts a load of laundry on before going to work. Makes packed lunch for kids 3 days a week, drops them at CM 2 days and picks up 2 days (varies which, by negotiation and who has late meetings on which days). Tidies toys. Writes meal plan and shopping list for the week - the only thing he won't do is go to the supermarket, has a morbid fear of them so I always do that.
I work 4 days as well. He does prettying half, I do more of the cleaning though, mostly while DD is napping on my Friday off.
Daily, none. He puts a load of washing on at the weekend (his work stuff) and will hang them out/fold.
Occasionally (very) washes up.
Puts bins out weekly.
Er..... He will hoover when the fancy takes him.
Daily? Very little. He leaves the house at 7.15am and if we see him before 6pm it's a good day.
Over the course of the week? He'll do a bit of whatever needs doing, taking the rubbish out, load the dishwasher, wipe surfaces down, hoover, heat up whatever I have prepared one night a week when I go to the gym.
He will not put washing on, put clothes in the laundry basket, clean the bathroom or make the bed.
Yes he should probably do more, but he works 55 hour weeks and I'm a SAHM. It's not perfect but we manage!
He tidies the kitchen last thing at night, packs the final cup of tea cups into the dishwasher, puts it on and preps his lunch for the next day while I swan upstairs to use the bathroom before him.
But, I don't work, and both our children are in school. So I do everything including bins out, mowing lawns etc because I have loads of time to do it in the day.
On the weekend he unpacks the dishwasher, makes the family lunch and dinner is usually a team effort.
Every night he makes me a cup of tea without fail.
When I worked and when I was a SAHM with young children he did loads, night feeds, cooking, ironing, laundry, hoovering etc. The only thing he has never done is clean a bathroom because he is useless at it and to be honest I love cleaning bathrooms <weirdo>
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Daily, nothing at all. He works full time from home. I am sahm to 3 children. He loads the dishwasher probably once every other day. But nothing else at all. Despite nagging
"not much because he 'works full time' 9am-5pm"
Is that a reason not to have to run your own living space then? In which case, what should happen in my house, where I'm out at work from 7.45am until around 5.30pm and so is dh.
Who does the chores then?
clam the running your own living space is interesting. His own private spaces are a tip yet he maintains that he is the tidy one and it's me that messes everything up so why should he 'clean after me'.
I have been trying in vain for years to inculcate in us both a sense of order and cleanliness - it isn't working. I desperately want a clean and tidy home but I don't want to be the only one tidying it and cleaning it. He will do some things but he doesn't have that sense of 'responsibility'.
I'll happily accept any advice and I'm prepared to spend about 1hr a day doing stuff (on top of cooking and dishwasher) to keep the place sorted. I also do all of the clothes washing for 5 and that's OK as I'm at home most of the time. Happy enough to do the shopping too.
Mine helps with twins' bedtime, in fact he does most of it really, I just watch :D
Then he cooks dinner for us (usually) and before bed he puts the dishwasher on and makes a loaf of bread in the breadmaker for the morning.
Then in the morning he gets up slightly before me and makes the babies' bottles, and helps supervise them and do nappy changes while I have my shower.
At weekends he pretty much does everything, although obviously I am on duty all the time too as we have twins...... he's amazing.
Mine does the cats litter trays and food (unless I'm up first), empties the bins, and cooks if he wants a proper meal (as I'm quite happy to eat toast for dinner) He also does a lot of DIY. He will load and upload the dishwasher as often as I do.
I am in charge of clothes washing and general tidying, we have a cleaner for everything else which has fixed a lot of arguments.
Me an dh both work full time, he does stuff most days -
Does dishes (not all the dishes)
Collects ds from cm and makes tea most week nights
Bins and recycling
Mending things and going in the loft
Cat and dog feeding
Finding bargains on the internet
he gets up with the children (6am) & does breakfast & bags before walking dd1 to the station then doing nursery drop off. He makes coffee (very important) & loads/unloads dishwasher while doing this.
When he gets home from work he does nursery pick-up (works flexi-time) then the general pre-bedtime tidy up/hoover while I do homework with the kids. We alternate cooking the evening meals (tea for younger kids & dinner for us & the older ones). Whoever is cooking will tidy the the kitchen & dining room (including dishes/floor etc) while the other one does upstairs tidying (including the bathroom) & baths for kids. He puts two of the kids to bed while I do the other two. Then he is usually less knackered than me so if there's outstanding stuff he'll do that.
I do all of the laundry/mending & bed changes (we have child with SN & two more not reliably dry) which is a big job. I do shopping/meal planning he does the supermarket (usually in his lunch hour) and everything involving the car, the computers & the bins. Gardening & decorating I mainly do but we share DIY/house maintenance. Budgeting we share but he usually does banking/bill paying (he has more access to computer/phone during the day than me).
When we do a really deep clean (?monthly) we share it. He usually does the changing of the dishwasher filter/defrosting fridge etc while I do daily dusting/wiping/picking up etc. I sort out all of the kid related clothes & activities/organising but he does most of the ferrying around.
Dh works long hours and is away a lot. I work pt and dvs are at school.
I do most food planning/shopping, midweek cooking and washing, most of the cleaning. Obv I do pretty much everything when dh is away.
When he's here he cleans up the kitchen and loads the dishwasher and we share the rest. Oh and he irons his own shirts.
- gets DD down for the night
- clears up after dinner
- loads and unloads the dishwasher
- does any washing up that can't go in the dishwasher
- does his own washing when it needs doing
- puts the bins out on bin day, brings them in the next day
At the moment he also clears up DD's toys and quite often gives her her bath too - but that's because I'm six months pregnant and have a bad back.
I'm a SAHM, if that makes a difference.
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