Hi all. Not been on this board before, so bear with me.
I decided that I would do a bit of "temping" - Part time, while the kids were at school. It isn't what I truly wanted, but it helps with the bills etc.
The agency came up with a really local job for me but it was full time. It was with a local government, the sort of environment I had been used to in my pre-mummy years. I was lucky enough to get through the interview and felt really good about myself. (I hadn't had an interview for 16yrs - or a decent job come to that!) That was 6 months ago. It has been fan-flippin-tastic. I love the work, the people and it being so local. We worked it all out at home, no probs. Except... the job has moved half an hour away in the next big town. I am still a temp, yet they want me to work full time at the new place. I have said that I can't at the moment, kids, mother etc.. so I am doing 3 days a week. The position will be advertised soon for a full time permanent. I want the job.
Things is this... I have a semi disabled mother who lives near me. 2 boys, 11 and 14. The youngest is due to start at secondary school in Sept. The oldest goes to this school and it is a stone's throw away. Anyway, my mother has enthused me (god knows how or why) into cutting my hours as a temp and taking on domestic cleaning. This is fine but it doesn't bring in the amount of money we need right now. It is starting to build up but I am not sure it is what I want. I have 4 old ladies I clean for already - do I let them down, as well as my mother?
My husband says we can work something out but he doesn't really get on that well with my mum. She is conviced she is on "death's door" every day, and tells me my boys need me, especially the eldest right now.(My boys are from a previous marriage). DH is lucky enough to work from home too,so that would be an advantage, but is it right to put all that responsibility on him? I have to admit that I have my reservations. He spends 2hrs at lunchtime at his local, then goes off to pick my youngest up from school! He then goes back to the office (outside the house-converted attached garage) to continue work. He does cook their tea etc. and gets on pretty well with them both.
I have virtually been given the job on a plate. All there is to do is the procedure of interview. I may not get it, but I do need it. The job is flexi so I could go in early and leave early. I would be home for the boys after school etc. Summer hols may be a problem but who doesn't have those sort - only the lucky ones who get to work at a school, term time. (Oooh I am so envious).
As you can see. Dilemma time. I am virtually convinced that I will go for the interview... I have even told my mother. She isn't too happy but hey, I didnt' expect her to be. I won't be there for her. I feel so torn. I know what an opportunity I would be missing, but dont' want to let anyone down.
HELP????!!!! am I being selfish, and if so, to which degree???
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jojo38 · 18/06/2005 23:58
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