I'm 30 weeks pg with first baby. I'll be having seven months maternity leave before going back part time. Both sets of grandparents still work, so we are going to use a day nursery, which I've looked around and been very impressed with.
I am a healthcare professional and I specialise in treating children, so I know a bit about child development and I can spot the difference between a good and bad nursery.
Yesterday, one of my colleagues asked me whether I was coming back after the baby is born. I was a bit surprised she asked as we have discussed the issue several times. She has no children but wants to try for a baby next year. She's adamant she won't return to work, doesn't like her job in the first place (I love mine). She already knew I felt differently and was definitely planning to return.
When I said I was coming back, she asked "what will ou do with the baby?" in a really incredulous and surprised tone. When I told her about the nursery three days a week, she really pulled a face as though she didn't agree it was the right thing to do. I said "What, you think I'm cruel?" half jokingly, to which she replied "yes!" seriously.
Tbh, I was a bit taken aback. I was eating my lunch and two other colleagues were present. I just said "well...nobody has ever said that to me before!", to which she replied "you're putting words in my mouth".
I'm not sure I handled it right really - I'd have liked to have a better response than "nobody has ever said that before" but I don't want to cause ill feeling by saying something inflammatory like "it's none of your business". Any suggestions on a way of dealing with these types of comments? I've also chosen not to breast feed and have had comments like "oh you've got to breastfeed" so it would be noce to have something to say in response to both types of comment!
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what response should I give to rude people?????
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mogwai · 08/04/2005 12:39
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