Fulltime workers - I really need moral support!

[tonton]

I've been in my new job which is fulltime, for a month now.
I'm enjoying the job although it is pretty full on and very intellectually demanding. I keep being threatened with travel - e.g Sydney for a week - but it hasn't happened yet.

DD1 who is 6 has a live out aupair after school and dd2 who is 1, is in nursery 3 days. DH is self employed so is around a lot do to groceries, cooking etc. But childcare etc still takes a lot of juggling when dh has t travel or go to meetings.

I'm finding it really hard tio adjust to being oput of the house so much. When I get home I always feel irritated and resentful when things are grubby or the ironing hasn't been done.

he is resenting my newly stressed state and we argue all the time. I feel like I'm getting an ulcer, Oh, and I have no sex drive.
Anyone else been through this?

[Lolly68]

I went through exactly the same thing as you but it has got a bit better over the past couple of weeks. I work fulltime in London - DD is in a nursery full time. DP has his own business. But bascially I do everything with regard to DD and the housework. i.e getting up in middle of night (even though we both work same hours).

All I can say is that it does get easier once you get into the routine of it all!

Can't you get someone to come and do the ironing? That's what I do.

[Lasvegas]

tonton your experience of stressed state is familiar to me. Although I still do way more than DH at home/childcare, I try and limit the stress levels by sub contracting every thing out that I can. I pay someone to do gardening, cleaning, ironing, before and after school and school hols. It leaves very little from my take home pay but it means we don't have frequent discussions about whose turn to empty dishwasher etc. My PIL often do the shopping as I find it quicker to scribble list than do internet shop. I buy good quality ready frozen food from cook. I don't learn ever, if cleaner is away the house remauins a mess. I have definately lowered my standards.

In my experience a new job leabes U exhausted even without kids, so I think you have to stick with it and re-evaluate in a years time once you have gone up your career learing curve.