i feel so torn

[cherylandchloe]

hi
my daughter is now 4 and i have been a SAHM since she was 5 months old (went back to work part time after having her but wasnt worth it financialy and my dp had a good job so money wasnt a problem) now she has started at school part time i have been looking for work, i went for an interview last week but the job wasnt for me so i thought no more of it, then the guy that interviewed me rang me a few days later and offered me another job in the office, i have no experience of office work so he is prepared to fully train me and hes offering me a really good wage even while he trains me. Problem is its full time work (was only looking for part time) i've spoken to DD's school and they said she can go full time every day apart from wednesday afternoon which wouldnt be a problem at the moment as Dp isnt working so could collect her(when he goes back to work i will be able to arrange something), i just feel heartbroken that i wont be able to drop her off/pick her up from school, take her to ballet lessons, part of me wants to turn the job down to other part is saying i would be crazy to. Also ive seen a university course i would really like to do, would it be bad of me to take the job for now and work till september when i would start my course? Id feel alot better about doing the course rather than working if i had paid for the fee's. god i feel so torn, i've loved every minute of being a SAHM and would really miss the time i spend with my daughter but i feel so useless at home whilst shes at school.

[MrsBigD]

cherylandchloe, can't really give advice on what you should do other than go with your gut feeling

I went back to full-time work when dd was 5 months and later when ds was 8 months. Have to admit i'm not SAHM material (became one in December and I feel totally out of control and disorganised ), but coming home after a hard/long days work to 'MAMA' accompanied by big smiles and hugs made up for being away from the kids. I always made sure I did 'special' things with them at the weekends . Did change to part-time work which was brilliant. Moving shortly and shall be looking for part-time again as I haven't got the energy for full time rat race anymore . But a good part-time job is so hard to find

I don't think it would be 'bad' to take the job now and then quit in September should you still want to do the course at uni. Who knows how your plans might change in 9 months

[Judy1234]

I have always worked full time and found it the best option with children. I don't tihnk they miss the taking and collecting from school and that can be dreadfully tedious anyway so you'd be lucky to miss the day in day out walk or drive or perhaps after 5 children that's just how it can seem... the first may be different.

I was just paying university fees for my son this morning so I certainly think if you can work now to get the fees ready for that then go for it.