Dc's are 3 and 11months. I've been back to work, part time, for 2 months after a lovely year off for dc2's arrival.
After dc1 I had to return to full time work for financial reasons and although it was hard, it became the norm and we got through the 18 months until I took the next mat leave.
A new job for DP means I can be part time now and I love my job.
But part time still feels like too much. I want more time at home, but a longer career break would make it very hard to return as things are currently changing fast and if I miss much more I'd be de-skilled making a return to my current post practically impossible.
Dh assures me that I don't 'need' to work and that we'd manage financially.
The problem is I just can't decide what I want most. I want to be here for my babies, but I also want to keep my professional autonomy (I've worked bloody hard for it), my ability to make my own good living. The thought of living solely off dh's earnings horrifys me (had it ingrained in my upbringing to be financially independent).
If I resign my employer would be furious (but I think, would understand on a personal level) as they've moved mountains to accommodate my new hours.
I'm all over the place emotionally (and in this thread) obviously my children are my biggest priority, but when I work they are very happy with our childcare arrangements (mostly with family in their own home) but the guilt is killing me. Guilt over leaving them, guilt for not doing enough at work, guilt for not contributing enough financially to the home.... So much guilt I'm making my self sick and can't focus on a way forward.
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Can't decide and tearing myself up about it
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Tiredandtorn · 30/10/2015 23:15
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