DD is almost three months old. Before she was born, we found a childminder we liked, who has a space available from September (when DD will be six months old). I was planning to go back to work when SMP stops, in November when she's eight months old. The childminder has said she's happy for us to pay half-price from September until taking up the place a month or two later.
The childminder said a few weeks ago that she'll need a commitment from us by the end of this month (we've just expressed interest until now - nothing formal) - and I've felt miserable since. I knew I'd need to go back, but when I had my son years ago, I was able to stay at home until he started school, so didn't fully appreciate how much of a wrench this would feel with DD. I hate it that, when she's barely three months old, I'm planning our time apart.
Anyway, I've revisited my finances, and I think I can afford to stay off for the full year by dipping into savings. I could then use up annual leave at the end, and then go back when DD is a year old. The thought of this makes me feel a lot better - that I'd have longer with her, more time to encourage her to settle for a nap without me rocking/feeding her, perhaps to wean her off the breast in the day, to establish eating solids, etc. But I don't think the childminder will hold her place until then (or at least, we'd have to pay for it in full during the months beforehand). And also, would DD adjust better at six months to the separation, pre-separation anxiety, or might she be out of the woods by 12 months anyway?
The other thing is that having worked 30 hours a week beforehand, I'd like to ask to return on three days equivalent. Would it be better to work four shorter days and pick DD up after her afternoon nap (more separations in the morning though), or to work three full days and have four solid days with DD (long days for DD)?
I'm meeting my boss later this week to informally discuss my return. I'm reluctant to commit to anything yet in terms of timings, but with the childminder wanting us to sign paperwork later this month, I wonder if I don't have any choice other than to map out hours this early on; I'll need work to agree hours before telling the childminder what days/hours I'd like, won't I? Argh.
Grateful for any advice. Just feeling wobbly about the whole thing. Oh to be able to be with DD until she's three and then head back! Thanks.
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Take up childminder place when baby's six months, or stay off for the year and risk losing it? Also, separation anxiety - when's best to time return to work?
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SolitaireConfinement · 01/06/2015 12:27
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