I just joined mumsnet today in hope that I can find help and advice about being a full time mum at home?. The site looks fantastic! What a relief to maybe find some help at last...
I am 30 and always wanted to be a full time mum - because I thought it would be really rewarding and creative...(I like doing crafts with children and going for walks in Autumn, picking up leaves etc and doing fun stuff like that) and it hasn't quite got to that bit yet as my son is still too young. The thing is - it is soooooo lonely being a stay at home mum and I can feel myself on the verge of becoming withdrawn and listless from not having a routine and friends / work colleagues to chat with etc during the long days...so I need to get some ideas about making a daily activities routine so that the days don?t blend into each other in one grey mass!! Also, I have avoided the coffee mornings and mums n tots classes etc so far because I didn't want to pigeon hole myself into defining myself as just a mum. I know that sounds horrid - 'just a mum'...Don't get me wrong - mums are great because we work so hard etc..I think it is my age - I think that everyone will be older than me etc... and I guess I don't want to be talking about how much babies weigh and what they are eating ALL the time. Or is it not like that at these classes and get togethers? Maybe that's where I am going wrong. Maybe I should accept that I AM a mum and I need other mums for help and support - hence me being here asking for help!
I DO thank my lucky stars that I have been given the oportunity to carry out my dream...so I am very grateful not to have to go back to work until I think he's ready...(we just about manage on one wage at the moment). Now that I have the opportunity to give my son a one on one start to life I want to make the most of it for the both of us...so does anyone have any ideas as to what stay at home mums do all day? How do you break up the day into meaningful chunks? How do you meet people they really get on with and not have babies as the only thing in common?
I hope I don't sound ungreatful for not embracing my time with him - I do LOVE being with him - it's just that he can't tick all my boxes, I need adults and tasks and interaction - I have tried to think of things to do - but in the end I still feel lonely and very sad...with so much time off work, my brain isn't as quick and sprightly as I'd like and I'm STUCK for real ideas to get myself back on track to ENJOYING these precious days with my son!!
Maybe classes are the answer, clubs.... I love being creative (arts and crafts etc) - so where can I make use of these skills where I can bring my son along too etc..? What are the mums and tots classes like and are they really valuable or are they just a fill in for a long week alone?
Hope to hear from you soon
jigglejen
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Stay at home mum - lonely and need ideas!
jigglejen · 27/09/2006 14:26
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