I have been a happy hard working stay at home mother of three boys (7,4,2 yrs old) for seven years.
my husband (an addictions therapist by trade) had an extreme mental breakdown 2 years ago, was hospitalized for many months and is still living seperately in temporary council accomodation while he recovers...
I am affected by the benefit cap and need to find 100 pounds a week to cover the rent shortfall. or work 16 hours to be exemt. i would like to try to avoid working in sainsburys stacking shelves. because it feel like the system has defeated me. and i have such alot to offer and seems a damn waste. we privately rent. My rent is NOT above the approved local borough average for a family of our size.
I suffer from social anxiety and low level depression and see a psychotherapist to deal with the trauma symptoms left over from my husbands suicide attempt. he is a good man and as family we are slowly recovering well. my husband is not back at work.
I have been researching work options and am just really struggling to find something to fit in with kids and that i will feel ok about doing.
I was formerly and actress then primary school teacher...but my pgce is now out of date!
I am a very very full time mother so getting my head around this is proving difficult. I do not want to hand my kids over to somebody else to look after at all, as i don't think its in their best interests or mine. I am very angry. which is not helping me at all.
the jobsearching is causing real demoralization as it slowly dawn on me there is no funding for women in my position to re-train and that all training post-grad options for say nursing, midwifery, social work are full time only! I feel really trapped.
I need to work 16 hours to be exempt from benefit cap, so even if i did two days teaching assisting on a supply basis this would not meet the 16 hours and tip over into three days away form my two year old?
we have been through so much as a family. this just feels like another hit.
would love to re-train. i am a bright, engaged individual with a strong skillset. but what to do that fits in with mothering my kids in an atttached and hand-on way?!
so angry with society for crapping on mothers in so many ways!!
any ideas???? welcome!!!
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Hannah06 · 17/11/2013 09:50
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