I've been back to work 3 days and I just want to go home...

[2blessed]

Just the above really. I have come back to the same organisation in a new location (works for me commuting wise) and new job. Everyone has been really friendly and welcoming but I'm finding it so difficult. Plus I've got a 9 month old who doesn't sleep...
I know I'm not the first but it will get better won't it?

[2blessed]

I miss my boy!!!!!

[stripeytiger]

Hi. Just wanted to say, yes it probably will get better, but I really feel for you. It's very early days so you no doubt have very mixed emotions and are knackered too with your boy not sleeping very well. At least your colleagues seem to be friendly which is a real positive. When I returned to work after having the dcs I found it to be really up and down. Some days I hated it and sometimes it was a relief to be with other adults. Just depends on the individual I suppose.
Anyway, I hope you gradually start to feel a bit better, and remember it's a massive change going from being at home with you son and then finding yourself back at work, so don't be too hard on yourself and give it time.

[2blessed]

Thanks stripey.

I'm beginning to feel emotional about it all. I can't complain too much as work are being really good i.e working from home arrangement approved, able to leave early for first couple of weeks etc. I'm just finding it hard to grasp the job and this is not like me.

I need to not put to much pressure on myself...

[Curiousmum1]

Today was my first day back at work and I have a 6month old. I know how you are feeling (all I wanted to do was cry). However, this is my second child and the first time around it did get better, in fact within a month I was living my job again. I keep reminding myself that it does get better but will take awhile.

[janey68]

Give yourself time. The early days are hard on you, and having a poor sleeper makes it worse.

I think tbh even if you hadn't had a baby, just the fact that you've had several months out of work, would have an impact in itself. Change is often hard, and you'd need to make this adjustment for whatever reason youd been out of the workplace. It's similar to starting a new job, or moving to a new area. The fact is: you've had a massive life change . It will be ok, but give yourself time. You'll soon settle into it and won't look back.

[GhettoFabulouz]

I feel your pain. New mum to twins, just gone back to work after 7 months. Part time hours, 2 days in the office, 2 days working from home. Boss is super lovely and supportive (she's a part time mum too). I just cannot adjust. This week was incredibly hard, DD1 has first cold, so no sleep this week at all. Had to take train in rather than drive to work for fear of crashing on motorway. My brain is all over the place, I look like a hot mess, stuffing my face with unhealthy food for comfort and energy whilst putting on the pounds I'm trying to lose.

[mammadiggingdeep]

All I can say is hang in there.

With dd1 I went back when she was 10 months, she was an awful sleeper and the whole experience if going back was horrendous. I missed her all day, felt exhausted and resented being at work.

After a few months I really felt differently...I found my swing again. Then I got pregnant again and went off for another year when dd2 was born.

I returned in the summer. I felt totally different this time. I'm used to leaving them, my dd2 sleeps better and now I'm actually loving having a life away from the babies and home.

I'm part time though so think this helps.

It really really does get better. It won't be forever...

Hang in there and good luck x