Going back to FT work on Wednesday...in the middle of a huge cook-for-the-freezer so that dd's will get dinner some time before midnight when I get home from work...nervous about how im going to get everything else done...any tips gratefully recieved....
Not sure how old your DC are, but if school age, buy/otherwise acquire more uniform so that they can make it through the week without laundry having to be done. Late nights waiting for the washing machine to finish are not good do as I say, not as I do
Get a cleaner who will also do the ironing. Plan meals.
We have an admin meeting at the weekend to work out who needs to do what when with regard to the kids' meals etc and includes who is likely to be where on what day.
Regardless of the hours your spouse works, it's his house too. His food, his laundry, his child. Give him really specific tasks rather than just expecting him to pile in. My DH has this odd thing where there are certain kinds of domestica that he just doesn't 'see'. So I give him the stuff he does 'see'. Like the laundry.
Think about when you're most productive around the house and do stuff then. I once had to cook an emergency tea while the kids were eating breakfast and I found that I was fine with that. I was already getting up so early it didn't really make any difference.
We both work long hours, yet I still end up doing loads more around the house than him but I look on it as Work in Progress.