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I can't be the only mum who is happy working?!(37 Posts)
I am beginning to feel that I am the only mum in the world to be happy spending time with DD (10 months tomorrow) who also loves working. Don't get me wrong, I so miss my DD, but she loves being at nursery (3 days per week) and with my MIL (2 days per week) and we spend lots of quality time together in the morning and evening as well as the weekend.
I get so many surprised or negative comments, please someone tell me I'm not alone in this! I even got a promotion while on Maternity leave, and was dismayed when a lot of other mothers either assumed I needed the money (actually I am the main breadwinner, but that's beside the point!), or couldn't believe that I was accepting it.
PS I have also been a SAHM and I don't remember any rude or negative comments from anyone at all, but maybe I have forgotten!
I have always found the opposite if in honest. I'm seen as the 'odd' one for being a SAHM.
I didn't enjoy my job as much as I enjoy beig at home with dc and financially I'm better off at home.
I cant see though why people think one is better than the other? If you go out to work, work at home, stay at home- surely all options means supporting the family? Isn't that what matters?
As long as the parents and children are happy with their choice I don't see why people can't accept that and respect it.
Reading this has just cheered me up. Thank you!!! I'm returning to work tomorrow after 8 months off. I've been dreading it but I always loved my job before. I'm hoping that I will love it again when I go back and reading this makes me believe that I can and will.
I really love spending time with my DD and really enjoy the groups we go to. I think that the part I am dreading most is the commute. It is an hr each day, but I'm only working 8:30-4 mon-thurs with Friday mornings at home. So by the time I pick her up at 12:15 on a Friday it'll feel like a full day off anyway.
An hr each way sorry, not each day..
I love it too but it doesn't seem to sell newspapers to report - full time working mothers with children are happy! It is the best of all worlds which is why men usually try to engineer things so that is how they live. Women should take a leaf out of their book.
Yes, it's hard working with very small children - I certainly remember those years and my youngest are teenagers now and it's dead easy compared to working whilst you are breastfeeding most of the night but it works fine and is the best option for many women.
Not enough women write about what they get out of work. I earn fairly large amounts which is nice. My work itself is intellectually satisfying. I can work to whatever age I choose as I work for myself. It's great and moving to a stage when children are less dependent it is even better whereas countless 50 something housewives find that stage is terrible as their whole life was children, they have no income, no work, few interests and then their husbands go off with a 20 year old and leave them with absolutely nothing. So continuing working full time in something you like can ensure you also have 20 very well paid interesting later career years once children have gone,. It's pretty hard to take up being say a leading surgeon as a 47 year old whose children have left home. Women need to think long term, not just the 5 years children are little.
My children have got so much out of my work too over the years and even now with 3 having graduated the fact I work is very useful to them as a role model etc.
I do not think it is anyone else's business if you go back to work or not. You have to do what is best for the family. I had a few negative comments which I chose to ignore as the people who made them are not part of my life. My family are the only people that matter in my life and I chose to go back to work for my own reasons and everybody: children, hubby and myself are happy!
Workingmum, I think you must be me!
When I had DD1, it had been my intention to give up work and perhaps childmind, but then my DH was made redundant and became a student, so I had no choice but to go back to work. Whilst on Mat leave, I got my dream job teaching at a local college, and worked three days a week. Between DH and my parents, we managed the childcare and I actually really liked it.
I have been there 8 years now. My children are at school, and I work school hours, so whilst my children go to breakfast club three days a week, I am able to pick them up from school. (They have an hour of paid childcare a week). It works perfectly for us and I still love it.
The only thing I did used to feel was that I was 'away' from my DD a bit more than I would have liked when she was little. I think my preference would have been to work just two days if we could have afforded that, but I made sure that I made the most of every weekend with my daughter, and of course I had 4 days a week with her!
I'll be going back FT (with some home working) in a couple of months when DD is 10/11 mo. She's pretty easy atm but I'm looking forward to it as much as I'll desperately miss her and do feel a bit guilty as financially I could be sahm. I like being at home but also enjoy my job and know if I were to leave it would really set me back. Sadly can't do PT so some home working will hopefully keep work/life balance.
GL to all the working mummies
I don't feel the same way as you OP, but I'm very happy for you It's important that women can make choices about work, family and childcare. You're very lucky to be in such a great position. Good for you
I love being at work. By the end of maternity leave I knew being a SAHM wasn't for me. In an ideal world I'd work 4 days a week, and have less of a commute, but that's an ideal world. DD adores being at her CM's or with DP, and I can be honest and admit I'm a much better mum when I am with her because it's not all day every day.
I love my job too! DD is 9 weeks old and I've already been back 1-2 days a week for a fortnight. I hasten to add it wasn't planned - however I'm actually starting a new job (well same job different place) in August, so I've agreed to come in 2 days per week til then to get everything straight for my successor.
I'm so glad I've come back though. I love DD with all my heart but with the best will in the world I'm not the maternal type and having a couple of days doing other stuff has made an absolute world of difference to my sanity.
I must admit i love my job and love my children even more. There's nothing wrong with being a working mum and being happy about it. DH works part time as he loves being with the kids and we always make sure we do loads at the weekend, go on day trips, have friends over, our children don't miss out on anything at all.
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