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Set all your bills up as direct debits, or have them sorted as internet banking payable, then don't open when you get home but put in an admin tray to sort out after bedtime. Keep pens, cheque book, envelopes and stamps in there too, then you can deal with anything else too. Text replies to invites straightaway.
And avoid guilt. people may try and make you feel it, but your dc will be fine. Ignore naysayers
CMOT, that's all fantastic advice, thank you. Re the organiser - that's exactly what I was thinking - "no one will ever look at this and it will get lost under a pile of bills and colouring books." Phone is a great idea. I'd already written off any extra social stuff for the next few months while we all get into the swing of things, so that's good, and will take the rest of your post on board too. Thank you!
It'll be fine, it really will. For now, prioritise kids, dh, work and you - dropping out of any other things you do for a bit so you can just concentrate on getting the essentials going smoothly will help your sanity.
Meal plan for a couple of months so you and dh both know what is to be done for tea, and you aren't fridge rummaging.
Buy a load of birthday cards so you aren't doing emergency buys. Pick up Book People book bundles and toys on offer so you have a party stash
If your dh doesn't do things like you would have, don't stress unless it makes a big difference. After all, if he chooses not to tidy in the day, but do it all in the evening, thats fine. If the kids aren't dressed as you would have - no biggy. And talk - thats the most important thing you can do.
I went back to work ft when ds was 4.5 months old, and dh works ft too, so we've just always made it work somehow with no family help. We do have a cleaner 3 hours a week, and she also does the odd bit of babysitting, but thats it.
Oh, and the family organiser - we put everything in our phone calendars, and theres a big whiteboard in the kitchen for this weeks events. Then your phone reminds you, plus you can chat about the week in advance. I put all the details of parties in the phone calendar too, like phone no, venue etc, then theres no issue of losing th invite. Do it as soon as you get things. An organiser book would never be looked at here
I've done a "template" shopping list on my local supermarkets site, so hoping the weekly shop will take approx five clicks... My cat barely moves, so no worries there. I even bought a "family organiser" today but didn't know what to do with it so just sat and looked at it
Serving food and drink on demand, working unsociable hours, occassionally wiping up sick and breaking up fights between recalcitrant individuals who should know better - sounds like he is perfectly qualified to look after two toddlers.
I have been offered (and accepted) a great job which is perfect in many ways - it's at a gorgeous local school (which I've always wanted dc - now 1 and 3 - to go to) five minutes away, it's doing marketing and comms, I'm excited about it BUT I guess I'm just worried because since DC I've been doing freelance from home and the odd part time temp role. My DH runs a pub so works nights but has days off in the week, so he will be with the kids those days, my three year old goes to kindy three days and my one year old will go for two and my mum have her another day. I'm concerned about missing the kids of course but they are both quite un-clingy, sociable and happy so they will be fine. What worries me mainly is the organisation that will be required - housework, bedtime routines (should be home by 530 so thats ok really) etc. Any tips or nice positive stories of full timers with tiny children would be hugely appreciated! I am really excited about this job so want to go in confident that things are going to be fine!!