Ouch! DS hated being left

(7 Posts)
thepeanutsparent Fri 16-Nov-12 19:58:10

Thank you couscous what a relief.
He's only going to be wih her 2 days next week and then pretty much just once a month, that's why prof childcarers not into it. I Was really happy she said she could do it as I have true sense she'll be lovely with him.
I think he was just really upset I went away sad
So your dc was ok in the end?

Welovecouscous Fri 16-Nov-12 19:49:03

Op I could have written your post a few months ago. In the end my DS did settle but it really tugged my heart strings sad

I left him with an ap btw - no qualifications but very sensible and amazing with him. Ironically when she left I replaced her with a fully qualified nanny who was nowhere near as good. It's all about the person, not the paperwork, provided you are careful in selecting the person.

How many days a week will she have DS?

thepeanutsparent Fri 16-Nov-12 19:45:32

Hmm no she's none of those things but the work is so part time and sporadic that nurseries,CmS and nannies all said no. I definatley trust her though ( that might sound mad) . I have never left him wih anyone except DH. Work caught me onthe back foot with little notice and I only managed to secure somehow last week. How long is settling in usually?

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Fri 16-Nov-12 19:25:59

That wasnt meant to sound "paedos on every corner" hyaterical, but more how can you be sure she is the right person to care for your child? Is your DS used to being left? Does he know the friend?

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Fri 16-Nov-12 19:23:19

How well do you know this friend? Is she qualified in peads first aid? CRB checked? Childcare is regulated for a reason...

thepeanutsparent Fri 16-Nov-12 19:22:30

ARGH! Sorry for lack of paragraphs!

thepeanutsparent Fri 16-Nov-12 19:21:41

please please can someone reassure me? I'm going back to worm Monday very very part time, I am paying a friend to look after DS who is 8mo. She's really lovely and gentle and good with babies- he seemed to like her yesterday and today that we had arranged for them to get acquainted. Then as a test I went out for an hour and a half. I came back and could hear him screaming from down the road. Ouch ouch ouch! DS hardly ever cries he's a really jolly sunny baby. I feel like I'm going to really hurt him by leaving him for a whole day now. Does anyone have any reassuring advice? We're getting friend in again Sunday afternoon for another try. Thanks for reading!

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