Sensible or slattern...?

[peanutbutterkid]

Just found out DD will be going on school's G&T register -- probably for literacy. Apparently the school is in "a bit of a conundrum" about how to address her needs (age 7, start of Y2).

I need to get my head around our priorities before school says what they'd like to do -- so I can think on the hoof in the meeting, etc. I reckon that DD's happiness in her social life comes first, it's more important than extending her academically. I reckon that DD won't achieve her best unless she's socially happy.

But it could mean that she won't work to her full potential, if she's not mixing 'enough' with older children (mixing loads with other classes would limit her time with her current friends, who she doesn't see out of school time, and she's not very socially adept, anyway).

DD not very interested in extra-curric activities.

Today a friend (a primary sch teacher) was saying that I should check what the school's action plan for DD was, etc.... but all I can think is, "Will it make her happy?"
Does that sound sensible or excessively unambitious ... (slattern mother alert) ?

[tortoiseshell]

Tbh I wouldn't worry too much - the G&T register thing is a bit of a red herring I think. What it tells you is that she is bright and in the more able section of the class.

If I were you, I wouldn't worry about plans of action or anything like that, but keep doing reading with her, being encouraging, as you would have done anyway, and if you have any concerns about reading levels/whatever, then speak to the teacher. In other words, business as normal! But you are allowed to be pleased that she is obviously doing well.

[peanutbutterkid]

Ta.

[lijaco]

i think it is very important that your childs happiness comes first. children achieve better when they are happy and are not pressurised.