Hi all
I hope someone out there can help me with a difficult process. I am a mother of two lovely children. My daughter is 5 in February and my son is 2.5. It is important to know I live in the Netherlands so you understand the school system is different.
I have huge worries about my daughter. To be honest these worries have always been there but now more intense than ever. One the day she was born the nurse said to me "you can tell in her eyes she is bright'. I found this such a odd comment at the time. As she grew I learnt to understand what she meant. My daughter was speaking two languages before she was two with a range of vocab in both. She threw her nappy at me before her second birthday. She dropped her nap around 1.5 years. She has basically always been a step ahead on many things.
The word my husband and I use so often is 'intense'. She has explosive reactions to things. She gets an idea in her head to create or do something and she can't get it out fast enough. She of course then gets so frustrated when she can not produce her ideal.
In Holland kids start school on their 4th birthday. She was waiting for this day since she was about 2.5. She has now been at school for nearly a year. She loves it and has made some friendships, has play dates etc. In the Dutch system the first two years of school are focussed on play. In the third year they learn to read and write.
My daughter is doing this at home by herself without our prompting.
The teacher started to raise concerns about her behaviour around a month ago. She said she often complains she is tired. Asking us to keep her at home maybe? Does she sleep well? When she comes home she is the usual burst of energy we know and constantly on the go! I raised my concerns with the teacher that she is not tired but avoiding participation. My daughter told me "I sometimes do not know what to do at school".
She is also having extreme emotional outbursts and can get aggressive to other children. The school has now asked for a meeting to come together and make a plan for her.
Myself and my husband have a 'gut' feeling she is gifted/high iq/high potential to learn (still have not found a term I like). We have read and re-read books and articles and all of them paint the picture of our daughter. We can also now see in her younger brother the difference and how he does not have that intensity.
I have contacted a professional in this area and she agrees that my daughter may be 'gifted'. She strongly recommended testing her to help us and school move forward.
We have not shared this with school yet. We are worried that we will come across as the 'pushy' parents. We really are not and know the wider picture of this is very tough.
I do worry about 'labeling' my daughter so young but I also do not want her to be labelled as the 'naughty' 'hyper' child. I fear she is already getting this.
I am a school counsellor myself...... this is such a hard hard hard process for me. My 'mum' head screams out one thing and my 'professional' head another.
I truly hope someone can share a similar story with me. Any reflections words of guidance are welcome!
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Piprocks2010 · 28/11/2014 12:41
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