Dc1 is G&T, top of top sets, constantly winning awards, being invited to special events etc.
Dc2 is bright and able, but not G&T.
Dc1 also has an extremely positive attitude to schoolwork, whereas dc2 loves school but resents homework.
TBH dc1 has a generally positive attitude to most things, whereas dc2 is quite a negative, defeatist person.
They go to the same school. We thought long and hard about having dc2 follow dc1 into that school, but decided in the end that it was the right school for both children.
So how can we support dc2:
- to develop a more open, positive attitude
- to have greater self-belief
- to not be jealous of the attention paid to dc1 by the school
- to stop judging themselves against dc1's achievements
- to stop feeling put-upon because dc1 appears to have more free time than them, and doesn't get told to do homework (dc1 generally stays after school to get their homework done in the library, therefore dc1 is generally totally free at home).