Supporting my son

(9 Posts)
Spoo Fri 26-Apr-13 12:36:31

I haven't posted on Mumsnet for years but I was after a bit of advice. I had my son assessed as I was worried he had aspergers. he had issues with writing and whilst a brilliant all rounder he struggles to get it all down on paper. Anyway, he was assessed by a private ed psychologist and he gave him a high IQ and no special issues. We have since told DS that he is bright and that he needs to jsut get his words across on paper. This is starting to work as the ed psychologist talked to him about 'proving' to others he is bright. Essentially the ed psych said he can't be bothered to tell people as he thinks they should get it anyway. Anyway, I digress a bit. Recently, he asked whether he could join Mensa. (He had heard about it on Pointless - one of his favourite TV shows). I went along with it and thought nothing of it. He has been accepted and is now talking about taking his certificate in for show and tell. I have put him off so far, as I do not think he will get the reaction he expects and worry that his teacher (who regularly points out to me that he is bright but needs to work harder) will be react in a negative way. What should I do? Should I let him take his certificate in for show and tell? (His brother regularly takes things in for sports acheievements.)
I feel frustrated I can't talk to anyone else about this and I feel frustrated that whilst other parents can boast about their childs acheivements, we have to keep his under our hats.
BTW I realise being a mensa member is not necessarily an acheivment but to him it is.

Spoo Fri 26-Apr-13 12:38:34

BTW his class teacher knows I have had him assessed but is not interested in seeing the results.

noisytoys Fri 26-Apr-13 14:18:42

Let him take it. DD became a member of Mensa in nursery and took her certificate to show her teacher they were so proud and made her feel brilliant. It's nothing to be ashamed of smile

simpson Fri 26-Apr-13 23:05:43

How old is he? I would let him (but have a quiet word with the teacher first).

Spoo Sat 27-Apr-13 19:14:02

He is 7 next week. The teacher is the one I am worried about, she shows very little interest in his abilities just really in making sure he behaves and does what he is told to do in class. I might talk to the TA who seems to get my son more. Thanks for the advice.

ipadquietly Sat 27-Apr-13 20:05:06

Spoo, British Mensa only tests children over 10 1/2 years.

From their web-site:
'The Supervised Mensa IQ Test is only suitable for persons over the age of ten and a half years

Please do not apply for this test if you are younger than this as we will be unable to produce your IQ score. Younger children would need to be assessed by an educational psychologist to find out their IQ score - your local health authority or education authority can help you to find professionals in your area. Find out more about Mensa and Gifted Children.'

ouryve Sat 27-Apr-13 20:09:24

ipadquietly - spoo did have him tested by an ed psych.

ipadquietly Sun 28-Apr-13 15:46:06

She also said he'd joined Mensa.

SaveMeNow Tue 30-Apr-13 14:31:08

ipadquietly - younger children can join Mensa by providing a copy of the ed psychs report. All posters aren't liars you know.

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