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Quitting Smoking One Day at a Time

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AgentFelix Mon 20-May-13 00:16:39

I took my last puff at 23.59 and I am not going to smoke for the rest of the day, or the day after that, or the day after that ...

Bit of a blow at 00.00 when I gathered up my ashtray, lighter and 4 remaining cigarettes to find I had an unopened pack of 20 hidden on my desk. DP now has the somewhat crappy job of distributing said pack somewhere in the neighbourhood. I was going to post them through a (smoking) neighbours letter box but I don't know her very well and thought it might creep her out.

Does anyone want to buddy up?

I'm going to make myself accountable to this thread. Support is very welcome.

DP has just come back and assured me he has left fags where I won't find them. I just hope that the person who comes across them hasn't just started their own quit.

angusandelspethsthistlewhistle Mon 20-May-13 00:29:19

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Elderflowergranita Mon 20-May-13 00:34:18

Great news! I quit a long time ago, but found nicorette gum a life saver back in the day (1998).

Use all the support you can get. Don't think about the day after day scenario, just focus on much smaller time frames. Don't underestimate the withdrawal feelings - this is where you need your patch/gum whatever. It carries you through those times.

Focus on how good you will feel at being a non-smoker. For me, following several attempts I finally gave up when I realised how much I loathed the idea of being a smoker, and of how fearful I was of the health issues. These factors totally overrode the pleasure I felt in smoking.

Just focus on saying goodbye to the guilt and stress you have felt over smoking. The very best of luck - will keep watching!

AgentFelix Mon 20-May-13 00:52:45

Thanks both of you smile

I'm going cold turkey. Sounds utterly ridiculous but I am so scared. DP is being great, he's a non-smoker but knows how much I relied on my ciggies to cope.

I'm going to be extremely nice to myself over the next few weeks. I'm going to treat myself with the money I'm saving, sleep in late and eat junk food.

Thanks for the support. It's much appreciated.

angusandelspethsthistlewhistle Mon 20-May-13 00:59:41

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mrsdinklage Mon 20-May-13 01:00:00

You can do it - and its great your dp is being so supportive smile
yy to the junk food grin

AgentFelix Mon 20-May-13 01:08:01

I'd like to start knitting again but the only person I know who could refresh my memory of how to do it is my extremely impatient mother. I don't think it will end well.

Instead, I've got some cross-stitch projects organised, I'm going to cull my bookshelves because I've got a kindle, and I'm going to do my Smash Book which is all about the evils of smoking.

toiletbrush Mon 20-May-13 08:51:54

How's it going Agent?

I smoked my last cigarette Saturday lunchtime . Feeling slightly light headed this morning and a bit wobbly with a good dose of panic thrown in ( sounding positive here aren't I grin) but determined to give this a good go!

6monthson Mon 20-May-13 14:14:13

Just wanted to cheer you on - I smoked my last cigarette on 5th December last year. Used Champix to give up, which, although it wasn't pleasant (makes you feel a bit sick when you take the tablet) really did work for me. I'm 47 years old and had been smoking on average 15 a day (sometimes less, sometimes more) since I was 18.

I still sometimes think it would be nice to have one, but I know I can't, and I've only put on about 6 lbs (that's the upside to the Champix making you feel a bit sick - not only does it put you off smoking, but it also puts you off eating to compensate!!).

Best of luck to you.

AgentFelix Mon 20-May-13 15:00:31

Thanks for cheering me on smile

I'm doing ok today. DP is doing everything so I'm just lazing about. I didn't even bother to get up until 1pm. No problems so far.

toiletbrush well done! I've been wondering how you were getting on. Day 3 is always the hardest for me but once it's over the cravings really ease up IME.

maudpringle Mon 20-May-13 15:10:03

Good luck smile

AgentFelix Tue 21-May-13 12:39:03

Thanks maud

I found last night quite hard. I didn't know what to do with myself and everybody and everything was pissing me off. I did feel good at midnight though, knowing I'd gone a full day without nicotine.

Woke in same grumpy mood this morning but it's lifted now.

toiletbrush how are you doing?

maudpringle Tue 21-May-13 12:47:11

The week I stopped smoking (champix) I really spoilt myself too, lots of lovely things to eat and drink,long soak in the bath etc.
What also helped when a craving came on was to brush my teeth.
Good luck Agentfelix and toiletbrush smile

NoobyNoob Tue 21-May-13 14:29:39

Well done!!

I had my last fag this morning and I've had a Nicorette patch on all day. It's so scary because I've smoked for so long I don't know how I can go on without it! But one day at a time and so far so good smile

AgentFelix Tue 21-May-13 18:23:37

Fantastic Nooby.

I feel scared as well. I've smoked for 23 years and have had a 40 a day habit . I feel very unsure of myself at the moment. Nothing feels natural and I'm unable to forget that I want a cigarette. I can't concentrate on anything and no activity appeals to me. I wish I had a sound proofed room with padded walls so I could scream and thrash about without hurting myself/alarming my neighbours.

Anyone else want to join us?

NoobyNoob Tue 21-May-13 19:36:18

Agent I'm exactly the same - I've got mega rage at the moment and have just had 20 minutes cycling furiously on the exercise bike in the garage.

I can't think of anything else but taking the tenner out the drawer and nipping down the offy!

...But I'm not going to. I'm going to breath deeply and tell myself that I've gained an extra day on my life smile

AgentFelix Wed 22-May-13 20:24:42

How are you doing Nooby?

Yesterday was bloody hard for me. Today has been a lot easier. The cravings are changing I think. At the beginning I just wanted a cigarette all the time and felt irritable because I couldn't have one. Today I've not had that constant nagging feeling of wanting but I've had BIG craves where I've had to take deep breaths to get through them. They only last a minute or so though.

Anyone else quitting and looking for support?

QueenOfCats Wed 22-May-13 21:08:12

Hello all!

Just posted in chat and was kindly pointed in this direction smile

I have one ciggie left in the box and once that's smoked that's it - no more!

AgentFelix Thu 23-May-13 00:50:53

Oh Good Queen smile

I've just got to 72 hours and I'm having a quiet celebration. I had a difficult phone call earlier on which upset me and I bawled my eyes out in the bath afterwards. I was very close to chucking the towel in.

Good luck Queen. Keep us posted.

angusandelspethsthistlewhistle Thu 23-May-13 01:58:08

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QueenOfCats Thu 23-May-13 15:04:08

Thanks Agent - and well done!

Had my last fag at 11pm last night so 16 hours in and not finding it too bad - had 2 bad cravings and am a little ragey!

NoobyNoob Thu 23-May-13 15:29:27

I'm not too bad - today was worse than yesterday. I went out for a run last night and instantly noticed a difference in my lungs - they didn't feel so heavy so I'm definitely noticing the difference.

Agent it sounds like you're doing so well - just keep it up. Think of the money your saving and how you'll look back in a few months time and feel very proud that you're still going strong smile x

QueenOfCats Thu 23-May-13 20:32:20

Why am I irritated by every little thing?

I feel absolutely murderous and can't settle to anything hmm

AgentFelix Fri 24-May-13 08:01:46

Queen I think hope I'm over that stage of super irritability. It really is horrible. Poor DP and DS have had a lot to put up with this week. I'm surprised they haven't just presented me with a packet of ciggies and sent me to my room to get over myself.

Yesterday turned into a lovely day here. I went to see my mum and nan. They always treat me but it normally goes in my purse for cigarettes food shopping. Anyway, yesterday I went shopping and bought a dress and boob tube thing. I haven't had the money to treat myself to clothes for ages.

Nooby wow, that is impressive. I've been looking at bikes and think I might treat myself once I've saved enough.

LalyRawr Fri 24-May-13 20:16:50

Isit ok if I join you?

I had my last smoke about an hour ago. Am armed with one of those electric ones and am determined to quit.

I smoke 20-30 a day, gave up completely for 9 months while pregnant then stupidly started again.

This past week I've started to have problems breathing. Like when I breathe in, it's not fully if that makes sense? I'm 25! I should not be struggling to breathe!

I have told th e women in Tesco's to not serve me anymore! She is lovely but scary so definitely won't. I do need help, so I hope its okay that I've posted here.

QueenOfCats Fri 24-May-13 23:14:28

Hi laly - what type of ecig do you have? Let e know how you get on with it - and well done for making the decision to quit!

Agent - I'm still the same today - it's doing my head in! I'm so snappy! It's nice that you got to treat yourself - kep it up!

It's now 48 hours and 20 mins since my last cigarette smile

southeastastra Fri 24-May-13 23:17:10

it can be done, i gave up four years ago and i was a big smoker, morning noon and night

i had to have patches and an inhalator though but four years later i am still smoke free. it is such a freeing experience

lynne999 Sat 25-May-13 00:19:48

Hi all I'm on day 12 using champix! Sooo proud of myself gringrin

QueenOfCats Sat 25-May-13 09:52:26

Well done south and Lynn!

I'm still going - really pleased with myself so far smile

I'm still very irritable and was thinking maybe I need gum or patches to take the edge off? Seeing the pharmacist Wednesday for some advice if still grumpy.

NoobyNoob Sat 25-May-13 13:02:45

I'm not doing so well today - I can't stop thinking about having a fag. I'm a grumpy cow all round and on the weekend too sad


lynne999 Sat 25-May-13 17:49:57

Quite often when u keep thinking about having a dag it's just a smoking memory doesn't always mean you need 1. That's what the NHs stop smoking shop told me and I'm sticking to it!!

lynne999 Sat 25-May-13 17:50:34

**mean fag stupid phone grin

Curranycake Mon 27-May-13 11:09:35

Hi can I please join in, Day 1 for me, I'm just marking my place and will be back later. Best of luck to all, we can do this!

Marking my place, will be joining you shortly.

I gave up for 24 hours last week and then caved blush

My two closest friends have quit in the past couple of months, one of them was a much heaver smoker than me and managed to quit cold turkey, so if she can do it...

I am about to go and smoke my last cigarette, will then be throwing all lighters away afterwards....

Curranycake Mon 27-May-13 13:13:45

Hi can I please join in, Day 1 for me, I'm just marking my place and will be back later. Best of luck to all, we can do this!

QueenOfCats Mon 27-May-13 13:45:40

Well I haven't smoked since 11pm Wednesday, so that's what, 96 hours now?

Cold turkey.

It's not been as bad as I expected actually. I have been very grumpy and irritable and had a few strong cravings but got through them by telling myself that if I was still desperate in an hour I'd think about having one.

I do feel better for it.

Good luck to everyone else grin

AgentFelix Mon 27-May-13 17:49:57

Oh this is brilliant, there's loads of us now grin

Good luck to all the newcomers and well done to those of us a few days or more in.

I'm on day 8 now of my cold turkey quit and it feels fine. I had 1 tantrum on day 2 and a bit of a sob on day 3 when the cravings were at their worst. I've just got back from Tesco and I would normally always smoke one in the car on the drive home but I didn't even think about it. There's 1 scenario that I find difficult though and that's waking up in the morning. This is shameful: I was such a heavy smoker that I'd have 5 ciggies and a can of diet coke before getting out of bed each morning. I wake up much earlier now and lie about in bed feeling out of sorts because I can't start my day that way I'm used to.

Curranycake Mon 27-May-13 21:17:05

Good evening everyone, its great to see that everyone is doing so well. I am tired and very grumpy this evening, so I have put myself to bed early. I don't want to smoke anymore but hate this whole withdrawal period.

Agentfelix that is fantastic that after 8 days you are feeling fine, I admire how you have fought through the cravings and are on well on your way to freedom! I know how you feel about starting the day the way you want, a ciggie is what used to get me out of bed in the morning, perhaps we need to find something else to look forward to instead. Keep up the fab work and thanx a mil for starting up this thread.

Queenofcats, I'm with you on the cravings, they are constant with me, only seem to leave me alone for minute amounts of time, I'm hoping I can get past day 5 which is always my weakest point and i always end up caving in, hope this time will be different as I really want to stop.

Springtime, how are you doing since your final ciggie earlier today?

Lynn that was interesting about the smoking memory, I have been repeating it over and over like a mantra all day, along with - its wonderful not to want to smoke, well my mind doesn't want to but my body does lol

Noobynoob how are you doing? Are you feeling any better?

Hello to everyone else, Sorry if I've left people out, I will have to take notes, Im new to posting

Best of luck to all. Please update and let us know how you are all getting on, it's great to have the support. smile

NoobyNoob Tue 28-May-13 09:02:35

I'm doing OK thanks Curranycake

Feel so much better today and had a pretty good day yesterday too. I bought a fake cigarette thinking that might do the trick but it tastes awful and makes me cough - but then it was only from Tescos so maybe I need to shop around a bit!

Hope everyone is doing OK?

Curranycake Tue 28-May-13 14:36:35

noobynoob, A massive congrats, you are off them a week today, you have done really well. Delighted that you have felt better yesterday and today, hopefully each day gets better and better. Let me know if you find an alternative electronic ciggie. I am using the Nicorette spray, it's ok, I don't think it gets rid of that whole body craving/withdrawal thing though.

I keep telling myself this too will pass, I really don't want to smoke and want all these cravings to go away so I can just get on with life, anyone got some positive stories, vibes to jolly me along this horrible withdrawal period.

Hope everyone is doing well. smile

Hi all I'm on week 8 this Friday! Using nicolites ecigs from tesco and now on the lowest strength. Don't think I could've done it without them

Oopla Tue 28-May-13 20:50:04

Hello non smokers! Can I join too? Keep up the good work, you're doing so well smile

I'm a shamefully heavy smoker, always at it. Have an e-lite e cigarette on the go now and have had about 4 cigarettes all day. (That's usually 4 just before breakfast)

Have now thrown all cigarettes and related bits out the house and going for it. Scared but looking forward to getting rid of the disgusting smell from my house and feeling healthier.

My DP is quitting too, so looking forward to saving some serious CASH!

Good luck guys, will catch up with you all tomrw x

Curranycake Tue 28-May-13 22:18:34

stressed, wow that is absolutely brilliant and it's great that you are down to the lowest strength, you must be absolutely delighted with yourself. It's great to hear positivity, it's gives me the courage to not give in.

Oopla it sounds like you have made a really good start already and that the e ciggies will work very well for you just like stressed above. it's lovely that your DP is quitting as well, it's great to have the support. I have only tried one e ciggie thing, I can't even remember the name of it, I didnt get

Curranycake Tue 28-May-13 22:31:41

stressed, wow that is absolutely brilliant and it's great that you are down to the lowest strength, you must be absolutely delighted with yourself. It's great to hear positivity, it's gives me the courage to not give in.

Oopla it sounds like you have made a really good start already and that the e ciggies will work very well for you just like stressed above. it's lovely that your DP is quitting as well, it's great to have the support. I have only tried one e ciggie thing, I can't even remember the name of it, I didnt get on with it, think I just wasn't getting a hit from it at all.

So I'm in bed early again tonight, I'm like a demon today, I do not want to pick up a fag and smoke it, but I am in absolute ribbons with cravings and irritability, my poor DC are not getting away with anything and they all choose the wrong day to act up in the supermarket! I really hope that things start to improve fairly fast because I cannot sustain the way I'm feeling but at the same time I do not want to smoke or light up, the thought of that repulses me on one hand yet on the other I'm missing the lovely cuppa and ciggie chill out moment. Does anyone get any of that? Lol, anyway sorry for long post.

Keep going everyone and please share how your feeling getting by, tips, it's great that we can all support each other. grin

Curranycake Tue 28-May-13 22:35:28

grin I meant

Curranycake Tue 28-May-13 22:38:37

Sorry, I'm new to posting and it somehow posted the first one before I was finished!!

AgentFelix Tue 28-May-13 23:38:09

Curranycake yes, I'm with you on the ciggie, cuppa and chill-out moment. I don't really know how to have a quick break anymore. I used to have to grab 5 minutes for a fag when I was smoking but now breaks seem a bit pointless. I stop what I'm doing to just sit still with a glass of water or something. It's not relaxing and I miss the ooh, that's better now feeling.

Definatly don't give in. I'm glad I used ecigs as I think having the physcial need to hood and have a gag is what I was craving most. Was still craving a fag every few days up til week 6 even with the ecigs (but only occasionaly) but now I don't crave them at all.
Another week and will slowly wean myself off ecig. Stick with it everyone!!
My Dh has given up to and has a piggy bank u have to break to open. He's putting in half the amount of money each day he would've spent on fags and other half he's treating himself with

Oopla Thu 30-May-13 07:06:10

How's it going guys?

Went to bed really early lastnight so i wasn't tempted to start picking at food. smile

Been a bit snappy with DP and he with me but trying to remind ourselves it was likely to happen. Keep it up xxxx

AgentFelix Thu 30-May-13 23:46:23

Everything's fine here, thanks Oopla. I'm almost into day 12.

Today was a bit difficult. I had to take DS and DNiece out for the day and I really wanted to sneak off and have a fag while they were eating like I normally would have. It wasn't really a craving, just an association I suppose.

How's everyone else doing?

Can I join?

I'm quitting smoking tomorrow and could use all the support I can get! I last quit in 2011 and did pretty well for the first weeks/months but caved in and had "only one" one night when out drinking with friends. Big mistake.

Oopla Fri 31-May-13 22:10:19

Well done agent for not giving in. I know what you mean about associations too.

Hi hearts welcome along, what will you do differently this time? You did so well before too.

This is my first time ever giving up, I'm trying to think of cigarettes as though they were heroin or crack. Trying to imagine how hard it would be starting giving up again.

Have a great weekend- just say no!

eminemmerdale Fri 31-May-13 22:19:32

Ok, I'm here grin yet again, I m giving it a go. Stopped for three years 2004 - 7, and since then have done at least 10 times of varying intervals - between a week and six months.
I HAVE to do it now - dd7 is 'disappointed' in me, says it stinks and deosn;t want me to die sad ds13 has always hated it and dh also loathes it. I can't afford it, i had a horrific bout of bronchitis over christams (when I hadn't smoked for three months) and vowed never to do it again...but started up in March.
This has to be it -I'm 50 in 364 days grin and can't justify anymore. Also stopped drinking today (again - another long story!!!) and have restarted C25K after a knee injury stopped me doing it. Thank you if you've managed to read this far.
Anyway, I'm in!!

Great, lots of positive vibes here! Emin my kids are all over my case too! Oopla just take it one day at a time I guess.

So far so good today. The DDs and I did the Race for Life this morning and it felt SO GOOD not to go off and skulk behind the bushes for a sneaky fag when I was running for cancer!!

eminemmerdale Sat 01-Jun-13 20:26:16

Well I'm at the end of my first 'proper' day - had about three yesterday - and i am feeling really irritable. Could be because i'm not drinking either, have spent the day out with kids and dh and now ds is banging his football about in the garden and it is REALLY ANNOYING ME!!!! I had my run last night which helped - doing another tomorrow and going to see grown up dd on my own tomorrow morning so that may help grin. Anyway, hope everyone else is doing ok!

AgentFelix Sun 02-Jun-13 02:53:29

HTD welcome. It does feel great to not have to light up, I know. I won't lie, I still miss smoking a bit, but I don't miss the inconvenience of it.

Emin happy belated birthday smile. I have lots of long stories about giving up booze as well. There are some really good articles on the WhyQuit website about giving up nicotine and alcohol at the same time and how it matches current advice. Best of luck.

How's everyone else doing?

I started the Harcombe Diet on Tuesday and have just finished phase 1. It has been so bloody hard and I was an idiot to start it so soon after quitting smoking. But I bought all the food and DP was up for it so I knuckled down and got through it. I'm delighted that I've lost 6.5 lbs in 5 days and can get in my jeans again. I am so relieved to be on to phase 2 of the diet.

Oh, I'm now I'm day 14 of not smoking. Good luck everyone!

waterlego Sun 02-Jun-13 09:40:03

Hello people, well done on your quitting attempts, I envy you!

I need a plan. I have smoked for about 20 years (except while pregnant), I smoke about 15-20 rollies a day. I have had so many quits, none of them have stuck longer than a year. I despair of myself and feel I've reached the point where I have absolutely no confidence in my ability to do it and now it's built up in my head to be this huge thing.

I want to stop, I really really want to. Am considering different options and wondering which will be best for me:

Champix- I've never tried it but I have a history of depression and anxiety and am really scared about the potential effects on my MH.

NRT- have used it before so not very confident that it would work this time when it hasn't in the past.

Cold turkey- just too scary, I think, but am very tempted by the idea as it is the most natural and I like the idea of being free of nicotine within 3 days.

I am just musing really but any advice or opinions would be welcomed. I am keen to get the ball rolling this week, one way or another.

Hope you all have a lovely, smoke-free day!

eminemmerdale Sun 02-Jun-13 14:38:56

waterlego it is really frightening isn't it. You have to remember you're not 'giving up' anything you're getting something back. <shamelssly stolen from somewhere> I'm now on quit 40million day 3, and feeling confident! I always use some nrt, but that's because I have a foul temper at the best of times grin. Also started running again, which is a real inspriation - hacking and wheezing while trying to act cool and healthy isn't a good look! Good luck!!

Well done everyone. Welcome waterlego - for me it helped to pick a quit day and mentally prepare for it. I'm using patches and gum at the moment!

Smoke free for 35 hours now, and isn't it sad that I am counting in hours?? I don't think I've been too much of a bitch so far, but DH and the DDs might beg to differ grin

eminemmerdale Sun 02-Jun-13 21:14:54

Hours are as good as days - I do days, but during the day do hours !!

waterlego Sun 02-Jun-13 21:50:12

Thanks so much for the welcome and well done for your progress so far. Days, hours, minutes, it all sounds good to me!

Day 3 and counting! This is the hardest day by far so far - I'm at work and I know my old smoking buddies would give me one, so I'm hiding in my office. There's temptation everywhere. I'm NOT giving in.

52 1/2 hours!!

Elibean Mon 03-Jun-13 14:31:13

Half hours count!

Well done smile

eminemmerdale Mon 03-Jun-13 14:32:47

I'm day 4 and at work - not so much that anyone else smokes (they don;t and I'm in my own office) but I just associate work with nipping out for a cigarette!! arghh

Me too emin! It used to sort of break up the day into manageable chunks for me. I miss that.

Listen to me - used to - day 4 though! (74 hours if anyone's counting)

waterlego, have you made any planning progress?

JRock Tue 04-Jun-13 12:15:33

Can I join? Never really posted before but I thought this thread might help me! I had my last cig at 9.30 on Sunday night. I'm using patches and they seem ok, not had any major cravings but I'm very irritable. I really hope I manage to completely stop this time.

NoobyNoob Tue 04-Jun-13 13:23:53

So, I totally took a tumble and had one today at my friends sad

It felt good, but it made me cough and the taste was vile. I now have a patch on again and hope that it was a one off!

Keep going everyone smile

Hi JRock, well done so far! I'm only a day ahead of you, stopped Sat morning at 10am.

Nooby, how long have you been stopped for? Interesting that it tasted vile. I'm finding that even after only 3 days my sense of smell (and taste) are so much more sensitive.

JRock Tue 04-Jun-13 20:07:48

Major cravings this evening! I seem to be fine all day and then, when it hits 6 o'clock, I really want one, or 10!

Oopla Tue 04-Jun-13 21:23:31

Keep it up guys!

One week today....woooooooo! smile

eminemmerdale Tue 04-Jun-13 21:31:56

well I'm on day five, no smoking, no alcohol and just done day three of C25K! I feel exhausted, headachy, weepy and grouchy but I know it will pass grin Go everyone!!

waterlego Tue 04-Jun-13 22:49:46

Hearts I am stalling...procrastinating...making excuses blush

I think I have decided against taking Champix for the time being. I have a drawer full of patches and lozenges. I really have no excuse and I need to set a day.

waterlego Tue 04-Jun-13 22:50:45

Ok. Friday will be the day.

There, I've said it now. And now I really will have to try, because I've told a whole thread load of people that I'm going to do it on Friday. Eeeeek!

waterlego Tue 04-Jun-13 22:51:38

Sorry, of course I meant to say well done to you lot smile

eminemmerdale Wed 05-Jun-13 08:22:22

Having a proper stop day is really useful, because you just can't (well you can but...) go back on it! Make sure you've got good stuff to do that day and post here...loads! grin

Waterlego you have a start date, great. Do you know about the ActiveStop website? It's a Nicorette thing and they do kind of try to push their products at you, but you can ignore all of that and just do the program. You log on every day and it tells you interesting factoids (about health benefits etc), counts the number of cigarettes you haven't smoked, gives support and asks questions. It even calculates the amount of money you have spent. I really like it.

Oopla a whole WEEK! Very well done!!

Emin I haven't had a drink either - which do you find harder?

JRock it's funny isn't it, the different times of day? I have found so far (day 5) that late afternoon is the hardest time for me, 4ish to 6ish.

*amount of money you have saved, not spent!!!

eminemmerdale Wed 05-Jun-13 12:08:35

I'm finding the smoking harder to maintain sad

Me too. Tons harder.

I have an idea. Let's all list a benefit or advantage of NOT SMOKING.

I'll start:

My DDs don't have to hug a stinky, smelly Mum and they will stop associating the smell of smoke with cuddles.

eminemmerdale Wed 05-Jun-13 15:01:57

I had the most horrific bout of bronchitis last christmas and I never want it again sad
DD cries when she sees me with a cigarette

AgentFelix Wed 05-Jun-13 17:14:21

"Let's all list a benefit or advantage of NOT SMOKING."

The savings. So far I've saved a whopping £270.98, and I'm only on day 17. I was spending almost £6000 per year on cigarettes shock.

I'm glad that cigarettes are so expensive in the UK. If they were cheaper I wouldn't have much motivation to quit.

waterlego I felt like you before I quit. I've had so many attempts before this one and I thought I'd never be able to do it. The idea of not smoking filled me with dread, but the idea that I'd never be able to quit made me feel seriously depressed. I was shitting myself about day 1 but it was ok. Day 2 was bad and day 3 felt a little better and each day after that got easier and easier.

I still want one every now and then but I remind myself that I can't have 1, I have to have them all. I can't have that lovely cigarette after dinner without having the other 39 every day that make me cough and wheeze, that make it hard to breathe when I climb the stairs, that make me stink of smoke, that cost almost £16 a day, that are ruining my health and will very likely put me into an early grave, that are inconvenient and anti-social. It's all or nothing for me, and I would rather go without that 1 cigarette that I really want than open the door for all the other rotten, stinking, expensive, ones to follow.

Have you been to the Why Quit website? Joel Spitzer's daily quit videos really helped me and the tragic experiences of others will make you want to stop before it's too late, or very glad you have already stopped and, for me personally, stopped any cravings immediately.

Good luck for Friday, you can do it because you want to.

Well done everyone else.

Brilliant post Felix

JRock Wed 05-Jun-13 18:14:01

Felix, your post was just what I needed to read. I am so tempted at the moment. Had a crappy day at work and am really tired. Also, am at my DM's house for dinner and there's an open packet in my proximity. Feel like I need to sit on my hands!

eminemmerdale Wed 05-Jun-13 19:05:19

Not having smoked for 6 days grin has meant I am feeling the cycle ride to work t be a lot less painful, I am determined to carry on with my C25K programme and my children don't spray the room and me everytime I come back in the house!!

Oopla Wed 05-Jun-13 19:42:13

Not smelling like a dirty old ashtray is a huge benefit!

JRock be strong!

AgentFelix Thu 06-Jun-13 01:34:41

Hearts and JRock, thank you smile

I can't take the credit for what I posted. I found it on the Why Quit website and it had a mega impact on me. I just rewrote it in my own words. It has got me through every crave; it stops them dead actually when I think about all those shitty cigarettes that I smoke without even thinking about what I'm doing.

JRock, I really do sympathise. I have been lucky so far; nobody I socialise with smokes. A couple of days ago I was chatting with a smoking neighbour and I wanted to join her with a cigarette very badly. It was hard! I try to look at these situations as punching a new hole in my belt. If it's hard and I get through it; go me! These situations are only new once; after that it's just an opportunity to practise being an ex-smoker!

AgentFelix Thu 06-Jun-13 03:55:03

I thought I'd do an update for everyone that's posted on the thread with their results, sort of Big, Slim … stylee.

AgentFelix - Quit 20/05/13 - Cold Turkey
angusandelspethsthistlewhistle - quit in February 2013 - Cold Turkey
Elderflowergranita - quit in 1998! - NRT
toiletbrush - quit 18/05/13 - How's it going TB?
6monthson - quit 05/12/12 - Champix
maudpringle - quit ? - Champix
NoobyNoob - 21/05/13 - NRT - how are you doing? Please don't let one stupid cigarette stand in the way of stubbing out these disgusting disease sticks for good. Please post and let us know you're back on course.
QueenOfCats - 22/05/13 - Cold Turkey
LalyRawr - quit 24/05/13 - Electric Cigarette
southeastastra - quit in 2009 - NRT
lynne999 - quit 13/05/13 - Champix - how are you doing Lynne?
Curranycake - quit ? - NRT - How are you Curranycake?
SpringtimeFoHitler - quit 27/05/2013 - You ok springy?
Stressedtothehilt - quit ? - Electric Cigarette
Oopla - 28/05/2013 - Electric Cigarette - Love your posts!
HeartsTrumpDiamonds - 01/06/13 - NRT
Eminemmerdale - 31/05/13 - NRT - Everything ok?
waterlego - 07/06/13 - Method: tbc - keep posting waterlego, we will all help you and it isn't as hard as you think it is
Elibean - quit ? - method ? - I'm sure I know Elibean from other addiction threads and she's a fantastic support. Please pop in for a chat every now and then Elibean smile
JRock - 03/05/13 - NRT - Keep going through the cravings. You can do it!

From Monday 17 June 13 I'm going to upgrade the above statistics, so please post before that if you want your stats to be included. I will only post your stats if you post between now and 17/06/2013.

I want to wish everyone the best of luck here. It feels very wrong to say "good luck" but I don't know how else to say: "go on,, give it a go, it's great, it could save your life, it costs nothing, it's easier than a every other 'get fit; initiative that I've ever heard of, you don't need a subscription, you don't have buy anything - you don't have to DO anything. It's soooo fucking easy"! Just don't smoke!

I want everyone to join us here! Non/ex/current smokers are all welcome. Please support us in our bid to quit smoking for good!

JRock Thu 06-Jun-13 05:54:32

Thanks felix, I like the list.
I did not smoke last night. I'm proud of my self for that. Although, after the initial craving went away, I kind of realised I didn't really want one. I hope that continues!
Well done to everyone - I think you've all done so well. You're inspiring me to keep going!

eminemmerdale Thu 06-Jun-13 10:21:48

I love the list grin I'm ok, but have a funeral today - my aunt who I haven't actually seen for years, but my mum wants to go which is fine. The issue is going to be that my sister (who hasn't spoken to my mum for over a year) is also going and she is in a state about it as it is bringing back awful childhood memories having to see my mum again (v v v toxic mother who has no idea that she is..long story) Anyway, I'm worried i may pick up a cigareet just to ease the stress. Hopefully i won't..Bloody families!

eminemmerdale, hope it goes ok today and sorry for your loss.

Be strong, don't give in to the nicotine monster!

Felix, thanks for the great list. I'm soooo impressed that you are going Cold Turkey after a 40-a-day habit.

waterlego Thu 06-Jun-13 16:56:47

Hello quitters, so encouraging to see everyone doing so well.

emine I am sorry for your loss and hope the funeral is going/has gone ok. The sister/mum situation sounds awkward though and I hope it hasn't brought you too much extra stress. sad

I am changing my stop date (please don't hate me!) because OH and I are going to the pub tomorrow evening to celebrate some good news. I don't drink very much these days and so it is a bit of a treat. We rarely go to pubs so it is a bit of a one-off and I will want to smoke with a pint. After that, I am unlikely to drink again for quite some time so will be able to avoid the alcohol-nicotine connection for a while.

So I am going to stop on Saturday instead. I promise I won't look for an excuse to shift the day from Sat to Sun!

But in the meantime, I am still reading and admiring you all and soaking up your inspiring words.

eminemmerdale Thu 06-Jun-13 17:53:46

Hi all - it was all fine. Very sad - even though I hadn't seen my aunt for years, seeing my grown up 6'3" strong tough cousin in tears was really hard. mum/sister thing ok, but sad I did have one which i cadged off my sister. Bugger sadBack on track i hope now.

waterlego Thu 06-Jun-13 18:10:25

Oh, poor you. Hope you're not going to beat yourself up about that one. It was an extreme circumstance and it's done now. Onwards and upwards and some un-MNy hugs for you (((())))

eminemmerdale Thu 06-Jun-13 18:12:33

thank you smile Off on another run tonight so that will refocus me I hope!

waterlego Thu 06-Jun-13 19:00:59

Yay for running smile I was into it a few years ago but then got into some different forms of exercise. I have just started it up again in the hope it can help me beat some MH problems. I am going to a running club tomorrow morning for the first time. Eeeek!

Oopla Thu 06-Jun-13 19:37:43

Hello everyone. Thanks for the mention agent grin
Sort to he's about your aunt emin, really glad your enjoying the running though, I've just started too and it's fab for me to de stress, sleeping loads better. Water hope your running club is good, you'll have to let us know how it goes.

I rang the national stop smoking nhs number today and try put me in touch with someone locally and I'm booked in to start a seven week group course on Monday. So will meet up with some real life quitters grin DP doesn't want to come isn't his thing so looking forward to an hour away from the kids and to strengthen my resolve a little grin

Keep up the good work everyone xx

Oopla Thu 06-Jun-13 19:38:24

Sorry to hear about your aunt* that should sayxx

eminemmerdale Thu 06-Jun-13 20:42:42

The time I gave up for three years was due to a support group - it really did help. Run was good - I am doing it with a friend from dd's school - it really helps!

I've been going to the gym and the exercise does really help! Good for you emin and water with the running.

Last time I quit I used the NHS stop smoking service and got all my NRT on prescription. Met with a counsellor once a week and had to breathe into a little machine to tell if you were cheating or not. I found it really useful and was a bit despondent this time because I thought I couldn't do the same program - too far away, not fitting in with work etc. Then last week I discovered that my local Boots runs the same program!! I'm going back tomorrow on my way to work after I drop the DDs at school.

Oopla, good luck with your support group tomorrow - hope you meet some fab people!

emin I think under the circs you were justified slipping a bit. Agree with water, please don't beat yourself up but at the same time, make sure you climb back on the old wagon!

marlene4boycie Thu 06-Jun-13 21:24:43

Can I join? I've smoked for 20 years - heavily in uni years, none while pregnant, then very light (15 a week at most) for the last 7years or so. But it's still got a hold on me, while I'm also living in fear of the effects of smoking. I sometimes wish that I could fool myself into believing I was pregnant again as it was the only time I found giving up easy smile

waterlego Thu 06-Jun-13 21:35:16

I totally identify with that marlene (love your username btw!) Actually, in my first pregnancy, I still found it quite hard to stop (I did stop, as soon as I knew, but was really resentful about not being able to smoke) but found it easy to stop in 2nd pregnancy.

WannagotoDallas Fri 07-Jun-13 07:23:15

Hi all. I have been following this thread for two weeks now and it has been good support (I am on day 14 today woo hoo!!) Well done to everyone who has the strength to quit.

I have smoked for 26 years (hanging my head in shame here) but have been trying to stop for 23 of them! As far as I am concerned, I can never have another cigarette again. Full stop.

I can no longer cope with the continual anxiety about every pain/twinge/lump; is it cancer or some other smoking related disease? The constant fear that I won't see 60 and my girls will be without a mum.

In a positive note, I am also a runner, have been doing it for a year now (since my last failed quit). Went back to the smoking in time of stress but kept up the running. It really helps to feel my lungs filling properly with pure healing air. Am already noticing an improvement after 2 weeks; my lungs feel like they expand an extra inch or so.

Wish I could sleep properly though. Wake at stupid o'clock every morning! Still dark when I get up these past two weeks! So far it's my only noticeable side effect though. Oh apart from craving a fag most daysgrin

Oopla Fri 07-Jun-13 09:32:33

Nrt has really shifted my perspective of smoking. I'm not craving a cigarette, I don't miss smoking- I am dependant on a drug. I am essentially an addict. Have smoked so heavily for the last 15 years that actually have never been through the slightest hint of withdrawal before so am really shocked at the depths of deception my body and mind will go to to try and get me to light up.

So very pleased to have stopped, feeling a bit shaky about weaning off nrt but absolutely resolved that I am not going to live the rest of my life swinging from one hit to another.

Oopla Fri 07-Jun-13 09:33:12

Fuck you nicotine! grin

Yeah, FUCK YOU!!!

Welcome Marlene - are you thinking of quitting now? You've come to the right place!

Welcome also to Dallas - day 14, very well done. Tomorrow will be one week for me. It feels great doesn't it!

I feel the same as Oopla about the NRT and actually that is where I failed in my last attempt 2 years ago - caved in and had "just one" when I was coming off the NRT. So I will have to be extra careful this time.

waterlego have a luvverly time at the pub tonight and very best of luck for tomorrow!

I smoke 20 roll ups a day......or rather I did. I started weight watchers five days ago and now having a smoke makes me feel sick and dizzy. I've had three today and didn't enjoy them at all. I have a 50g pouch in the I throw it away and just stop now? Someone please come and take it away from me

eminemmerdale Fri 07-Jun-13 19:09:04

THROW IT AWAY!!! or run it under the tap, or give to someone. grin

Help! I can't throw it! Quick! Do it now? Right now? hyperventilating

eminemmerdale Fri 07-Jun-13 19:31:44


Down the loo!

badgeroncaffeine Fri 07-Jun-13 19:41:18

I quit in 2005 after smoking for 14 years. It was about the 5th attempt and I learnt more during each one. If anyone needs any support or tips that worked for me, feel free to message.

Omg omg omigosh it's all soggy and smelly in my bin! Argh got to take it outside.

JRock Fri 07-Jun-13 19:48:23

Just managed to catch up with thread after a manic few days at work! I love Fridays! Unfortunately Fridays mean wine in the rock house, so thinking a lot about having a cig. I kind of feel that I don't want one but at the same time I do. I'm so proud of myself for getting to 5 days, I don't want to, and won't, give in!
So nice to see lots of new people joining us! Good luck! We're here for you!

JRock Fri 07-Jun-13 19:50:03

Queen, well done for soaking it! Take it outside quick! And eat some chocolate to take your mind off it!! wink

I can't I'm on weight watchers, arse bugga bollox

WannagotoDallas Fri 07-Jun-13 20:49:12

JRock- know what you mean about Friday evening. Was always wine night in my house too. I say WAS. I'm not gonna be drinking for a long while (until I am confident I won't cave). Sitting in, sober, smokeless, watching The Voice, bored BUT healthy and breathing still grin

eminemmerdale Fri 07-Jun-13 21:36:33

Massive well done for wetting it - the amount of half full cigarette packets I've run under the tap!! Another good day for me grin. met eldest dd at the park with two of her charges (she's a nanny) and lolled in the garden for the aternoon - after having scrubbed the kitchen and cleaned the fridge (one of those jobs I never think about!) amazing how much gets done not smoking. Also still not drinking although was tempted tonight sad It's been 8 days without both - apart from my blip- and I love the energy. I always forget how good it feels. the running is a massive help too. Looking forward so much to the next one tomorow. I can't quite believe I'm doing this! Well done everyone else. We rock. queenfaeriecakes you've done brilliantly already!!

Wtf have I done? I'm going to have to make a tea every time I want a fag

eminemmerdale Fri 07-Jun-13 21:52:19

glass of water really helps - or juice. honest!

AgentFelix Fri 07-Jun-13 23:15:46

Eminem [hugs]. We do rock!

Waterlego smile. Thinking of you as I'm typing this. Let us know how it goes.

Marlene4B Welcome, of course you can join. When are you planning to quit?

Wannago Thanks for joining us here. My sleeping pattern has gone mad since I quit. I either can't sleep for more than 2 hours or I sleep in until lunchtime.

Oopla - Fuck You Nicotine grin. I'm completely onboard with that.

badger please join in on the thread. I love hearing about how other people quit. It makes me remember that it's possible.

I have had such a hard day today and the only thing that kept me nicotine free was this:

"Felix, thanks for the great list. I'm soooo impressed that you are going Cold Turkey after a 40-a-day habit."

DP and I are in terrible debt. We're barely keeping our heads above water. DP was diagnosed with a serious illness a couple of years ago and was retired from his employer. He's under 40! We are living on a tiny pension and we are stressed out, both of us. We couldn't have planned for this, nobody could have.

The past few years have been so worrying and I have smoked and drank and smoked and smoked. I got to the stage where I couldn't afford it anymore. We were actually getting further in debt to pay for my cigarettes every month.

So, I stopped on 20/05/13. Today I found out that I have to pay an extra £300 to BT for excess broadband charges due to DP getting bored and downloading loads of programmes from Netflix. It has wiped out everything I've saved from not smoking and I am fucking gutted. I really wanted to be better off but we are actually worse off.

Queen well you can't go back now ... You'll be fine. You've sent a really strong message to your sub-conscious that you're serious about quitting. [swot]

WannagotoDallas Sat 08-Jun-13 09:56:58

Gutted for you Felix as well! So unfair after all that hard work, you have done so brilliantly! Hope I keep going with this like you!

Keep positive, you are still up the amount of money you would have spent on fags. That bill would still exist if you hadn't given up and then it would be even harder to pay! And look to the long term, how much you will save in total by this time next year!! Hope you swatted DP round back of head smile

eminemmerdale Sat 08-Jun-13 10:09:21

Oh bloody hell Felix sad Don't let it make you go 'fuck it' and pick up the fags again <my way of coping with money problems - derrrr> Wanna is right, the debt would still be there, and at least you do have the money to put towards it now which doesn't help I know sad We are in hideous debt too and it's so easy to want to wipe it from your mind through drink and cigarettes - just makes it worse though - although it doesn't seem that way at the time. Stay strong xx

WannagotoDallas Sat 08-Jun-13 10:29:17

Yep don't chuck the towel in Felix. Just don't. A life without money is better than a rich life on an dragging around an oxygen tank.

Christ Felix, not what you need right now. Stay strong - you can do it.

emin, I used to do that, the "fuck it" thing. I am ashamed to admit I even used to engineer arguments with DH so that I could storm off and have a smoke. How fucked up is that??

JRock Sat 08-Jun-13 18:46:59

Oh felix, poor you. At least, as others have said, you have got more money to pay it now you're not smoking.
Major blip today. I have had a frustrating day trying to write reports, our computer is buggered so it's taken far longer to get anything done than it should have! Went to pub this pm for a couple to relieve the stresswink, I said I would go and buy a lottery ticket (never normally do) and of course while I was in the shop I bought some cigs. Only 10. Only had 1. Told DH as soon as I got in. He's taken them and hidden them! I want another one now because I know I bought them and they're somewhere in the house!! I'm so disappointed in myself, but in another way it's almost like because I've had a drink out it's ok. I've been fine when I've had a drink at home, it was the 'going out'. I only had 2 drinks, so not like I'm really pissed. Gah, want to smoke them all, but don't want to smoke any of them!

badgeroncaffeine Sat 08-Jun-13 21:25:55

The basics of how I quit were by concentrating on "health and wealth". I started going to the gym every day and doing tough workouts. Often, I would light up on the way back to the car! But the inclination and addiction seemed to diminish due to the workouts, no idea why. On the wealth issue, record all the money you spend, including on cigarettes. You'll see what it costs! I also told myself when I quit that it wasn't forever (although I hope it is). I can't deny I'd sometimes love a Marlboro Light or B&H grin, but know I can't!

Oopla Sat 08-Jun-13 22:30:41

Stay strong folks xx

Had an awesome day in the sunshine with the babies but oh my word the cravings have been strong today. Went to do the food shopping and it was really busy ( BBQ stocking up) me and DP were getting steadily more and more stressed and realised when we got home that the e cigarettes have been empty all morning. Freaked DP out a bit but makes me feel more strongly that we have to go cold turkey soon and get this godawful drug out our systems.

Hats off to all us quitters, it's bloody hard- but best decision ever. Choose life people! grin

waterlego Sun 09-Jun-13 17:18:27

Awwww JRock How are you feeling now? Hope you've managed to avoid the nicotine monster!

Thanks all for your encouragement, much appreciated. I'm a bit later than promised but I am now with you on the fag-free wagon...just! 7 hours in, wearing a patch and have had one lozenge. So far, not too bad, but I know there are many many challenges ahead. Braces self

waterlego Sun 09-Jun-13 17:34:14

Oops! I mean <braces self>

eminemmerdale Sun 09-Jun-13 18:26:46

badger I like the sound of that.
I have fucked up today - sorry sad Just felt fed up and down, and justified it by saying to myself 'I can't stop smoking and drinking at the same time' enough times until it became self fulfilling sad So, will try again tomorrow - and think about how I am healing - I noticed the nearly £4 and was cross as soon as i did it. GAH!

badgeroncaffeine Sun 09-Jun-13 19:15:42

It can be done eminemmerdale. People often don't realise how close they were to success when they gave up. I smoked for another 5 years after very nearly succeeding...

currentlyconfuseddotcom Sun 09-Jun-13 19:26:55

I'm going to hop on here!!
Currently have 4 left, which is petrifying...I'll read this all from page 1 and prepare to be inspired smile

JRock Mon 10-Jun-13 08:52:13

Good luck currently! How are you all doing today?
After my 'blip' on sat I did ok yesterday. But this morning I found where DH had hidden them...
I couldn't stop thinking about them, so I've just had 2!! shockPutting patch on NOW. Am so annoyed at myself. But it was like someone else was doing it, almost like I was on autopilot or something. I hope I can forget about them for the rest of the day.
Onwards and upwards!

QueenOfCats Mon 10-Jun-13 09:04:08

Good luck to everyone giving up and well done to everyone that has stopped! smile

I haven't smoked now for 19 days after giving up spur of the moment and going cold turkey - I'm quite pleased with myself!

I was very ratty and ragey for the first couple of days but that soon passed and I'm so glad not to be a smoker any more grin

Oopla Mon 10-Jun-13 12:23:03

Well done queen grin great work!

I am just so sick and bloody tired of being grumpy and in a bad mood all the time. Not to mention the amount I'm eating. Fucking nicotine. Why does it have to be so addictive. And fucking cigarettes - why do they have to be bad for you? And stink so much??

Christ I better have yet another piece of Nicorette.

Well done everyone. JRock you get yourself back on that wagon young lady. Run those fags under the tap or flush them - you know it's the only way!!

Queen - that is great. I'm on Day 9 and for the first time I didn't think about smoking as soon as I woke up. I need to cling to that!

Actually it might be day 10 I think

Welcome to currentlyconfuseddotcom too

mummylin Mon 10-Jun-13 12:52:24

Can I join your thread. I have to give up because of breathing problems, but even knowing this since my mum died I have been smoking even more. Today I have emptied all my smoking stuff into the bin, it's the only thing I could think of because if I have tobacco here I will smoke it ! Done it now so will do my best. I tried a few years ago and got to two weeks then stupidly came home from smoking clinic and lit a fag !
I was told even if you have a blip never give up giving up !

mummylin Mon 10-Jun-13 12:53:33

I don't have patches or anything going to do it on my own.

eminemmerdale Mon 10-Jun-13 18:46:45

Hi all sad I have lapsed - that's the only word. I am continuing to try (as in have only had 3 today and reach for my NRT when I crave) but I am going to finish this pack of ten (4 left) tomorrow and then I really will 'start to stop' again. Even more annoying is that it would have been 9 years today, if I hadn't buggered up after 3 years . ARGHHH. I;m still running every two days and that is helping - the last thing I want is a fag after exertion like that!

waterlego Mon 10-Jun-13 18:55:38

Awwww emin sad I'm afraid I have too. Very disappointed in myself but I am going to see the smoking cessation nurse tomorrow (for what feels like the millionth time) to see about Champix. I am scared shitless of the stuff so this feels very much like a last resort.

Well done folk who are still going with their quits.

JRock Mon 10-Jun-13 19:15:07

Looks like there are a few of us who are finding this hard. hmm
Tomorrow is another day, so I will be stopping again tomorrow. I managed 6 days, I'm not letting the few I've had over the last couple of days make me think I'm a smoker again.
A massive well done to everyone who has stopped!

eminemmerdale Mon 10-Jun-13 20:12:46

At least we know we should be doing it, we will do it and we are self-aware - all good steps!

Day ten over here and probably the hardest yet. I hid, actually HID, in my office to keep away from my smoking colleagues. Not my best moment.

Water, J, emin - we're all still in this together my smokeless buddies!

mummylin the more the merrier, c'mon in!

WannagotoDallas Tue 11-Jun-13 08:14:05

Day 17 for me and still going okay. Sometimes miss being able to smoke, but it isn't as strong as a craving. As someone has already said (I think) it is a smoking memory (from happier times haha) but those memories are getting less frequent and intrusive.

Have an odd side effect the past couple of days. My mouth/throat/chest have been really irritated and tingly. No cough though. Hope it's just the tissue healing.

Keep going strong everyone and put any lapses aside.

Oopla Tue 11-Jun-13 22:11:07

Hi nummylin how are you getting on? Im on Day 14 since last cigarette. Day 1 without any nicotine today. Just woke up and decided to have a go. Not felt too bad, making sure I keep busy. Felt very munchy but luckily don't have much in the cupboards haha.

Good luck keep it going guys x

mummylin Wed 12-Jun-13 14:51:22

My chest felt very bad yesterday , and that was without a fag ! Felt weird all day. But today so far so good. But I can't have one anyway cause have thrown all my stuff out and have no tobacco. I would probably be tempted if I had some here. But I don't. Do have e fag though.i really want and need to do this

Oopla, I am worried about coming off the patch. How's it going?

mummylin Wed 12-Jun-13 18:26:58

I am really missing my after dinner smoke. Was nearly tempted to ask dh to go to shop for tobacco ! But I haven't and will puff e cig instead. After dinner one is normally the one I enjoy the most too ( tries to shut off mind about shop being open )

Oopla Wed 12-Jun-13 21:30:27

Nice work mummylin keep going smile
Hearts doing ok thanks, end of day 2 and feeling pretty good. Running out of jobs round the house !

Are you going to give it a go soon do you think?

Oopla Wed 12-Jun-13 21:34:21

Don't be worried hearts, I bet you'll be just fine x

eminemmerdale Wed 12-Jun-13 22:12:57

Hi all - I meant to catch up earlier but work got in the way! outrageous! Doing ok, still having up to three each day at the moment sad But off the booze still andrunning and maing sure I eat food which is 'good' - salady things nd fruit, you know that doesn't take icky and junky grin and make you want to smoke (does that make sense??!) Intend to be off properly again by the weekend. You're all doing fab grin

mummylin Wed 12-Jun-13 22:16:57

Have been desparate for one this eve as have had both sides of a marriage in trouble to listen to. The dh and the wife. It's so difficult as both my friends, talk about stressful , god this is bloody hard tonight . But stlii puffing on e cig !!

mummylin Thu 13-Jun-13 12:40:12

I have slipped up today. My e fag has run out of puff and I have no liquid left to put on it ! I have only had one. I am mad with myself but stressed out at the moment because of other people's problems .

OberonTheHopeful Thu 13-Jun-13 19:57:53

Hi, I hope it's OK to ask a quick question? I was going to start a thread and then saw this one.

I have two packs left and when they are gone I don't want to buy any more. I've been trying to cut down with some success, but a recent upset has sent my smoking habit back up. I decided yesterday that I really need to just quit (for financial reasons as much as anything else, though I've been wanting to stop for a while anyway).

There's an NHS programme where I live (couselling, support line, 12 weeks free NRT etc.) and I just wondered if anyone has found these programmes useful? I think I read somewhere that people are four times more likely to stay off cigarettes with help. Also, have people found that NRT really makes a difference?

Oopla Thu 13-Jun-13 20:21:34

Hi Obereon I just joined a group last week so hard to comment on long term success but def feel more motivated to go back next week and catch up with everyone else. I guess it's a bit like a slimming class meeting in that it pricks your conscience to keep at it. grin

You should definitely give it a go, nothing to lose x

Hi Oberon, welcome!

I'm on Day 13 of doing the NHS program using patches and gum. Personally I don't think I could do it without the NRT. I'm doing one on one sessions (drop in at my local Boots) just because of the convenience and I would find it difficult to get to the group meetings. Today I was around a lot of smokers and was very tempted, but I know I have my meeting tomorrow where I will have to breathe into the carbon monoxide monitor which would show immediately that I had smoked!

Oopla Thu 13-Jun-13 20:41:46

Day 3 cold turkey and had quite a stressy day, found myself having a rant at kids earlier and realised I was craving. Took some deep breaths shock

Reminding myself that this is the worst i'll feel. After today the nicotine will definitely be out of my system.

Sorry, had to interrupt myself.

Anyways so that thought really helped me.

This is actually the second time o have done the program. I know, I know! But I did really well last time (2011), made it to about 6 months, then got drunk and had "just one". Hopefully I will never make THAT mistake again! Within a matter of a couple of months I was back on 10 a day, then 15... You get the picture.

But for the initial really difficult stages of the first few weeks, the program is brilliant. Get support wherever you can - Nicorette has this Active Stop program on line that I followed as well. Plus supportive friends and family - my DDs tell me every day how much they love it that Mummy doesn't stink any more.

Good luck smile

Oopla you are giving me hope for myself when I come off the dreaded patch! Well done, high five etc. Just imagine being free from the addiction monster!

OberonTheHopeful Thu 13-Jun-13 20:46:47

Thank you!

I'll give them a call in the morning and make an appointment. I think regular meetings will be good for me as it will help me stay on track and I will definitely ask them about NRT.

I did the online test on the NHS Website and it said my addiction is 'moderate'. I've been saying I'm going to quit for the last three years and just never felt able to do so. Now I feel really determined to give it a go smile

Mummylin don't despair, just make sure you get your refills for it ASAP.

OberonTheHopeful Fri 14-Jun-13 21:28:37

Well I have an appointment with the NHS programme at my local Boots on Tuesday, so I suppose that will be my first smoke free day.

Oberon, the day of my first appointment I smoked about a thousand cigarettes before I went in. Threw all my (remaining) fags and lighter in the bin very ceremoniously with the counsellor, slapped on the patch and came out of there a non-smoker. Very therapeutic and it was like drawing a line in the sand IYKWIM.

andie123 Sat 15-Jun-13 00:17:26

Hi everyone, hope you don't mind me joining this thread. I'm 42 days without a cigarette and I really wish I would have found this thread earlier, had a horrific first few weeks! It's got a lot easier now and I have an e-cig that I think is great but I have to big challenges coming up and could really do with some support, I'm worried I'm going to crack. Firstly my sister is coming to stay with us tomorrow and she's a smoker. Whenever she stayed in the past I'd always end up smoking more and it's going to be really difficult to resist, especially having cigarettes that are so accessible. Also I'm going to glastonbury in a couple of weeks and I think it's going to be really difficult not to smoke there, and I won't be able to charge my e-cig. I have a huge incentive not to smoke because me and my dp are adopting. I have to be 6 months smoke free before the agency will take up our application, so I really really want to stay smoke free.

WannagotoDallas Sat 15-Jun-13 09:50:02

Three weeks today! Yayyyy!! Hope everyone is coping well.

Oopla Sat 15-Jun-13 10:32:50

Keep going andie you're doing so well. I think you might be able to charge your e cig at Glastonbury there are always areas set up with pc's etc, but plan ahead buy another battery before you go.

Adopting is a really big deal, well done you x

Oopla Sat 15-Jun-13 10:36:17

Well done wannago grin

I'm day 5 cold turkey and feel much better today. Lastnight was hard, DP is still on ecigs but finding his mood swings a real struggle. I took myself off to bed with a good book.

Had anyone been given a gym & swim pass through smoking clinic? A fire of mine had and I'm going to ask about one on Monday. 3 months free gym, swim & classes apparently grin

Oopla Sat 15-Jun-13 10:37:34

*friend not fire confused

mummylin Sat 15-Jun-13 10:56:32

I have slipped badly the last two days , but starting again today. Haven't been able to get my refill yet but hopefully can pick one up today somewhere. Well done to those who are going strong

ginmakesitallok Sat 15-Jun-13 13:45:59

Can I join you all?? Day one, just bought an e-cig and it's been all of 2 hours since I had a fag. Haven't gotten round to chucking my ashtray yet.......fuck it yes I have, now in the bin. Smoked for about 20 years, up to 30 a day and just getting too expensive, too unhealthy and too stinky. I've never managed to stop before - even when pregnant with DDs. I'm now a non-smoker!!

andie123 Sat 15-Jun-13 16:14:06

Well done Gin! Which e-cig do you have? I tried a few before I found one I liked, imo the ones that don't look like cigarettes are best.

Thanks oopla, I will take my charger just in case. Already have 3 batteries but they only last me a day.

ginmakesitallok Sat 15-Jun-13 16:29:21

Am using VIP?? Which one are you using??

I've thought about speaking to my GP - but as I used to manage the smoking cessation team I really don't want referred there!

Tigerbomb Sat 15-Jun-13 16:43:25

Hi everyone - I am now 104 days without smoking - started off with Champix but the nausea nearly finished me off - so went to one Champix a day and have been off them for two weeks and so far so good

This is the 4th or 5th attempt on Champix and the longest I haven't smoked.

One of the mantra's that helped get me through was "Having one won't stop me from wanting one"

I am really proud of myself. I smoked 30 odd cigarettes a day (not even 3 heart attacks stopped me) and I really didn't want to stop smoking (still don't). My son crying that he was going to lose me, like we lost his father last year, was what finally did it for me. I refuse to have one ever again

I also treat myself to something every week, using the money I save from not smoking. It can be a top I like, a nice smelling candle, a gadget - this week I bought one of those Microped thingies for my feet.

Keep at it - you all can do it

Tiger in 90 more days I will be at your stage, very well done!

Hi Gin and Andie. Good luck to both of you.

Two weeks today for me, I am noticing so many positives. My FIL just came in from having a smoke and he STINKS!! Not me anymore. Ive saved almost £150 too.

ginmakesitallok Sat 15-Jun-13 22:06:52

For those of us trying e-cigs, I've just found this board and am so excited! Vaping here I come!

OberonTheHopeful Sun 16-Jun-13 18:46:32

HeartsTrumpDiamonds, that's kind of what I have in mind. I'm really inspired by what I've read on here. There have been a few failed attempts to give up over the last three years or so and I very much want to make a go of it this time.

Reading people's experiences here has really inspired me smile

Excellent Oberon grin

Day 16 for me and dare I say I think it might slowly be getting easier. Still on the heavy duty patches but only had 2 or 3 pieces of the gum today - and that is with my in-laws staying!

Oopla Mon 17-Jun-13 12:50:26

Is anyone else quitting with a partner? How I've not killed mine ill never know grin3 weeks tomorrow, no injuries sustained so far!

OberonTheHopeful Tue 18-Jun-13 12:25:36

So this is day one for me. I had my last cigarette this morning and went to the appointment at the NHS service. Had a good talk about strategies for coping and got a prescription for stage 1 patches. It suddenly feels a bit daunting!

WannagotoDallas Tue 18-Jun-13 13:11:28

Oberon, best of luck with it! It really isn't all that bad so don't don't don't give in! I will be stopped 4 weeks on Friday (after a long time trying, 26 years!) and it has not been as hard as I thought. You have to ignore what the cravings are telling you and put up with feeling crap for about 10 days then things improve. Accept it will be hard for a short while, and dig deep.

Once you start feeling the benefits, and it doesn't take long, you won't want to inhale poisonous chemicals anymore than you would want to stick your head in a gas oven and inhale that.

DH is a non-smoker (apart from the occasional cigar) so he is very pleased and being very supportive - it really helps. We would have killed each other by now if not.

Oberon, way to go. Take it a day, hour, minute at a time. For me the combo of patches and gum seems to work quite well, although the gum takes some getting used to.

Good luck, post here lots!

waterlego Tue 18-Jun-13 16:30:22

I am full of admiration for you all. Am still reading and cheering you all on.

My smoking cessation person has written to my GP to see if I can have Champix- the GP will weigh up my MH history and decide whether it's appropriate for me. Pretty sure the GP will give me the go-ahead, judging by previous conversations I've had with him.

My smoking days are numbered. But I'm pretty terrified about the Champix. Tigerbomb I would be interested to hear a bit more about your experiences with them. I had heard about the nausea but am also very concerned about anxiety/low mood, and possible effect on weight.

I am somewhat depressed already, but not 'clinically' so. My mum is very poorly and I assume it's this which is causing my anxiety and low mood. I am concerned about possible weight gain because I have disordered eating and an unfounded preoccupation with my weight. My weight and BMI are fine but I am pathologically afraid of putting on weight. I know that Champix is normally taken for 12 weeks and I am trying to tell myself that any side effects will only be short-lived and will be absolutely worth it for the reward of being free from smoking!

Gah...please forgive my ramblings everyone. Never forget that those of us who are still trapped by the addiction have nothing but admiration and envy for those of you who are free.

ginmakesitallok Tue 18-Jun-13 18:19:49

Waterlego, I'm giving up smoking, not nicotine. E cigs aren't recommended by NHS, but if you are happy continuing to use nicotine they might be an option?

OberonTheHopeful Tue 18-Jun-13 18:58:36

Thank you everyone! Well this afternoon has been OK, but then I'm used to going a few hours at a time without a smoke when I need to. I think tonight will be OK as I don't tend to smoke much later in the evenings anyway. Tomorrow will probably be tough, but I have the patches. I know with me that a lot of it is habit, and it's likely to be the act of lighting up and having the first few puffs that I'll miss most.

Only one of my friends smokes (and not very much) so staying off them at the weekends should be OK. I'm most worried about work time because I'm in the habit of taking a break every so often for a smoke, and I'm the kind of person who needs that regular break to keep my concentration going.

waterlego, I've had depression on and off for some time, and had a bit of a relapse recently. I gave up on medication some time ago so no issues with NRT but I have regular counselling and I really think that quiting smoking will help me to think more positively about myself. It was a snap decision for me, but I really think it's one of those things that you have to feel properly ready to do, and sometimes other things are more important. There's no way I could have considered quitting a year ago, much as I wanted to smile And I've only just started!

Tigerbomb Thu 20-Jun-13 00:19:34

Waterlego - I have found Champix different each time I have tried it.
There are three constants where I am concerned. Weird dreams, NO weight gain . Miserable - a bit like pmt

Nausea has been absent on one occasion but different degrees of nausea on the other attempts
Low moods - but I was never sure if that was because of the Champix or because I had stopped smoking. They didnt last long though. I had weekly meetings with my cessation councellor has I had recently had some problems dealing with the death of my ExDH and it was felt that I could do with some extra support (someone keeping an eye on me)

I was on half doses for the last 8 weeks of the 12 week course - mainly becasue of the nausea.

Good luck

Tigerbomb Thu 20-Jun-13 00:24:08

oops - forgot to say - It also helped that my counsellor made me blow into a tube each week to prove I hadn't smoked. I cheated a lot in previous attempts and this one thing was probably just as important as the Champix. I really didn't want to fail at the carbon monoxide test.

My smoking counsellor also smoked shock - each week he smelt more and more disgusting. It was a brilliant way of reminding me how horrible smoking was

Oopla Thu 20-Jun-13 12:37:54

Tigerbomb can't believe they'd let a smoking counsellor smoke! Craziness

Tigerbomb Thu 20-Jun-13 13:24:01

Oopla - I was surprised but I suppose I shouldn't be - My dietician and my diabetes nurse are very overweight.

leesmum Thu 20-Jun-13 14:00:44

Can I join in? Had my last fag on Sun eve, and having one of those days when I want to eat everything....going cold turkey....up to now its going ok, but have still wanted one.

A week and half cold turkey! Already saved enough money to treat myself to a few new DVDs.
DS is very proud of me which really keeps me going.
I do find myself wandering onto the balcony , taking deep breaths and fantasising I've had a roll up.

OberonTheHopeful Thu 20-Jun-13 19:59:53

My second full day today (gave up part way through Tuesday) and it's been quite difficult. The patches seem to help, but I think smoking was very habitual for me and I keep coming across situations (e.g. after lunch) when I was just so used to having a cigarette and now I can't. I'm determined to stick with it though!

I've told my friends, especially ones who live nearby, so I have a greater incentive to stick with it grin. I've also been using the NHS app and it's amazing how much I've saved already!

leesmum Thu 20-Jun-13 21:00:41

Has anyone bothered with those e-cigarettes, are they the ones that have oil in them? Seen a few people with them and wondered if they were any good....i'm presuming they are 100% chemical free???

OberonTheHopeful Thu 20-Jun-13 21:39:37

Leesmum, the NHS counsellor I saw didn't recommend them as they aren't regulated as medicines, so there is no real control over how much nicotine they deliver. I can see the attraction as it is much more like smoking. Personally, for me it's a habit I need to get out of as much as the nicotine addiction, so using one would probably not help with that.

I think they just deliver nicotine like patches, inhalators etc. Someone I work with used one last year but just ended up smoking again, though that may well have had nothing to do with the e-cigarette!

andie123 Thu 20-Jun-13 22:12:27

Leesmum I have one of the e-cigarettes you mentioned. I tried quitting smoking with patches and gum before, but it's only since using my e-cig that I've managed to do it (about 50 days now and counting). Personally I think they're great and recommend them to all the smokers I know. They have nicotine in along with propylene glycol and/or vegetable glycerin to give the "throat hit". I know they're a bit controversial, and obviously of you can go cold turkey that's preferable, however I couldn't have quit without them. I did crack and have a real cigarette yesterday (stressful day) and I honestly hated it, I was happy to return to my e-cig.

ginmakesitallok Thu 20-Jun-13 22:26:20

I've just started with an e-cig (not a cigalike) and it's Fab, haven't felt like a cigarette at all. Personally I don't mind keeping my nicotine addiction, it was the other crap in fags that was killing me. Ecigs are nothing like other nrt. If you buy from a reputable company then you can be pretty sure of the nicotine content. There are some great forums with more info.

leesmum Fri 21-Jun-13 07:26:25

Thanks ladies I think different things suit different people, I've been cold turkey since sun but I am finding it hard and really really don't want to smoke, think ill get some gum today and quiz some of my co-workers about their e-cigs.

Oopla Fri 21-Jun-13 07:29:57

DP has now gone cold turkey too. So proud of him. Day 4 with nothing after three weeks on e cigarettes.
I'm day 10 now and going to officially start thinking of myself as a non smoker. The thoughts about craving are getting less and less frequent.

Keep it up everyone. Think of all thy money saved and fresh clean smelling hair and clothes smile

ginmakesitallok Fri 21-Jun-13 11:33:10

Leesmum, have a look here friendly bunch with lots of good advice.

LittleNoona Fri 21-Jun-13 15:04:54

It's been 4 weeks and 2 days since I went cold turkey!

OberonTheHopeful Fri 21-Jun-13 16:04:55

LittleNoona, I'm impressed! I'm just on my third full day, have you found it getting any easier? People I know who've quit successfully tell me that the first month is the hardest.

leesmum Fri 21-Jun-13 21:18:44

Thanks Ginmakesitallok ....I need all the help I can get. Littlenoona that's great, I've seen lots of inspiring stories on here and its really helping smile

ginmakesitallok Fri 21-Jun-13 22:25:53

I've never managed to stop before, even when pregnant. Will be one week tomorrow without cigs, haven't even wanted one.

waterlego Sat 22-Jun-13 08:05:00

Thank you Tiger, Oberon and gin. Am taking my first Champix today, so aiming for a stop day next weekend.

Day 22 here, hi everyone, have not been around much in the last few days but glad to hear people are doing well!

Hello ladies, thank God I found you!!

I had my last roll-up yesterday morning at 11 and am desperately trying to remember all the reasons why I should give up!

Me and DP are doing it together after reading 'The easy way' and this is the first time I've ever tried to quit since starting over 20 years ago shock

Reading all your comments has helped a lot today as DP is at work and I can honestly say that I don't know what to do with myself. I feel all out of sorts, nothing feels's almost like I'm pretending to be someone else iykwim ?

I started off going cold turkey yesterday but am using an e-cig today and am finding it so much easier even though the book said not to use any substitutes.

Well done to all of you, keep up the good work smile

leesmum Mon 24-Jun-13 10:43:42

Well I've been smoke free for 7 days now! Just using the lozengers and lots of water, some days have been a breeze and others have been hard, just taking one day at a time, good luck to everyone and keep up the good work x

ginmakesitallok Mon 24-Jun-13 19:41:27

Well done leesmum. Day 11 here. I'm using ecig, so going out for break as normal at work. Went to pick up my usual smoking mate, she's been on holiday and has given up too, using e cigs as well, so now I've got a vaping pal! Life is good, so proud of us.

leesmum Mon 24-Jun-13 21:01:36

Great to have someone to give up with, I went outside on my break today, sat with the smokers while I ate my butties and drank my massive bottle of water......and I was ok, I survived.......I can't avoid smokers for the rest of my life, Ginmakesitallok you are doing great, can I ask, have you been scoffing ??? I have ate some rubbish this last week!!!!

Day 25 and counting!

Hi leesmum, ginmakesitallok and brightyoungthing, great to see you!

The only thing I hate about coming on to this thread is noticing the number of posters who show up for a while and don't come back... makes me think that they have fallen off the wagon and I find myself thinking "lucky things!" and getting a bit jealous that they get to smoke again! How messed up is that.

I've found the NHS quit smoking app on my phone and it's pretty helpful if I'm having a moment of weakness.

This morning I got up, got the kids up, dressed, fed, dealt with the electrician, kids and DH out the door, etc and got almost ALL the way to work before I thought about smoking at all - that is a great result for me because one of the cigarettes I miss the most is the first one in the morning on my balcony with my coffee.

OberonTheHopeful Tue 25-Jun-13 19:11:00

Well, I haven't fallen off the wagon (yet). Today marks exactly a week without a cigarette for me. It's been hard at times, though not so bad for the last couple of days, and I've found the app useful too (also signed up for the text messages).

WannagotoDallas Tue 25-Jun-13 19:29:14

I am still very much on the wagon Hearts! Will be five weeks on Friday for me.

I still read the thread everyday as a reminder of how far I have come. To those who are just starting to give up, hang in there, it only gets better and it's sooooo worth it.

OberonTheHopeful Tue 25-Jun-13 19:48:19

I'm hoping the cravings will go away, though when I time them they don't actually last for very long (I think the rest is just habit). It is definitely the first one of the morning that I miss the most. I'm really inspired by those here that have kept it going for weeks. I think I read somewhere (maybe the NHS Website) that if you can stay off cigarettes for four weeks then you're five times more likely to stay off permanently.

My breathing already seems to be a bit better, and when I went to see the NHS counsellor this morning my CO level was only 1! And I have already saved a small fortune smile

ginmakesitallok Tue 25-Jun-13 20:14:59

Still firmly on the wagon. Haven't been reading any more than normal, just vaping away happily! Wish I'd done this years ago.

CrazyLottie Wed 26-Jun-13 11:14:06

Hi all
Glad I found this thread! Been smoking for 20 years (god that sounds awful!) and tried everything to give up in the past. Succeeded for anything between a couple of hours and a year when I was pregnant. Not smoked now since Monday (my daughter's birthday). Using the QuickMist which is the best thing I've found, but feel desperately like I'm missing something ... Or lost a friend ... Not sure how long I can keep this up, I don't feel like me :-(

Oopla Wed 26-Jun-13 11:14:44

Hiya folks smile one month off the fags! Honestly can't see me ever pitting a cigarette in my mouth again. Just seems so unnatural
It defiantly gets easier I've been thinking of every day that passes as a day further into my body healing.

Keep going!!

CrazyLottie Wed 26-Jun-13 11:45:32

Well done Oopla - a month is amazing!

I was a coffee person but already on my 3rd cup of tea of the day, trying to calm my nerves!!

obrigada Wed 26-Jun-13 11:55:43

Am on Day 3 of Champix and would like to join you all on here if that's ok?

Oopla Wed 26-Jun-13 20:40:58

Thanks Crazy smile

By all means welcome obrigada, how are feeling on day 3? Most of the group at the smoking cessation I go to are taking champix, sounds really amazing smile

Hi all. Day 7 for me now and i'm still on the wagon! DP is doing well too and we are starting to feel a bit more 'normal' now, especially in the evenings.
We are even inspiring family members to give up ! grin

Lots of high-fives to all you fabulous non-smokers!
Oberon, Wannago, gin, Oopla, Crazy, brightyoungthing and everyone else I'm so proud of us and so good to see you here!

I'm extra chuffed because today is One. Whole. Month. Smoke Free. I love it. I still miss it (a bit), still sometimes have moments of not being able to concentrate at work, still a few cranky moody cow moments, but I love not smoking.

Here is a list of what i already LOVE about being a non-smoker:
I love not having to plan my work day around when I get to sneak out to smoke,
Not having to deal with all the smoking paraphernalia.
I love not stinking like an ashtray when I hug the DDs.
My dad is so proud of me.
Not having to make DH pause the TV (accompanied by massive eye-rolling and sighing) while I step outside for a fag.
I love saving money.
I love walking past people on the street and not feeling like a social outcast for blowing smoke near them.
I love being on a four-hour flight (this weekend smile) and not counting the minutes until I can have a cigarette
I love not having to ignore all the health warnings an having to pretend that they don't scare me, or they somehow magically don't apply to me.

What do you love?

smile grin

obrigada welcome! I'm using NRT rather than Champix but I hope it is going well for you.

McNo Mon 01-Jul-13 20:45:54

Hi all, well done to all you non smokers grin I'm on Day 1 of another attempt to stop. Hoping i can do it this time. I'm using patches. Fingers crossed. So glad to have found this thread to motivate myself smile

leesmum Mon 01-Jul-13 22:54:27

Hearts...your list is just like mine...I'm on day 15 and have gone cold turkey, I'm well pleased with myself.. Keep going ladies we can all do it I'm sure X

Lees, I am impressed with anyone who does cold turkey - I tried that a couple of times and didn't even last a day I think blush

McNo, good luck with the first few days, it really does get easier. I'm on patches too and using a bit of nicorette gum now and then.

My next hurdle will be coming off hte NRT. Dreading that a bit - I found it difficult last time (2 years ago)

McNo Tue 02-Jul-13 20:00:19

Thank you for support heart but gutted to say i gave in to temptation today. Day 1 again tomorrow! I need to find another way of dealing with stressful times at work hmm

leesmum Tue 02-Jul-13 22:14:35

McNo don't be too hard on yourself, I'm sure you'll do it eventually x

Can I join in pretty please?? smile

Have just stubbed out my last cigarette and know I'll be needing a little support. Stopped last year cold turkey when pregnant and it was hard going. Stupidly started again after having dd but this time I'm going with the patches.

15-20 a day smoker for the guts of 18 years (bar pregnancies). That's quite shocking to write it down in black and white!!

ballroom welcome and good luck. I'm still counting in days - 33 days today and every day is still a bit of a struggle but getting easier all the time. Have you thought about using gum or lozenges in addition to the patches? The gum helps me get through an immediate craving. Can also recommend the NHS stop smoking app if you have a smartphone.

I was 15-20 a day since about the age of 21, so that is 22 years. I stopped during pregnancies too and gave up a few times but it never lasted very long - although DH would tell you differently. I was a secret smoker for a LOT of those years. This time I have told myself:
1. If you are going to smoke, it has to be cigarettes that I BUY MYSELF and not cadging one from someone and
2. I HAVE TO TELL my husband and my DDs

I know myself, I can't have "just one". If I have one, I have to have them all.

Anyways, good luck!!

McNo a little setback is ok though right? But also, you really have to want to do it. Stressful times at work are so so hard - my coping mechanism used to be to go for a fag! Now I have a coffee, a drink of water and/or a piece of the gum or TBH come on here for a bit....

The fags I miss most are the first one in the morning, the stress-at-work ones and the one on my walk home from work. If only I could only have those ones and that's it, I would be a happy camper. But from previous experience, and as I said in my previous post, I can't have just one. I have to have them all. Bloody fucking nicotine. Hate it.

OberonTheHopeful Wed 03-Jul-13 15:15:22

Just wanted to say that it was two weeks yesterday since I last had a cigarette! The cravings have got easier in the last few days (though have been back a bit today) and I'm determined to keep going smile

Thanks hearts and you are doing brilliantly making it to 33 days. Well done! I agree, still count the days until the 100 at least as somehow saying months sounds like less time. I've done the secret smoker thing and have been hiding it from having dd - from my dad of all people (you wouldn't think I was in my 30's fgs)! He hates smoking with a passion and was really proud of me stopping. He'll find out in a couple of weeks when I meet them on holiday as the patch will give it away but know he'll be ok knowing I'm trying to stop again. Tried to find the NHS stop smoking app but couldn't for some reason. Got another one downloaded to count away the money and time smile I'm the same. Can't ever have a cigarette again as I know from the past it starts as the odd couple and before you know it I'm up to a pack again.

McNo I think the main thing is recognising your triggers to smoke and replacing them with something that works for you. No point in beating yourself up about it, just take it as a learning experience and get back on that horse grin

Well done on two weeks Oberon. I love reading about other people who have stopped longer than I have. Gives me hope.

I'm just looking forward to getting the first three days over and done with. It's funny the things I associate with smoking. Was sweating onions today and the thought popped into my head about three times about going for a smoke. I never realised how I nearly always go for a cigarette while I'm cooking onions slowly as it takes so long. Random!

Three cheers for Oberon two weeks! Fourteen whole days!

Ballroom - I haven't talked much about my dad on here but he is a very major reason I'm stopping. He hates smoking too, HATES it, has never smoked himself. His own father died young from emphysema, before which he burned down their family home by falling asleep on the couch one afternoon with a lit cigarette. Dad was on his way home from school I think it was, saw all the fire engines in their road and just ran all the way down. Fortunately no one was seriously hurt and it was only (all of) their possessions that they lost... just to give a bit of background. Anyways darling Dad now has cancer and not that much longer with us (oh the irony) and it sounds awfully maudlin but I really want him to know that his daughter is a bona-fide non-smoker before he dies. It's quite motivating...

So on that happy note, goodnight all and see you soon!

OberonTheHopeful Thu 04-Jul-13 20:21:23

Thank you everyone! It's reading about how well everybody is doing on here that keeps me going smile.

I had a really bad day yesterday (just stress) and found myself wanting a cigarette quite a few times. At one point I had my shoes on to go to the shop and get some, but managed to bring myself back from the brink, as it were. Today has been a bit better, and I'm really busy for the next few days, which I know will help.

It's great being able to share this on here. I don't think anyone who has been a long term smoker really knows how hard it can be to quit, though I've noticed that the second week was definitely easier than the first for me. A key trick for me is when I get a craving I immediately try to find something to do for a few minutes and it really helps.

I've also found I have more time. I think I was probably spending between one and two hours a day just smoking! And because I won't smoke in the house I usually went for a short walk or to the park.

Hearts, I'm really sorry about your dad sad. I'm sure he's over the moon though that you're doing so well and stopping smoking. 33 days (well, 34 now!) is amazing!

Oh my I'm not surprised your dad hates smoking with that happened in his past Hearts. So sorry to hear he is ill. I'm sure he is really proud of you for quitting.

I think the reason my own dad hates smoking so much is because my mum has always been a heavy smoker (30 a day for coming up to 40 years), whereas he has never, ever touched a cigarette in his life. He worries about her smoking, we all do as she's had a god awful cough for a year or two now. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if she had the beginnings of emphysema or COPD. It sounds a harsh thing to say and obviously I would hope against hope not but I don't know as she's in total denial that it could be the cigarettes causing her cough. It's always allergies, a cold or whatever and that pisses my dad off as I suppose he doesn't get the smoker mind-set of burying your head in the sand about the health issues (but deep inside you do worry don't you).

That's brilliant that you found the resolve not to go to the shops after coming so close Oberon. Way-hey!! I'm glad today was a better day for you. I find also find stress a bit hard to handle without my old crutch cigarettes. I think they say a craving lasts for up to three minutes so you're right, if you find something to do for those three, that's another down and defeated. Three minutes is nothing really when you think about it.

Personally I've not been too bad today. Took myself and the kids out for most of the day and ran into one of the mums from the school run and her dc so we took the kids to the park and bite to eat after. Was a good distraction as I never smoke when out and about with my dc anyway.

The cravings I am getting I'm just trying to tell myself it's nicotine cravings and not that I want a cigarette. Just the nicotine demon trying to fool me!! Trying to separate the craving from the want iykwim. Also for the first time imagining myself as a non-smoker in the future, looking back and wondering why I did it so long. I've always never been able to imagine myself as a non-smoker for any length of time, possibly because I've been smoking since 16 yo (my whole adult life), this time I can for some reason. Hopefully I can keep that mindset.

Oopla Sun 07-Jul-13 21:39:24

Oberon, that's immense that you managed to pull it back from the shoes on moment, that takes real strength. I hope things have been easier the last few days.

Ballroom, I like the way you talk about Separating the craving from smoking. I've noticed my cravings are identical to the emotional eating pangs ( biscuits, chocolate, and so forth!) that send me standing by the fridge grin I hope this warm weather is working out good for getting out and about an distracting yourself plenty.

Well done everyone who's quitting, thinking about quitting, done it..doing it !

I got my nhs referral gym pass this week from my stop smoking group grin so have been swimming 4 times lol yes 4 times and had my induction tonight at the gym. Never been to a gym ever was really nervous but it was great! I ran for much longer on the treadmill than I've ever been able to outside before. Can't wait to go back.

Have a great week everyone xx

Oh everyone is doing so GREAT! I am so so proud of us. Thank you all for your kind words about my dad. Three things to celebrate this weekend, Murray's win (of course), DHs birthday yesterday and 5 weeks smoke free!!

Oopla Mon 08-Jul-13 15:59:00

Wanted to ask longer term quitters if any of you dealt with insomnia? I've been early waking for the last 4-5 weeks confused really hoping it'll settle down but not sure of its part of a deeper issue. Guess time will tell but would love to hear from anyone who's been through this.

currentlyconfuseddotcom Mon 08-Jul-13 18:49:30

Hearts well done, that's marvelous!

And congrats to everyone else who has persevered.

I fell off the wagon but have just hopped back on, I'm determined now <grits teeth>

WannagotoDallas Mon 08-Jul-13 20:09:29

Oopla - I am also still not sleeping properly after 7 weeks stopped. I wake before dawn most days. If I sleep later its only because I'm so knackered after bad nights. I think initially it was a withdrawal symptom but it has just become a habit now maybe?

I'm lucky about the sleep thing, I'm on medication that knocks me out completely - think freight trains and earthquakes not waking me up! I have been having some of the most amazing psychedelic dreams though and I remember that happening last time too.

Also, when I was smoking, I would get up as soon as I woke up, have a coffee & fag then (if I could) go back to bed - but usually couldn't get back to sleep properly. Now I just sigh, stretch and roll over, it's bliss!

Welcome back currentlyconfused you can do it!

OberonTheHopeful Thu 11-Jul-13 19:36:33

I'm finding everyone on here such an inspiration to keep going!

I'm now at 3 weeks and 3 days, and certainly for the last few days haven't had many cravings (still on patches though). Like some others. I've been finding my sleep has been disturbed and obviously that could be at least partly down to quitting. I'm hoping it will get better soon smile.

My next appointment at the stop smoking clinic is on Tuesday and I'm thinking of asking for a lower dose patch (currently on stage 1, 25 mg). Would be interested to know if anyone else has any experience of cutting the dose?

Tomorrow is six weeks for me - finally stopped counting in days!

Good on you Oberon. I'm still on the hefty stage one patches and will continue for the next 2 weeks as we are going on vacation and I don't want to deal with it. I do remember last time it was a bit tough for a couple of days and some of the cravings came back, but it was manageable.

I had a little "win" last night. It was our staff summer do, and it was the first time since I quit that I was out drinking with people I know who smoke, in fact all my old smoking buddies at work. Other nights out up until now, I've either been with friends who don't smoke, or I've not been drinking. I was pretty drunk and still managed to control my urge to light up! grin grin I am very proud of myself!

mummyplonk Fri 12-Jul-13 22:55:08

Hello everyone, have been stealth following you all as you are doing so well, I made the decision this week and am on day 4 not smoking after 25 years, I really want to do it and tonight is bloody tough, have got a glass of wine so a challenge, but have already noticed how nice it is to wake up with your hair not smelling and keeping busy has meant my house is tidier than ever. Well done Hearts you came home smelling lovely, and after a few glasses, you should be very proud indeed grin

mummyplonk Fri 12-Jul-13 23:31:35

Hi laly, you sound just like me, I need a bUddy, I gave up 4 days ago I have a E Lites cigarette, they are brilliant in the evening for an unselfish inhale of smoke. Am feeling rediculously proud that I have made a few nights, but am a bit worried about the hottest, possibly most fun weekend of the year coming up, but I have loved waking up not smelling of smoke.

Mummy welcome!

For the first little while, and this happened the last time too, I felt really bereft, like I had lost a friend or the most fun part of my life or something. It was like mourning for my old smoking self. I think you just need to power through it.

I smelled like flowers on Friday morning according to the DDs grin

Oopla Sun 14-Jul-13 18:33:20

First almighty hangover without fags to Norse me through this weekend.

Made me think that I'd like to stop drinking too. I'm so rock and roll haha. Thing is though I've found without the cigarettes constantly occupying my mind there are all sorts of issues I need to deal with.

No more denial. Folk aren't kidding when they say this is hard! Good luck to you all, you're doing so well xx

mummyplonk Sun 14-Jul-13 19:45:49

Oopla, I thought the same thing about booze too, (for about a day at least) then had some great ideas about lots of exercise. Think my body would go into shock with too much healthiness after so long of abuse grin. Day six, yey nearly a week, not using the E Lites as much (brilliant invention) and have gone from thinking about a smoke from every 10 minutes to about every 20.

Hearts, you have hit the nail on the head, "Bereft" is the exact word to how I have been feeling, my day seems topsy turvey, am avoiding a coffee in the morning and a sit outside once the kids are asleep, am really into a good book at the moment and that is helping lots too.

Thank you whoever recommended the Nicorette app, its great to see how much you have saved/not smoked daily. Thanks for the company, well done everyone. xx

leesmum Sun 14-Jul-13 22:40:49

Hi to all the new is pretty much this time 4 weeks ago that I had my last fag.....can't believe I'm even writing hasn't been easy, some good and bad days but its getting easier. We can do it if we really want to, keep up the good work and remember the positives xxx

I'm sooo happy for you strong bunch of women, happy for me too. On hols right now in Turkey and drinking loads, (well ok I'm a lightweight so 2 glasses of wine and a vodka = loads) but doing really ok on the smoking front. None of the crowd we are with are smokers, and the kids around all the time, so that really helps. I'm loving the little things, like not having to sneak away from the table at the restaurant this evening for a quick fag - so much nicer to stay with my friends and family and join in the laughs and conversation. I am really only realising now just how anti social my smoking made me.

Lees and oopla and others (sorry am on phone so can't check back!) you lot are a huge help too. I love coming on here and seeing others in the same place. Onwards and upwards people!!

Mummy you're doing great. I remember the first time I got to about 8.30am before I even thought about smoking - so about 2ish hours after the smoking me would have had the first fag of the day. Got up, coffee, got dressed, kids fed & watered, school run, almost all the way to work before it even crossed my mind. I think I even posted about it up thread. It felt AWESOME and I was so proud of myself. Major breakthrough!

I think I'm down to thinking about it say half a dozen times a day now... and that's just thinking, not really a proper craving. Hopefully that will be you soon too!

I think it (smoking or more accurately, not smoking) occupies a lot more headspace at first compared to when you were smoking just because of the effort involved. I mean when I was smoking I would think " ooh lets have a fag" and then I would have one, done. But while quitting it's more like "ooh, a fag. No, mustn't. Oh but wouldn't it be nice. NO, stop thinking about it. But but but. No! Distract yourself. Ok this is just a craving. Just this once though? just a little puff? no, you can't, you know that" Etc etc ad fucking nauseum!!!

mummyplonk Tue 16-Jul-13 22:03:07

Ahh, have a fantastic holiday hearts, you say so many things that make me think. WhAt you say about sneaking out and being anti social is so true for me. In my past, am feeling guilty how many times I gave the kids a treat and popped them in front of the tv just so I could have a puff. And at family parties, I never thought what must people think when I am desperate to leave mid conversation. Am on my own tonight, think DH is half expecting to come home to me puffing, but after a week now I would be a total fool and can't wait to get to where you are Hearts. My morning one is the one I miss most, but I have also read is the most dangerous.

mummyplonk Tue 16-Jul-13 22:18:49

Ahh one of my oldest friends has suggested a couple of nights away in the summer holidays, I said sounds fantastic, now am all worried as she still smokes and this is going to be a major test and may change our usual, wine,tapas, smoke in the sun fun. Any tips greatly appreciated.

Oopla Tue 16-Jul-13 23:23:21

Mummy - me n my DP were just saying how we've never seen the first 2 mins of any episode of fireman Sam, batman, Spider-Man etc etc as we were always at the back door puffing away! Scandalous!

Hearts have a wicked holiday , it sounds lovely and you deserve the treat after all your hard work saying no to fags! Wish we were all there toosmile although of course we're positively tropical here grin
50 days smoke free today woooo!

mummyplonk Fri 19-Jul-13 23:57:26

Aaahhhh, just ahhhh. Am having a tough night really want a cig but am on day 12 am not going to give in now, when does the feeling go that you really want one when things go bad.

Mummy hope you managed to power through!
Last day of our lovely holiday today hmm and back to reality tomorrow.
I had a dream the other night that I had bought some cigarettes and was smoking all of them. I was relieved and sad when I woke up.

WannagotoDallas Thu 25-Jul-13 16:12:40

Well done for staying on the wagon Hearts! Must have been tough at times with the alcohol flowing and being relaxed. I still have an issue with drinking minus cigs. I am slowly reintroducing a glass of two of wine once a week, but still feel there is no point to alcohol without nicotine.

I still dream of smoking too, then wake up feeling awful and guilty, then I remember I no longer

WannagotoDallas Thu 25-Jul-13 16:16:29

Ooh just realised, exactly 2 months today since I stopped! But I think I will call it 9 weeks tomorrow as it sounds better smilesmilesmile

Wannago that is awesome! Congratulations. I remember when I first quit and you were about a week ahead of me and that seemed like a lifetime... well last Saturday I was 8 weeks; Thursday will be 2 months for me - I'm catching up to you wink wink Funny how we both dream about smoking, I wonder how long that will last!

I'm finding today a bit of a struggle actually - being back at work - I associate work with smoking a LOT. I'm going to start coming off the patches this week though.

tashbartell1 Fri 27-Sep-13 11:29:01

hi - im in the process of giving up - its hard but I found this on Itunes and it helps - it sends me reminders about not smoking and makes me aware of places to aviod where i used to smoke. Lots of willpower still needed tho. Good luck everyone.

Kickit84 Thu 02-Jan-14 22:29:15

Hi folks,

I just found this thread and read through. I'm in the process of quitting properly for the second time. Stopped for a year and it was amazing but for one reason or another I ended up with the ball and chain again.

I just wanted to share the one thing that really helped me for that year for which I gave up cold turkey having been a 20 or more a day smoker. Prior to that I had done stints of 3 days, 5 days and once two weeks. The feeling that your body and mind so craves is never anywhere near as nice as you think it's gong to be. It will make you feel just so awful having put in all the effort for nothing. Just remember when your at your lowest ebb, smoking that fag WILL make you feel worse.


Just marking my place. About to have my last ever cigarette confused Will be back to read (and possibly moan) tomorrow

weaselwomble Fri 03-Jan-14 00:06:15

Marking place too, hoping for some support.
Been trying the last two days and failed, cut down a bit though.
Giving it another go tomorrow so will check back.
Good luck you two!

whatiswrongwithyou Fri 03-Jan-14 13:24:05

Oh wow - just saw this thread and was on it originally * toiletbrush* then.

Over 6 months for me now since I last smoked and the one thing I've learnt through my many attempts at quitting is that you really have to want to give up.

There are some good apps to download to your phone which really helped me. Watching the money I was saving, and still am each week is very motivating, but best of all I'm no longer a slave to the fags, don't have to worry about people smelling it on me and my chest and sinuses have really improved.

Good luck to you all and stick with it. The cravings will pass!

TreacleMoon123 Sun 05-Jan-14 13:35:47

Is it ok if I join you ladies? Today is day 2 for me and I really really want one.. I'm finding it tough but trying to keep busy.
This is my 2nd attempt, I was off them previously for 7 months.

sapphirestar Thu 16-Jan-14 11:07:26

Is this thread still going? Can I join?
I want to stop smoking, thinking Sunday will be the day.
Saturday I will be working with a smoker and seeing my sister, also a smoker so that would be a bad day to stop.
Next week I'm working 5 full days so hoping that will keep me busy, worried about tea and lunch breaks though, what will I do instead of having a fag??
I've just bought a new car and the money I will save will cover the monthly payments and give me some spending money.
None of my family other than my sis know I smoke so no RL support.
Have got an ecig and just downloaded an app onto my phone, what else should I get?
Most of all I'm worried about being a bad tempered bitch and taking it out on my daughter if she won't get dressed, go to bed etc.
Can't believe how anxious I am!

namechange74 Tue 21-Jan-14 18:01:19

Hey sapphirestar did you manage to stop? I stopped on Sunday too and am having horrible anxious moments every hour or so but happy i'm nearly 2 days off the fags completely grin

namechange74 Wed 22-Jan-14 22:16:38

bumping for the quitters!
Encouragement welcome folks - feeling the strain!

scarfaceace Thu 23-Jan-14 08:47:28

Keep up the good work ladies. I really feel for you and am sending you all loads of encouragement. What a great job you're doing - feel proud of yourselves.

I gave up nearly five years ago after smoking very very heavily for 35 years, so I really know what you're going through. Stay strong.

ruralreynard Thu 23-Jan-14 12:43:12

Last cigarette last nighthmm like you ace been smoking about 35 years. Lots of quit attempts over the last 20 years. Longest 9 months about 3 years ago. Helped along by a couple of major surgeries which meant had to try to quit.
name hope you got through last night.
On e cigs this time, first experience of these. Doing absolutely nothing to deaden the craving so far sad. Oh well onwards and upwards smile

scarfaceace Thu 23-Jan-14 19:21:51

Good Luck Rural. I hear that e cigs are a huge help. Am I right in thinking that the actual craving only lasts a few minutes? If that is so, it's a matter of just getting through those few minutes - one craving at a time.

You know what? You're all amazing for doing what you're doing and I'm with you every step of the way, encouraging you and urging you to keep at it. You'll be so pleased with yourselves if you can do this. Please report back so we can all see how you're getting on.

ruralreynard Thu 23-Jan-14 20:55:16

Coming up to 24hours without a cig. Been puffing away on the e cig most of the day. Not sure if has helped but it has given me a headache.

scarfaceace Sat 25-Jan-14 08:02:09

Just thinking about you all and wondering how you're all getting on.

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