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Share your snoring woes and cures

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ShadeMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Apr-13 17:00:43

If you share a bed with a snorer, night times can be an exhausting experience. Or worse, if you're the one tooting like a foghorn, they can be horribly embarrassing. To mark National Stop Snoring Week (22 - 26 April) please would you share any sound tips - short of kipping elsewhere - you've discovered for getting some undisturbed shut-eye, or making sure your DP gets a little.

AtYourCervix Mon 22-Apr-13 18:36:16

I woke myself up snoring last night.

In my defence I have an evil cold.

Breaking up with my ex was the best way I could ever have got rid of his snoring. It was like someone cutting a bulldog in half with a rusty chainsaw.

When DH snores I tend to shove him onto his other side, that works for us.

Maat Mon 22-Apr-13 18:43:24

I sharpen my elbows so I can give a quick dig in the ribs grin

On a more serious note, DH has started using the nose strips and they definitely help. I know they don't work for everyone though.

nenevomito Mon 22-Apr-13 18:55:25

Earplugs. My marriage hangs on the use of earplugs.

hollyisalovelyname Mon 22-Apr-13 19:11:34

I gave up. He's in another room, sadly

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 22-Apr-13 19:18:03

Earplugs here too. Nothing works to stop the snoring.

msrisotto Mon 22-Apr-13 19:19:53

Earplugs are great but I became dependent on them, even wore them when DH was away with work. I think I've been less tolerant to his snoring since weaning myself off them.

We have found that having him rest his head on 3 pillows helps!

memphis83 Mon 22-Apr-13 19:25:35

I used to snore so badly my bedroom was soundproofed as a child but then I had my adonoids (sp?) out and it cured it.
Dp snores terribly on his back but stops on his side, it just means me rolling him or jabbing his ribs to get him to move.

HousewifeFromHeaven Mon 22-Apr-13 19:27:21

Yes to ear plug dependency.

I'm an earplugaholic [ grin]

these ones are worth every penny

I used to wear the disposable ones but they made my ears sore. Not the zen ones though. I thought I'd wasted £20 but I can honestly say I've used them every single night for almost a year and they are brillant.

LeeCoakley Mon 22-Apr-13 19:35:29

I'd be interested to know if anyone has had success with any mandibular advancement devices. Snore Wizard doesn't get very good reviews so I wondered if other makes were any good.

WildThongIWannaKnowForSure Mon 22-Apr-13 19:41:56

It is miserable isn't it.
We are in separate rooms at the moment, it's not conducive to a happy marriage though sad

staticlunge Mon 22-Apr-13 19:42:19

Sadly separate rooms. Husband snores when on his back and sides.

I can't use earplugs because if the children woke up in the middle of the night he wouldn't. I've had one in our room howling and he snored straight through it.

I also think, strange as it sounds, years of trying to sleep though his snoring has turned me into a very light sleeper.

He sees it as my problem not his. Its easier to let our marriage suffer than give up smoking and lose some weight.

If anyone has any miracle cures I would love to know sad

Twinklestarstwinklestars Mon 22-Apr-13 19:45:08

I snore, I've been for a sleep apnoea test which was clear.

Dp says since I've been pregnant its a lot worse so hopefully it'll improve again in July.

Dh snores so loudly I can hear him downstairs with the tv on

He is much worse now than he was when i met him, he snores just as bad no matter what position he is in whereas he only used to snore when on his back.
He went away with the DC's to his parents recently and DS2 ended up sharing DDs bed in the next room because he couldn't sleep with DH!

I have bought him nose strips, which didn't seem to make much difference. Nasal Spay - useless, as for the mandibula advancement (I just call it a mouth guard!) I bought one which made a bit of difference but he slurped and dribbled and couldn't get comfortable with it and then melted it when trying to clean it hmm so don't bother LeeCoakley!

I have begged him to lose weight but he has NO motivation and it just ruins our days together if I am constantly nagging. But it's not him who has sleep deprivation. I can get a few hours if I fall asleep before he comes to bed but it still wakes me up after a couple of hours.
I do have some ear plugs but I worry I'll miss something and then I wake up in a panic, I don't find them easy to wear.

My only salvation is the 4 nights every 8 weeks when he does a night shift! If we had a spare room that's where I would be.

LeeCoakley Mon 22-Apr-13 19:50:06

I'm the snorer. We have had to sell our touring caravan as no one else gets any sleep on holiday! I've started a new diet this week and hopefully if I can lose some weight the snoring mightl lessen.

SuperFurrySlippers Mon 22-Apr-13 19:54:26

Earplugs here too. Boots recently changed the ones I had been using for years and I didn't like them anymore, so I got a sample pack from snorestore to try different types. Have found that the simmer ones are more comfortable.

I still hear DS if he wakes up in the next room but they block out most of DH's snoring. He might get a kick or an elbow if its particularly bad, normally if he's been drinking, otherwise a nudge and telling him to turn over sometimes works.

LeeCoakley Mon 22-Apr-13 19:54:37

That's what most reviews say - makes you dribble and is uncomfortable. I'll save my £50 I think!

SuperFurrySlippers Mon 22-Apr-13 19:56:03


DuelingFanjo Mon 22-Apr-13 20:03:43

The only thing that works for me is my DH in another room and me wearing ear defenders. Nothing he has bought has worked long term, the strips did for a bit, the gumshield thing was useless, he slept through the electric shocker wristband. A punch in the guts has short -term results.

He needs to lose weight.

I have considered hypnotherapy for myself.

craftycottontail Mon 22-Apr-13 20:17:17

I'm the snorer in my house, it's been worse since I've been pregnant (only 4ish more weeks to go thankfully). Last night I was so on edge trying to not snore that I didn't sleep very well, and think I still ended up snoring and disturbing DH sad

I did find losing weight a few years ago made it virtually stop and generally felt better and asthma also improved vastly. Unfortunately have put most of it back on again so plan to get exercising after pregnancy.

Turniphead1 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:09:24

Subject dear to my heart. A little jolt of delight to see a link to new earplugs. Will try those zen ones - thanks.

DH a veteran snorer, snorter and - from 5am til he gets up at 6.15 - groaner.

Great deal of sympathy for those whose DHs seem to think its their problem. My DH hasn't been great about trying stuff. He needs to lose weight and is much worse after a drink.

BUT we have found something that has massively improved the snoring. It's a snoring ring - if you google it Good Night Snoring Ring (can't do a link on the iPad). But it really works not 100% but DH. Says he gets woken up much less. Googling it I see a Daily Mail article that says it helped Rosie Millards husband. £30 but worth it.

GillBates Mon 22-Apr-13 21:11:14

Nothing has worked for us. Its fine if DH sleeps on his side but he gets really sore shoulders so ends up on his back and then gets annoyed that I wake him up to turn him over! So we have ended up in separate rooms. It is the only way for us to get any sleep.

It is sad as we would love to share a bed together but getting good quality sleep is better for our marriage than sleeping in the same bed!

Turniphead1 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:11:52

For clarity - it goes on the little finger (not on the end of his piggy wig nose). Works on acupuncture principles.

Re earplugs after 20 years together I can no longer sleep without earplugs - even if he's not there. angry It's a kind of Pavlovian sleep thing with me. I use the Quies foam ones.

Erebus Mon 22-Apr-13 21:19:31

Weight loss.

DH has snored considerably less since he lost a couple of stone. Also, if he lies on his back, he doesn't so much snore as breathe really loudly. I hear every breath, in and out (obvs something is obstructing his airway a bit) so I jab him til he turns over onto his side. I also discovered that saying something, usually sharply, was more effective than just jabbing him! Mainly because, as a way younger man (20 years ago), a light touch would wake him and encourage him to move; now, post 50, I can actually kick him without effect grin!

I am very lucky that he recognises that his snoring is an issue to me.

Anifrangapani Mon 22-Apr-13 21:21:09

We go to bed several hours apart. It is either that or divorce papers. A no fault divorce - we are both really bad. He also grinds his teeth and I talk and flail. So in context the snoring isn't that bad.

DH bought a cheap mouthguard for a couple of quid from eBay, with the intention of forking out for a proper Snoreguard if it worked. It works fine (reduces snoring by about 80-90%) and he still hasn't got around to buying the expensive one.

DH tried the mouthguard but it didn't really work, the worst thing was it sometimes fell out and there would be this disgusting slimy thing in the bed. He really needs to lose weight, but just doesn't seem to have the motivation. Poking him has no effect, he snores whatever position he is in and I can thump him pretty hard to no effect. Hissing swearwords sharply at him works better. Can't wear earplugs because I wouldn't hear the DCs.

The only thing that generally works is me going to bed at least an hour before him but that does not make for great marital relations. it used to be awful when we had no spare room and a sofa so short you couldn't sleep on, i used to go and climb in with DS occasionally. We have a decent sofa now, I ended up on that last night.

I've heard there's an Iphone app that records and monitors it, I am tempted to try it, I honestly don't think he has a clue how loud he is.

I recorded DS3's snoring because he was in complete denial. When he listened to the recording, he still denied it was him, and accused me of sneaking a pig into his room.

Elibean Mon 22-Apr-13 21:50:41

Turniphead, I bought one of those for dh from the Ideal Home Exhibition - put it in his Xmas stocking grin

It seems to work a bit, interestingly. Nose strips work better, for him, and earplugs are crucial for me. All very well poking him in the ribs, but I have to wake up to do it - and guess which one of us is the light/bad sleeper sad

Those of you using earplugs do you hear your alarm clocks?

shrinkingnora Mon 22-Apr-13 21:58:20

Dh has sleep apnoea and now has a CPAP machine which has totally stopped his snoring. definitely worth getting it checked out particularly if your partner is doing loud snorts and stops and starts.

orderinformation Mon 22-Apr-13 22:02:00

Kicking or poking dh doesn't work. But lifting his pillow up at the corner and letting it drop back down, so basically moving his head, does.

TheCrackFox Mon 22-Apr-13 22:12:16

A pillow held, firmly, over the face for several minutes has a 100% success rate in curing snoring.

<joke, joke, joke>

flamingtoaster Mon 22-Apr-13 22:17:37

DH can snore so loudly that I cannot hear the TV if I am watching it in bed. We got him a Snore Ring - it is worn on the little finger of the right hand for men and on the little finger of the left hand for women and it presses on acupressure points. We bought it in our local Health Shop - they said we could bring it back if it didn't work but they had never had one brought back. It has worked amazingly well - it reduces the volume considerably and also the frequency of the snores.

(Even online there is a money back guarantee - e.g.

Massively marking my place for tips.

DP snores like a freight train and DD (2yo) is following in his footsteps. I'm convinced she has the largest tonsils know to man.

DP now works nights, on the nights he's working its AMAZING. I get a full nights uninterrupted sleep, I honestly don't know what I'd of done if he hadn't got this job when he did 12 months ago. Between a non sleeping baby and his snoring I was close to breaking point.

Downside is his body clock is shot to bits. On the nights he's home the only way I can get to sleep is to go to bed before him. Except he's always passed out on the sofa by 9. Some nights he's in bed before DD at 7.30!

AA others have said earplugs aren't ideal as I wouldn't hear DD on the rare occasions she wakes up, as he sleeps through. And we don't have a spare room!

Oh and he takes the nose strips off in his sleep hmm

shrinkingnora Mon 22-Apr-13 22:23:16

Dh will also be having his tonsils out soon.

shrinkingnora Mon 22-Apr-13 22:25:19

And he takes his mask off in his sleep too! But wears it enough that I get some sleep.

Turniphead1 Mon 22-Apr-13 22:27:05

I can hear my kids and my alarm thro my ear plugs.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 22-Apr-13 22:33:42

The mandibular thing did nothing to help DH's snoring. I was beyond disappointed.

DH could also do with losing a couple of stone - he joined the gym after Christmas and went 3 times a week for the first fortnight. Now it's barely 3 times a month and he's not changed his eating habits either.

I'm going to have a look at the snore ring thing though - we've got nothing to loose!!

ohforfoxsake Mon 22-Apr-13 22:38:22 was a life saver and saved DH from having to have a mask at night. It's definitely helped his sleep aponea, and he doesn't fall asleep mid morning anymore, but still snores like a bastard.

I no longer feel stabby as we have separate rooms. sad

DebussyHead Mon 22-Apr-13 22:39:58

Watching with interest. We are in separate rooms since birth of baby 6 months ago, I would have a breakdown with sleep deprivation otherwise. I want to sleep in same bed but I want to sleep full stop more. Everyone jokes about snoring but it is a seriously damaging issue for marriages and wellbeing (of the sleep deprived partner). I used to find it really odd when I was a teenager that my parents had separate rooms (as did my grandparents) and now I totally understand. My Dad is a terrible snorer too and Mum said she couldn't tolerate it after 20 years of rubbish sleep.

The sleep ring sounds promising, might try it.

madamimadam Mon 22-Apr-13 22:53:03

Another vote for SleepPro. DH tried nosestrips, other mouth-guards, the lot but SleepPro has really, really worked. I can't recommend it enough.

DH says it's brilliant - as long as it stays in (He has, in his sleep, taken it out & thrown it across the bedroom hmm). It's £50 for 2 but they do last a couple of years. And save marriages.

Thanks for the link to the zen earplugs. I gave up on earplugs as I used the disposable ones but kept getting ear infections (I worried that I'd not wake up if anything happened in the night. So that kept me awake too...)

madamimadam Mon 22-Apr-13 23:09:05

Just shown DH this thread, in the spirit of openness, mutual trust and not at all to say 'Look! Look! It's not just me!'

He says that the SleepPro has also given him a better night's sleep since he started using it. 'It does feel as though there's too much in your mouth the first time but you get used to it very quickly.'

<Harry Hill turn to camera>

Torrorosso Mon 22-Apr-13 23:10:48

I was on the verge of leaving, or murdering dh until he started using Rhynil.

It's a herbal spray costing about £18 for three months - the steroids had made his nose bleed.

Snoring hasn't stopped and I still need earplugs and to thump him over on his side occasionally but we are now back sharing a bed.

Lilypad34 Mon 22-Apr-13 23:20:25

I've decamped two floors down to the guest bedroom which I will now make my bedroom..I'm a poor sleeper anyway but hearing his snoring whilst I toss and turn has put me in danger of becoming the next episode of Crime Stories - Women who snap. angry

DuelingFanjo Mon 22-Apr-13 23:21:15

All these things that work 80%, how is that 'working'? I absolutely can't use earplugs of any kind because all they do is muffle the sound of my husband's snoring and I can still hear him even if he's in another part of the house, and if I can still hear him then I can't sleep.

Niklepic Mon 22-Apr-13 23:23:18

So far nothing has worked for DH. He's not overweight, still snored when he gave up smoking, has tried throat sprays, nasal strips, mouth guards etc. I did use earplugs but have had to put the baby in her own room because he kept waking her up and I won't be able to hear her. He went to the doctor who said that he wouldn't refer him because he doesn't actually stop breathing. At 2 in the morning when I've just got back into bed from getting the baby to sleep, I've been tempted to get him that referral but think the imprint on the memory foam pillows might put me in a sticky situation.

Ezza1 Mon 22-Apr-13 23:31:52

Watching with interest. I can still hear DP with ear plugs in sad I've found that blaring music in my ears from my ipod is the only thing that blocks him out. Probably not the best thing but the only way I can get to sleep/get back to sleep.

Can hear him now and he's upstairs sad

He's not overweight, doesn't drink every night so no changes in lifestyle apparently required. Tried the sprays and the nose strips. Its my problem apparently.

Cannot bloody wait to move to a house with a spare room.

YoniMatopoeia Mon 22-Apr-13 23:41:51

Watching with interest

Bluemary3000 Tue 23-Apr-13 00:20:02

My dh isn't a snorer as such but can't breathe through his nose so breathes really heavily all night long with his mouth wide open. It's like sleeping in a room with the wind from a storm but without the thunder!
Years ago he had an operation to remove the cartilage from his nose as it was blocking the airwaves. That worked really well for a while.
Now he has to sleep on his side, he always falls asleep first (he gets up stupidly early and I don't), I can then make sure he stays on his side long enough for me to go to sleep by placing my hand on his back. Sounds a bit weird but it works. He snores when he's drunk but then so do I!!

NotMostPeople Tue 23-Apr-13 01:04:34

DH's snoring is very very loud, we've tried a lot of things and he's been to the doctor, but the simple fact is that he is overweight. He didn't snore when I met him and he was a man with a six pack. I sleep with headphones in and listen to radio four to drown him out. It's quite an art to find the right sort of program, not too interesting or I'll stop myself going to sleep to listen to the peogram, no music - too lively, not depressing, or potentially upsetting. The archers is good, but a bit too short.

A lot of the time I'm woken by his snoring and if it gets bad he sleeps on the sofa. We're trying to move at the moment to a house with a spare bedroom, although I don't want to be permanently in separate rooms. I haven't had to get up in the night for children in years, but I still rarely get into bed and sleep all the way through to the morning - it's not fun.

DH is away at the moment, I'm supposed to be taking advantage and catching up on some sleep - do you see what time it is?

msrisotto Tue 23-Apr-13 07:40:19

Poor you NotMostPeople!

I would like to add to my previous post that I have taken to sleeping with a pillow on my head to muffle his snoring. grin

Whirliwig72 Tue 23-Apr-13 10:31:16

I'm a snorer but bought a Tomned Somoguard which is a guard you mould yourself (which stops your jaw dropping down) and its very good. According to my partner I either don't snore or snore much more quietly when I wear it. I also feel like I've slept better after wearing it. The device costs about £100 which is dear but it does work and can be adjusted to get a really good fit. It feels a bit odd at first - my jaw was a bit stiff for about a week and I produced more saliva but both issues went after about a week. I bought a denture box and sterdent tablets to clean it with so it's always nice and minty when I put it in.
One thing I will say is there are different types of snorers and what works for one person will not always work for another. To find out the best snoring device for you or your partner I recommend the interactive test in the British Snoring Association website:

Whirliwig72 Tue 23-Apr-13 10:33:45

Just to add I bought the Tomed AP model - but there are cheaper / different models available .

mindingalongtime Tue 23-Apr-13 12:51:11

I posted on the other thread, DH had a £350 mouthguard made, it made him sound like Darth Vader. He now has a Cpap machine......silence!

CMOTDibbler Tue 23-Apr-13 13:01:19

My dh has been a snorer since he was a child. A really, really, really bad snorer - he'd had people banging on the hotel room wall, standing outside our tent shouting abuse about the level of his snoring.

6 years ago he finally went to a sleep clinic, got diagnosed with very severe OSA, and has been on CPAP ever since. There is silence at night now, and I'm very thankful that his GP took him seriously and did the referral as his consultant said his life would have been very significantly shorter without treatment.

Marrow Tue 23-Apr-13 13:10:02

Oh my goodness! After reading this thread last night I bought a snoring app to see just how bad my snoring is and if DH is justified in his moaning.

The results are in and they are terrible! Apparently a score of 100 puts you in the top 10% of worst snorers. My score was 117 and I am very, very loud! Going back to reread thread for some ideas on how to reduce it. No wonder Dh always moans!!

Dh is a snorer. He has sleep apnoea that he won't see anyone about as he's overweight. He has a mouth guard but he can't keep it in all night. Sleeping on his back makes it worse.

I read somewhere that sewing half tennis balls into the back of a t-shirt/ pj top stops them rolling on their back and reduces snoring. Dh won't try it though.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Footle Tue 23-Apr-13 18:49:55

My DH was about a stone overweight , snored loudly and had sleep apnoea. He had surgery on his uvula ( dangly bit in throat ) which pretty much cured it. This was maybe 12 years ago. He is now leaner and fitter and sometimes snores a bit, but I can sort him out with a quick shove. I'm interested that no-one else has mentioned surgery.

Marrow Tue 23-Apr-13 20:20:27

Lunatic - it's called SnoreLab. It records your snoring all night and gives you all the stats for it. You can also listen to samples of the snoring.

I started using a CPAP machine on March 19th, after having a sleep study on Feb 5/6th. The CPAP mask can be an arse to wear but I'm surprised at how quickly I go to sleep. For years - like, since I was 5 - it's always taken me ages to get off to sleep. Now, 30 years later, I'm several st overweight as is my husband who also snores. Difference is, he won't go to the dr's about it!! confused
In the last 6-12 weeks, I've learned through research and info from my dr that he's a classic sleep apnoea case.


TigerFeet Tue 23-Apr-13 20:41:15

Both dh and I snore terribly and it's got worse over the years as we've got fatter

I really ought to see the doctor about it but I know that the first thing I will be told to do is lose the weight and I've been struggling with that anyway for various reasons.

I snore when I'm lying on my side. I snore even when my mouth is closed. DH is a back lying gob open snorer.

We rarely sleep in the same room, dh uses ear plugs. Normal sex life etc but just don't SLEEP in the same room.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsFrederickWentworth Tue 23-Apr-13 21:11:23

Check for sleep apnoea.the masks have transformed my sleep.

I am now the snorer. Need to lose weight and also deal with a sinus or rhinitis infection that blocks my nose every 10 mins.

tanukiton Tue 23-Apr-13 21:49:58

Separate rooms here save my sanity and a cuddle in the morning to save the marriage smile

The GP refused to refer DH unless he lost weight, but he isn't trying very hard is finding it difficult. I have wondered about finding a private clinic for an assessment.

It doesn't seem like sleep apnoea to me (and I have spent plenty of time listening to it), very regular, no sudden snorts, breathing is smooth in and out, but just so noisy. The only position he doesn't snore in is face down.

Kewcumber Tue 23-Apr-13 22:36:46

like others here I'm a sleep apnoea sufferer. developed it suddenly after being on steroids. my apnoea index was 106. ie I stopped breathing 106 times an hour!

I went to the doctor after I fell asleep driving the car.

The biggest cause of death to sleep apnoea sufferers is car crashes which also kills others.

If you are a snorer or live with a snorer make sure you familiarise yourself with the symptoms.

5madthings Tue 23-Apr-13 22:54:31

Marking my place. I did a thread about dp's snoring recently. I think he has sleep apnea, he sleeps downstairs quite often and i can still hear him, drives me mental.

I am going to look at a snoring app and record him and send him to the drs.

headlesslambrini Wed 24-Apr-13 07:54:36

Dh is the snorer here. He is only 11 stone so weight is not his issue. I can't use ear plugs as I don't like the idea of not hearing if the DC's get up in the middle of the night. He tends to go to sleep with his arms wrapped round his neck to hold the quilt in place. As soon as he drops off, I re-arrange his arms and move his head slightly and this tends to stop him but only until he naturally moves in his sleep a couple of hours later.

We have reverted to separate beds, it's the only way were we both get uninterrupted sleep. Not the ideal solution but we are a lot happier as we are not constantly sniping at each other through tiredness.

Kewcumber Wed 24-Apr-13 09:52:13

hearing snoring in another room can be one of the signs of sleep apnoea. If you google Epworth sleep score you can grade yourself/DH and decide whether a trip to the GP is in order.

Sleep apnoea sufferers tend to have very high blood pressure and therefore higher risk of strokes.

You do not need to be overweight to have sleep apnoea, though it is more common.

5madthings Wed 24-Apr-13 10:03:28

Shall look up the epworth sleep score. Dp def does the snoring and then pauses before jolting and taking a big breath etc, pretty sure he has a problem but trying to get him to the gp... He did look at some stuff on sleep apnea and agreed it sounds like him and said he would go but he is always too busy...

Kewcumber Wed 24-Apr-13 11:37:42

5madthings. My life was transformed with a CPAP machine. I thought I was depressed - everything seems like too much effort, I dosed off all the time, never felt well, kept putting on weight (broken sleep encourages weight gain), couldn't concentrate, short term memory was shot to bits, I looked grey and unhealthy and my blood pressure was 175/115.

Losing your job because you are under-performing isn't uncommon with sleep apnoea - maybe your DH would have more time to go to his GP then!

I know I'm preaching to the converted but make him read my post. I'm a different person now - life is much better.

Having undiagnosed sleep apnoea is like living your life in the shadows.

5madthings Wed 24-Apr-13 12:02:36

Dp has a tendency to.depression. Falls asleep anywhere etc shall hastle him to go to the gp, he has work.this week so no.excuse!

Kewcumber Wed 24-Apr-13 12:11:17

my "depression" wasn't depression at all - lifted totally within about 2 weeks of CPAP. Cpap is a bugger to get used to but I did and find it hard to sleep without it now.

grants1000 Wed 24-Apr-13 13:44:48

Can you just buy a CPAP machine?

DH was tested for sleep apnea but does not have it, although consultant said from his results he was one of the worst snorers she'd ever seen. I'm convinced a CPAP machine would be the cure.

He had one operation to laser his nose, small nostrils for his size, that had been damaged by a cricket ball in the face 18 years ago and it worked for about 3 years.

He needs to loose weight, but he hasn't. We've been in separate rooms for 5 years, yes you read it right 5 YEARS. I miss the intamacy and I don't want sex with him because he makes me too pissed off with the lack of effort with the snoring.

We went away for 5 days over half term with the children, all in the same room, if the children fall to sleep before him it does not wake them. But I was weeping with exhaustion in the bathroom at 1.30am on the third night, but this does not make him sort it out.

He's needs a fitted Somniguard thing £1,000 but we can't afford it yet. We have tried everything on the market and nothing works, my Mum even made him an elasticated head guard thing to keep his jaw locked shut, but it did not work.

It's truly heart breaking and fucking horrendous.

We get on great otherwise and have been together scince we were 16 & 18 but I think in later life it will have been the snoring that will drive us apart.

grants1000 Wed 24-Apr-13 13:46:24

After reading all the thread it basically boils down to the fact that men who snore are lazy, fat inconsiderate bastards! And I include my own Dh in this.

Kewcumber Wed 24-Apr-13 14:38:20

you can get a basic cpap machine for around £400-500 I think but you need a letter from a doctor. If he doesn't have sleep apnoea then I'm not sure why you think one would work confused CPAP machines keep your airway open by forcing air down it - if his airway doesn't close then I'm not sure how this will change things.

Also trying to get people with sleep apnoea to actually wear their mask is a bugger even when it makes them feel so much better - I don't see how you would make him wear one.

Have he tired a CPAP mask - do you understand how intrusive they are?

Would you like me to photograph mine perhaps if you haven't seen one in action?

DuelingFanjo Wed 24-Apr-13 14:53:52

"We went away for 5 days over half term with the children, all in the same room, if the children fall to sleep before him it does not wake them. But I was weeping with exhaustion in the bathroom at 1.30am on the third night, but this does not make him sort it out."

you poor thing sad I feel the same sometimes.

grants1000 Wed 24-Apr-13 16:56:21

Kewcumber - I have seen one in action and know what they look like and the NHS consultant said they do work for snoring and would in his case but he can't get one on the NHS for snoring only sleep apnea, so his GP may be able to give him a prescription to buy one privately.

I could not give a shit about how intrusive they are to the wearer, if it makes him stop snoring so he feels less half dead each day and I don't have to listen to the snoring, so be it.

duelingfanjo - thanks, people think I exagerate about it, but is it so loud on both the in and the out breath, no one could sleep next to him.

mindingalongtime Wed 24-Apr-13 17:07:27

You can hire them to try them out, the one DH has is very neat and unobtrusive, I was amazed he'd consider it, but the knows it works and is quite happy with it. The total size of the box with all the bits is like a child size shoe box. There are ones and some are very cheap and noisy, his is silent.

This site is good for info -

hollyisalovelyname Wed 24-Apr-13 17:14:40

Grants I feel your pain ... I had to start taking sleeping tablets to get some sleep. Now sleep apart but miss intimacy and it does impact on the relationship. On holidays i always bring them otherwise i would not sleep. Dc's are older , so i don't have to worry if they need me in the night. Like you, it was the indifference - not bothering to get it checked out at a sleep clinic, not willing to do anything to change. Broken nose- many times-rugby - probably the cause.

Kewcumber Wed 24-Apr-13 17:43:18

I wasn't thinking you would care how intrusive it was! My point was more whether he would actually stick with it. My sleep apnoea was truly dreadful and I really really struggled with it the feeling of having something strapped tightly around your head and face is very claustrophobic - and I don't suffer at all from claustrophobia.

Don't buy a cheap noisy one - the noise may be as bad as snoring. Hiring would be a better option - lot of money to spend if he doesn't tolerate it well.

januarysnowdrop Wed 24-Apr-13 22:16:50

I used to snore until I learnt the Buteyko technique for controlling my asthma. One of the things it recommends is to make yourself break the habit of mouth-breathing by putting a little piece of microporous tape (or sticking plaster) over your mouth at night: as well as sorting out my asthma this also cured my snoring! It also magically (and quite counter-intuitively) helps to unblock your nose at night of you've got a cold. It feels very funny at first, but is well worth it. A little-known but cheap and effective solution.....

TheRealMBJ Thu 25-Apr-13 04:53:42

Not all snorers are fat and lazy! DH is awful. We are in separate rooms mostly and I use earplugs when we have to share (guests etc). He snores no matter which position he is in but when on his back he's worse. Nose strips make a bit of a difference but not really enough to warrant the cost and the jaw advancement thing was impossible as he can't sleep with it in.

I has had one consultation with an ENT but really needs to go back again

Kewcumber Thu 25-Apr-13 11:45:19

never heard of buteyko technique - must look it up. One of the reasons I need a whole mouth mask rather than just a nose one is that I'm a mouth breather - also tend to get sinusitis. Must try it out. How long did you try before it worked and have you been able to give up the tape?

I am allergic to micropore so couldn't wear it all night but can probably find some kind of plaster that also works.

Elibean Thu 25-Apr-13 15:33:32

fascinated to hear about the buteyko technique....but my immediate reaction is to think I'd feel as though I were suffocating? I tend towards blocky/stuffy nose, could I still try it?

(though it's dh that snores - he tried an app last night which told him he really wasn't too bad shockhmm)

mindingalongtime Thu 25-Apr-13 17:06:07

DH had a follow up today and said that he felt as though he was waking up with a cold every morning, so they said they could fix that by putting a humidifying element in his apnoea machine. they are so helpful at the hospital.

Kewcumber Thu 25-Apr-13 21:05:58

I have a humidifier minding they are generally fab - though mine doesn;t seem to be working atm. Mind you if you turn them up too high they drip into your mouth and you think you're drowning in your sleep!

5madthings Thu 25-Apr-13 21:09:14

I spoke to dp about his snoring last night and said he needs to see gp and he has an app for next tues smile is it worth me recording his snoring so the gp can hear it?

CMOTDibbler Thu 25-Apr-13 21:21:26

Yes, and go with him so you can tell the GP just what impact the snoring has on you.

Kew, do you have a fleecy hose cover? DH reckons his makes a big difference to 'drippage'

IwishIwasmoreorganised Thu 25-Apr-13 21:26:00

Yes, 5madthings. Do.

Objective evidence can't be dismissed as easily as your DH saying, "Mrs5 says that I snore terribly and has sent me to see you!".

Kewcumber Thu 25-Apr-13 23:30:15

I must admit CMOT that if its chilly I just bury the hose under the duvet with me. My cpap machine and I have a very healthy and happy relationship in bed!

Yes record snoring - in fact I would record it from outside the room as well as inside.

5madthings Thu 25-Apr-13 23:40:21

Right i shall record him. I can get an app on your phone to recird snoring? Will have a look.

Oh abd i did that test questionnaire you recomended and he scored 16? And it said indicates moderate sleep apnea? See a dr!

januarysnowdrop Fri 26-Apr-13 22:21:20

Re Buteyko, it's a Russian-invented technique for controlling the symptoms of asthma; the fact that it also works for snoring was a fortuitous side-effect! Taping your mouth is, bizarrely, ideal if you have a tendency to a blocked nose at nights because it actually helps to unblock your nose. It does feel very strange at first, and I can vividly remember thinking "this is a really stupid idea because I am going to suffocate", but it's great, and I haven't suffocated despite using mouth tape at nights for the last 5 years or so. I'm allergic to microporous tape too, but a little piece of sticking plaster works fine. Not sure if I've trained myself to stop mouth-breathing completely - I know I'm better than I was, but I still tape at nights anyway so that I can be certain that for 8 hours in every 24 I'm definitely breathing through my nose.

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