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Dry January - a month off the booze - anyone want to join me?

(631 Posts)
Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 14:54:03

I am determined to do this - I drink most days, it's become a habit, just a glass or two, more at weekends, but really want to give myself an extended break.

The worst time of day for me is between 6-8 pm, before we eat. So am going to try and eat earlier and it would be great if I could come on here and get some support about that time of day!

does anybody want to have a dry January with me?

And yes I do have a hangover today grin

BodyOfEeyore Tue 01-Jan-13 14:54:46

No way! I did consider it for a moment.

muriel76 Tue 01-Jan-13 14:57:13

I have a dry January every year. I always feel better for it.

I'm not sure if I'll get on here every day but just wanted to say go for it, you won't regret it. I'll post when I can smile

atosilis Tue 01-Jan-13 14:57:42

I've signed up for it!

rhondajean Brazil Tue 01-Jan-13 15:00:47

Yep me and dh said this morning we would do this. He might finish the peroni in the fridge tonight then start but I'm already on it.

I have a hangover, not bad but I don't like it. I need to lose a cou

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 15:00:57

Thanks Muriel. Dh says he's going to do t too, and he usually manages the full month when he does, I am crap.

Great Atosilis! Would be great to be able to distract myself from my nightly glass of red!!!

rhondajean Brazil Tue 01-Jan-13 15:01:12

Oops phone sorry lose a couple if pounds too and it will help.

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 15:03:05

It deffo will Rhonda - I am low carb boot camping as well so no alcohol is in keeping with that.

Going to move the gin and wine to the garage, when I get out of bed at some point today... blush

SugaricePlumFairy Tue 01-Jan-13 15:03:27

I'm going to start tomorrow, definitely!!.

I am determined. smile

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 15:04:47

That (grin) looks like a very determined face indeed sugarice

muriel76 Tue 01-Jan-13 15:07:55

I've been 'lucky' to have a horrible flu virus this week so have not had a drink since Christmas Day so I have a head start to my usual hungover New Year's Day.

Every year I get to the end of January and feel like I could happily never drink again, it's amazing how quickly you get used to it and I do love a glass of wine! Every night virtually grin

SugaricePlumFairy Tue 01-Jan-13 15:10:07

Really I am grin, honest!

Dh back at work tomorrow as are most people so this is our last day of holidays .< refills glass to finish it off>

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 15:13:49

Well I feel poisoned today after last night's excess so easy to say it today, it will be tomorrow onwards when I need you all to help maintain my resolve.....

DancingInTheMoonlight Tue 01-Jan-13 15:16:41

I'll join you. I'm on a mission to lose a stone before i turn 30 at the end of Feb. Over the last few months the number if glasses of wine i have in a week is creeping up (as is my weight). A dry January is just what i need...

tuffinmop Tue 01-Jan-13 15:38:06

i'm in! Day one, hungover and feeling sketchy, looking forward to seeing it through and feeling better smile

Godlessdomestic Tue 01-Jan-13 16:12:11

I'm doing a dry Jan too (apart from Friday as we are out with friends). I don't drink a huge amount but am getting a wee bit too fond of a quick glass in the evening. Will do me good to give it a rest this month.

kotinka Tue 01-Jan-13 16:12:14

I'm in! had a sober new year (2 G&T's) and I feel GREAT, I want to keep feeling like this.

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 16:16:10

Excellent.

Love your name Godless

I don't have many (any?) social things on this month which will make it easier.

God I feel so rough still - have managed to get out of bed, put the d/w on, put tea on for the DC and tidy up a bit. back to bed for a bit now I think. Hangovers are such a collossal waste of time aren't they?

Maryz Cote D'Ivoire Tue 01-Jan-13 16:18:12

I have lots of booze and chocolates left over from Christmas. So I've decided to use it all up this week, and start the day the kids go back to school and run from there to the February half term.

So still a months, but not starting today as I'm not sure I could cope with it today

Gillyweed001 Tue 01-Jan-13 16:22:33

My DH is doing this to raise money for cancer research UK. Its called Dryathlon.

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 20:21:49

Ok so that's day 1 done. I am going to bed as cannot bear feeling this bad any longer. I wish resisting the wine could be this easy every day.

Looking forward to a booze free month!!!!

Godlessdomestic Tue 01-Jan-13 20:26:38

I've managed to resist a Baileys coffee and escape the clutches of a chilled Pinot in the fridge. I have a feeling it's not going to be this easy for long - I am jaded from last nights margarita excess!

Love your name Godless - twirls - thank you grin

Doshusallie Tue 01-Jan-13 20:37:03

I am not going to be able to have it in the house godles - fact. Right deffo going to bed now.

tuffinmop Wed 02-Jan-13 09:17:13

Mornin Ladies!
Day 2 here we come, still feeling sketchy from NYE blush so shouldn't be a taxing day.
Anyone got any ideas for distractions at the danger time? (mine is when getting tea ready and when DC's in bed - I habitually reach for a glass of wine) I am thinking of power walking every evening for 10 mins after they are in bed to clear my head and get the heart beating. I need some clarity and head space and am hoping I will be able to embrace my sobriety.

Sugarice Wed 02-Jan-13 09:26:47

My trigger time for a glass is 5.30 ish when doing tea for the boys.

I will resist, I will resist! grin

livingthedrama Wed 02-Jan-13 11:56:55

Hey I'm in! Finished off the last of the Christmas white last night so feeling pretty determined as I type. Yes, it's that 'kids finally in bed' moment for me... fizzy water doesn't quite hit the same spot! Gave up for 2 weeks before Xmas and felt fantastic so I know I'll feel better for a month off - it's the toss up between a cheery slightly tipsy evening and a fresh faced morning start... I just have to convince myself that the morning feeling is better than the night time boozy feeling...!

AngryFeet Wed 02-Jan-13 12:00:50

I'm definitely doing it. I ended up having half a dry December due to illness anyway. I drank too much last year and wanted to cut way back so starting with a dry month will help a lot smile

Whatdoiknowanyway Wed 02-Jan-13 12:04:48

I do this every year. Don't usually last the whole month but even 3 weeks helps. For me alcohol stops feeling like a treat over Christmas as there is so much of it about. I like to get back to appreciating what I'm drinking.

atosilis Wed 02-Jan-13 12:09:59

Yesterday was ok, it's January 12th when I'm meeting friends in London which will be a test. And every Friday night.

I've persuaded OH to do it with me (boy, he needs to) so it's a competition to not cave in first. All the alcohol has been removed from the house.

I must start taking a photo of myself every day, then compare Jan 31st to Jan 2nd. If there is no amazing difference, then fuckit, back to the alcohol. grin

I'll join in too! Although DH & I not had night out over Christmas (& we've been @ in-laws) so have baby sitter booked for fri for our Christmas night out so may have a drink then...

but you're right whatdo I'm sick of even looking at the stuff, & I've not had loads but almost every day has involved a glass of wine over Christmas.

If I do have a drink fri will do til at least 5th feb ... Hopefully.

Have u got any fitness DVDs dosh maybe you could do that after kids go to bed?

IslaMann Wed 02-Jan-13 12:21:38

I've also signed up for Dryathalon. I'm more likely to stick to it as I've pledged money to Cancer Research. I have a night out in London planned for the 14th, so will pay a £15 forfeit if I cave in and have a glass of wine with dinner.

gazzalw Wed 02-Jan-13 12:36:28

Yes, we're going to try too although I think I'm more likely to cave in than DW has a steely resolve if she puts her mind to it! I think over Christmas it does rather seem as if you're poisoning yourself with alcohol and that's not even with really over-doing it.....

DW is hoping that giving up wine for a month might lose her some pounds of flesh too!

gazzalw Wed 02-Jan-13 12:37:25

Agree that it's when you sit down in the evening that you are more likely to want a drink. DW's solution is to take up some type of craft activity which keeps her obsessively occupied!

noddyholder Wed 02-Jan-13 12:37:38

I'm in!

Almostfifty Wed 02-Jan-13 12:40:20

We do it every year, lose the weight we've put on over Christmas and then some more.

We don't get rid of any of the booze, we have wine and beer in the fridge but just ignore it.

LulaPalooza Germany Wed 02-Jan-13 12:51:58

I'm in until 18 January, when we go away for 3 weeks. I don't have enough willpower not to drink when visiting the in-laws (lovely people, all heavy drinkers).

Then when we get back it's my birthday... but after that I am giving up booze and fags for the foreseeable. Hopefully.

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 13:58:34

Morning all abstainers. Day 2 indeed. Still have banging headache from NYE so today should be easy too.

My problem days will be Thursday nights, Friday nights, Saturday nights, what am I talking about, every night. Will get a load of slimline tonic in, it does actually taste near enough to gin & slim. And some fizzy water too [adds to ever growing shopping list].

Exercise DVDs unlikely for me in the evening as go to the gym 2-3 times a week - I will just eat earlier I think, never ever drink after eating evening meal, weird eh???

I think once I have got over this first weekend it will be easier as I will be used to it. DH also doing it and it will be a competition here too......

weegiemum Argentina Wed 02-Jan-13 14:02:03

I'll join.

Tomorrow!

(Jan 2 is a public holiday in Scotland!!)

But yes, drank waaaay too much in December (my birthday then Christmas then our wedding anniversary!).

I'm sure an abstemious month would kick start the weight loss again (I've got 2 stone left to lose after losing 7 last year) and just be generally virtuouus!

noddyholder Wed 02-Jan-13 14:04:19

I am fine as long as I don't go out! Am happy with water and tea etc at home. Meeting friend for lunch tomorrow and she is a BIG drinker so will have to be on my best behaviour but tbh I don't find it that hard its just habit. Feeling and looking better makes it easy

Sugarice Wed 02-Jan-13 14:10:21

I rarely drink after an evening meal either , yes it is weird! grin.

Our drinking pattern is usually around 5 - 7.30, possibly as late as 8 which is due to Christmas.

AngryFeet Wed 02-Jan-13 14:12:10

I have one social thing on 12th Jan (well actually 2 birthdays in one night both about 10 miles apart so I thought I could drive and use that as an excuse). Typically one is fancy dress so I will be sober and dressed as a crocodile.

tinkerx5 Wed 02-Jan-13 14:29:32

My trigger can sometimes be this time too. Most of the time though, it is once my youngest is safely tucked up in bed, and the TV goes on to what the grown ups of the house are watching. Tuffinmop has an excellent suggestion!smile I find that soon after doing a class or an activity where I was intending to burn calories off and feel the 'burn' afterwards, I find it a LOT harder to eat or drink anything that might contribute to them going back in right away! One short fix of burning calories a day, fuelling the willpower to refuse 'that glass'! Sounds good to me! My mini stepper is going in the kitchen! I'm going to struggle with this at weekends everyone - but it is worth a go - count me in!wink

jen127 Wed 02-Jan-13 14:34:14

I can't join till Monday as I have friends visiting that I see but once a year! Then I am on it till around February 7th which is about a month! Unless i can think of any more excuses !

EmsieC Wed 02-Jan-13 14:37:23

If you are going dry this Jan and want a bit of support / company you could head over to the Dry January Facebook or Twitter page, lots of people talking about how they're getting on..

Lottapianos Wed 02-Jan-13 14:39:55

I'm doing it too. It's DP's birthday on 25 Jan so will do it until then at least. I didn't have a drink for 3 weeks in December because of being on medication and I felt great - trimmer and clearer skin and more energy. It's amazing how much more you can accomplish when you're not drinking. Did some moderate boozing over Christmas but looking forward to another break from it now.

I'm going to Sainsbury's on Friday to get some nice soft drinks and juices and herbal teas in grin

foofooyeah Wed 02-Jan-13 14:49:41

Im doing it - very partial to a drink. Felt groggy all day yesterday due to excessive cocktailing on NYE. We always have a family get together on the 12th Jan but am determined to stick to it, and not join in the general lushyness.

I have half a bottle of white in the fridge which will start calling ny name soon - cant throw it away so will give it my sister.

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 15:36:13

I've just poured away half a bottle of Chardonnay. Can't quite bring myself to do the half bottle of sauvignon blanc but will have to eventually.

Sugarice Wed 02-Jan-13 19:51:59

Massive apologiessad I've choked literally.

Baked a lovely piece of fish[with bones] but thought nothing of it.

Swallowed a massive bone in my throat laughing and it being hot . I stayed calm but was a bit nervy and gulped dh's wine as it was across the table from me.

Ended up retching up the bone but having wine now .

Please dont judge.Will start tomorrow :smile

NuclearStandoff Wed 02-Jan-13 19:56:26

We are doing this.

I started today (we had friends staying yesterday) and DH is polishing off 1/4 bottle of wine leftover tonight and starting tomorrow.

Although he has asked for dispensation when he's abroad for work later in month...

KellyEllyChristmasBelly Wed 02-Jan-13 19:56:57

Yes, I'm doing this. Drank far too much over Xmas. One day my kidneys hurt and that was a decider!

determinedma Wed 02-Jan-13 19:59:40

I'm in. I drink pretty much every night so this will be a real challenge. Day 2 nearly done....

DewDr0p Wed 02-Jan-13 20:02:33

I'm in. Try and do this every Jan despite dh undermining me at every turn.

I might need special dispensation for 12th Jan though as it's my little brother's 30th birthday party grin

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Wed 02-Jan-13 20:02:56

oh gosh I would love to but I really need to work out how as I have got a bit too fond of the booze recently and despite probably poisoning myself over the hols and feeling really rough today I still had to argue with myself not to open the bottle of prosecco chilling in the fridge. One day down so will try hard, probably will aim for none during the week to start with and cutting back at weekends and see if I can manage this.

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 20:03:43

Have eaten tea and glugged two pints of fizzy water and no booze. Baby steps people, baby steps.....

That sound nasty sugar glad you are ok. I believe you, even though your story sounds a bit fishy grin

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 20:05:44

stepaway I hope you don't mind me saying this, but it was the thought that I COULDN'T do this that has reinforced my belief that I really SHOULD do it.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Wed 02-Jan-13 20:12:22

Yes, Dosh thats why I am seriously thinking of doing it but I don't want to start with an unreachable goal, baby steps to prove I can do it and add to it rather than failing at the first hurdle and feeling really shit. t never drinks during the week so I can take strength from him. If I can do that then cutting back at weekends will be easier, then its just another step to cutting it back to special occaisons. I need to lose weight too so will combine the two efforts.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Wed 02-Jan-13 20:12:59

t? should say DH

A nice cup of lady grey tonight was much more enjoyable than a glass of wine brew

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 20:14:36

Sounds very sensible, and agree with starting with achievable goals. Easy for me to sound pious on day 2, I will be climbing the walls by 6pm Friday.....

Snowkey Wed 02-Jan-13 20:22:34

We do this every year too. We have a planned cheat on our anniversary but other than that we usually complete it. I find the last few days tough and dh finds the first weekend tough. Mostly we have lost weight but not last year - bloody age catching up with us.

mkvcdk Wed 02-Jan-13 20:34:54

I am also doing a dry Jan and am relieved to have some company and support! First day was easy, second day harder I must admit!

ifancyashandy Wed 02-Jan-13 20:47:33

Day 1 here also. Drank more than Oli Read on NYE (well, technically NYD, as we stopped at 5am. And then had a bottle of bubbly between 5 of us yesterday lunchtime. Followed by a Bloody Mary). Not hungover today. But very jaded. Definitely want to lose my Christmas Wine Waist...

BettySuarez Wed 02-Jan-13 20:48:13

Me and DH in too. It's good to have some company smile

Yesterday was easy but today a bit tougher. All the more reason to stick with it though

DewDr0p Wed 02-Jan-13 20:50:48

Anyone got any good ideas of nice soft drinks to have in the evenings? I don't have a very sweet tooth and struggle to find alternatives to wine shock

EggRules Wed 02-Jan-13 20:54:55

Can I join please?

I have bought some soft drinks Lilt zero and pineapple cordial to have with soda water.

Badgersnatch Wed 02-Jan-13 20:59:02

I'll join if I can have my 40th birthday off

rubberglove Wed 02-Jan-13 21:01:38

Can I join?

I only drink at weekends normally, but probably too much. Two bottles of wine over the weekend.

This xmas I have drank every night of the holidays and I feel very jaded and bloated today.

A dry month would be so good for me

determinedma Wed 02-Jan-13 21:35:30

Lime and soda or lime and tonic is not too sweet and very refreshing

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 21:37:53

You may badger

Diet ginger beer dewdrop?

MulledwineGless Wed 02-Jan-13 21:42:52

Waves to Dosh- did my penance in November but cutting down for Jan after the excesses of the festive season.

The first week is the hardest mainly because it is a habit. You don't really NEED it

Good luck all

Bearcat Wed 02-Jan-13 21:54:20

Yes DH and I are doing this again.
Friday nights are my worst nights for going without. Think I can manage the other nights.
Last year when we did it some friends came round to watch our local rugby team on TV with us and for a take away curry.
DH bought me a bottle of non-alcohol pear cider which was very nice well chilled.

tuffinmop Wed 02-Jan-13 22:07:08

Day 2 done and dusted grin yey! Just got to finish the chocs off and I can be really virtuous.
dewdrop I like fizzy water (value is fine) with elderflower cordial, mmmmmm.
This is great to get some support, I feel like I struggle with alcohol a bit, I feel down and guilty when I over do it, and its become something I do to chill out, need to find a new way to chill. Power walk tomorrow.
Dosh I think we sound like similar drinkers, by Friday I will be climbing the walls too I bet! I shall come on here for a stern talking to.

Doshusallie Wed 02-Jan-13 22:09:13

Unfortunately I have to sit in a pub all Friday evening with my boozy family. I will drive to remove temptation.

Ruprekt Wed 02-Jan-13 22:11:04

I am in too! As is DH. It has become too much of a habit instead of a treat.

Day 2 - done!

MegBusset Wed 02-Jan-13 22:13:05

I'm in too. I don't normally drink very much (a glass of wine every other night) but over December it crept up to two glasses of wine most nights and then at Christmas there was loads of Malibu & pineapple and some very nice Aldi prosecco. Added to the extra food and I have got a few pounds I'd like to shake, I find that if I drink I'm much more likely to attack the chocolate before bedtime.

Have a weekend away with DH at the end of the month so am aiming for the 25th.

FurdyCone Wed 02-Jan-13 22:14:12

Can I join? Have been drinking too much for a few years now; and beginning to think I have a bit of a problem. Day 1 today - drinking water. Feeling virtuous but a bit bored. Off to bed with a good book, and shopping for alternatives tomorrow.

Lottapianos Wed 02-Jan-13 22:20:08

I find the first week or ten days is the hardest. It's probably as much about breaking a habit as anything. Try Googling 'mocktails' - some nice ideas for fancy soft drinks.

Snowkey Thu 03-Jan-13 07:24:09

The first year we did it was harder too. I even look forward to each year after the excesses of Christmas.

tuffinmop Thu 03-Jan-13 09:43:00

Day 3 all! Onwards and upwards! Despite a 4am wake up from poorly DD I feel refreshed after my sleep, not jaded - yey!
furdycone me too about too much for a few years, time to face the habit. I sometimes think I should just give it up totally and become Tee total and then I wouldn't have to spend so much time thinking about it, iyswim
Good luck today all, stay strong x

DH and I are doing this - we didn't go out NYE, had friends here NYD instead, so we shared one bottle of wine between us and DH had one or two beers to be sociable with those friends and that is that. We are offically dry.

Sleeping is rubbish though, we are both really struggling, anyone else finding that?!

What is your soft drink of choice to replace wine?!?!? So far we are on ginger ale and (separately!) tomato juice spiced up. But need some more interesting options.....

"Mocktails" - just saw that. Thanks will try.

Lottapianos Thu 03-Jan-13 09:52:26

Here's a list of what I enjoy most about not drinking - it helps to remember these things when I'm wavering:

- better quality sleep
- skin looks fresher and plumper
- save money, a surprising amount actually
- having a clear head every morning
- more energy
- teeth look whiter (I'm a red wine drinker)
- feel trimmer

EleanorCuntBucket Thu 03-Jan-13 09:53:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sugarice Thu 03-Jan-13 09:57:21

After my near miss with a fish bone stuck in throat last night and glugging wine to shift it it was medicinal I now have a dry house and will begin tonight!

atosilis Thu 03-Jan-13 09:58:39

AnonymousBird
Not being able to get to sleep is a classic side-effect.
It does pass...

Tips
I've found that elderflower cordial in good quality tonic water is a good alternative to wine. Amazingly enough, in a wine glass to fool your brain. Take all alcohol out of the fridge, you won't be so likely to glug on warm white/rose wine.

ifso Thu 03-Jan-13 10:05:44

great thread, I need to cut down!

I usually pour iced water into a large wine glass at my trigger time of day - 5/6pm when cooking. Gives the same treat factor without the booze factor. works well so far. It's all so psychological eh?!

Lottapianos Thu 03-Jan-13 10:10:55

Tonic water with ice and lime is lovely and feels like a 'grown up' drink. Orange juice and soda
Cranberry, lime and soda - fab
Your favourite fruit/herbal tea, brewed, left to go cold then mixed with soda/tonic water
I mixed the juice of a red grapefruit with soda water and served in a champagne flute - was nice and sharp and felt like a treat
Treat yourself to posh fizzy water, like Perrier or San Pellegrino

FurdyCone Thu 03-Jan-13 10:13:54

Well done tuffin for the 3 days!

I have to say I don't feel any different this morning. Maybe it takes a couple of days to feel and see the effects?

LulaPalooza Germany Thu 03-Jan-13 11:00:26

Day 3 (so only two nights, I guess) but I haven't really thought about booze yet. I still feel so toxic from Christmas bleeeeuuuggghhh.

It's our anniversary next Wednesday but I think we're going to go to the cinema, snarf popcorn and drink mahoosive cups of pepsi water instead of a meal/ pub.

Am going to Waitrose for soft drinks top up today.

It does take several days/a week or so to start to really feel it. I remember from before that my sleep was dodgy when we did this, but I suspect by the beginning of next week that will sort itself out.

Lottapianos - love your list, all so true and I would add:

- be less grumpy/short fused/stressed! (for me anyway, would hate to say that YOU were grumpy/short fused/stressed! wink
- read more books (I adore reading) and generally just get more done

FurdyCone Thu 03-Jan-13 12:16:27

- I'll second 'get more done'; this I think will be the biggest change for me (she says, having just got dressed!)

Another (hot) drink alternative - cider vinegar & honey (1 teaspoon of each) - very, very good for you.

LulaPalooza Germany Thu 03-Jan-13 12:52:16

Re nice soft drinks, I can recommend:
Fentimans Rose Lemonade (Though very sugary - first time I had one was with a hangover, ironically and my friend nearly had to scrape me off the ceiling, such was the sugar rush);
Eldeflower cordial with fizzy water
Mango or lychee juice with fizzy water

In fact, anything sweet and fruity with fizzy water!

MamaGeekChic Thu 03-Jan-13 12:53:54

Me too! only doing until the 29th though (it's my birthday). No alcohol and no takeaways.

Doshusallie Thu 03-Jan-13 12:59:08

Day 3 everybody, c'mon, yay, waves Pom poms, group hug, yeah, we can do this, whoop!!!!!!

Will be back on later at drink o'clock for more of the same

LOVE the benefits list. Agree with all of them.

NuclearStandoff Thu 03-Jan-13 14:59:16

DH finds alcohol-free beer works for him if he is not drinking.

Becks Blue apparently ...

Sugarice Thu 03-Jan-13 15:08:04

I've been to Sainsburys and stocked up on:

Ginger Cordial.
Ginger beer.
Tonic water.
Tomato juice - also bought Worcester sauce and celery salt for Virgin Marys.

New glasses to drink from.

Have I missed anything?

LulaPalooza Germany Thu 03-Jan-13 15:42:48

Oooh Virgin Marys. Cunning plan, Sugarice

LulaPalooza Germany Thu 03-Jan-13 15:43:03

Ice.

You need lots of ice.

Sugarice Thu 03-Jan-13 15:47:41

Darn, yes I forgot the ice!

FurdyCone Thu 03-Jan-13 17:25:55

Danger time here. Glass of iced water in hand. I can do it, I can do it!

tuffinmop Thu 03-Jan-13 17:57:43

Iced water here I come! I like the idea of a brand new glass sugarice my dry glass if you like. I am also not dieting whilst being dry for Jan and munching my way through the remaining xmas chocs grin

I'll second all on the list and definately identify with the less grumpy. I drink wine to chill me out when the kids have been hectic (3 under 5) and then wake up jaded and grumpy and guess what? I get more stressed..... vicious cycle.

Have a lovely evening all and a refreshing nights sleep.
tuff

Gillyweed001 Thu 03-Jan-13 18:36:23

I feel like I'm cheating as I gave up breast feeding just before Christmas, so I'm used to not drinking. DH on the other hand is finding it tough, especially as he is having tiring days at work.

ifancyashandy Thu 03-Jan-13 18:44:57

I've had the WORST nights sleep in ages for the last two nights grin! But I know that's a side effect that'll wear off quickly.

The danger for me is going to be the weekend. Saturday night without my mates Sav Blanc or Hendricks?! <<faints>>

kissmelittleass Thu 03-Jan-13 18:58:23

no thanks..having a few tonight watching celeb bb!good luck tho!

FoofFighter Thu 03-Jan-13 18:59:52

I signed up for Cancer Research Dryathlon but have since found out am pregnant so cannot drink anyway!

Still doing it though as only a select few know of the pregnancy, it's proving a convenient get out when asked why not drinking nudge nudge wink wink grin

Doshusallie Thu 03-Jan-13 19:07:31

Congrats fooffighter!!!

Have managed so far this evening as have been ferrying dcs around in the car. Would kill for a glass of something now though. Getting me through is the knowledge I won't have that puffy eyed, sluggish, headachy start to my mornings. Not a hangover per se and dissipated by 10ish but good not to have it at all and feel fresher.

Will go and stand at fridge and see what grabs me, probably diet ginger ale. LOVE the idea of a dry glass!!!!!

TheOldestCat Thu 03-Jan-13 19:10:47

Hello all! Can I join in please?

Had my last drink on New Year's Eve (well, technically the wee hours of New Year's Day). I've not found it too much of a struggle so far, which is odd as I usually have a beer every night once the kids are in bed. It's normally my 'off duty' sign, which is a habit I want to break.

Am sure Friday night will be tough.

Congrats, FoofFighter!

Gillyweed001 Thu 03-Jan-13 19:31:29

congratulations fooffighter!

Gillyweed001 Thu 03-Jan-13 20:17:48

Dh has just pointed out the half drunk bottle of champagne from nye. This was a present for our wedding in June, but we kept it until I could drink, as I was 7 months pregnant at the time. DH won't drink it, as he is raising money for charity. Can I drink it, just to get rid of it? If it was any old plonk, I wouldn't mind, but its special. I'll be good for the rest of the month, promise!

Doshusallie Thu 03-Jan-13 21:01:11

Oh go on the gilly, wedding champers is wedding champers after all. grin waft a few bubbles my way will you?

determinedma Thu 03-Jan-13 21:04:08

Day 3 done but it was tough today. Was saved by going out for a walk with a friend. Can't wait for the sleepless nights to stop though.

Gillyweed001 Thu 03-Jan-13 21:07:59

Thank you!! I've decided to have it at the weekend, but at least I can have it without feeling guilty!

MegBusset Thu 03-Jan-13 21:18:24

Day three and still here. Tomorrow and Saturday nights will be tougher especially as DH will probably crack open a beer!

Doshusallie Thu 03-Jan-13 21:59:43

We can do this - weekend looming. Think how fresh and vibrant we are going to feel with no booze all weekend, and how virtuous!!!!! Day 4 bring it on.

Some reading

Doshusallie Thu 03-Jan-13 22:00:40

Sorry it is a bit American and worthy, will try harder next time.

Godlessdomestic Thu 03-Jan-13 23:32:49

Day 3 completed.. Tropical squash just isn't cuttting it though. Will have to get something a bit more glamorous.

Have hidden all the bottles we got for Christmas in the garage (out of sight, out of mind).

Ruprekt Fri 04-Jan-13 00:26:13

Day 3 done and I feel so much better for not drinking.

Haven't really thought about it either.

ItLooksLikeRainAgainTestDuck Fri 04-Jan-13 03:18:10

Still here too but not finding it too hard as still feeling sick of it since the festive time.

Stocked up on some j2o orange & passionfruit, lovely poured over lots of ice or in a pint glass topped up with lemonade for a fizzy alternative.

Wondering will I still feel the same tomorrow when DH and I go out for a meal. At the moment I'm not bothered but sat in the restaurant I may feel differently. Think I might drive to avoid temptation.

... Looking at the time, it's actually later today... Awake with DD

I'm in too - have had a dry January every year since 2000. So far, so good.

ifancyashandy Fri 04-Jan-13 08:04:24

Still sleeping like a baby though... ie, tossing and turning and taking an age to get off. Grrrr! When does the serenity kick in?! grin

tuffinmop Fri 04-Jan-13 08:30:37

Checking in for day 4! Bring it on. Ditto the sleep and my mind racing, I am doing a lot of thinking about stuff I have been trying not to think about for months......

Have a good day all x

Doshusallie Fri 04-Jan-13 08:40:51

Morning all, checking in. Dh also not drinking, on low carb diet and is also trying to quit smoking - so he is not sleeping at all really, and you can imagine what sort of mood he is in!!!

testduck. I am going to drive tonight too.

Ciao peeps.
Comfortably through last night. Got a bit twitchy around 9 (dinner time!), I think DH could sense it as he said "if you want a glass of wine, have one, don't worry about it". Luckily, none cold, otherwise I might have crumpled there and then!!

First night of much much better sleep. Not perfect, a bit restless early on, but then slept straight through until 7 and it felt really good.

I will have wine tonight, not much, but some - am at PIL's and I am not on a complete abstinence kick, just a bit "cut it right down" kick.

Loving the completely clear head in the mornings!!!! Joy, joy, joy.

FurdyCone Fri 04-Jan-13 10:13:11

Hi everyone, last night went suprisingly okay... kept busy, and finding if I don't plonk myself in front of the tv, I don't think about wine.

Going to buy a special alternative for the weekend; so far have survived the water and orange squash regime, but need a treat for the weekend.

Good luck to your DH Dosh - that sounds like a toughie!

Lottapianos Fri 04-Jan-13 10:20:21

Everyone is doing brilliantly - well done

I bought beetroot juice, soda water, orange juice and posh tonic water yesterday for less than the price of one bottle of wine. I'm looking forward to a nice icy cold tonic with lime tonight and going for a nice brisk walk in the sun at 10am tomorrow, with a clear head. I'm also planning to cook a nice dinner tomorrow night and to make a crumble for afters. So yay, all good so far grin

rainbow2000 Fri 04-Jan-13 11:08:21

Becks Blue is the best i used to drink this while bf so i didnt feel to left out.

Ditto on Becks Blue. I was pregnant through a very long hot summer (or so it felt at the time!) and on those nice lazy pre-DC afternoons when others were quaffing lovely cold lagers at BBQ's etc, I did indulge in a few Becks Blue, they were a real treat for me, and made the whole thing just a touch more bearable at 8 months gone after drinking nothing remotely interesting for months on end previously!!

diabolo Fri 04-Jan-13 11:43:25

I'm doing it, along with 5:2 and the 30 Day Shred. I've put on a stone in the last year so need to do something drastic.

Haven't had a drink since 30th December and I'm finding it much easier than I thought. Most nights I would have at least 2 large glasses of red.

FurdyCone Fri 04-Jan-13 13:04:05

Did anyone listen to You & Your's on R4 just now. Blimey, that was sobering. Think this is going to be a change of lifestyle, never mind just for Jan.

One 250ml glass of wine = 4 units shock

I have been drinking at least one bottle a day for years (apart from when pregnant - couldn't bear the stuff).

Anyway, it was sort of concluded that a sensible way to go is the 2/2 way - two glasses of wine a day with 2 days off a week.

At the age of 43, I'm wondering if the damage is already done in my case.

Doshusallie Fri 04-Jan-13 16:49:22

furdycone. 2/2 sounds like the way forward for me - after January of course. grin

Checking in now to keep everyone on the straight and narrow for this, our first Friday night, as I (unfortunately) am going out, to a pub of all places sad. My advice is to eat early and have some fizzy or nice drinks on hand for when you want to sup, great advice to do it out of a wine glass maybe?

Focus on the deep unbroken sleep you are going to have, the empty calories you won't be swallowing, the clear, unfuzzy head you will have in the morning!!!!

GO TEAM!!! [ducks in case anyone lobs a heavy object at my head]

rubberglove Fri 04-Jan-13 17:03:02

God I would love a glass of wine and on a friday too. I feel my resolve weakening, help!

FurdyCone Fri 04-Jan-13 17:05:20

Me too Rubber, thought I might just have the 'one' (it is Friday). Am rubbish!

kotinka Fri 04-Jan-13 17:07:06

You don't have to just because it's friday, maybe the dry month idea is good for helping us get rid of some of the automatic habits of drinking.

Lottapianos Fri 04-Jan-13 17:13:55

I quite fancy a glass of wine as a reward for getting through the week but I am determined not to fall at the first fence!

kotinka Fri 04-Jan-13 17:18:56

Lotta - try picking something else as a reward? We've probably saved about £15 to £20 this week, enough for a nice new lippy.

Lottapianos Fri 04-Jan-13 17:31:40

Haha, thanks kotinka. I probably have enough lippies to beautify the whole of Mumsnet so maybe I'll go with chocolate instead! I really want to stay sober so there's not a chance of me caving in

rubberglove Fri 04-Jan-13 17:58:42

I have a nice cold bottle of pepsi max in the fridge...

Think of the fresh face tomorrow

kotinka Fri 04-Jan-13 18:02:35

Ice cold diet coke, slice of fresh lemon & lime, lots of ice, gorgeous!

ifancyashandy Fri 04-Jan-13 18:28:53

See, I'm sleeping worse,than ever before and feel like shite in the mornings - blimey, I feel totally rubbish now - so I don't even have that to look forward to in the morning. However, the empty calories are keeping me sober. Putting gym kit on for the first time in ages this morning was not a pretty sight! shock

That said, there' not that many calories in a gin and slimline, is there?! grin

EggRules Fri 04-Jan-13 19:09:22

I trying hard to resist the call of vino; I hope it is just habit. I started a new job this week and my Friday night post work treat is out of the question. No lunch and so we are having a chinese takeaway.

I have kept wine out of the fridge on purpose. I am taking DS out for breakie in the morning.

I've put on a stone in a year and teh only thing different is the vino.

Good luck everyone.

MegBusset Fri 04-Jan-13 19:47:32

I have cracked and opened a (187.5ml) bottle of rose blush

Ah well there's always next year grin

DewDr0p Fri 04-Jan-13 19:53:14

Still going here, Friday night curry without a beer feels a bit weird but enjoying the ginger ale!

EleanorCuntBucket Fri 04-Jan-13 20:12:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

rubberglove Fri 04-Jan-13 20:15:36

I ate my dinner without any wine. That was the test for me, when i'm hungry and there's nice food at the table. Now I am full and happy to nibble some chocolate with a cuppa and a good film.

That's the first friday I haven't drank since I was last pregnant years ago. I might be able to do this!

determinedma Fri 04-Jan-13 20:45:13

Made it, but it was tough today. Day 5 tomorrow

ifancyashandy Fri 04-Jan-13 20:59:26

I seem to have resisted the G&T, hurrah!!

Am resisting to tonight but fucking hell I'm dying for a drink !

tuffinmop Fri 04-Jan-13 21:24:26

Day 4 done and dusted and not feeling too many pangs. Lemongrass cordial and tonic is lovely and I am feeling a clarity I have not had for a long time (and its only day 4!) I do I hope my resolve stays. Having said that, the 1st Feb is a Friday and I've already booked a baby sitter and am planning a night on the tiles grin Call it a reward. I am also going to get a new hair cut to reward myself (all that money saved)

Well done ladies, it is doable and next Friday night will be easier I'm sure.

EggRules Fri 04-Jan-13 22:19:08

Resisted but did have a caramel.

Doshusallie Fri 04-Jan-13 22:22:44

I DID IT!! am so proud of myself. Smelt my dad's red wine and it just made me remember my Hangover on new year's day so wasn't even tempted.

grin

spudmasher Fri 04-Jan-13 22:23:07

Epic fail in the spud household. Managed 1st and 2nd then DD1 landed a job yesterday so DH brought home a bottle of fizz to celebrate. Then, tonight, whilst putting some washing in the dryer in the garage, I chanced upon a bottle of mulled wine and have has half of it.....pathetic.

glitch Fri 04-Jan-13 22:46:19

Tonight was tricky but I made it smile
I think a bottle of wine is about 500 calories so feeling good for not drinking it tonight.

Ruprekt Fri 04-Jan-13 23:17:43

Day 4 - conquered !!!

Didn't give it a thought. DH said it would be nice to have a glass of red wine but we didnt open a bottle and had peppermint tea instead!!

<<dullards>> but with a clear head!

kotinka Fri 04-Jan-13 23:29:01

day 4 win, tough though.

Badgersnatch Fri 04-Jan-13 23:50:09

I've been on fizzy water with mint leaves, ginger and lime. It's been ok, chocolate is helping.

Pollykitten Sat 05-Jan-13 00:00:35

Hi all, I'm also on the wagonista and am finding that doing lots of juicing with my juicer (apple and ginger mostly) is helping me to feel virtuous. I've planned the two occasions in Jan when I will have a glass of wine and am hoping that this will see me through. Juicing is definitely making a difference tho....

rubberglove Sat 05-Jan-13 08:36:21

Lovely clear head this morning smile

tuffinmop Sat 05-Jan-13 08:52:01

Mornin Ladies
Lovely clear head today feeling goooooood grin
spud don't be hard on yourself, today is a new day, baby steps and all that. I've sworn to stop for x amount of time, loads hundreds of times and not got past day one!

There is a lot in the news about alcohol at the moment, its really making me think. 50% rise in hospital admissions related to drink in the last 10 years or something like that? I've probably got that figure wrong but its a rise anyway.
Our society is so accepting of drink as normal, when infact when you step away and see it from a distance, its soooo bad for you.

Its such a shame a good red wine with a hunk of cheese or a cold crisp pinot in the sun shine is about as close to heavan as you can get! (salivates longingly)
Onwards and upwards all x x

Lottapianos Sat 05-Jan-13 10:11:19

Morning all. Don't worry if you've slipped up, today is a new day!
I've just had a sleep marathon and feel epic! Lovely clear head and feeling really positive. Have a good day everyone!

rhondajean Brazil Sat 05-Jan-13 10:15:21

All going fine here. We do this quite regularly though - my gym reopened yesterday too so I'll support it with daily gym visits.

DHs birthday is feb 7 th so I'll probably run straight through till then.

Godlessdomestic Sat 05-Jan-13 10:16:33

Good morning, I went out for curry last night with a group of friends.. All drinking and I resisted. The upside was that our share of the bill was £20 cheaper than the other couples - the downside is that DH is still in bed and I'm up with the small person. But whoooot... I survived.

Well done everyone who resisted and don't beat yourself up if you didn't.

rubberglove Sat 05-Jan-13 11:05:44

Tonight might be hard, feel a bit 'justified' to have a drink. But if I can resist tonight should make it to next weekend as I don't drink during the week in term time anyway.

Taking kids swimming later and feel up for it!

Doshusallie Sat 05-Jan-13 11:19:06

Morning all. I have a cold. I am never ill. Could this be withdrawal??

Rhondajean I share your husband's birthday so I might hang on till then too.

MoomieAndFreddie Sat 05-Jan-13 11:23:26

yeah i am trying to do it as well

for both money and health reasons

i must admit its been a revelation to wake up on a saturday not hungover blush

FlyingFig Sat 05-Jan-13 12:47:13

Joining you all on the roll call! I've not had a drink since the 30th of December. I'm a binge drinker usually, in that I can go a few days without any at all but can easily sink a bottle or two say 3 nights a week (more over Christmas blush) If not drinking wine, then I can easily plough my way through lager or cider <cheap date>

Nearly caved last night, but drank 2 glasses of elderflower cordial with sparkling water and ice, which took the edge of the cravings. I seem to get my booze horns on at about 7pm and it takes until at least 9pm for them to stop twitching, by which point I'm glad I didn't cave in.

I quite clearly think too much about alcohol, even when I'm not drinking it blush

FlyingFig Sat 05-Jan-13 12:49:35

Oh and last night I slept really well, before this I've had restless legs and taken an age to get off to sleep, so it was a bonus to sleep so well and wake up without the usual Saturday morning thumping head...

FurdyCone Sat 05-Jan-13 13:00:16

Me too Spud blush

Though not my usual hedonistic amount - so it's not too bad grin

Back on it today; might just go and buy myself a juicer (and some self-discipline).

Bloody determined to crack this!

Well done everyone else.

Doshusallie Sat 05-Jan-13 17:57:21

Day 4 - entering danger zone. Not eaten tea yet as dcs still around, and it's Saturday night, and I would have usually drunk at least a glass by now.....am finding myself in the kitchen to get SOMETHING all the time, which means I am snacking loads more than usual. Oh well, fat but sober..... hmm

whats4teamum Sat 05-Jan-13 18:03:39

Can I join in. Started last Thursday on wagon. Why do I have a fuggy headache? Will it clear and can have this new found energy people speak of. Saturday night is a tricky one. Any suggestions for low calorie sub for alcohol. I don't mind tonic water but might get a bit bored with it. Don't want to drink tea all evening.

spudmasher Sat 05-Jan-13 18:29:09

Furdycone Glad I'm not the only one! But back on the wagon today and feeling OK so far. Just had dinner and now thinking about some juice with sparkling water.
From Aldi today I got 6 little bottles of fizzy water for 99p to go with nice cordial with lots of ice and lemon. You can also get 4 big bottles for 99p but I like it REALLY fizzy and day two of a bottle of fizzy water is just not as good.
Back at work on Monday so should be easier then.......
How is everyone else doing on this Saturday night....the first one and TV is RUBBISH.

rubberglove Sat 05-Jan-13 18:37:06

My favourite thing usually on a Sat eve, is supping a large glass of red when my youngest has gone to bed, whilst reading a good book and my dh cooks something nice.

But I did feel better today and enjoyed taking the kids swimming feeling fresh. I don't expect to lose weight, I am eating more!

It is more about feeling fresher, breaking habits and giving my body a break.

tuffinmop Sat 05-Jan-13 18:46:41

Feeling the urge tonight I have to say, I love a large glass of red whilst cooking the tea, ipod on and would have had atleast one by now. I will resist but crickey I am feeling it tonight.....

Really really need a vodka sad

glitch Sat 05-Jan-13 19:48:16

Hmmmm, evenings are a bit long without wine smile

Wincher Sat 05-Jan-13 20:03:34

I have also just found out I'm pregnant so dry January is a great excuse here too! Am staying with friends for the weekend and so far have had to turn down mulled wine and prosecco. On the ribena now.

determinedma Sat 05-Jan-13 20:07:17

Having a no alcohol beer tonight but feel like I'm cheating somehow. I'm not, am I?

tuffinmop Sat 05-Jan-13 20:21:56

glitch tell me about it. Its looooooong and dull. Bah. A month will be long enough! (must remember the positives - gives self a quiet talking too)

tuffinmop Sat 05-Jan-13 20:22:18

to I mean

Bearcat Sat 05-Jan-13 20:56:22

Slept terribly on Thursday night, but had accidentally made a normal cup of coffee rather than decaf. Slept very well last night, but actually woke up feeling slightly hungover, even though I've been on the wagon since 1st Jan..
Maybe withdrawal symptoms?
Enjoying my low sugar lime and soda drinks.

Doshusallie Sat 05-Jan-13 20:58:55

No determined you are not.

My cold has turned into a stinking cold which, whilst I wouldn't recommend it necessarily, is certainly helping with my abstention! Couldn't drink wine now if I wanted to!

Badgersnatch Sat 05-Jan-13 21:39:59

I was really grumpy at dinnertime knowing that it was going to be a booze-free Saturday. I seem to have cheered myself up with toblerone, going for an early night though cos I'm a bit bored tbh.

kotinka Sat 05-Jan-13 22:45:15

Day 5 pretty much over, easier than yesterday :-)

rubberglove Sat 05-Jan-13 23:22:09

Badbersnatch I wonder if a lot of drinking is due to boredom?

Well I am staying up a bit later knowing I might be tired tomorrow, but not tired and hungover smile

FlyingFig Sat 05-Jan-13 23:43:15

I cracked tonight and have had 2 double vodkas and cherry coke. Epic fail sad

Not even sure why I bothered, I hate spirits but it was there in the cupboard. I had the 'Oh but it's Saturday night!' mindset, I think.

6 days. Pathetic. <slaps face>

BettySuarez Sat 05-Jan-13 23:52:35

I think I have begun to realise just how much alcohol was defining my daily routines.

We would have a drink pretty much every night to 'unwind' but that first drink usually signalled the point in the evening where we would do sod all apart from TV and slouching on the sofa.

I am finding the evenings a bit boring without alcohol which is interesting.

Need to find another focus

SwedishEdith Sat 05-Jan-13 23:58:59

I thought of this thread today when in Sainsbury's - virtually every person was buying alcohol. No obvious dry January activity at all - which surprised me. Anyway, I think Sains' plum, blackberry and pear juice would be lovely with tonic or soda water if anyone is looking for a long drink. Plus, it looks like red wine. (I think it might work with gin or vodka as well ...)

gazzalw Sun 06-Jan-13 00:17:01

DW has just returned from going out with friends. The others consumed three glasses of vino each and DW had one lime juice and soda water.....Quite apart from the fact that each round of wine cost £23.00 (for three glasses) DW said that she was actually quite repulsed by the smell of the wine..... I babysat and was tempted but there was no alcohol in the house so I resisted....

But those of you who say that we might drink out of boredom might possibly have a point....Definitely think you need to keep the idle hands occupied in the evenings...grin

Still going. Last night was hard - out for a farewell dinner with DH, who has gone away until the end of the month - but I stayed on the water. Now I'm home alone until 2 Feb, so it should be easier (I tend not to drink when I'm on my own - just need to be careful of all the nights out I have planned to keep me company).

Congrats to all the newly pregnant ladies on the thread!

Lottapianos Sun 06-Jan-13 09:03:11

Morning all. Agree with the boredom theory. I did mani pedi in front of the TV last night to keep my hands busy. Made a martini for DP but had beetroot juice for me in a martini glass - it looked fab!

EleanorCuntBucket Sun 06-Jan-13 09:05:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

tuffinmop Sun 06-Jan-13 09:16:14

Mornin all,
ditto with the boredom thing, its definately an issue with me too.... I hope I will plan to do lots of jobs, starting tonight with gathering all the charity shop stuff and bagging it up ready to drop off on Monday. I must resist online shopping, i've done too much already! (so much for saving money) grin

Badgersnatch Sun 06-Jan-13 09:19:02

Ooh, nasty Eleanor, I had a bad bout just before Christmas with proper pink wee and burning - on the plus side it did keep me off the wine for a week grin

Well I got through Saturday night. It's less than two weeks until my goal and I've decided that, if I stay dry until then (scary birthday) I will celebrate with proper champagne that isn't supermarket own label. I'd like to think I can go back on the wagon after that and teach myself to drink just on special occasions rather than whenever I can.

Matildaduck Sun 06-Jan-13 09:33:34

Just spotted this thread! I'm doing a dry jan.

I am on day six now and its just breaking a habit for me i think.

I love wine but have consued way too much and too frequently. It has stopped being a treat. I think i would also like to just a have a glass here or there at weekend and not be looking at the clock each night waiting for wine oclock.

cuppateaanyone Sun 06-Jan-13 09:37:20

Ok so slipped up last night......but today is a new day, had half a bottle of red wine which also means I smoked....
i drink out of habit almost every day and have 4-6 cigarettes as well, its crazy because after the first glass and fag i really don't enjoy it that much.
Have definitely had more energy and find myself doing 'little jobs' in the evening ie washing, clean the floor, tidy out bits of storage etc.
A friend of ours suggested we were alcoholics......

Doshusallie Sun 06-Jan-13 10:13:12

Really cuppa? How did that make you feel? We're you offended or worried they had a point?

Morning all abstainers, and well done to all those who got through our first Saturday night. Can recommend a streaming nose, runny left eye, sneezes and headache as an aid to not drinking. Certainly working for me.

Agree with doing more in the evenings - I am reading more and have read half the Hunger Games trilogy since New Year's Day which I am really enjoying.

DH is still really struggling with sleep though sad

An article on habitual drinking

Day 6, bring it on.

DewDr0p Sun 06-Jan-13 10:35:31

Ooh Saturday night without a glass of wine felt a bit weird. I am bored of the ginger ale already grin but I did it. V pleased with progress thus far.

Ruprekt Sun 06-Jan-13 10:51:58

Day 5 went well. Was out for most of the day and got in later than usual.

Peppermint tea went down a storm and my skin feels better.

Got up to make breakfast for the children for the first time in ages on a Sunday blush but that was because I didnt feel sluggish.

cuppateaanyone Sun 06-Jan-13 11:11:21

Well, I did go and do some quiz and answered 5 out of 20,questions like 'do you drink to get away from stress?', 'have you ever regretted drinking? And do you crave a drink at a certain time daily? answer yes to these 3 and any other questions and this website says you have a problem.....so wanting a glass or 3 of wine at 7.30pm once ds is in bed most nights and regretting the odd hangover means I do.
Whilst I don't think I am I know I have got into a habit and the fact tha I've been more productive and have more energy tells me that it had gone to far.

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 06-Jan-13 11:12:05

Hi, just noticed this thread. I'm a longterm TTC-er, and have been bracing myself through December for a major lifestyle change to try to boost fertility, which includes no booze.

Feeling positive, which may be because I'm aiming towards something rather than just denying myself for the sake of it, IYKWIM? Managed to drink cranberry and soda at a pub lunch! (cutting right down on caffeine, sugar and meat too, and would sell my best friend for a bacon sandwich, 3 cups of tea and a kitkat, but that's a different story grin )

kotinka Sun 06-Jan-13 11:22:52

Feeling positive, which may be because I'm aiming towards something rather than just denying myself for the sake of it,

yes, makes sense when you say it like that!

Well done everyone!

I had two small glasses of wine last night, with supper (which was an early one) and there was always the danger that I could "get stuck in" after supper, especially with having eaten early, but I left it there. And I am feeling the benefits today!!!! Already done a round trip into London and it's just gone 11.30. I can safely say that has probably NEVER happened before on a Sunday!

We are out for lunch at friends, which could be a flashpoint, but just need to be disciplined and stick to the soft stuff now until next weekend....

twinklestar2 Sun 06-Jan-13 12:33:08

Twinklystar - me too! Which is spooky as we almost share the same name.... PM me or start a thread for me on the conception boards if you want to chat or support each other?

OH and I have been doing dry Jan since 31st Dec, ie, we had our last drink on 30 Dec. We have been ttc for 18 months now so we're getting uber healthy to see if it helps.

We found Friday night really hard but gave ourselves a good talking to for being so pathetic! Last night we went for a meal and walked the half hour there and back to distract ourselves as being in the house in the evening is a temptation.

I met a friend and we went for coffee then we went to the pub and had juice.

Feeling very proud of myself and OH!

We are also giving up aspartame so no fizzy drinks allowed here sad Have been having organic herbal or decaf tea or water(!) to get me through!

Well done to all who have managed to stay on the wagon and to those who have fallen off just pick yourself up again!

twinklestar2 Sun 06-Jan-13 12:34:59

I also agree with the feeling positive because we are aiming for something comment. However I try not go think too much about doing it for baby making but also that its good for my health. Which is a good enough reason to do it.

rubberglove Sun 06-Jan-13 12:55:31

I do find I am eating more cake and chocolates though thus probably undoing any good calorie wise!

This morning was the first morning that I bounced out of bed feeling great. I've also kicked caffeine and chocolate but am succeeding in eating everything else I can find and it usually takes my body a few days to get over the shock.

When I feel like this I wonder why I end up back on the slippery slope of wine every evening (and large amounts of coffee each morning).

determinedma Sun 06-Jan-13 15:52:34

Day 6 and still here. Longest I've been without booze for many many months/years

Well done determinedma smile

I'm getting through red bulls like there is no tomorrow...

Almostfifty Sun 06-Jan-13 17:08:10

Day four here, worst time is weekends IMO, as we've never drunk on school nights.

I'm trying to lose half a stone as well, so trying to keep off fizzy drinks as well. I'm not keen on slimline drinks.

Doshusallie Sun 06-Jan-13 17:31:56

Well done everyone. Am out and about with dcs so that is helping tonight.

noddyholder Sun 06-Jan-13 17:34:06

Day 6 although tbh I often go more. I can not drink indefinitely if I am not out much but have several things in the next fortnight where I will just have to drink lime and soda. I try to think of the hangover I will avoid as as I get older I cannot tolerate them Good luck this week everyone. Fizzy elderflower quite nice and pm i have camomile tea

tuffinmop Sun 06-Jan-13 17:35:40

Still not drinking but I opened a Christmas present meant for my step nan (never got to see her, we all had colds) and ate 8 quality streets blush

Oh dear chocolate is now a wine substitute!

rubberglove Sun 06-Jan-13 17:41:10

Dh trying to convince me that red wine is better for me than all the chocolate I am eating hmm

diabolo Sun 06-Jan-13 18:22:04

me too determinedma - longest without for about 8 years.

Ruprekt Sun 06-Jan-13 18:33:55

Well done! We are doing so well.

determinedma Sun 06-Jan-13 20:12:50

well done diabolo

cuppateaanyone Sun 06-Jan-13 21:13:18

Thought tonight I would really fancy a glass but both me and dh couldn't stand the idea of it, really strange, what I really fancy right now is a lovely cold glass of water.........odd.

DewDr0p Sun 06-Jan-13 21:17:06

Argh I really fancy a small glass of red right now... Dh is distracting me with decaf coffee and Christmas cake!

Matildaduck Sun 06-Jan-13 21:20:05

I have not missed wine for the last few nights at all.... i had a bottle of sparkling fruity water and it was delish.

My skin looks great also.

6 days down and it doesn't feel that long at all.

cuppateaanyone Sun 06-Jan-13 21:21:04

Hang in there DEwDr0p, cravings tend to last 15 o so mins so get yourself through that and pat yourself on the back.
I foresee many early nights this month!

glitch Sun 06-Jan-13 21:29:35

Well done everyone. 6 days and 1 weekend ticked off.
It is great to wake up with a clear head each morning.

DewDr0p Sun 06-Jan-13 21:39:12

Thanks cuppa - the Christmas cake isn't really cutting it I have to say grin - might have to bring out the big guns ... Crisps! (My other vice)

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 06-Jan-13 21:44:01

Are they good crisps or crap crisps DewDr0p?

Another one in the 'great skin' camp.

Schoolsec Sun 06-Jan-13 21:44:43

please can I join? I will start tomorrow (back to school then and have had wine tonight). Had so much over Xmas but drink most nights. Glad I'm not alone. Need to break the habit cos despite going to the gym I have a definite chardonnay belt ...

DewDr0p Sun 06-Jan-13 21:55:56

Small packet of Kettle Chips twinkly (have to buy small packets else I'd trough a big packet in one sitting - addictive personality, moi? grin )

It's not really worked though, might have to go to bed!

CJMommy Sun 06-Jan-13 22:16:40

Hey can I join too? Not had a drink since 31st jan (finished my wine just before midnight). I'm also doing MFP calorie counting and cutting down in caffeine too! I'm sure what I drink is contributing to me being 2 stone overweight! blush

Am out with friends on 12th jan so will be having a drink then ( haven't seen them in months ) then I want to carry it through until 12th feb , so ultimately will have done 6 weeks dry except one night.

I'm drinking squash but also trying to endure I drink more water in general. My day used to consist of several coffees, a can of coke zero and then either 1/2 bottle of wine or hone measured vodka and coke.

Didn't go too overboard at Christmas but agree with everyone who has said about habits-that applies to me with food and drinkblush

So, Tuesday will be one week without booze and first weekly weigh in after diet startedgrin

CJMommy Sun 06-Jan-13 22:17:58

'ensure' but actually 'endure' sounds more apt wink

gazzalw Mon 07-Jan-13 07:57:08

Day 7 in the sobriety household....

I agree that probably medically it might not be enough to just give your liver a rest for one whole month a year, but the medical profession probably fail to grasp that it actually might change one's mindset about why/when/where one might be most vulnerable to habitual drinking of alcohol and that might enable one to adapt to a more healthy level of drinking....

Also, I can already notice a difference in my bank balance for not having bought alcohol for a week....I think we might all be amazed at how much money is spent on bottles of vino....

I definitely feel less 'bloated' (although I have never been in the least bit over-weight) for a week off alcohol...and I'm not sure that there's been any significant substitution of calorific snacks [fgrin].

I am hoping that having done a week without it might just be getting easier henceforth. It hasn't been a battle but I'm properly back at work today and in our organisation there is still a bit of a lunchtime culture of heading to the on-site bar for lunch and a swift one...We shall see....

Well done to everyone....

twinklestar2 Mon 07-Jan-13 08:50:59

Agree gazza, it's about trying to break habits. I could happily drink a glass of wine at any time of day!

diabolo Mon 07-Jan-13 10:02:09

I agree about the less bloated feeling / skin benefits already.

My face used to look really puffy on a morning, that's all gone.

I am sleeping so much better too.

Well done everyone.

noddyholder Mon 07-Jan-13 10:42:36

It definitely shows in your face. At 47 most of my friends who still drink regularly in largish amounts do look more knackered than those who don't. Not an ageing thing just a general tired puffy look that does go when you stop/cut down very quickly.

Ruprekt Mon 07-Jan-13 10:45:39

I will be a whole new woman soon!

I do feel less bloated and although I suffer from rosacea the skin is not as angry as it was.

This could become permanent!

Doshusallie Mon 07-Jan-13 10:49:40

I am not feeling the morning benefits at the moment as still have a cold (did I mention I have a cold? Runny eye, snotty nose, headache? No? Well I do. grin) and getting up this morning was not easy, particularly as it was to do the school run, and I have been sleeping in till 8.30 for the last 2 weeks!

Am really pleased to have nearly got to a week without alcohol though, didn't even think about it last night!

kotinka Mon 07-Jan-13 10:56:56

day 7 here too! Going ok, but my worst bit is from about 6pm, when the kids get tired & annoying.

Snowkey Mon 07-Jan-13 11:39:50

Survived the weekend. Only craved wine on Saturday night when dh was cooking the steak...habits and associations are tough to break. Had a momentary thought about wine at Sunday lunch but the thought didn't linger. Am off sugar for January too, I really don't want to start substituting one very pleasurable substance for another, breaking the snacking after dinner is tough - wine used to help a lot.

foofooyeah Mon 07-Jan-13 12:30:52

Im still going too - turned down a glass of champagne last night which is unheard of!

Godlessdomestic Mon 07-Jan-13 12:40:03

I'm still on it. Really fancied a glass of cold white last night after a busy day but had squash instead. Am not noticing any difference yet but it will come I'm sure.

TWinklyLittleStar Mon 07-Jan-13 12:53:28

I was feeling less bloated but my stomach has swollen up to epic proportions today. That's just stress though.

Working until 10pm today and tomorrow so should be easy enough to not drink.

tuffinmop Mon 07-Jan-13 16:49:09

Phew. Loooong day, naughty 4 year old and poorly 17 month old sad I could murder a cold crisp pinot grigot! I will just have to keep busy......
Well done all, 7 days is pretty fab!

rubberglove Mon 07-Jan-13 17:10:30

I am managing without wine, but piled into the chocs and cake over the weekend. I am sure I am addicted to sugar!

Really must try and cut down on sugar this week.

I want a drink sad

Doshusallie Mon 07-Jan-13 18:06:09

Keep strong bunnies - this too will pass!!

I am going to eat my tea quite soon as this quells the urge.

We can DO this.

I have 2 hyperactive kids to put to bed but after that.....

AlienananaReflux Mon 07-Jan-13 18:09:44

Go bunnies!!! <<<< shakes pom poms>>>>>>

I'm trying! smile

betterwhenthesunshines Mon 07-Jan-13 18:38:26

I always think Jan is the worst month to do this - what little comfort in such a bleak month.... but I might be tempted to try and join you all. Maybe not completely (spag bol tonight and that needs a glass of red, but just one small one) but definitely a huge cutback.

One tip - often in the evening if I fancy a beer: cold, fizzy, refreshing... but a sparkling water can be almost as good. I think it's the fizz that helps.

But beware anything caffeine loaded (or aspartame yuch!) as surely that's just replacing with something else not good for you. Also those drinking squash instead - that could be a lot of sugar / calories... just saying.

Bearcat Mon 07-Jan-13 19:03:17

Day 7 here too.
Will be fine now I've got passed the weekend until Friday.
Just will have to buy some more soda water to go with my 'no added sugar' lime squash, my drink of choice at the moment.
Keep going. we can do it.

Sugar free red bull! Only 10 calories a can! smile

spudmasher Mon 07-Jan-13 19:33:56

Rubbish nights sleep last night!! WHY????no caffeine consumed after 4pm. Nice lemon and ginger tea at 9pm. Bed at 10pm. Bright eyed and bushy tailed from 10.30 until......well....2am was when I last looked at the clock. Sigh......

twinklestar2 Mon 07-Jan-13 19:46:59

I've heard so many people say they've had a bad night sleep from giving up drinking. Not sure why?

DewDr0p Mon 07-Jan-13 20:00:18

I agree that probably medically it might not be enough to just give your liver a rest for one whole month a year, but the medical profession probably fail to grasp that it actually might change one's mindset about why/when/where one might be most vulnerable to habitual drinking of alcohol and that might enable one to adapt to a more healthy level of drinking....

Totally agree gazza - I find in December it's so easy to slide into the habit of drinking every evening - after a month off I've broken the habit and I truly think I drink less for the rest of the year. Plus the rest can't do any actual harm can it?

cuppateaanyone Mon 07-Jan-13 20:16:36

Twinkle star.....I agree, never had I had such poor sleep on consecutive nights. Am beginning to think something strange is afoot.....absolutely do not fancy a drink, at all, it's like the thought of it turns my stomach.
Am really hoping that I will get back to the long gone days of having wine on a Friday and or Saturday night and nothing else.
Have been asking myself why/ how I got to drinking so regularly, I don't think I drink much compared to my friends, 3 regular glasses in an evening is my max, and a school night its less it's like it became 'what you do and what everyone else does'

Doshusallie Mon 07-Jan-13 21:02:09

Dh is really struggling with sleep too.....

Ruprekt Mon 07-Jan-13 21:12:20

Day 7 for me too!

determinedma Mon 07-Jan-13 21:13:42

The sleep struggle is in part because you haven't had any booze to dull the edge and make you feel relaxed and fuzzy. Without that the brain just keeps galloping along and its impossible to switch off. Try a herbal sleeping tab until you adjust

glitch Mon 07-Jan-13 23:03:36

Day 7 done - yay grin
Am not finding it hard to sleep once asleep but I seem to be staying up much later. Is that due to better quality sleep do you think?

BettySuarez Mon 07-Jan-13 23:08:44

Boots do a bottle of herbal sleeping tablets that I wholeheartedly recommend. They come in a green and yellow box and the brand is RSI or RTI - not 100% certain.

No drowsiness/sluggishness the following day. Just a restful and peaceful nights sleep. I take them during periods of stress as I find that they stop my mind racing at night.

Might be just the job for those of you struggling to sleep smile

We are not missing the booze at all (so far)

Pollykitten Mon 07-Jan-13 23:18:40

just wanted to butt in with sleep thing... there are herbal things from Holland & Barrett called Melissa Dreams that have l-theanine amino acid in, found naturally in green tea & give a more 'refreshing' sleep - finding it helpful smile

Day 7 for me too.

Cuppa I know what you mean about how/why you get to drinking every night. When DH and I are together we both drink a few glasses each evening. When one of us is away, the one who's at home tends not to drink confused. He's gone until the end of the month, and I'm quite happy not drinking.

Matildaduck Tue 08-Jan-13 07:58:10

I've slept really well, early night last night.
Try some meditation before sleep, nothing fancy just imagining all the stress flowing out of your body type of stuff. I discovered this when i had pregnancy insomnia. Its a lovely way to go to sleep. ( I had a hypnotherapy tape it was lovely.)

As i haven't missed drinking ( shocked) i might cut out caffine next month. I do feel that i have been relient on these drugs to get through the day.

My skin shows the abuse. :-(

diabolo Tue 08-Jan-13 08:40:45

Day 7 done and dusted. Still sleeping really well.

I'm combining Dry January with 5:2 and doing the 30 Day Shred. I've lost 6lbs in 8 days and can do up my belt an extra hole already.

If I carry on like this, I can't see me ever going back to my old bad habits. I feel so good and proud of myself.

Doshusallie Tue 08-Jan-13 10:42:03

well done Diabolo!! That's fantastic!!

I am also staying up later - would frequently fall asleep on the sofa before.

Thanks for herbal sleep remedy suggestions. Will get to Boots today hopefully

tuffinmop Tue 08-Jan-13 12:15:15

well done diabolo thats fab grin
I on the other hand am eating my body weight in chocolate! Day 8 and still going strong I have surprised myself.

Godlessdomestic Tue 08-Jan-13 12:40:58

I am replacing drink with cake I think.. sad can anyone tell me about 5:2 - is it do-able? I really struggle with willpower (hence me being as fat as a house).

kotinka Tue 08-Jan-13 15:38:14

Godless, I tried it & found I didn't lose weight.

Also been replacing booze with naughty food, not good, gained a pound :-(

Doshusallie Tue 08-Jan-13 15:46:55

I am gaining weight not drinking. Go figure.

Badgersnatch Tue 08-Jan-13 17:24:29

6lbs? Well done!

I've got the start of a cold and even my eyebrows are aching today, which should keep me on the straight and narrow for a while longer.

diabolo Tue 08-Jan-13 17:29:56

Thanks, I think it's mostly due to the Shredding, makes me sweat like a big, sweaty thing.

gazzalw Tue 08-Jan-13 18:27:05

It's Day 8....but now I'm starting to think more about a glass of cold white wine more than I have done to date....

Hoping that maybe we will all feel better two weeks down the line....we are probably all still in the detox/feeling horrible phase at the moment but should emerge the other side brighter and more bushy tailed.

By the way one of DW's friends did the same thing a few years ago and she too said she didn't lose any weight....

kotinka Tue 08-Jan-13 18:27:12

Fail at day 8, 1 G&T. Though quite pleased it's only that & not 4 bottles of wine.

Doshusallie Tue 08-Jan-13 19:01:01

Gazza I actually got a rush of saliva in my mouth when you described that wine. My name is dosh and I am clearly an alcoholic.

Epic fail today. 4 vodkas at a team lunch sad

Just a thought although I'm not joining you :- measure yourselves as I lost over an inch round my middle when I did no alcohol Novbef

cuppateaanyone Tue 08-Jan-13 19:56:31

So far I have put on 3lbs......outrageous! Today I could easily have given in but it's passed for now.....

Schoolsec Tue 08-Jan-13 21:48:19

DH away and seriously thought about popping into the co-op on the way home for those pre-chilled bottles of wine (how convenient is that ?!!). Resisted though and drove straight home. Had cup of tea and tesco flavoured fruit water.
Have realised I sometimes drink cos I'm thirsty! That's why I knock back the first glass so quickly. Couldn't sleep last night but hoping will b ok today .

Doshusallie Tue 08-Jan-13 21:50:12

Dh on the Kalms....

Doshusallie Tue 08-Jan-13 21:50:59

Day 8....DONE!!!!! WHOOP!!!!!!!

determinedma Tue 08-Jan-13 21:53:44

Day 8 done here too!

whats4teamum Tue 08-Jan-13 22:26:05

I'm still in there. Had an operation yesterday so can't have alcohol with painkillers. That's one way to do it! Not missing it either.

tuffinmop Tue 08-Jan-13 22:47:22

Day 8 sorted! Yey! Feeling better by the day and not thinking of it tooo much. I can feel the habitual side of it slipping away a bit..... Its now not a given that 7pm is wine o clock grin
Well done all x

CJMommy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:02:53

Day 8 here too grin although I do miss my wine! Am doing MFP too and have lost 4.5lbs this week-not drinking has been key to me sticking to my calories. Normally if I'm trying to loose weight, it's alcohol I reach for not chocolate!

However am having my one drinking night on Saturday as out with friends, then back on the wagon.

I actually think that 8 days is the longest I have been without alcohol in years blush

DAy 8 done here too smile

By the way, did anyone see the drinking mirror. A good incentive to stop/slow down!

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 06:56:34

I am beginning to wonder quite how we were managing to down a bottle of wine in an evening when we seem to spend most of it sorting children out.....

That drinking mirror app is indeed an incentive....although I think they are painting the worst case scenario....I'm pretty sure that most people don't get that 'reddened' drinker's nose and rosy cheeks until they've been drinking for a good many years...it's the Albert Tatlock look!

DW still has a lingering headache....and we have yet to leap out of bed in the morning feeling full of energy...

gazzalw - ditto on "where did we get the time"!!

I am sleeping so so so well now, amazing, truly quality sleep. Though interesting what you say about lingering headache. I thought that just after dropping kids at school this morning.

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 10:20:54

Yes what's the headache all about after 9 days? Surely not dehydration? Can you get a hydration headache?

No, not dehydration! I am drinking loads of non-alcoholic fluids! Think it is all just part of the body adjusting, same thing happens apparently when you drop caffeine, terrible headaches for a week or two.

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 11:31:56

Yes, I guess that makes sense although thought caffeine was more drug-like in its withdrawal than alcohol....?

DW gets a withdrawal headache from caffeine if we run out of real coffee and she hasn't had her fix for even a couple of hours which is surprising because she only drinks coffee in the morning...

Fuzzy headed is my description of how I'm feeling which is pretty much how I feel when I have been drinking alcohol... Maybe my body is trying to trick me???

Lottapianos Wed 09-Jan-13 11:53:55

Hi all and well done!

I'm doing fine but my DP is struggling. He is a heavy drinker but has had no booze for the last two nights. He's been having a hard time sleeping because of it. Got any advice for him? Thanks

Godlessdomestic Wed 09-Jan-13 12:43:10

Still on the wagon.. whoop whoop - although I really wanted a glass after my epic 13hr working day yesterday but I resisted.

Am not finding this too much of a challenge at the moment, maybe I need to add something else into the mix too. Need to get back in the pool to build up my swimming for the summer.

Doshusallie Wed 09-Jan-13 13:06:49

Lotta same here for my DP - he tried kalms last night and did sleep better but still struggled to get off to sleep. I think he has stayed up too late watching movies all xmas and he is finding it tough to break the habit.

Badgersnatch Wed 09-Jan-13 15:42:28

I think tonight is going to be a tricky one. I've just found out that DS1's friend's Mum has got terminal cancer and my default response would be to open the wine. Not sure that chamomile tea is going to cut it.

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 16:20:32

Sorry to hear that Badgersnatch.....How old is DS's friend and the Mum....How hideous....

Not sure what to suggest as a pick-me-up instead of alcohol unless you have an alcohol-free lager or something????

Badgersnatch Wed 09-Jan-13 16:35:56

Thanks Gaz. He's five, she'd be 40ish (I'm rubbish at ages but I'm guessing we're of a similar vintage). He's an adorable boy, everyone's in bits for him.

I guess this is a reminder to live life a bit more to the full.

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 16:40:12

That's really sad....sad but you are right that we should all carpe diem...

Matildaduck Wed 09-Jan-13 17:31:17

Very sad for friend and mother.

I've been reading about the side effects of going dry, mainly as i still have a dull headache on day 9..
It's quite saddening and shocking to read it as it makes it obvious that only alchaholics and heavily dependant drinkers suffer with these.

I think dry january has made me totally rethink my consumption of both wine and caffeine. Its so easy to not realise when it has become too much.

complexnumber Wed 09-Jan-13 17:56:02

I'm joining in on Saturday; that's when I go back to work.

I'm sort of looking forward to the challenge, but then I do drink a hell of a lot each day and common sense says cut down.

I'll be coming back here everyday and hoping for reports from everyone. Especially those of us who will be finding it a little harder than others

twinklestar2 Wed 09-Jan-13 18:47:06

I cracked last night and broke a New Years resolution and had a ciggy! But at least I didn't have a drink!

Doshusallie Wed 09-Jan-13 18:48:07

Dh has cracked and is on his 3rd can of strongbow!!!!! He is desperate without sleep and looks like shit....... sad

gazzalw Wed 09-Jan-13 20:34:39

It is probably worth flagging up that if people have real alcohol dependency issues they probably can't safely detox without medical intervention....

spudmasher Wed 09-Jan-13 20:55:44

How about you, Doshusallie? Have you got through day 9?
I had a much better night s sleep last night and woke feeling fresh. hurrah!

Doshusallie Wed 09-Jan-13 20:56:38

Yes, am on the fizzy water. grin. Dh looks pissed and is talking shite.

spudmasher Wed 09-Jan-13 21:21:56

Well done. Think about how good you'll feel in the morning!

Ruprekt Wed 09-Jan-13 22:31:16

9 days without an alcoholic drink.

I feel sooooooooooooooo much better.

Am also low carbing with the Mumsnet Gang so will report weight loss soon.

kotinka Wed 09-Jan-13 23:36:01

No booze today, the G&T the other day will NOT screw up the rest of the month! {determined face}

Snowkey Wed 09-Jan-13 23:40:58

Still going, lost 3lbs of Christmas weight...starting to feel better. Sleep has been awful though but that's nothing new!

kotinka Wed 09-Jan-13 23:43:12

No weight loss here at all! I keep munching bickies to compensate for wine cravings :-( Must stop that.

Godlessdomestic Wed 09-Jan-13 23:45:23

kotinka me too, but not a drop of wine has passed my lips.. Why oh why can't I be this disciplined about food??

twinklestar2 Thu 10-Jan-13 09:39:33

Anyone else noticed their skin is so much better? My husband is the sane, the lines around his eyes are less pronounced.

twinklestar2 Thu 10-Jan-13 09:39:48

*same

Slept so well AGAIN, but gazza - yes to fuzzy headed, when I first wake up, just for a couple of minutes I think "oh no, I had some wine" and then I remember that I didn't, and I'm definitely finding it easier to get up, but the whole fuzziness thing is there....

Skin - will be interested to see if my skin improves. I have crap skin anyway (psoriasis), but suspect stopping booze will help some of it, but that will take a while I imagine.

Doshusallie Thu 10-Jan-13 11:25:03

My eyes are definitely less puffy in the morning.

Matildaduck Thu 10-Jan-13 11:50:41

Yes all of my face looks better but th frown line is much improved and eyes less puffy.

Not sure i want to return to drinking tbh, i'm going to cut out caffeine by the end of this month. I'm doing it slowly as i drink a lot of tea!

It ill be interesting to see how i feel and look without tea.

gazzalw Thu 10-Jan-13 18:08:25

Have to say the thought of drinking today just makes me cringe...It is definitely making me review my bad drinking habits....it's quite alarming looking at my drinking patterns from one remove...

Yes, DW does say she always assumed her fuzzy head was because of the alcohol but she still has it when she wakes up so obviously not the alcohol....

Also noticed that I'm generally drinking a lot more fluid which can only be a good thing....

Ruprekt Thu 10-Jan-13 21:25:52

Another day on the wagon!!!

Have lost 7lbs.

Very chuffed.

tuffinmop Thu 10-Jan-13 22:18:04

Day 10 done and dusted! Nearly cracked today but managed to resist!
Another vote for clearer skin and great sleep

Well done all!

Matilda I have cut out caffeine too. I had awful headaches every afternoon for the first 3 or 4 days, but have been OK since. Good luck if you decide to go for it!

Day 10 for me too, though it's only 5.30 where I am. No plans to drink this evening.

glitch Thu 10-Jan-13 22:27:29

Well done everyone. Day 10 done here too.
I think I must drink usually because I am bored as the evenings are just dragging by at the moment. I am trying to resist food as a substitute but it is hard.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do of an evening except watch dull TV (I am a lone parent so I have to be at home).

Badgersnatch Thu 10-Jan-13 22:39:54

I'm still dry, despite having had a piercing today and feeling the need for a painkilling gin - any excuse grin.

notnowdarling Thu 10-Jan-13 22:48:44

Day 10 and doing ok. 3rd year of doing this. Haven't noticed any physiological benefits in previous years, but has broken the cycle of automatically pouring a glass of wine without thinking. Have discovered rose syrup infused with cardamom. Nice with sparkling water. Unfortunately, remember that end of week 3 is the worst!

twinklestar2 Thu 10-Jan-13 23:06:11

Notnow - do you go back to drinking as you were after Jan or do you find that it helps you to cut back for the rest of the year?

Matildaduck Fri 11-Jan-13 09:47:23

Neither, i'm cutting down daily as i'm worried about the effect :-)

have to say i am still shocked at how different i feel without drinking. I feel more more alert and have more energy, i feel less snappy toward DH and children. Anyone else feel this?

Glitch can you sew or knit or craft anything?....you could learn or get a yoga or excercise video if your home alone. Read maybe or enrole for an OU course.

I think there is load of good stuff we could all do we just get sucked in by watching the TV.

Matildaduck Fri 11-Jan-13 09:50:31

Oh almost forgot i have lost 2lb which is astonishing considering how much more i ate.

I'm starting excercising today so expect this to improve.

Bishopstonmum Fri 11-Jan-13 11:54:50

Hi all, I started on Sunday so have done 5 days. Feel I am sleeping better already.Time to give my liver a good rest! Tidying up all the chocolate in the house though as it goes very well with a cup of tea...

glitch - so far this week I've knitted some squares for a blanket, and a knocker for the Royal Brompton (see the Mumsnet threads); worked really hard on my OU (I'd let it go over Christmas so had lots of catching up to do); and exercised each evening (either 30 day shred DVD or a short run).

Oh, and one night I did some batch cooking so I didn't have to think about what to cook next week. I'm also on my own, and as I find cooking for one such a faff it's hard to resist the temptation to snack and eat rubbish. If I have proper meals in the freezer to bung in the microwave when I get in I eat far better.

It's amazing how much time there is in the evening when you're not sitting on the sofa with a glass in your hand (even though I've still been sitting on the sofa).

Matilda - wel done on the weight loss

twinklestar2 Fri 11-Jan-13 17:16:38

Am I allowed tonight off for my birthday! I won't go mad promise!

Almostfifty Fri 11-Jan-13 20:07:10

Tea again here tonight. Day 8 for us.

Almostfifty Fri 11-Jan-13 20:07:30

No, 9! Day 9!

Ruprekt Fri 11-Jan-13 22:42:35

Friday night is always wine night!

Not today!

Water and peppermint tea.

Day 11 - done!

Hope you are being good twinkle!

Matildaduck Sat 12-Jan-13 07:28:50

As it was Friday i had a can of coke! :-) I would have prefered a sparkling water but didn 't want to go to the shops.

11 days down, feels good.

gazzalw Sat 12-Jan-13 08:57:23

But it's a very, very long month....I was computing it all yesterday evening as I drank my fizzy water....we've still got almost three weeks to go ;-(.....That's a long, long time....

sorry don't mean to be off-putting...it just seems that it's going on forever.....

I really don't know how alcoholics do it....no wonder they use the mantra "one day at a time" - but how on earth do you carry on socialising and just drinking water/fruit juice....

I have thus far avoided temptation by not going to the pub after work but there is no way I could set foot in a pub and drink a soft drink.....it's the associations....

Also, the cult of alcohol is so built into our culture these days that as DW experienced when she went out last weekend, her friends were on the one hand saying 'good for you' but on the other hand repeatedly tried to temp her to just have one!

tuffinmop Sat 12-Jan-13 08:57:33

Day 12, probably the hardest I have a dinner party tonight. I have bought myself some non alcoholic fizz so will be ok. I am dreading the "go on, just one, what harm can it do?" brigade....

I am feeling so much different mentally I think this could be the start of a change for the better more far reaching than just January. I now realise I have been numbing myself, avoiding my feelings, trying not to think about the dire straits my marriage is in. I feel like I am thinking clearly for the first time in years.
Sorry that got a bit heavy!
Well done everyone smile x

twinklestar2 Sat 12-Jan-13 12:50:01

I had one glass of wine and husband had 2 beers to celebrate my birthday.

Back on it from now!

InNeatCognac Sat 12-Jan-13 13:41:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

gazzalw Sat 12-Jan-13 13:48:22

Good luck, tuffinmop, hold that resolve....you can do it...

Know what you mean - it is definitely a crutch for something for most of us...

Well done Twinklestar2.....did you find it easy just having one drink? I think the other advantage of having a break from alcohol is that when you go back to it, at least for while, your intake is likely to be significantly reduced. Gone is gulping a large glass down in about 10 minutes flat....

DW is always saying that we should only habitually drink on Friday and Saturday evenings...that it should be an end of the week treat. I've always been a bit dubious but can see that it might be sensible way to drink from February onwards....

noddyholder Sat 12-Jan-13 13:49:53

Still going here Since new years eve.

NuclearStandoff Sat 12-Jan-13 13:55:28

I have kept going since Jan 2nd. But find I am eating more crap to compensate ... unfortunately still have xmas chocs and sweets in the house.
We went out for a family curry last week and DH and I both stayed dry.
But tonight we are going out again - pub then curry - this time with a friend, and dh has already announced he will be drinking.
I intend to stay on the wagon though.
Do still get cravings early evening however.
And haven't lost weight, because of still stuffing face with chocolate.

spudmasher Sat 12-Jan-13 14:06:19

Well done everyone, especially Twinklestar2 for just having the one glass on your birthday!!!
I was worried aboutnFriday night after a long week at work but managed to distract myself by a going to see Les Mis at the cinema. I was surprised to see themnselling alcohol actually in the cinema itself( shows when I last went to the cinema!!) was tempted, but got a cranberry thing instead.
Tonight is going to be a problem........NOTHING on tv. Might download a book, get a movie on pay per view.......any other ideas??

twinklestar2 Sat 12-Jan-13 17:24:02

Gazza - I found it easy! What I did was have 2 small glasses but in my nice big wine glass so it felt like more than 1.

My drinking wasn't that bad to begin with as I cut back loads last year as we're having trouble ttc. I can handle my drink and can drink a lot when I do drink. So I'm using this as an opportunity to cut out all the unnecessary nights on the booze.

I'm also doing it to help my OH as he's a big drinker. Hoping it helps him to rethink his drinking.

Matildaduck Sat 12-Jan-13 17:43:02

Well done everyone!
I might just have one bottle a week post break ( one glass friday, one sat and one sun lunch) i do love wine and will appreciate it much more i'm sure.

twinklestar2 Sat 12-Jan-13 18:11:12

Matilda how muh would you normally have a week?

Matildaduck Sat 12-Jan-13 18:22:15

Maybe three, usually two bottles a week.
I drank so much over christmas, i just needed to stop. I was downing a bottle almost in a night :-0

Do you think one bottle a week sounds about right?

Well done twinklestar2, and good luck TTC.

spudmasher Sat 12-Jan-13 19:32:01

I think there are about 8 units in a bottle so that is within recommended limits.

twinklestar2 Sat 12-Jan-13 20:28:10

Matilda - Trying to be dry during the week and 3 glasses over the weekend sounds like a plan.

Thanks Neither smile

Have decided after Jan I'm only allowed to have a drink every other week.

tuffinmop Sun 13-Jan-13 08:11:06

I did it! And actually after the initial pang, it was fine. I still chatted to everyone, i still had a giggle, I still enjoyed myself and I don't have a hangover! Yey! Feel very virtuous now and ridiculously proud of myself. If I can stay dry at a social then I can do it anywhere grin grin
Day 13 people, getting on for half way!
Well done all x

gazzalw Sun 13-Jan-13 08:33:27

Brilliant Tuffinmop - well done....As I think we're all coming to realise it's a mindset as much as anything.

I think we all become habituated to just knocking it back and it's easy to almost get through a bottle in an evening if you are knocking it back....But hopefully if we start to employ more measured approaches in February onwards....

Brilliant stuff everyone...yes almost half way through...but we have chosen the longest, most depressing month to do it so double well-done...

Did you get much stick from your guests Tuffinmop? Just interested because peer pressure seems quite a significant factor in people drinking alcohol when perhaps they might otherwise not...

tuffinmop Sun 13-Jan-13 08:58:19

Thanks gazzalw A little bit of stick from my friends, but when I said I was doing it for cancer research dryathon they accepted it. I didn't really want to start the evening scrutinising my drinking behaviour. I am very much like you - gazzalw, I just smack it back and have embarrassed myself in front of everyone I know! I am known as a bit of a piss head blush
If I am angry or upset, its the first thing I reach for and between the stress of 3 kids under 5, my husband having an emotional affair (plus other breaches in trust - another story) and caring for my gran (now in a care home, my mum died 6 years ago and now I care for her), its been a long established "coping" mechanism.
Except it doesn't make me cope better, it just makes me depressed........ sighes at own stupidity

Onwards and upwards I say. I would really like this thread to continue in Feb to support sensible drinking habits.... I am not sure I am quite ready for the brave babes bus although I have lurked there and they are all lovely.

twinklestar2 Sun 13-Jan-13 10:47:20

Well done tuffin, very proud of you!!

I'm happy to continue chatting and supporting each other through Feb too if others are?

NuclearStandoff Sun 13-Jan-13 12:03:05

So, DH fell off the wagon major-league yesterday evening. 2 pints in the pub, about 3/4 bottle of wine with the curry, and then a whisky at home later.
I had one glass of red wine in the restaurant.
DH's excuse - that we were entertaining. Also called me a "no fun zone" after I berated him for driving home afterwards - only 1/2 a mile but he was pissed by then, and decided to 'show off' to the kids.
He then kept me awake half the night with his snoring; which had been much better since he laid off the booze.
Why do some people find it impossible to drink in moderation? He thinks it was moderate drinking, but he was drunk and annoying last night. Then accuses me of being miserable when I complain, and refuses to discuss it.

gazzalw Sun 13-Jan-13 12:18:38

Oh dear.....Nuclearstandoff....sad for you.....Hope he's feeling suitably shame-faced this morning....

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 13-Jan-13 12:21:45

He drove you and your children home when he had had that much to drink? Fuck that nuclear, that's a deal breaker as far as I'm concerned. Does he often break laws under the influence?

NuclearStandoff Sun 13-Jan-13 12:22:37

I wish he felt guilty gazzalw but he never does ... somehow it is always my fault for being 'no fun'.

twinklestar2 Sun 13-Jan-13 12:42:24

I feel for you nuclear and I'd be mad about the drink driving.

noddyholder Sun 13-Jan-13 12:44:02

I am going for lunch today at friend who is the best cook and will be most offended by me not drinking Help!

tuffinmop - I'd be happy to stay on and chat into February. This month is probably going to be quite easy for me, as DH is away and I don't tend to drink on my own. But once we are together again I know there will be more temptation to drink, and I'll soon be back to where I was, knocking back wine on the sofa every night. I'm feeling so good without it that I really don't want to end up back there.

Nuclear sorry to hear about your DH. I think it's been said before on this thread that our not drinking exposes how much those around us are drinking, and quite possibly makes them feel uncomfortable/guilty etc, which they then take out on others - it's easier to tell you you're no fun than it is to face the face that he might not be able to stop or moderate his drinking as well as you have. Please don't think I'm making excuses for your DH - I'm not - and he certainly should not have driven, however short the distance.

noddy stay strong! Tell him/her you want a clean palate to taste the food smile

noddyholder Sun 13-Jan-13 13:15:04

smile I want to keep going

Ruprekt Sun 13-Jan-13 13:25:03

Just say you find that wine/alcohol is not agreeing with you so you are having a break from it.

Still be fun and entertaining though!!!! grin

Water and peppermint tea again last night for DH and I!

nkf Sun 13-Jan-13 13:27:51

I was going to do a year off the booze but will join for January. Only I did have a rum and coke yesterday.

That's all so far this month. I feel a lot better so will continue. Last night was a blip.

Only just found this thread... been off the booze since Jan 1st, making this Day 13. I spot a couple of fellow Low Carb Bootcampers here! I'm planning on staying dry until March 17th (St Patrick's Day, and I live in Ireland) - which is, coincidentally, around about the time my home made wine (1 gallon each of blackberry, elderflower, orange blossom and rose petal) will be ready for tasting.

So far, it's not too bad - though the evenings are dragging a bit. I did 6 weeks off drink before Christmas, but indulged FULLY over the holidays, think I'm an all or nothing type!

One thing I just realised, whilst reading through the previous 15 pages - I've always thought of myself as less disciplined than my (ex RAF) husband - I'm the self-indulgent one who eats too much, drinks too much, and always takes the path of least resistance - HOWEVER - I'm the one who can stop drinking for weeks at a time (he has managed 1 week, once or twice), smoking (for 3 months, went back to it when drunk, silly me, must do it again) - which he never has, even with Champix, and eating the wrong stuff (almost 5 stone off since August), whereas he has never, in 16 years, tried to lose his tummy! I think I'm beginning to grow some self-respect (finally, at age 53). WHY have I always seen myself as the undisciplined one? Makes no sense!

Anyway - well done all who've made it this far - I'm here for the duration!

Ruprekt Sun 13-Jan-13 22:28:07

Now, not drinking has become a habit!

yay me!!!! grin

nkf Sun 13-Jan-13 22:51:16

Is everyone feeling the benefits? I know I am. Less lethargic. And I may be deluding myself or need new spectacles but I think my skin looks better.

twinklestar2 Sun 13-Jan-13 22:57:42

Nkf me and oh noticed that the other week. It's round the eyes.

Yes, I am feeling more with it and sleeping better (and waking up early at weekends - amazing how much you can get done by 9am).

Yay Ruprekt!

Matildaduck Mon 14-Jan-13 08:04:10

It's not in your imagination, my skin looks way better!

Were at the half way point now. I also feel the habit is broken.

So usually i spend aound £6 on a bottle of wine so i have saved around £24 in this two weeks. That will be £50 ( at least) this month....treat time ??

Lottapianos Mon 14-Jan-13 08:58:44

How is everyone this morning? I can honestly say I love this not drinking thing! Had a mate round for dinner on Saturday, cooked coq au vin and really fancied a glass of red with it but resisted. Went out for breakfast yesterday and head was as clear as a bell - no nausea, sweats, raging thirst or headache. When I do go back to drinking it will be in strict moderation and with absolutely NO hangovers Allowed!

TWinklyLittleStar Mon 14-Jan-13 09:55:32

I'm very well this morning, I'm genuinely not struggling at the moment, although the weekend after next I'm out for a friend's birthday, so that will be a challenge. Not drinking combined with cutting right down on sugar (except fruit sugars) means the jeans that didn't fit at all after Christmas fit nicely again. Yay! (they are big jeans, I still have a long way to go, but one step at a time.)

Snowkey Mon 14-Jan-13 10:12:50

Still going! Have lost 5lbs so far on no sugar or alcohol (and the 5:2 diet). Finding dry Jan fairly easy this year....have thought about having a glass of wine yesterday while I made a special dinner, but more out of habit really, I always associate cooking with drink - call be Floyd! If I manage to get my muffin top under control, I'm going to treat myself to a pair of posh jeans - cause I'm worth it! And I don't have a pair of blue jeans that fit properly.

tuffinmop Mon 14-Jan-13 21:43:28

Evening Ladies!

TWinklyLittleStar Mon 14-Jan-13 21:53:54

Evening!

After saying I hadn't struggled this morning, I struggled a bit this evening, because I was home alone all day and wanted a pizza and a glass of wine. Fortunately there wasn't any in the house.

tuffinmop Mon 14-Jan-13 21:55:15

oops what happened there??
Well done all, half way there tomorrow yey!
Struggled a bit tonight if im honest, husband out till late, own space, cooking own food, to own music as loud as I like..... I could have murdered a cool crisp pinot.... grin

tuffinmop Mon 14-Jan-13 21:56:03

But I didn't have one I hasten to add!

tuffinmop Mon 14-Jan-13 21:57:05

Cross posts twinkly Good for us we resisted, well done x

Katiekitty Mon 14-Jan-13 22:04:21

Another day 14-er here.
Not a drop since New Year's Eve.
Been bloody hard at times.
I've surprised myself with the will power thus far.

Well done to everyone here

twinklestar2 Mon 14-Jan-13 22:39:12

Well done everyone!

For me the cravings have gone. I don't really drink at home and I haven't been out with friends to get tempted.

I've found that sometimes I drink to relieve stress and reward myself with a glass of wine but I've realised if I let those feelings of stress pass the need goes too.

Ruprekt Mon 14-Jan-13 22:44:11

Day 14 tick!

Same here. I walked in tonight after one of those days that would usually need a glass or two to get over, and had a grapefruit juice instead. Very pleased with myself grin.

Snowkey Tue 15-Jan-13 06:51:50

Dh had a bad day yesterday - he got his dates mixed up and thought we only had one weekend to go, he was a bit sad that we were only half way through...poor boy.
While I haven't found going dry very tricky....it's definitely for January only and it won't change how we drink come February - we do deliberately limit drinking on a school night to 3 glasses but we love it too much to go dry permanently.

AltinkumATEalltheTurkey Tue 15-Jan-13 07:12:21

Im on day 2, no change yet, but going for a swim later and ive already made today and te moz dinner.

Matildaduck Tue 15-Jan-13 07:28:22

I lost another pound. Only 6 lb to go!!
Its all coming off the band of mush in the middle. I'm doing a bit of excercise here and there but really its cutting out the wine. I've stopped over eating now, i assume my body has got used to less sugar.

snowkey is that three glasses each? Would that be more than a bottle a night between you? How much do you have at weekend? It's interesting to know what others drink. I suppose it matters how big your glass is :-)

My skin just looks even better.

complexnumber Tue 15-Jan-13 07:48:29

A late starter here. I have finished 3 days, am now in day 4.

Yesterday was quite hard as I normally go out for a couple of beers on a Monday, it has been part of my week for a long time. But I am feeling proud of myself today.

I doubt if there are any noticible physical differences yet.

glitch Tue 15-Jan-13 07:56:37

Day 14 done here.
I do have an admission as I accidentally had ½ pint of ale on Sunday. I don't even usually drink ale but was on an all day walk and it seemed a good idea at the pub stop. Perhaps I forgot it was alcohol, no idea. Didn't even occur to me until after I had drunk it. Anyway, I am ignoring it and pretending it didn't happen smile

Getting used to the long evenings a bit more now and loving my clear head in the morning.

Snowkey Tue 15-Jan-13 08:31:43

Matilda Yes we share a bottle between us - and dh has a beer too blush that's 3 nights a week, 2 days off, then 2 nights weekend drinking would probably be a nearly a bottle each. Bad I know but it has been worse! grin

Matildaduck Tue 15-Jan-13 11:33:38

It's a lot of units over a week, especially for you. :-) i found i could easily drink a bottle in a night at christmas, as i was starting late afternoon. It's cummulative effect was awful though, i felt really shocking.

Your not tempted to drink less? my dh drinks rarely and i think if he was a drinker i would easily get carried along. Mainly as i love a good wine. I'm hoping this break will change my habits so i drink less and less regularly ifswim.

Snowkey Tue 15-Jan-13 12:43:37

No I'm not tempted to drink less, I don't want to! I don't eat sugar or rubbish junk food, I run about 15miles a week, i fast twice a week - I generally live a healthy lifestyle - for me that's enough, I'm aware of the risks but alcohol is something I really enjoy and I don't want to drink any less.

spudmasher Tue 15-Jan-13 20:26:12

Feeling loads better this past couple of days! Sleeping better, skin smoother, back ache gone ( bit worrying!) cravings gone, but still eating loads of crap Choc and cake

tuffinmop Tue 15-Jan-13 22:57:59

Day 15 done and dusted, well done all keep going!
I am loving the clearer skin, amazing sleep, being more relaxed with my children (no hangovers, no headache) smile
I started counselling today and think its good to maintain a clear head to get the most out of my sessions. I am starting to feel more in control of my life, my direction, my behaviours. All this positivity from just giving up regular wine??? It makes me question what (if any) good alcohol does?

Good to hear you all sounding so positive.

I went out for dinner for the first time in a couple of weeks. There were five of us, one of the others was also on a dry January, so we all ended up on tap water - nice and cheap grin. I did eat too much though.

complexnumber Wed 16-Jan-13 05:48:52

Day five for me.

One thing I have noticed is the money I am not spending. I haven't been to the ATM for about a week, that's very unusual for me.

Well done everyone who has managed this far, personally I am finding it very reassuring (not sure if that's the right word) to have this thread, I probably drank more than anyone else on here and I need a bit of support.

gazzalw Wed 16-Jan-13 06:35:27

think we should all give ourselves a big pat on the back...Over half way through now.....

I'm beginning to think that not only will this help me to moderate my future consumption but I might also consider doing a dry every other month.

You are all so right about feeling physically better and financially better off...I have bought several things for the house that normally I wouldn't be able to afford to buy just out of day-to-day account because I'd have spent the money on alcohol..... Hmmmm....

Yes, it's amazing what a difference it makes to restaurant bills, not drinking. Sure your friends all felt happier to have spent less money, NeitherShreddedNorSmug, and good that they supported you and your other friend who was also doing a dry January....

I am really getting the idea that we are all drinking because it is socially the norm but that actually it would be quite easy to adopt a new attitude even when socialising....

Snowkey Wed 16-Jan-13 07:22:03

On other years when we have done a dry January, it has reset our alcohol habits which after the Christmas season were hideously bad. We didn't drink much more than normal this time. I have a friend who goes dry half of the year - I think that's tough. I think of those lovely summer evenings, glass in hand, sun on face....bliss!

Matildaduck Wed 16-Jan-13 07:35:26

snowkey yes i love those summer months with a cool beer also. I didn't mean to sound critical if your drinking, more interested really.

Still dry over here and fine fine fine.

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 09:37:50

Another dry day here. Not missing it at all.

Have been referred to the next stage of fertility treatment so that's my incentive.

tuffinmop Wed 16-Jan-13 10:04:39

Thats brilliant news twinkle I sincerely hope it goes well for you and you get your bundle of joy soon smile
complexnumber I too am really appreciating this thread for support. You may well drink more than most, but I think I was seriously heading for a bit of a problem, so just a bit further up the track than you IYKWIM? Well done for doing so well, any habit is hard to address. I found giving up smoking very very hard but have not touched a fag for about 5 years, that reminds me that I can do it. So can you smile
Cheers all! brew

Matildaduck Wed 16-Jan-13 13:14:09

Oh yes i also loved smoking :-) theme here?

Well done twinkle, fertility issues are so unfair.

Snowkey Wed 16-Jan-13 13:23:35

No worries Matildasmile I am also an ex smoker - I loved smoking too, gave up nearly 20 years ago!
twinkle good luck with the fertility process, we went through it too and very much limited our alcohol intake for the 6 months before we started.

TWinklyLittleStar Wed 16-Jan-13 13:40:50

Hey twinkle that's brilliant about your fertility progress, we've had a shocker of a month here so haven't even managed a shag, another cycle wasted but have resisted opening a bottle of wine to numb the misery, which is something I suppose.

Bishopstonmum Wed 16-Jan-13 16:38:48

Well, today I went to a 'love your liver' roadshow and had mine tested. Its fine. Phew. So good news and I am determined to rein back the drinking after I finish the Dryathlon; I hope it will kickstart some healthier habits

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 21:38:35

Thx very much all. To those who limited drinking before fertility treatment, did it help?

Snowkey Wed 16-Jan-13 22:14:43

Hard to tell isn't it. Dh had sperm count issues and it was fine. We were lucky and got pregnant first time. I think we felt the need to throw all we had at it. We both reduced our alcohol intake down to 10 units a week, as advised by our consultant and stuck to it.

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 22:20:46

My oh has low morphology hence the no drinking. What did your oh have if you don't mind saying?

Snowkey Wed 16-Jan-13 22:32:58

He had a very low sperm count (previously diagnosed with another dp) - the little buggers were barely moving....we did think when we went to see them that it was going to be a sperm donor but 6 months later when we were ready to start they had made a miraculous recovery - almost normal they said - still I wasn't pg despite trying for a couple of years. I always reckoned I worked my magic! wink

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 22:38:04

So the no drinking must have helped? Good to know!

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 22:38:43

So the no drinking must have helped? Good to know!

Snowkey Wed 16-Jan-13 22:43:26

I don't know if it helped - but it certainly didn't do any harm and it made dh a little more involved - sometimes the men can feel a bit outside the process. I'd do the same thing again though. Fingers crossed.

twinklestar2 Wed 16-Jan-13 22:49:52

Thx snow smile

Another day ticked off. Staying with friends tonight, they all had a small glass of white with dinner and I didn't feel left out at all with my water grin.

Snowkey Thu 17-Jan-13 07:23:51

Oh well done NeitherShredded I would have found that hard.

gazzalw Thu 17-Jan-13 08:57:36

We had some secondary fertility issues (five year gap twixt our two) and although we never had it investigated wonder whether it was due to heavy alcohol consumption on my part blush.

Day 17....the light is at the end of the tunnel - this has been a very long month but I am not really missing the alcohol....But it's just good to know that come February we can have a drink if we want to..... grin....

Snowkey Thu 17-Jan-13 09:51:44

gazz the alcohol limitation was more to help Dh's little swimmers.

Snow - from what gazz has said elsewhere on the thread I think he's a bloke grin.

Snowkey Thu 17-Jan-13 14:40:37

blush oh! probably didn't make that much difference, <whistles a distracting tune>

gazzalw Thu 17-Jan-13 18:20:29

That was amusing Snowkey grin

Another day done smile. Friends abstained as well tonight grin.

Matildaduck Fri 18-Jan-13 07:18:47

Op, are you still on the wagon?

18 days done. I'm thinkin a glass of wine would be nice. Someone said week three is the hardest... i' not struggling just looking forward to it i think.

My caffeine has been reduced and the headache is back. :-(

Snowkey Fri 18-Jan-13 08:56:51

I find the first couple of weeks easy - I almost look forward to January and not drinking - feels like something my body needs...but then I get over that and by week three I'm counting down the days to the 1st Feb. Dh is the complete opposite though - he struggles with the first few days and then says he could do it forever - never does though. grin

TWinklyLittleStar Fri 18-Jan-13 12:48:49

I'm off work today, lots of snow - it would be such a nice day to trudge to the pub and settle in front of the fire with a bottle of wine. Cranberry juice just won't cut it. Sigh.

tuffinmop Fri 18-Jan-13 20:19:41

I have to admit to finding it hard tonight, making chilli just is not the same without a glass of full bodied red in my hand, dancing round the kitchen a bit tipsy to Nina Simone......
sigh.... this abstinence is boring, I think I quite like the hedenist in me and the warm fuzzy feeling wine gives me. 12 days to go grin

Matildaduck Fri 18-Jan-13 20:40:09

My dh brough a fab bottle of red home tonight ( work gift) its looking at me on the coffee table. And will continue to for another 12 days.

Ruprekt Fri 18-Jan-13 21:00:33

18 days without a sniff of alcohol!

Think i will keep going. Am liking the energy levels in me particularly in the mornings.

Snowkey Fri 18-Jan-13 21:29:36

MN Cyber pub on the 1st then?

I missed it tonight, had a very busy day, with lots of kids. That always make me want to shut myself away with a big glass of red. Had to settle for water and a cuddle....which worked just as well for now!

rubberglove Fri 18-Jan-13 21:33:10

I struggled tonight but abstained. I miss wine!

notnowdarling Fri 18-Jan-13 23:46:41

I think it means That although I still drink regularly, on the whole I overdo it a lot less!

I missed it as well tonight - I was on a Friday night flight, surrounded by people boozing. I knitted instead.

gazzalw Sat 19-Jan-13 10:46:18

It's not quite the same, knitting is it....but well done for resisting...

As predicted I think we are all beginning to find this quite difficult.... I personally think that the worst thing is that even though we are in our third week we still have nearly two weeks to go....sad....

but it has done wonders for my bank balance and that in itself is an eye-opener!

rubberglove Sat 19-Jan-13 13:53:54

I think I might cave tonight. Friends coming for dinner and dh just came home with lots of nice wine sad

wearingpurple Sat 19-Jan-13 13:56:46

I've been dry since Jan 6th and hoping to keep it up till Feb 14th. I can honestly say I'm not missing it that much - I think because it's January and all the cold and dark make my bed a more inviting proposition, so I'm getting lots of early nights.

I get up every morning at 7 thinking 'ugh, this is horrible, but it would be so much MORE horrible if I'd had too much wine last night'.

Not sure I'd be able to do it at a pleasanter time of year, mind you. (And I am eating too much crap so not noticing a particular weight loss effect.)

twinklestar2 Sat 19-Jan-13 20:06:16

Walked past a few pubs tonight and thought how nice if would be to sit and get slowly fuzzy until it didn't feel cold anymore grin

But I get paid at the end of next week so I'm skint and can't afford to go to the pub anyway!

glitch Sat 19-Jan-13 20:13:34

Feeling reassured that others are struggling this weekend. I've sort of forgotten why I'm doing it now and nearly caved with a coffee and baileys earlier.
Money saving is good and having a clear head in the morning is another plus. I like wine though....I want a glass!

spudmasher Sat 19-Jan-13 20:18:24

Another one struggling here........lots of teen meltdowns this weekend that would usually have me opening the fridge...but I have resisted. I have seriously overdone the coffee today and now I can feel my heart racing!! Java Lava!!
Stick with it everyone. The sense of achievement will be great. (I'm trying to convince myself here!!)

twinklestar2 Sat 19-Jan-13 20:32:30

Glitch I nearly had a Baileys coffee the other day by accident!

I'm still glad we are doing this though!

tuffinmop Sat 19-Jan-13 21:28:51

Hi all,
Its so reassuring to know that I am not the only one who is struggling a little... glitch I feel the same I have kind of forgotten why I am doing this! Having said that, i've had my ginger cordial and lady grey tea and am now tucked up in bed watching take me out and have no interest in wine! Glad I didn't crumble last night!
Well done all! I shall toast us all on my night out on Feb 1st grin

spudmasher Sun 20-Jan-13 17:06:10

EMERGENCY!!!! Support needed!!!
DH has brought home a bottle of red to go with the joint of beef in the oven...it's snowing and I WANT SOME!!!!

glitch Sun 20-Jan-13 17:48:57

Now that is a tough challenge. Are you still resisting? Do you have anything else nice to drink in the house that isn't alcohol?
How nice a bottle of red is it? Could you promise yourself a far nicer one if you make it to the end of the month? (Personally I would rather wait for a really really nice bottle than any old red)

spudmasher Sun 20-Jan-13 18:47:01

Just eaten the dinner- delicious but my god that was hard!. Still is as bottle is now open and I can smell it!!! Down to earth with a bump after call from boss head teacher to discuss whether we will open tomorrow- we will and I will have to be in school extra early to help admin man the phones............clear head needed. Disaster averted.
Just off to find some pomegranate and fizzy water.
Thanks for the support Glitch!!!

Snowkey Sun 20-Jan-13 19:08:01

Well done Spud I'm impressed. I made beef bourguignon for dinner - used a whole bottle of wine - the smell was heavenly. Not long to go now, one more weekend and we're nearly done! I have lost 8.5lb since 1 Jan. smile

Matildaduck Sun 20-Jan-13 21:59:22

8lb wow well done!

Well done resisting, tough one and so mean of dh spud.

So countdown begins... 11 days to go.

twinklestar2 Sun 20-Jan-13 21:59:43

I have to confess I had a couple of small white wines in the pub earlier.

I agree that the novelty is starting to wear off!

Will pledge not to drink any thing else till feb now (have a night out on the 1st).

Well done on resisting spud. And brilliant weight loss Snowkey!

I ran a half marathon today, so had a good reason not to drink this weekend despite spending a fair amount of time in bars/restaurants before and after running grin.

tuffinmop Sun 20-Jan-13 23:02:26

Still on the wagon, but agree twinkle the novelty is definately wearing off! Never mind about the wine, no harm done. Atleast the habit is broken, I am not thinking about wine unless work stress triggers it. Need to keep on top of that. Lost NO weight, feel a bit silly that I have let myself eat like a horse when i could have really made the most of the reduction in calories....

Snowkey Sun 20-Jan-13 23:55:01

Tuffin I only lost one pound last year when we did this. This year I was determined to make full use of it to recover from Christmas.

Am definitely starting to think more and more about next Friday, yep novelty has worn off, determination hasn't yet!

I don't think I've lost any weight either, despite kicking booze, chocolate and coffee (and the milk that goes with a large latte every morning) this month AND exercising/shredding most days. Sigh.

complexnumber Mon 21-Jan-13 06:16:10

I only started on the 12th, so I haven't had the suffering of many on here, but it still has been a struggle at times. I have had to avoid being in certain situations usually would involve booze.

Roll on Feb!

Snowkey Mon 21-Jan-13 07:30:58

Shredded I have gone a bit hardcore on the diet front for most people's taste. I went cold turkey on sugar on Christmas Day - that's how bad it was, I'd had enough of my inability to control sugar intake. I do the 5:2 fasting, and I don't eat much starchy carbs - a few small roast potatoes once a week. But I eat loads of nice cheeses, hams, fry ups, I don't tend to overeat on the savoury. And I run 3-5 times a week. All that combined with the lack of alcohol meant the scales just had to move. Apart from the alcohol, will easily continue with it all in Feb, as long as I stay off sugar I'll be able to maintain.

Matildaduck Mon 21-Jan-13 08:06:37

10 days to go!

My scales havent moved that much, about 2 lb( i only needed to loose 7lb) But i have lost a lot of the middle fat. I have a feeling its turned to muscle.

It's the improvements in my skin that has been the most suprising and that is what will make me limit my consumption going forward.

I have cut the caffiene down a lot ( two cups tea a day now)

I might cut the carbs a bit next month ( i love carbs)

I think it's about a better balance for me.

Well done to all.

gazzalw Mon 21-Jan-13 08:49:11

Yes, well done everyone....at least it's not too long to go now - ten days....

Yes, I think it seems as if we've all gained positives from doing this which hopefully we'll take forward into the rest of the year....

twinklestar2 Mon 21-Jan-13 09:08:15

I feel guilty about yesterday - I should have resisted!

gazzalw Mon 21-Jan-13 09:20:36

Sometimes these things happen....don't beat yourself up about it....think this is the time when we are all vulnerable to the lure of a glass of vino...

twinklestar2 Mon 21-Jan-13 09:23:21

It was the lovely warm pubs... The way they looked against the snowy background... So inviting!

Snowkey Mon 21-Jan-13 11:25:05

That does sound nice Twinkle, must admit a glass of wine would have gone down very well after a day of sledging.

Snowkey - thanks for the diet tips. I have been reading the low carbing/5:2 threads with interest. I ran a half marathon yesterday so could not contemplate intermittent fasting/low carbing as I got ready for that, but I could have a go now. Unfortunately I have just tucked into a bowl of instant porridge for breakfast - maybe I'll read up on it some more today, and start tomorrow.

My danger point will be the end of the month when DH and I are under the same roof again. As it will be a new roof, I've said I'll break my January fast on 2 Feb with a glass of fizz when we are together again in the new house smile. I would like to only drink at the weekends, but when we are together there is always a bottle of wine on the go and it's so easy for one glass to turn into more.

spudmasher Mon 21-Jan-13 17:36:52

Thanks for the well done's everyone! I feel proper proud of myself!
Twinkle, add on an extra day to rub out the snow wine!
One more weekend to get through though I think I'll never drink as much as I did before. I feel so much better!
Hang on in there everyone!

Bearcat Mon 21-Jan-13 17:55:02

For some reason, yesterday and Saturday were the hardest evenings so far. Kept saying to DH that I could just do with a glass of wine, no one but ourselves will know.
Knew I was just kidding though, because we're determined to do it.
Haven't lost any weight though and not sure skin looks any better.

rubberglove Mon 21-Jan-13 18:30:38

Twinklestar I caved in too. On saturday we had friends for dinner. The strange thing is that I didn't even drink that much, but I felt awful the next day. That was literally my first drop of alcohol since the 1st and I think my tolerance is way down.

Well I will still do it until the end of January, which will mean only one night drinking in a whole month. I will still be proud of myself. I am only a weekend drinker, but it has broken the habit of ploughing through two bottles of wine every weekend.

I thought I couldn't tell the difference to my health, but this morning