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Crippling Exhaustion

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squashedbanana Sat 22-Dec-12 06:08:14

Can anyone shed any light on this?

After a major life change ie new home, new baby, new job, I am incredibly functional and energised, but after a couple of months I slip back into such exhaustion that it's disabling. I can barely function, even minor things become mammoth tasks. Going to a superkarket wipes me out for the day, can't do more than 20 minutes of activity a day, I stagger home from from work feeling vulnerable because I feel so out of it. Come dinner time I am so tired the thought of cooking makes me want to cry. I am so overwhelmed with tiredness I have no patience with my children, just keeping going and staying out of bed takes every ounce of 'me' that I have, I have nothing left for anyone or anything else. My voice often changes, I don't have the energy to talk so my voice becomes monotone or I mumble as if drunk and struggle to string a sentence together

It's awful and I feel like I am just half living my life

Why is this happening?

awaywego1 Sat 22-Dec-12 09:02:56

Sounds horrible. Is it possible you are depressed? It can be a very 'physical' condition iyswim.

brainonastick Sat 22-Dec-12 09:04:55

Have you been to the gp? It sounds like you should.

It could be many things, but lots of what you describe sounds like how it can be when you are depressed.

Mylittlepuds Sun 23-Dec-12 20:40:30

Have you had any other symptoms?

pookle10 Sun 23-Dec-12 20:55:05

Have you had a thyroid test? Symtons sound very much like an underactive thyroid. Have a Google there is lots of info about Hypothyroidism.

mercibucket Sun 23-Dec-12 21:05:34

Just get some blood tests done _thyroid, b12 and ferritin

Does sound thyroid/adrenal related tbh

TapirAroundTheChristmasTree Sun 23-Dec-12 22:05:42

You need to go to your gp and get some blood tests done.

There are a number of things that this could be, an underactive thyroid would be my best guess, and anaemia a very close second, but you need checking over.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth Sun 23-Dec-12 22:25:06

If your feeling up to reading a mammoth thread, have a look at this http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1515890-People-with-CFS-PVFS-ME-how-did-you-get-diagnosed we all have symptoms similar to you and were a friendly bunch grin

You really need to get to the doctor and ask for a thyroid and B12 test

smilingthroughgrittedteeth Sun 23-Dec-12 22:25:58
Lonecatwithkitten Mon 24-Dec-12 07:43:47

This was symptom when I was diagnosed with pernicious anaemia, but agree can be a whole host of easily treated problems.

squashedbanana Tue 25-Dec-12 08:28:57

Thanks, that's all good to know

Going to make an appointment with my GP , find out what's causing this and get my life back on track. I was diagnosed with ME in the past after a thyroid test came back negative. But then I was told I didn't have ME and I just needed to get more exercise and eat healthily. The problem is, I am too tired to cook super healthy meals and it's becoming harder and harder to eat anything that isn't pasta or rice.

2old2beamum Wed 26-Dec-12 19:22:57

You sound just like me so exhausted I can barely function, can't be arsed attitude also bone aches nausea and indigestion. I by the way much older than you. Visited brilliant GP) who arranged blood tests and found my calcium levels high ---hyperparathyroidism, Am now awaiting simple surgery and have been assured I will feel better in hours. Just a thought.

BestIsWest Wed 26-Dec-12 19:43:22

Like 2old I have hyperparathyroidism, same symptoms too. I'm seeing the Endocrinologist next week to see if he will give me the go ahead for surgery. It is worth getting your GP to check your calcium levels and also your vit. D levels.

2old Good luck with the surgery. I am crossing my fingers I'll be given the go ahead next week.

bamboobutton Wed 26-Dec-12 19:52:16

I'd Google fybromyalgia. your symptoms sound almost identical to mine. I had endless tests anaemia, thyroid etc etc which always came back normal.
It was when a friend suggested fibro that i finally found out what was wrong with me and i had something to present to the gp. Was diagnosed about 9 months later after more blood tests and other things were ruled out.

bamboobutton Wed 26-Dec-12 19:54:03

that should say 'fibromyalgia' stooped predictive text<shakes fist>

2old2beamum Wed 26-Dec-12 20:32:49

BestIsWest I agree about Vit D mine was low and am now taking 40,000iu.
BTW have never felt so ill or depressed in all my life
Best would be really interested how you get on. I have had scan and am seeing surgeon on 14 Jan,

Mylittlepuds Wed 26-Dec-12 20:38:17

I felt like this before being diagnosed with diabetes. Type one although it can happen with type twos too. Have you been extremely thirsty? Thrush? Losing weight?

speckledpig Wed 26-Dec-12 21:29:00

I feel the same and have gone through periods of this and feeling a bit better for years. I can't function well without a sleep at lunchtime. I keep meaning to visit my gp as thyroid problems run in our family and my sister thinks it could be this too.

BestIsWest Thu 27-Dec-12 16:19:28

2old , My vit D was 8! But the Endo stopped me taking it as he said it might push the calcium up. I went for an ultrasound last week and they couldn't find anything - but the Radiology consultant said it's very difficult to find with an ultrasound. It is really really crap isn't it.

I don't have much faith in this doctor as has said he is minded just to monitor the situation - FFS! I am really hoping he will change his mind next Thursday.

What type of scan did you have? Let me know how you get on - I'm really interested to find out how you feel after surgery - it sounds like a miracle cure doesn't it?

2old2beamum Thu 27-Dec-12 20:50:48

Best Thanks for your reply My Vit D was also 8 and on my 2nd Endo appt increased dose to 40,000'wk.

Had a Sestamibi Scan last week in nuclear medicine. Endo told me my symptoms and blood results were classic for Hyperparathyroidism and the scan was required to hopefully locate the adenomas. Blood tests etc were conclusive.
Am very lucky to have a good team
The worst thing to me is how poorly knackered and grumpy I am feeling and the abdominal probs
I will keep you updated. Please PM me if you like---feel guilty I have hijacked poor OP's post

BestIsWest Thu 27-Dec-12 23:45:55

Me too 2old I will PM you tomorrow (been on the gin...)

roughtyping Fri 28-Dec-12 18:04:35

I feel the same. Will keep an eye on this thread. I have hypermobility in all my joints which is causing me a lot of pain just now so don't know if it's linked.

squashedbanana Sat 29-Dec-12 05:45:13

hypermobility runs in my family too, I don't know if I have it but I know I really struggle with poor posture, unless I am consciously thinking about it my spine just slumps, a yoga instructor once thought I had a curvature of the spine. It just doesn't want to stay upright and straight.

I can't do exercise, I would have loved to have continued with yoga but any regular exercise other than walking leaves me in pain and really 'out of sorts' for days. I can swim a couple of laps but then need a nap! My kids want me to take them swimming, I just can't face it. I'd worry about getting them home again I would be so tired afterwards.

Once the festive season is over I am going to phone my GP. I struggled doing simple maths yesterday I was so tired, all I had to do was think of £5 as 500p and halve it! I somehow ended up with 1200. I am not a stupid person, but I get so tired I become so simple minded, it's awful

Grockle Sat 29-Dec-12 05:54:02

Squashed, do go to your GP. There are lots of things that can cause this & some are relatively easy to fix. And smiling's link is a good one if you're in need of support & sympathy. We all suffer crippling exhaustion for various reasons.

I'm hypermobile too. I don't think I've ever thought about it in relation to my being ill.

roughtyping Sat 29-Dec-12 10:07:56

Grockle - lots of hypermobile people are hypermobile with no probs, they're just 'bendy' IYSWIM. It can cause pain, fatigue, things like upset tummies etc when it's hypermobility syndrome (can't remember the proper name - is it Ehlers-Danlos 3??? Might have made that up).

Grockle Sat 29-Dec-12 11:55:52

Yes, I've heard of that before. I do have some of the symptoms but by no Frequenty sprain ankles & my shoulders slip out of their sockets. I do have muscle fatigue, lots of muscle & joint pain, easy bruising.

I have various other problems - Meniere's disease, lupus/ fibromyalgia... I never know if issues & problems are related to my Menieres or lupus or if it is something else.

roughtyping Sat 29-Dec-12 12:03:21

That sounds rotten Grockle sad lots to contend with. Have started another thread as trying to lose weight but I'm not supposed to run, do Zumba or yoga etc because it either puts too much pressure on joints or encourages them to overextend and slip out. Do you exercise?

SantaFlashesHisBoobsALot Sat 29-Dec-12 12:08:24

I have CFS / ME, and possible Fibro as well, waiting to see specialist for diagnosis. (Main difference between the two is fibro involves higher pain levels)

Go back and see another GP. It's worth having all the blood tests done again, and then request a referral to a fatigue management center if they're all negative. Know how horrible it is, my sympathies.

Grockle Sat 29-Dec-12 12:20:20

Rough, when I am well enough, I walk (the dog helps with this!), take DS to the park etc and I have a physical job.

I don't do other exercise, mainly because I can't... after a day at work and sorting DS, I am exhausted & crawl up the stairs to bed often at 6pm. I cannot do anything more - not even paperwork that is required for work. So no, I don't exercise.

I did try pilates for a while and that was good - it is meant to strengthen your core without putting stresses on your muscles & joints. Maybe you could try that? I also love swimming but rarely go these days.

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