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If you are over 40, is your general health much worse?

(36 Posts)
Furoshika Tue 20-Nov-12 11:51:38

I am 41 and have realised that over the past two years, my health has gradually declined.

For example I now get every cold going, and am laid low again with a chesty - but mainly totally draining - virus.

I feel like I'm a few weeks pregnant - totally out of sorts, often nauseous, knackered - but I feel like that all the time now sad

I eat well, am slightly overweight but not much, I don't exercise madly or anything but have always had a basic level of fitness, I don't drink loads and nothing major has changed.

Is this just a symptom of ageing?

emersonkelly Tue 20-Nov-12 12:14:21

Health gets worse with increase in aging and the resistance also reduces with increase in aging!!

Chuffinknackered Wed 21-Nov-12 21:23:51

Me, too. I am 40. The last three years I have had flu every winter, I get every chesty cough going and it always requires antibiotics. It's the same again now...really depressing. I think it is because I work my arse off all day as a teacher in a school, try to be a fabulous mum when I get home, (don't often make the best of it....I am SO knackered) and then, when the kids are finally in bed, I settle down to more work - marking, prep, tidying the bombsite that is my house. I just feel like I am failing on every level. And that ultimately affects my ability to stay healthy.

My DH is lovely, he is as busy as me. I am at the end of my tether at the moment. I know something needs to change. I have spoken to DH about it but he can't see how it can happen without major life changes. I am all for that. I am going to end up 10 feet under far too soon otherwise.

So, yes, part of it is ageing. But I think a very great part is that we are running on empty...

orangeandlemons Wed 21-Nov-12 21:26:41

Now this is interesting, because when i turned 40 my health improved dramatically. Hardly ever get colds or flu ( and I work in a school) and I am never off sick. However I do get more aches and pains.

CarpeThingy Wed 21-Nov-12 21:27:58

I'm 43. Don't actually notice myself getting generally sicker, but my periods are less regular and that does affect my wellbeing, as they're now more frequent and heavier, with worse pain than before. I also have a few more aches and pains, which I have to keep at bay by doing some exercise every day. This isn't a bad problem, though, as it keeps me fitter! At times when I'm carrying extra weight I can feel it in my knees, which is another incentive to keep weight off. A definite sense of "use it or lose it", where I could afford to be more of a slob when I was younger.

3b1g Wed 21-Nov-12 21:29:14

I feel that I started to fall apart at 37 1/2. Teeth and lower back especially.

motherinferior Wed 21-Nov-12 21:29:27

No. I get knackered, but I've always got knackered. I'm 49.

Our immune system does get worse with age but you have to get to your 60s for there to be a major difference, which is why older people get free flu jabs.

MaureenMLove Wed 21-Nov-12 21:29:50

My general health has always been fine and it still is, but I am sick to death of going to the doctors with an ache or a pain or a suspicious mark on my skin and her telling me it's my age! grin

hairytale Wed 21-Nov-12 22:04:38

No. What's more I'm 44 and had a baby at 43 and 9 months smile

orangeandlemons Wed 21-Nov-12 22:07:58

Yeah, I had one at 42. Have been in rude health ever since. Was always ill before her, but the OMG the aches and pains now are hideous.

Selks Wed 21-Nov-12 22:08:33

Yes, am 48 and dropping to bits sad

Badvocsanta Wed 21-Nov-12 22:12:28

I turned 40 last month.
This year has been awful for me.
Herniated disc in my back
Gynae issues
Anaemia
Just feel so tired all the time.
It's horrid sad

orangeandlemons Wed 21-Nov-12 22:14:18

Yyy to exhausted all the time. Too tired to move in the evening

Corygal Wed 21-Nov-12 22:19:49

Yes - every prev ignored minor ailment is a major PITA.

Periods so bad you can't do a journey more than 45 min - back pain - hypermobility leading to dislocated/subluxed joints that take ages to go back - comedy sweats - thyroid gone so hoarse like tramp - infections need max strength antibiotics. Anemia from piles.

What is REALLY ANNOYING is that all these are minor ailments that punch out all your energy and strength and are often foully painful, but don't count as a reason to stay off work.

Badvocsanta Wed 21-Nov-12 22:23:41

Oh! And fecking skin tags!
Why did no ine warn me!?
(Weeps)

Viperidae Wed 21-Nov-12 22:37:26

Yes and no. In my 40s my teeth fell apart, I wheezed constantly and often felt under par. Since turning 50 I feel much better!

ThatVikRinA22 Wed 21-Nov-12 22:41:44

ill join but i dont know if its due to my age or stress.

im pretty sure that mine is due in the most part to reflux and the ensuing cough and loss of voice that come with that....i aspirate into my lungs and get a chest infection often. (just had one, cough free for 1 week then got its daddy) sad

whatever it is i have noticed a marked decline in my health since turning 40. im not 41 yet sad

Arcticwaffle Thu 22-Nov-12 11:15:52

I do wonder if I get more tired. I'm 44 and generally very healthy in that I'm very rarely actually ill, but I often feel knackered. last year I thought I might have thyriod problems but it turned out to be anaemia, I'm a veggie with quite heavy periods, maybe they are getting heavier.

It's really hard to tell though, I have a full time job and d3 dc, I do quite a lot socially, I exercise a fair amount, so I can't tell whether I'm reasonably or excessively tired.

Furoshika Thu 22-Nov-12 11:26:50

Lots of different experiences. I hear you about 'use it or lose it': I feel weighty now, when (at the same weight but younger) I used to feel fine. What a bugger that losing weight isn't now as simple as three weeks off the sauce grin

iseenodust Thu 22-Nov-12 11:32:29

No, health is as before which was generally good. Agree with others teeth seem to be ageing first.

grimbletart Thu 22-Nov-12 14:14:40

A few teeth troubles now and a disc prolapse corrected by surgery when I was 50. Some arthritis in my knees - so mechanical stuff a bit worse IYSWIM, but general health better. I haven't had flu since one bout in 1986 and I haven't had a cold since I can remember - at least 10 years, probably more. I was still working a 50 plus hour week until I retired a couple of years ago. I'm 69.

Haven't been to the quack's for 8 years. So poorer health certainly not inevitable. Cheer up everyone smile

Madlizzy Thu 22-Nov-12 14:17:35

I'm nearly 43 and in good health, the only real problem is my knees, but that's a long standing problem I've always had.

No, I am 46 and feel just the same as always (may not look the same, but hey ho!).

AND I had a baby at 43 and11 months <<beats *hairytale>> grin

My DH is almost 4 years younger than me and recently accused me of 'deception' because I "had not warned him that the body falls apart after 40" - "Speak for thyself" I said wink.

Having said that, my arms are getting to short for reading in the last couple of years... And I mourn the loss of my waist, not weight gain as such, just the famous middle-age spread, gah!

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Thu 22-Nov-12 14:23:52

No, 49 and the complete opposite.

ouryve Thu 22-Nov-12 14:30:07

I've always had lts of aches and pains. I'm 43 and last year, after things getting much much worse, spending whole nights unable to sleep because of the pain and losing most of the movement in my left thumb almost overnight, I was diagnosed with hypermobility syndrome. My periods are still fairly regular, but the PMS starts at the moment when i should have finished ovulating (I don't seem to do that every month, any more, specially in winter) and carries on relentlessly until my next ovulation is due. Some periods are 5 day gush fests and others barely happen (though I still get the other symptoms). The appearance of my libido is a whaheyyy get off your x-box and open us a bottle of wine event for me and DH.

And the only compensation for the belly is the boobs.

Furoshika Thu 22-Nov-12 14:31:52

OK I am convinced I am an old crock. Shit.

YES to PMS arriving with ovulation. It's like a switch has been flicked. It means I spend half a month in a state of derangement, about two days feeling 'myself' and the rest of the time in a sort of limbo.

Elibean Thu 22-Nov-12 14:57:37

I'm 52 now - either I've adjusted, or I feel better again: either way, I think of myself as being in pretty good health and reasonably fit. Which I didn't at 40.

Then again, I had both my dds in my 40s!

My bet is that its the adjustment 'phase' of declining hormones and increasing aches and pains that is hard.....then hormones settle down, one gets used to aches, and with any luck it all feels better again smile

(just to give you all hope.....)

DameSaggarmakersbottomknocker Thu 22-Nov-12 17:36:50

I'm 49 apart from being a bit more creaky my general health is no worse than it was 20 years ago. It's probably better truth be told because I'm way less stressed and I'm exercising more.

ivykaty44 Thu 22-Nov-12 17:41:58

I feel fine and although I have thyroid issue seem to be doing ok, get to the gym 4-5 times a week and eat a pretty decent diet.

I will add though having one teen and one in her twenties is far better for me than one in nappies, I can't imagine going back to those days and do enjoy my freedom

Elegantlywasted Thu 22-Nov-12 17:42:10

The thought of hitting 40 was the kick up the bum I needed to improve my diet and exercise more. I find I have less colds etc now I am fitter. I do find that if I overstrain muscles though that it takes longer for them to recover

BsshBossh Thu 29-Nov-12 20:32:55

I'm fitter and slimmer in my 40s compared to my 30s but that's because I've put the effort into it since turning 40.

I get more colds and stomach bugs since 40 but I put that down to having a 4 year old child who catches everything then passes it all onto e!

I am definitely stiffer and less flexible in my 40s though and I put that down to age.

digerd Thu 29-Nov-12 20:54:17

From a young age I trained as a ballet dancer, then modern dance and jazz dance. Also taught later. It was when I was 45, that I noticed becoming stiff and feeling exhausted after teaching and demonstrating ( like a 20 year-old) for 2 hours. At 48 I suddenly was moving in 1st gear/ slow motion, and thought it must be the Change. Went on HRT and felt 20 years younger. Not that I was ever able to do the splits again.

shrimponastick Fri 30-Nov-12 20:33:25

No. O would say my general health is a lot better in recent years.

I exercise now, no longer smoke, drink less, eat much 'cleaner', and have much more leisure time.

I rarely get a cold or whatever bug is doing the rounds.

Just cursed myself there, didn't I ??

amillionyears Fri 30-Nov-12 20:37:38

Not really. Except general fitness is not so good. [Though it never was brilliant to be fair]

judefawley Fri 30-Nov-12 20:52:30

This thread is a bit depressing.

I am much, much fitter and toned than before I had children. I do weigh about a stone more though, but I don't think 8 stone something and I will be buddies again any time soon. I have low blood pressure and really low cholesterol. I think I last had a cold 2 years ago.

But, I don't work full time and my youngest is 10. My friends that are 40+ and have really young kids are infinitely more knackered and prone to illness.

nethunsreject Fri 30-Nov-12 20:55:12

I'm loads healthier now. Like others have said, being older has spurred me on to look after myself and I feel great. Sorry, op!

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