Do doctors really not bat an eyelid when.........

[Shynembarrased]

You go for a gynae examination and you have a 'beckham' or similar?

[Shynembarrased]

Its ok, I'm not a troll, I'm not a man, its just that I have a gynae problem and I'm a bit embarrased aobout my ...er...haircut... usually when my smear is due I grow it back but there isn't time

[dyzzidi]

I would think they had seen it all before and nothing could shock them

[Shynembarrased]

I know they have seen it all before, but its still , I know I'm being really silly because it could potentially be serious, must keep on repeating "don't be stupid, they have seen it all before, don't be stupid".

[Shynembarrased]

I keep on putting it off, DH has been nagging me for days.

[handlemecarefully]

If it is a health issue you must go to the docs - who cares what he thinks?

[Shynembarrased]

Handlemecarefully, eeeekkk! he! lol

No, I was def going to see a female Dr!

You are right, I must just go and get it over with, who cares what she thinks.

[handlemecarefully]

She might ask you where you got it done -lol (unless it was d-i-y)

[bobbybob]

They have been trained not to mention things like this.

[Shynembarrased]

Lol, Handlemecarefully,

But phoned the Dr's and the only female Dr they had has left!

What do I do? The last time I saw a male Dr about a gynae prob, he couldn't find the cervix and after a few minutes he got very impatient and was quite rough and I landed up crying, bleeding and I must admit I was tramatised by he whole thing and the thought of a male dr examining me terrifies (sp?) me!

[vickiyumyum]

ask for a nurse to chaperone and then if he can't find your cervix and gets a bit lost! then she should be able to help, could he not use a speculum and then he only has to open up the speculum to see you cervix, seen loads in my training and never met a doctor who had a problem finding it using a speculum yet.
surely its easier to see with a speculum anyway i would have thought, they can't tell if something is wrong just by feeling?

re the haircut, don't worry about it, if your clean and don't smell like the docks then he won't even bat an eyelid, they see all shapes and styles. (sorry if tmi about the docks!!!)

[handlemecarefully]

"if your clean and don't smell like the docks then he won't even bat an eyelid" PMSL at vickiyumyum!!

I doubt that you will be so unfortunate as to encounter a 2nd male doctor who is so incompetent that he can't find the cervix.

Tbh, I'd hate the thoughts of a cervical exam too, but if you've got symptoms you really must steel yourself and go! (gently nagging)

[Shynembarrased]

It was with a speculum, even the nurse has real problems trying to find my cervix, the last time she did a smear for me she suggested that I see the GP to have them done but she was at least patient, more gentle and very appologetic when she hurt me and it took 30 mins to find it and do the smear. The only dr that seemed to have little trouble finding it was the only female Dr they had there.

[Shynembarrased]

p.s vickiyumyum, pmsl at smell like the docks.

Handlemecarefully, I know I've got to do it, I've had treatment for abnormal cells a couple of years a go so I know I've got to do it, it just.... I hope the dr is understanding and careful.

[vickiyumyum]

maybe your cervix is very high up or something, as i said seen loads of internals done and if the doctor can't reach it with his hand then he will use a speculum and its normally able to be seen as clear as day!!! for some reason doctors seem to think that student midwives need to see as many cervix as they can!

hope it all goes well this time!

[handlemecarefully]

Yes, I sympathise....I hope so too

[Shynembarrased]

Vickiyumyum, yes its very high up and my uterus is now laying on one side (after two preg, one being twins) so the cervix is 'on the side'IYKWIM and its very scared after previous treatment and babies etc

Thank you handlemecarefully and vickiyumyum for the gentle 'kick up the backside' and kind wishes that it all goes well this time.

[vickiyumyum]

i do hope that as you know and can advise the doctor on what to expect that it all goes well and that you don't end up in any pain again. good luck