i wanted to get the cause my pain during intercourse investigated ( i waited a few years to panic about it) I feared cancer or some terrible desease as it got worse after having a child 2 years ago. basically, the nurse examined me and although i had not had sex for a year after separting from husband, it still hurt quite a lot in the same way when she was prodding the cervix. sorry too graphic? she could not see anything wrong and the test for infections are negative. my smear 1 and half year ago are also ok. today the doctor at the sex clinic said that because the nurse (he did not examine me)could not see any anormality and the test were negative, this was the end of the road and to come back once i find a sex partner. they understand that my pain is real but because i am not having sex, so thee is no point in investigating further. basically all his questions were all giving away that he thought it is a psycosomatic problem.
i was appauled by this attitute. I know I would feel a lot of pain in the cervix if i had sex right now so something must be going on in there, whether i am sexually active or not. I cant believe i have to get a man to get something done? I voiced my concerns and he was very reluctant basically wanting me to go back to my GP who sent me to the sexual clinic in the first place. I stood my ground and said that I might not have a sex for years and if there is a cyst or other problem like that it would not be detected. when i said that he referred me for a scan. and then he said that if that comes back negative, that would be the end of it.
Surely pain is a symptom of something and they at least owe me a proper explanation of it, so how can they just let it go? i know the pain is not psychological, it is very real, not a disconfort or because i was nervous about the smear/sex. further to that i have miss periods to which he seemed to be having the same attitude, it is a psycho problem.
I have BUPA with work so I think I could make use of that after the scan, whatevet the result. well if my useless GP takes me seriously enough to refer me to a gynea rather than this clinic.
what do you think? do you think i was treated fairly or am i an hypocondriac?
sorry i wanted to make this as brief as possible.
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gynea was very dismissive of my problem - wa I treated fairly?
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BarbaraX · 30/06/2005 22:19
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