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I've just returned from my doctor who back in September said that she was going to send me for a kidney scan for recurrent UTIs and kidney infections, I have had that and went back for the results today only to be told that my kidneys were fine and she wouldn't be doing anything else as far as the UTIs and kidney infections were concerned. Now back when I first went to her she had said she would refer me to a urologist if the kidney scans showed up nothing as I've been suffering from these things since I was 16 years old (am now 34) I told her it was affecting my sex life and she told me that that was a problem to do with my husband and not her. I feel like crying, I don't know what to do now, I can't carry on with the pain I go through with the bloody things. Has anyone got any advice on what to do now?

Change your doctor. She sounds useless.

I'd change my doctor too

change doctor...get some recommendations for a good one....they are few and far between ,but when you find one...hang on to them

Is there a different doctor within your practice you could see? Tell them you would like a referral, as had previously been suggested. Can you take someone with you to the doc's for back-up? No decent doctor would dismiss something affecting your sex life, it is an important part of your general well-being.

Def see another Dr, how unsympathetic for you

you poor thing. Change your doctor

Did she really say that your sex life was a problem to do with your husband and not her? I'd feel inclined to make a complaint about her if so. And to change surgeries.

Hi, thanks for the replies. I'm still shocked by the attitude of this doctor towards me and am deeply upset by it. I told my DH when he woke up and he's shocked that I'm being dismissed by her. We are now looking at different doctors for us to register with because we would like answers not antibiotics all the time. Anyone know whether you have a right to ask for a referral from a doctor?

yes you do but there is a whole load of government pressure to reduce referrals - so much for choice!

definitely change doctors and good luck

i do feel that the way she has put it is rather rude.

but their are things that you and your husband can do to minimise these infections. i know as i had this nearly all the time when i was younger and it is very painful.

drink lots of water, try to do about about a pint more than you usually do spread it throughtout the day.you could also try a drink of cranberry juice as well.

try some positions that put less pressure on the front area.

try for a bit shorter sessions. more time spent on warmup.

the one that worked really well for me was have a shower before and after. yes its a bother but it helped loads.

i did have quite a few investigations but they did not find anything and i found it was rather unpleasant as well.

Have had this since I was 16 and have tried lots of different things to try and help myself. There is no pattern to them and can start off without warning and usually am crawling the wall in pain, I have been been in hospital with a kidney infection and they have ended up giving me an injection of tramadol and then extra on top as I was not getting any relief from it. I just do not know what to do next as we have looked at everything we can think of and haven't come up with anything new.

Have both of you been tested and treated?

You and your DH, I mean. Your Dr should have suggested this, but she sounds crap TBH. Def. change GP!

The reason I say this, is: You get UTI, you are treated, it goes away. Then it recurs, and recurs, and recurs....

UTI's and similar infections can be symptomless in men. So, your DH could be harbouring the bacteria/infection but not actually suffering himself. Then, he comes near you.... and bam!

If you haven't tried this, ask you new GP to screen you both fully, and definately insist on a referral! That should have been done ages ago!