My PMT has got to such a level that it scares me. 2 days ago I told DH I wanted to leave, to live alone, I didn;'t want any of 'this' that we have.....My period arrived a week early today and its like switch has been flicked and I'm sane again.....I ...

[ladytophamhatt]

I'm having a mirena coil in a few weeks that will hopefully help but if there any chnace that it could make my PMT worse I just cannot risk it.
All I feel is anger and sadness from the time OV (around day 8 of my cycle) until I get my period. It sounds extreme but its ruining my life...all of our lives TBH.

What else can I do?

[Buda]

Acupuncture. Worked wonders for me. I had a huge blow up at DH once at a function in Vietnam and then ran out into the road. Scared myself I was so out of control.

Had acupuncture and my next period was particularly painful but after that I never suffered in the same way. That was in 1996.

[GentleOtter]

I empathise with you completely ladytophamhatt.

Have you tried all the alternatives eg agnus castus, Vit B complex that sort of thing ...they do take a few weeks to work but can take the edge off the symptoms.

I hope another mnetter can come up with something that will help you.

[MoreSpamThanGlam]

I am getting worse and worse PMT as I am getting older. My Mum told me about Pyrodoxine (sp?) I think its basically a vit b thing. She said it changed her life. Think i might give it a go.

[ladytophamhatt]

years ago I used to take evening primrose had it took the edge off it but since then I've had 2 more childrena dnits got worse after each one.

Evening primrose etc would be like taking a single paracetamol whne been hit by a train...ie useless.

[GentleOtter]

I think that the evening primrose dose has to be pretty massive - I never found it to be of much use.

I was all for leaving too last week and am now a bit freaked that tis menopause...I'm not that far off 50 now.
My cycle has come forward by a week and there seems very few days that I'm not in psycho mode.

[CorpseBrideOfJohnCusack]

have just been to the doc about this
am swapping anti depressants to fluoxetine (prozac as wes) because according to her, it can be v.effective in PMT. SOme women even only take it for about half the month to get them through that ovulation to period bit. We'll see how it works! mine is getting worse and worse and has with each child, it seriously does put me off having any more

other than that, it's Vit B, multi vits as well.

[GentleOtter]

Agnus castus

[ladytophamhatt]

Does anyone know if the Mirena could make it worse?

I cannot have one if it does.

[elsiepiddock]

Am sorry to say, I had horrendous pmt with Mirena.

In fact, it made me feel fairly psychotic all month.

Such a relief to get it removed.

[ladytophamhatt]

Oh jesus....elsie.

[ladytophamhatt]

I'm going to start another thread asking about PMT+ mirena.

Sorry I need lots of MNers to see it and having teh question in this thread means it'll be missed by some.

[elsiepiddock]

Sorry ladyth, not what you wanted to hear...

I know some mners love the mirena though.

Shall look out for other thread to post more mirena negativity

[pamplemousse]

I take Femarone - a herbal remedy which works amazingly. I feel like you if I don't take it, its seriously scary. It changed my life seriously! Hope you find a contraceptive solution

[twinsetandpearls]

I don;t know if it is PMT but my depression gets far worse just before my periosd. I become very unpredictable and destrutive towards myself and my relationships. I take fluoxetine and it seems to help.

[saramoon]

I get really bad PMT - which got much worse when i had the mirena coil in. Drinking very little or no alcohol and cutting right down on sugar can relieve symptoms i have found. Got a copper coil in now and have heavy periods but just glad to have had the other coil out tbh.

[DisasterArea]

Prozac. the only thing that stopped me killing either myself or someone else.
was a few years ago and some hormonal disasters in between seem to have put paid to it.
am currently au naturel but slightly stroppy monthly.

[ladytophamhatt]

I've told DH that I will be having the coil and that it takes a while to settle down (quoting teh GP) but if it doesn't make it better he will have to HAVE the snip.

I think I'll have to take fluoxetine until we know if teh coil has helped or not...

I'm terrifeid it'll make it worse.

[liath]

Mirena has made my PMS better although it's hard to tell becuase I don't bleed anymore. I think I'm more emotionally stable anyway.

Agnus castus can work & as someone said prozac can work taken cyclically ie from ovulation until the start of your period.

Is there a PMS clinic local to your? My local family planning clinic runs one with a consultant gynaecologist who has a special interest in it.

[BBBee]

oh dear LTH sounds awful.

I have a friend who takes prozac just for PMT just for s week or so a month. It took her a while to get her head round the whole 'prozac' thing but once she came to terms with it she swears by it. It was nice to see her happy - I don;t think she realised how much it had impacted - when she she didn;t have PMT she felt either guilty or sad about what had happened when she did.

Have you thoughtg about a 'traditionsl' coil without hormones?

[hissyfit]

Hi hormonal horror

I feel I have to post because SO much that you have written applies to me. In fact, this could have been written by me:!
"People do always say to me I am a good mother, but I don't feel I am, and so do stupid things like suddenly making batches of fairy cakes at odd hours, or staying up crazily late reading stories when the dc would be better off asleep.

I am worried that I have very high standards and expect people to achieve. I want people to be perfect, which is why I get cross with DP when he occasionally falls short (in my eyes - other people would think him fab, which he is of course). I want my children to live up to their potential.

I think my problem may lie in these issues:

• I always feel I have not lived up to my potential
• I think as children I and my siblings were expected to achieve highly (and usually did, by chance I think"

The list of things you refer to in your first post all apply to me also - and yet - I have a fantastic, gorgeous husband who has never doubted me, beautiful children and a fufilling (if extremely tiring!) job. We have a lovely home and no real worries to speak of (which for some reason makes me worry more, its like something bad 'should' happen).

I too am a perfectionist, and work long hours, doing my job to the best of my ability. My husband has commented that I never seem to seriously relax, I worry to much, take too much on, etc.

I too have always felt that I haven't lived up to my potential whatever that may be. The scary thing is though, that over recent years I have studied to a high level and obtained some damn good qualifications, yet, I still feel that I'm lacking in something. This leads me to feel that whatever I become professionally, or whatever position I eventually hold, I could still feel like this? My problems are 100% worse for the week before my period, and I also find myself becoming quite irrational and illogical about things.

I did lose a parent a year ago who was quite seriously ill for a while before dying and obviously, that has had a severe impact on me. My attitude of showing a brave face has continued through this, and I tend to cry when I'm only my own. I also find that I'm almost scared of the rare periods of time when I haven't got anything much to do. I find these difficult to deal with, as I tend to think about what happened and get upset, so my remedy is to do something.

Anyway, I'm sorry I haven't offered much constructive help - just wanted to let you know that you're not the only unbalanced one!

[wingandprayer]

I have been having PMT issues since DC2 and like many above feel extremely depressed and behave like an utter bitch just before each period. I now have to warn DH that it's due so he knows if I starting acting like a total psycho that's why. I also get very heavy but short periods and acne like spots break out on my neck and shoulders. lovely.

When I saw my doctor he recommended going on the mini pill, yet no one above has mentioned this as possible solution. I don't feel an alternative route will work quickly and sufficiently enough for me, and I feel that taking AD's is treating symptoms not cause. Could the mini pill be an answer - doe anyone have any experience of this as treatment?

[hissyfit]

Hi everyone

In my crazy hormonal state, I've posted on the wrong forum.

Apologies!

[CorpseBrideOfJohnCusack]

oh LTH
I've just my horror 2 days, period has arrived today, now I've just spent the evening with a splitting headache and being sick
i start the fluoxetine tom.,hope it is going to help! Then I can 'just' deal with the physical stuff. Ugh

[ladytophamhatt]

MrsJC, I'm quite of your 2 days, mine builds up over about 3 weeks because I OV so early.

Will be making an appt at the GP's tomorrow.