Hi, I'm new here so I'm sorry if this comes up lots. I'm not a mum, my niece (10) lives with me after her mum (my sister) died in December. Having had no kids myself I'm learning pretty quick, although I work with teens who have been in trouble with the police so there are some transferable skills there.
L is brilliant, she's so resilient and is fast developing into a young woman that her mum would've been proud of, however I'm struggling with getting her to wash and habitually use deodorant. As a result, she sometimes seems to be carried along by an obnoxious odour and has spots (which she has insisted I touch to experience just how massive they are). However when I suggest she wash, clean teeth, put on deodorant etc she has a mega strop.
I don't want to give her a complex or ruin our relationship by going on about it or forcing her to do it but equally I don't want her to be bullied and I don't want to smell her either.
I refuse to pay her to do things she should do anyway and I lead by example (showering at least once daily, although I don't expect her to be THAT good). I have tried to hold a 'stinky protest' by not washing myself but she was oblivious and I was rancid. I also told her that if she could prove to me that she was responsible enough to wash regularly with minimal promoting or fuss then I'd consider allowing her to pierce her ears (as hygiene is important with piercings) but none of this has been effective.
Someone once suggested I do an experiment with her and make b.o. (apparently this is easy ) to help raise her awareness. I like this idea but can't seem to find instructions for such an experiment. Can anyone help? Or you might have other suggestions on tackling this?
I know that in the scheme of things it's not the most important issue for us but I believe that being smelly is disrespectful to herself and others and being clean can make such a huge difference to how you feel
Thank you
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GoodOneGoyle · 27/07/2016 12:07
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