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How much does food/diet/what you eat really affect your health long term and short?

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Helenemjay · 31/12/2006 15:05

I know its probably be done a zillion times, but dp has an office job and when away from work is an xbox/pc etc addict so all in all gets very little if any excersise, he smokes one or two cigarettes a day and loves his coffee, he isnt a very healthy looking person, and when he gets a bug he takes 3 times longer fighting it off then everyone else, i have nagged him stupide trying to tell him that he would be far more healthy and happy in himself if he got some regular excersise, got some fresh air, took much better care of himself altogether, am i wrong to nag him? should i just butt out? he's a grown man right, how much should i insist he takes better care of himself instead of spending his life hung over some computer/game and only stopping occasionally for a coffee and later a fag? its really doing my head in to be honest!

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Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 15:28

I don't think we can change other people or should nag them. You may need to prepare yourself for 20 years of looking after him in ill health in his 50s and 60s however which may not be much fun.

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oxocube · 31/12/2006 16:21

In my experience, Helen, you can't change people unless they want to change themselves. I say this as the wife of a 30 a day smoker who does no exercise and drinks too much. Doesn't make him a bad person, just a rather unhealthy one

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Helenemjay · 31/12/2006 16:34

Hmmm thanks, i know you are both right of course, i guess i will shut up then and leave him alone!

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oxocube · 31/12/2006 16:49

Sorry Helen, didn't mean to be stroppy!

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Simplyred · 31/12/2006 16:57

Hello Helen! How are you?

I think as parents you should do every thing to encourage good health - as you are both setting stereo types for your child/ren. I feel so much better since I got off my Ar** and started exercising and eating better!

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Simplyred · 31/12/2006 16:58

PS I think you'll probably remember me as RedHelen from the September05 babies!!!

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Helenemjay · 31/12/2006 17:02

Hiya simplyred!! im ok thanks are you? did you have a good xmas? i decided to change my diet quite a while ago, not drastically just to cut out some of the crap, and do my best to eat more veg and fruit, and if i possibly could walk it instead of drive it - then do so, and within such a small amount of time i couldnt beleive the difference such small changes made! know i cant help but wonder what would happen if i reviewed 100% of my diet and cut out ALL crap, i think id feel a new woman! maybe thats my NYR!!! hmmmmmmm........

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Helenemjay · 31/12/2006 17:03

I remember you, your the one that cheered me up many times thanks for that, im a miserbale mare sometimes hows things in your life?

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Mercy · 31/12/2006 17:11

Speaking from personal experience, your health can be affected from mid-30s to early 40s. The outward signs can be weight gain etc but there will be other things such as high blood pressure and raised cholesterol levels - which can only be diagnosed following specific tests.

Who does most of the cooking in your house? If it's you, could you slowly change his diet?

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mousiemousie · 31/12/2006 17:39

How old is he?
40's can be a dodgy age for men and that may not be far off. Tell him how many men die or cannot work in their 40's - emphesema etc. Tell him how that would affect you and the kids. Make him take out huge life insurance and income protection if he will not change.

I shocked dp into giving up smoking last xmas with these tactics and we are both pleased that I did!

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Helenemjay · 31/12/2006 17:48

He will be 30 in April, and altho i do the cooking in the house and i make sure there is fresh veg etc most of the time, he wont eat breakfast and when he is at work i have dread to think what he eats so i really only have control of one meal a day! honestly it is like trying to look after another child!