I started a thread the other day about dd (16 months) dropping food . Some interesting comments about whether you address the behaviour / ignore it etc came out. One of those posts: "[I] generally try to make very little comment about food and eating as I don't want to encourage overeating for praise" (by Mawbroon) I thought was particularly interesting as we're often praising dd for 'eating well' (trying to taste unusual foods, doing fab finger-pincer cuteness on a plate of peas etc., holding a spoon or fork and managing to get stuff in her mouth, etc. ), and, whilst I appreciate this isn't quite in the realm of "good girl, you ate your brocolli which is good but you shouldn't have too much cake because it's bad, bad, bad" , I was wondering if anyone else might like to discuss how one encourages healthy eating 'for life' IYSWIM...
dw and I are both overweight, and are keen to avoid instilling unhealthy eating patterns on dd (whether consciously or sub-consciously), so it would be interesting to get other people's feedback on this topic generally, or on specifics such as:
- If there are foods such as cake / sweets / crisps / chocolate in your home / at a party / famly dinner etc. would you eat them, would you allow your toddler to eat them, would you attempt to limit what they ate of these foods (ie. saying 'that's enough' before they've chosen to stop, by saying 'that's not allowed' or by only allowing it only after their main course IYSWIM) ?
- Should you praise / encourage children to taste different foods (particularly new / unusual food), or just allow them to discover / not discover what is available.
- Should you do the "do you want one more bit before I take it away now you seem to be finished" thing ? (I do this !)
FWIW, If dd is not minded to eat at a particular mealtime I never worry, I let her eat as much as she wants and she stops when she wants, and she gets snacks between meals if she seems hungry / points at fruit etc. / I remember / stuff is available... we don't particularly 'schedule' snack times. (Meals too tend to be around 12 or around 5:30 - if they need to happen earlier or slip later we just go with the flow.
(Sorry if a similar discussion has been had recently, I've never noticed one on quite this topic before).