Hello you lot, please talk me out of this because I'm being a daft cow.
I have to admit this is was triggered by a thread in Relationships about herpes, and some of the PPs there were talking about how they don't feel ashamed of having herpes because people who have cold sores don't, so why should they if they have the same thing in a different place! I agree with this mentality entirely, and I do think there is a huge stigma around herpes that isn't necessarily warranted.
BUT- I get cold sores and have done my whole life, someone gave them to me as a baby, and I am so so so so ashamed of them, I feel guilty for having them. It was worse when I was younger, especially around 14/15 when my peers realised what it actually was (a strain of herpes) and my hormones meant I'd get four or five at a time so I'd be in a lot of pain and my mouth completely disfigured Even now if I could 'swap' to genital herpes I would, so that I can keep it to myself and don't have to wear an STI on my face whenever I get tired or cold or stressed, or whatever happens to start it off this time. I have quite petite features so even if I only have one it seems to overwhelm my face, I am constantly paranoid people will see them, because if they seem they would write me off completely as someone to consider as a sexual partner or for a relationship.
It doesn't help that while I have read the statistics that almost everyone is infected, I never see anyone else apart from me and my sister (who got them as a baby like me, presumably from the same person) having them. No celebrities ever seem to get them, the people I see around me at work or university, all through school... nothing. I distinctly remember the two times I have ever seen other people with cold sores in my whole life, and even then they were just strangers in the street that happened to pass me.
So please, talk some sense into me! Even though I know otherwise, I honestly struggle to believe other people get cold sores and that they're not some weird disgusting thing only I have, so if you get them I'd really appreciate you telling me, and how you treat them. At the moment I use the compeed patches which makes it less stressful having them because I never have to touch it throughout, but they are expensive and obviously can't prevent them. If you don't get cold sores, I would be very grateful if you could say exactly what you think of them and someone who has them. I seem to be convinced that they must be repulsive and disgusting to someone who hasn't had them.
I'm very sorry for such a long post about something so trivial and self absorbed!
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MrsBenadrylCrumplesnork · 10/03/2015 11:33
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