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oh gawd, she i9s bloomin well moaning again about her dh being home from the hospotal...

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misdee · 03/09/2006 16:33

so so sorry for keeping posting, but i just feel terrible today. its hard getting peter up in the mornings, then he goes back to bed soon after lunch. then gets up for dinner till about 8.30pm then back to bed. i just feel like i have another child here. he doesnt do a thing to help, i have just dumped his socks on his bed and asked him to pair them up. he leaves glasses about everywhere, he drank all the juice so the kids had none left for the morning. and tomorrow it all changes with the kids back at school.

i never stop moaning do i. i am so so sorry.

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sallystrawberry · 03/09/2006 16:35

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misdee · 03/09/2006 16:41

moany old cow me.

ring dammit ring.

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Flossam · 03/09/2006 16:42

Oh Misdee. It does sound so hard for you. Can't offer any advice other than Peter must be finding it tough too and hopefully things will settle into a routine over the coming weeks. xxx

trinityrhino · 03/09/2006 16:44

oh hun, I don't blame you and moaning can be cathartic.
for you

misdee · 03/09/2006 16:46

i just want to chuck him out of bed.

actually that bed is fully adjustable, i'm gonna go have a fiddle with it.............

no i acnt, cos of the VAD.

sometimes think we may have made the wrong choice. is that bad of me?

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JoolsToo · 03/09/2006 16:53

I have no idea what you're going through but I would think Peter coming home calls for huge adjustments all round.

Can you not have a chat with him and ask nicely that he helps you in any way he can, like making sure he put his glass away and can you give him more things to do like folding the washing or peeling potatoes. I'm sure he'd love to help lift the burden from you a bit and make him feel useful too?

Dottydot · 03/09/2006 19:12

It's not bad of you at all - he was in hospital for sooooooo long it must be really weird for all of you trying to adjust. How much energy does he have - can he do small jobs to help out or is just being awake knackering enough? Seems so unfair that he's still waiting. Fingers crossed for the phone to ring.

HappyMumof2 · 03/09/2006 19:29

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misdee · 03/09/2006 19:49

carers everyday except sundays.

he has no energy, though i made him clean the high chair earlier, thats one job i hate doing.

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alexsmum · 03/09/2006 19:51

it's going to take a while to get back to some sort of routine. You need to talk to him about it.being in hospital for so long gets you into a different mindset-a bit institutionalised even.he's been a 'patient' for so long, it's going to take a while for him to adjust to not having a nurse there to do everything for him.
tell him, how weird it feels, that you are happy that now he's home, you can have a bit of support and help, even if it is just things like pairing socks, reading to the kids while you do xyz etc.

WishICouldGiveUpWork · 03/09/2006 19:54

You could always threaten him with sending him back

It really must be so hard,especially with three littel ones but hey,look on the bright side,BOY is he going to owe you when he gets that new heart!!!!

Furball · 03/09/2006 19:56

So glad it is your thread though misdee - On first reading I thought there was a troll about!

misdee · 03/09/2006 19:57

he is going to owe me a hell of a lot.

i am still looking at booking a week of madness

he has just got dd3 off to sleep for me though.

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misdee · 03/09/2006 19:57

with those typos who else could it be furball?

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misdee · 03/09/2006 21:44

he has asked if he can sleep when the carers are here tomorrow morning at 7,30am, i have told him he can be getting the kids breakfast sorted whilst i get showered. FGS.

he only has to be up for an hour, then can go back to bed.

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Gingerbear · 03/09/2006 21:49

Oh, misdee,
he has been in hospital for so long - used to people at his beck and call 24hrs a day.
Have you old him how you feel?

Gingerbear · 03/09/2006 21:49

told

misdee · 03/09/2006 21:50

yes, but to avoid wringing his neck completly i am vwenting on here

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moondog · 03/09/2006 21:53

Misdee,poor you
Moan away,it'll do you good.

My dh is home for a couple of months with a bad back.
First time in over 5 years.
He can't do much so I know where you're coming from.I'm looking after them and him.

mimi1uk · 03/09/2006 21:54

argh honey all i can say is u deserve a medalxx

misdee · 03/09/2006 21:57

moondog, what happened?

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moondog · 03/09/2006 21:59

Oh,I have moaned plenty on other threads too Misdee.
He has fractured a vertabra in his spine and has had to come home from Turkey.Will need an operation and three months recuperation.
I haven't spent that long with him since June 2001!

misdee · 03/09/2006 22:00

how'd he do that?

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sassy · 03/09/2006 22:01

Hi Misdee. I've copied and posted this from s thread of yours a few weeks ago when Peter 1st came home, cos I'm not sure you saw it at the time.

Oh misdee, twas bound to be the most mega adjustment ever. You've gone from being (physically, at least) a lone parent, to a wife/carer etc - and with over-excited, yampy children to cope with too.

Give yourself time, babe - it will setlle down in a few weeks I'm sure.

(I wanted to post to you today anyway - I saw your montage for the 1st time yest. I have been so moved by your situ so many times, and by your dignity and courage. But yest I was moved by your beautiful children - esp the pixie smile of your dd2! >>>>

Sorry its still tough. Hang on in there..vent on here. We're all rooting for you!

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