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So it looks like DH has a brain tumour

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tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 20:55:10

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redwellybluewelly Fri 09-Aug-13 21:07:56

I am so sorry, I am hoping for a swift and complete recovery - have you friends and family who can help support you while you look after your DH?

Allthingspretty Fri 09-Aug-13 21:08:48

I am so sorry Op. Wishing you good news and strength

Ah crap - rubbish news. Sorry you are both having to go through this.
Hopefully there is 'good' aspects in amongst the bad news: 'small' and 'accessible' are both v v good words to be used in the context of brain tumours. Here's hoping for 'benign' being added to them.

Fingers very strongly crossed for you here.

Corygal Fri 09-Aug-13 21:09:46

Sorry to hear this - must be so worrying, but the signs for fixing it sound good - go gently on yourselves. Try and have a nice weekend together.

AtYourCervix Fri 09-Aug-13 21:10:17

Oh goodness. What a shock. Are you religious at all? Would you like a prayer sent? Or just good thoughts/vibes?
Either way, both are with you.

tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 21:16:49

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tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 21:21:07

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Bakingnovice Fri 09-Aug-13 21:21:15

I know this wont stop you worrying but our friend had a large tumour, it had spread all over the brain and he caught it late. They operated and he is fine now. Back at work and driving. Sending you lots of good wishes and prayers.

Wishing you and your DH strength tunnocks

youarewinning Fri 09-Aug-13 21:22:38

Oh no - what a shock. Agree with others though that surgeons, small and accessible sound like positive things and they know it can be treated by surgery.

Could your DH sit in passenger seat whilst you practice driving?

StillPukin Fri 09-Aug-13 21:24:04

Ok, I'm going the be blunt. It is small. It is accessible. It will be operable. If it was in any other part of his body you'd be upset and worried but you would find the diagnosis easier to cope with.
The brain is an AMAZING organ (as are the surgeons who specialise in it) any damage that could possibly be done during the surgery can very feasibly heal - the brain can compensate, ie some other areas become 'stronger' and take on the work of the area damaged. Do you know what part of the brain it is in?
While it is a shock right now, you will both have to come to terms with it and you will surprise yourselves - you also have your children to support and while this is an added pressure, you have to stay strong for them and do your best to avoid frightening them.
I promise I dont mean to sound uncaring - I'm trying to be a supportive voice of reason.
Sending lots and lots of hand holding and support - if you need a shoulder to lean on feel free to message me.
Now, eat your tea, have a cuddle and love each other smile x

tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 21:24:16

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tinypumpkin Fri 09-Aug-13 21:25:40

Just popping by to say that I am localish (well, Bris/Bath). If you need a local hand to hold or anything else please do let me know

Thinking of you all x

tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 21:25:50

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StillPukin Fri 09-Aug-13 21:29:19

Then it will likely affect the right side of his body, could be speech, memory, dexterity - but whatever it is can fix. Just because brain tumours have been a bastard in your life before doesnt mean it will win this time. x

LynetteScavo Fri 09-Aug-13 21:31:20

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

<<offers chocolates and G&T>>

No personal experience, but Martin Kemp beat a tumour. Think positive. smile

LynetteScavo Fri 09-Aug-13 21:31:57

<<cringes at lameness of my post>>

NomDeClavier Fri 09-Aug-13 21:35:02

Oh gosh! What a shock for you sad Sending thoughts, prayers and virtual gin.

It sounds like you're already starting to think up practiv ways of coping, and that will really make a difference between a shit day and a catastrophic day in the future. At the same time try not to overthink things because you'll drive yourself crazy trying to plan. Fine line, but the best advice someone have me was if a thought pops into your head of the 'how will we cope' variety if you have a solution quickly then write down the problem and solution and if you don't have a solution. Just wrote down the problem to get it out your head. On days you feel strong try to solve one of the problems, on days you can't think of a solution to anything see what you've already thought up! It honestly works.

tunnocksteacake Fri 09-Aug-13 21:35:29

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wrigglebum Fri 09-Aug-13 21:38:46

My friend is looking into refresher lessons around here so I could ask if she knows anyone good (she hasn't driven for ages either).

I only have a normal sized car and the boys with me all the time so I can't do ferrying around but I could certainly deliver some home made meals so you have one less thing to worry about.

Not sure what age your children are, but if they'd be interested in playing with a 4 and 1 year old then we can entertain them for a bit.

Faverolles Fri 09-Aug-13 21:40:12

I'm so sorry to hear this.
Wanted to add (but ignore if you don't want to hear it!) I know 3 people who've had brain tumours, all are fixed and fit and healthy now.
Sending good vibes and prayers to you all xx

SESthebrave Fri 09-Aug-13 21:41:36

Sending hugs and prayers.

What a huge shock but hoping and praying that the more positive aspects prove to provide well grounded reassurance for long term recovery.

Take it a day at a time.

Sending positive thoughts your way. Snuggle up and love you DH tonight, and remember tomorrow never comes, so live for the moment and don't try to second guess what's coming.

And instead of saying 'fuck Cancer' let's all shout '*FUCK BRAIN TUMOURS*'!

Morgause Fri 09-Aug-13 21:42:49

<hand holding>

Positive vibes coming your way.

NomDeClavier Fri 09-Aug-13 21:43:06

Crap typing, sorry sad I blame the iPhone and sfingers made sticky by snacking on bits of melon rather than chocolate!

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