how to eat/sleep and think myself better

[likesnowflakesinanocean]

have had a pretty awful few months.lost my mum 2012 and I feel total crap, have got no energy and interest in things. I don't really have many friends so Noone to talk to apart from dp but much as hes very supportive hes not much of a talker. ongoing problems with sn sc behaviour meaning every day lately feels like a battle of wills :( what can I do to make myself snap back to reality and feel brighter, I just want to sleep but never feel rested.

[likesnowflakesinanocean]

:( anyone?

[KateBeckett]

Didn't want to read and run.
Sorry you are having such a shit time, I know how you feel as we have had a similar time recently (minus the sc issue as no dc)
I would say that you need to do some excersise - swimming or yoga or something else gentle would be good, and make sure you eat healthy food and eat regularly.

If there are any clubs you can join to try and meet some people / get a change of scenery that would probably help a little too.

I'm sorry about your DM (we have recently lost dfil) x

[pod3030]

i'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish.

with regard to eating- make your plate as colourful as you can, eat a rainbow. then visualise those colours going into your body and nourishing you. Drink loads of water.

Make sure to make time for yourself each day- for me it's a candlelit bath with posh smellies after i have finally got dd to sleep.

be open to new ways of thinking about yourself, challenge negative ideas you may have a habit of believing about yourself.

Exercise is key to wellbeing, it is investment in yourself and releases those feelgood endorphins that have a cumulative effect, helping you sleep and making you see your body in a different light. also if you go to a class or swim at a certain time, it's an opportunity to make connections with potential friends.


when people see you making time for these things, they respect you more because you teach people that you deserve nurturing and they will fall in line with that and agree with you.

finally, and for me this was the key one, know that you are All Right.

[likesnowflakesinanocean]

Im sorry to hear you have been through the same thing, it is so hard. I walk a lot whilst listening to music haven't really got the fund spare to go swimming or join clubs at the minute we are literally money in,money out. I think we eat pretty well and I'm trying to snack on fruit more as I usually snack on rubbish foods. I know I will be okay .just wish I could get there sooner! I am totally up for rethinking myself and challenging my ideals I have defiantly changed as a person am not so much of a pushover anymore I want to be strong but not bitter if you see what I mean