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chat and hand-holding for those of us supporting a DH with cancer - new thread for the new year

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MrsShrek3 Sun 30-Dec-12 19:51:20

sign in, folks smile
Hoping that 2013 brings better stuff for all of us.

MrsShrek3 Mon 17-Feb-14 01:10:25

sad inamin, please keep in touch. here or elsewhere. Understandable if you need to move on. But please drop a line to say how you're doing. hugs thanks

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MrsShrek3 Fri 07-Mar-14 17:32:52

great minds lisa.... inamin's blanket thread is up. Am on to it, with hugs from all of us in every stitch. gorgeous purple wool.

Hellenbach Fri 07-Mar-14 20:41:24

Oh my goodness

Inamin - what a shock, I am so sorry to hear about your DH, I am thinking of you and your children, I can't imagine how you are coping, do hope you have lots of support x

Minmooch - heartbreaking news, so, so sorry to hear this.

I wish I could take everyone's pain away, what a sad time sad

MrsShrek3 Sat 08-Mar-14 09:30:13

Hellen, how's it going in your world?

Hellenbach Sun 09-Mar-14 07:15:55

Hi Mrs S, we are okay, stable but DH thinks that means he can return to work full time, but his body thinks otherwise!

He has finally agreed he needs counselling and had had three sessions, so that's positive. He is still very moody and has admitted sometimes he doesn't know if he is imagining he has symptoms or if he genuinely is unwell.

How's things with you?

olidusUrsus Wed 26-Mar-14 21:21:54

Hi guys - hope you're all doing ok.

I'm thinking of leaving MN and I didn't want to just vanish completely without saying something. Home life is just tough right now and I'm upset and bitter at the whole nature of online forum-ing and how anonymous and un-empathetic it can be unless you're on a designated thread for people who are going through shit... I'm jealous that other people have it easy, in short.

Anyway, I'm not helping anyone and I'm not helping myself. All in all, I wasn't on this thread for long, but thank you for all the support. Maybe in a few months things will be better and I will start to drop in again - I hope things stay or start to get positive for you guys.

Best wishes to you all,
stay safe x

MrsShrek3 Thu 27-Mar-14 08:48:30

oli I've pmd you

hellen... sigh. familiar story there. hope you can talk sense into him.

MrsShrek3 Sun 04-May-14 00:59:57

I'm back... how are you all doing?

saresywaresy2 Fri 13-Jun-14 14:21:43

hello, i realise no-one has written on here in while. If any of you are still there i just wanted to check in and say hi and help! we havent had an official diagnosis yet but the fact that we have been given a macmillan nurse leads me to believe that things are not good. my husband, who is 37 and has previously been fit and healthy has had a rough 6 months with back pain and strange rashes and 4 weeks ago discovered a hard lump on his neck next to his collar bone. he had a chest xray and bloods taken at the local doctors which were clear and was referred to to the hospital this week where the consultant confirmed that it is a tumour. He has to have a biopsy and CT scan next week and we will have a diagnosis (or a start of one) and treatment plan on the 24th June. I can't believe this is happening, I really don't want it to, we have 2 little boys aged 7 and 9 who love their daddy. i just might need help and i was hoping someone might still be there with something positive to say :-(

Bassetfeet Fri 13-Jun-14 18:18:17

Hi saresy .... I haven't been on this thread before either but have read its wise words and support for a while .
You all must be very upset and anxious indeed . The time before diagnosis is hard very hard. BUT once a diagnosis is made and treatment plan underway life gets manageable and you know what is happening with support from the oncologists and the team. Macmillan support is so lovely and not just end of life care at all. Not at all .

I am older and feel for you very much with young children . My DH was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer 3 years ago and yesterday was out cutting back trees in the back garden.
Treatment now is amazing so do not lose hope at all . So many tools in the tool box these days my love .

Tell us how you are and I am sure others with comfort and wisdom will post to support you and your family . Keep in touch and vent if you need to. X

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