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Calling all Raggedies - the THIRD Ragged Bits thread. Childbirth injuries, sphincter problems, fistulae... all welcome.

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Jacksmania Fri 26-Oct-12 19:08:26

First thread here, May 2008 to June 2009.

Second thread here, June 2009 to Oct 2012.

Welcome everyone with ragged bits due to childbirth. We're sorry you had to find us, but we promise to hold your hand and listen.

There is no TMI here and nothing is too gross, too embarrassing or too horrible.

<lays out tea tray, buffet and alcoholic bar>

All welcome.

bronnie98 Sun 17-Aug-14 23:23:40

Hello, I am new to this, hope I am posting in the right place... this is my 4th attempt smile

Long story short I had a 3b tear after the traumatic birth of my boy 5.5 months ago. Physio hasn't worked and saw a colorectal surgeon this week but I have had so many referrals feel like I am getting nowhere.

Main problems are urge incontinence, flatulence and muscle spasm with a lot of pain, apparently the problems should have settled down by now but they haven't. I couldn't imagine trying to have sex.

Could anybody who has had similar ongoing problems help with some advice on when they finally healed (if ever) and how? Don't need to know birth story just the after care bit. I am under the impression the nerves and muscles etc should have healed by now. I don't want to be like this forever, some days I am scared to leave the house.

Thank you in advance smile

cravingcake Wed 20-Aug-14 03:27:25

Welcome bronnie, i posted on your other thread - basically it will take quite a bit of time. For me it was 9 months to a year before things started feeling anything like normal.

How is everyone else doing?

Orange3Lemon Thu 21-Aug-14 20:47:34

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bronnie98 Sat 06-Sep-14 02:30:01

hello all, I have set up a fb group to discuss birth injuries if anybody would like to join, it is a closed group and so confidential smile

Idrathernotsay Sat 06-Sep-14 23:22:49

Hi everyone,

Sorry to hear about problems others are having and thank you for previous messages of support.

Bronnie, I really feel for you. Hope things are improving slowly.

I am posting again because I am in a bit of a panic. Despite my problems I have mainly been fairly pain free. Over the last few days my scars have been quite painful, not agonising but stingy and tight when I sit down. I don't understand why this would be happening now as I'm well into the second year post-birth. I was a little worried there might be an infection or something although I don't see how I could have got one and couldn't see anything.

Cardamomginger, I have looked and things look pretty hideous but I would not contemplate any surgery for cosmetic reasons - I feel that I've been messed with enough down there and wouldn't want to risk anything that could potentially make things worse. I know that medically I'm considered to have had a good outcome.

The pain is a reminder of everything that has happened and everything that is wrong with me and I just want to cry. I feel like things are not getting any better and worry about them getting worse.

Does anyone know much about how scars heal in the longer term, and what is normal?

Impala77 Wed 17-Sep-14 19:51:35

Hi all, I'm after some advice.
I'm 11 weeks post op, I had rectocele and cystocele repair and perineum build up.
My problem is that my urinary symptoms are worse since surgery. Also I still have that "coming down" feeling I had before surgery and I also feel like something inside is catching or rubbing, it's quite uncomfortable. Is this normal after almost 3 months?

Impala77 Wed 17-Sep-14 20:21:25

Bronnie, i too had faecal incontinence after a forceps delivery and episiotomy. It does get better but it took several months and lots of physio. I did go on to suffer bowel and bladder prolapse which I've just had surgery for.(21 months after my dd's birth) I feel your pain i was housebound for months for fear of "accidents" the only thing is that now when I feel the urge to go it comes on quickly and i'm not sure if I could hold it if I left it too long. I too have suffered with body image i think in 21 months me and hubby have had sex 3 times and to be honest i wasnt into it cos of how i feel about my "bits". Hope you start to improve soon.

Gudgyx Tue 30-Sep-14 13:51:58

Hi all,

Hope you dont mind me popping in. My situation is a bit different from you guys, but it is about fistulas so I hope its okay to ask for some advice!

I have Crohn's disease, and from this I have developed some fistulas. 5 to be exact. I have 4 recto-vaginal and one bowel to bladder. As you can imagine, this is horrific. I have seton sutures in my RV ones, and take Humira to try and help these (also for my CD and rheumatoid arthritis). So yes they are all still open, and weeping.

I am also 17w 3d pregnant smile it is a consultant led high pregnancy due to my CD, RA and some other family issues.

Previously, my CD consultant and colo-rectal surgeon have always told me I couldnt cope with a natural birth, and would need a c-section. (Surgeons exact words were that I would 'burst right open' if I even attempted to push a baby out!)

I have my first pregnancy consultant on Friday, and am just hoping they wont try and make me have a natural birth, or try and talk me into it. I'm hoping it will be just as clear cut as the surgeon previously said it would be, a definate c-section.

Does anyone have advice/experience they can share?

artyone Thu 02-Oct-14 21:24:50

Hi All, just checking in. I had another minor op today and am hopeful that things will get better now. They found I had some dead tissue under the skin which they think is the reason why the area was not healing. Fingers crossed my saga is over.

I just want to reassure anyone still having problems that it does improve, I've had times where I've felt like I was getting nowhere, but stand your ground and push for those referrals and things will happen.

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