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Calling all Raggedies - the THIRD Ragged Bits thread. Childbirth injuries, sphincter problems, fistulae... all welcome.

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Jacksmania Fri 26-Oct-12 19:08:26

First thread here, May 2008 to June 2009.

Second thread here, June 2009 to Oct 2012.

Welcome everyone with ragged bits due to childbirth. We're sorry you had to find us, but we promise to hold your hand and listen.

There is no TMI here and nothing is too gross, too embarrassing or too horrible.

<lays out tea tray, buffet and alcoholic bar>

All welcome.

cardamomginger Thu 02-May-13 09:42:27

Hi everyone.
Just wanted to stop by and show my face. Things not fab at the moment. Physically, at 11 weeks post surgery, I seem to be doing OK. But emotionally I'm having a complete and extended meltdown. So, just wanted to say sorry for not being on the thread. Hopefully I'll be back soon when I'm feeling a bit stronger.
Hope everyone is doing OK. Love to all of you.

Coffee1Sugar Thu 02-May-13 12:04:55

Hi carda hope you're ok, which surgery have you had? Hope you feel better soon

Jacksmania Thu 02-May-13 18:54:29

I had an almost poo accident the other day. Thought I could make it upstairs to the comfort of my own loo but there was a little too much pressure blush.

So there. You are not alone.

((((((((*cardamomginger*)))))))))) Huge hugs to you, lovey. I've been struggling with stress and anxiety and just general feeling-down-ness.
Remember you're not alone and that we can all vent about any old stuff, not just physical pain.

thanks <--- some flowers for everyone.

aMuminwaiting Wed 08-May-13 14:51:31

Hi
I had my 6th miscarriage in September. My cervix was open and short at 16 weeks so they did an emergency stitch but it didn't hold and I lost her a week later. The doctor at the hospital was nervous about taking the stitch out so left me and went off to surgery. By the time he got back I'd miscarried and had a lot of blood loss. I was sent off to shower where I went grey and nearly collapsed. I kept changing pads all night and in the morning was examined and a different doctor said she saw some placenta still in there and that must be why I was bleeding so much. She kept pulling and I screamed louder than when I was losing my baby. Turns out she was tugging at my cervix! I was rushed back in to surgery and stitched up. So I had midwife visits in the first two weeks home and was reassured things would heal quickly. My iron levels and blood pressure were checked and fine. I was given the all clear to start trying again in December and usually get pregnant quickly but this time nothing. Not only that but my cervix seems to be very low and tender all the way through my cycle. My periods seem different too, rather than the normal period cramps I get a tugging sensation, terrible headaches and pains in my hips. I get a lot of pain around ovulation, sometimes it feels like I'm sitting on myself...as in it's all really swollen down there. Sex is not painful but uncomfortable and afterwards it feels like on fire down there. I've been on antibiotics this week because since Christmas I've been bunged up and feel like I have a constant cold I can't shift. I'm also tired all the time. I've seen doctors but it's the usual thing of feeling like I'm wasting their time. Maybe I'm expecting too much from my body and it's just that I need more time to heal but just some reassurance from someone would mean the world. I seem to spend my life worrying.

Jacksmania Thu 09-May-13 18:05:15

Hi, AMumInWaiting.
Oh my dear, you've been through the mill, haven't you sad
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through.
I wonder if you've developed a bit of a prolapse?
Or, there's a condition of the uterus called adenomyomatosis, where basically, due to trauma to the uterus, bits if the endometrium (the lining that's shed during menstruation each month) migrate to or sort of invade the myometrium, which is the actual muscle part of the uterus. My surgeon things I have it, and he thinks it explains why I have such bad menstrual symptoms, with a heavy dragging feeling, backache, pain in my perineum, a bruised feeling, etc. Maybe Google it, and see if any of the symptoms apply to you?

Could you ask your GP to refer you to a pelvic pain specialist? And also, have your repeated miscarriages been investigated at all?

I'm still on holiday so may not get back online for a few days but please do keep posting, and I'm sure the other regulars will be along for some advice and hand-holding. We're very good at hand-holding smile

Jacksmania Thu 09-May-13 18:09:56

Just a question for all the regulars on this thread (and everyone else, of course)

Since this thread isn't an especially fast-moving one (but also never seems to die completely, which is good!), and we can sometimes have days or weeks between posts, what would you all think if we figured out a way to get in touch with each other so that if there's been no activity for a while, and someone new posts, we can notify each other to see if anyone can pop in and offer advice?

Since I started the last two threads, I always keep them on my "watched threads" list so I can spot new posts. I always feel so badly if I've missed someone's post and get back to the thread a week after they've posted and have probably given up on us. Any ideas/ thoughts?

Are you all regulars on MN outside of this thread? Or do you use FB? If MN regulars, we could PM each other. Or start a secret FB "broken bits and Pervwatch" group. definitely secret, the world doesn't need to know details of my down-below.

aMuminwaiting Fri 10-May-13 10:06:51

Thank you Jacksmania. Prolapse was my worry but I saw my GP today and she said everything looks fine and in the correct position. She said I have cervical erosion which I recall my old doctor saying when I was worried about bleeding in the second pregnancy and that she thinks I have thrush. They always say they think I have thrush though and when the swabs come back they're always clear. Still really sore and it hurts to sit down. I can't see this being a month for trying! I'm going to have to save up and book a scan to make sure I'm worrying about nothing.

cardamomginger Sun 12-May-13 22:12:52

Jacks - I think either would be a great idea.
Starting to feel a bit better emotionally, mainly through recognising that I feel rubbish emotionally (does that make sense??), so hope to be back on the thread soon.
BTW - there's what has the makings of quite a good Buffy/Spike perv thread in chat which you might like grin wink [drool].

Jacksmania Sun 12-May-13 23:12:20

grin I know exactly what you mean - I have been feeling quite rubbish myself and simply recognizing that I'm stressed out and anxious and occasionally not coping well helps. I'm not sure how that works but it does grin

Hands up, or PM me, anyone who's in favour of a (super-secret) FB Ragged Bits group.

I wish MN had the option, like FB for iPhone, of alerting anyone who's posted on a thread that there are new posts on the thread.
If that is actually an MN feature I am going to feel very very stupid...

Jacksmania Sun 12-May-13 23:13:22

Whoops, I forgot I had a question.

Has anyone on the thread had a hysterectomy, taking out uterus, cervix and tubes, but leaving ovaries behind? If yes, and if you had PMT symptoms before, did they change after?

cravingcake Mon 13-May-13 09:02:58

Jacks both ideas sound good so here's a <hands up> from me

Sorry I don't have any knowledge or info about hysterectomy.

Jacksmania Tue 21-May-13 19:12:30

Hmmm... cravingcake and cardamomginger, right now we're a quiche of three. wink

But... I can sort of see how a "Broken Bits Quiche" wouldn't appeal to too many people grin

Well, I always have the thread on my watched threads list, so I usually spot it when someone posts. If I'm the only one replying I'll send out nudging PMs smile

cardamomginger Wed 22-May-13 09:55:39

No one else wants to play with us???? sad.

Jacksmania Wed 22-May-13 17:56:13

We'll just play with by ourselves grin

cravingcake Wed 22-May-13 20:01:27

Are we the outcasts then? I don't mind playing with by ourselves grin

Jacksmania Wed 22-May-13 20:18:21

Excellent, we'll call our quiche "The Broken Bits Pervwatch Club" grin

Jacksmania Wed 22-May-13 23:45:15
shine85 Sun 26-May-13 05:06:46

Well, hello again, ladies! What are we playing?x

Jacksmania Sun 26-May-13 05:10:24

I don't know... how about a drinking game? grin

wine, anyone?

How are we all?

shine85 Sun 26-May-13 05:11:13

I'm not really a MN user so I like the fb idea better. Also, how do you feel about creating a whole new forum dedicated to ragged bits? I think because there's A LOT of info on just one thread here it gets a little muddled. How do feel about that jacks? smile

cravingcake Sun 26-May-13 07:25:46

Hi, i'll have to be bar tender for drinking games... Just found out i'm pregnant! Am a bit unsure as to how my body is going to cope but i'm just going to take things one day at a time.

shine i like your thinking about the forum

Jacksmania Sun 26-May-13 15:58:05

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!

You can have the non-alcoholic wine grin

A Ragged Bits forum? I like the idea. Someone should start one. Not me, though. I seriously don't have enough time to start something like that. Life's pretty full ATM.

shine85 Mon 27-May-13 01:49:14

Congratulations! Hope this one won't leave you with ragged bits!

Jacksmania Mon 27-May-13 19:05:36

Anybody who wants in on the FB quiche please PM me smile

cravingcake Tue 28-May-13 18:53:29

Thanks! I'm already starting to feel some effects, only a few weeks in as well. My episiotomy scar is so tender, really hope this will settle down. Physically I am worried about being incontinent more than anything.

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