Know one or two rl people who use mumsnet and want to keep this separate, but need to SCREAM somewhere.
My Dad (early 70's) is usually extremely active (still works full time) has been really ill since Thurs. Unable to get out of bed, except to shuffle to toilet, bouts of extreme abdominal pain and is very weak, shakes a lot if he exherts himself.
My sister rang me early yesterday to tell me he was bad (first I'd heard) - I said I would go over immediately which I did.
he was clearly very unwell, weak and in significant pain at times when he moved. We asked him to come to A&E, we then pleaded, shouted, all to no avail.
I told him I was ringing an ambulance, he said if I did he would refuse to go in it, he would be ok and would see his GP Monday (tomorrow).
I decided to ring the out of hours GP service (much to Dad's annoyance) and a GP came out. On initial discussions with Dad, he didn't seem too concerned, except that Dad had had no bowel movement for 6 days.
Doctor then said he wanted to examine Dad down below (I left room, but listened in). Doctor discovered very large swelling of Dad's left testicle and area above it, all very painful to the touch. Doctor asks how long had it been like this, Dad says a couple of years (WTF!!!!!!!!).
Doctor says he needs to go to hospital immediately in an ambulance as he suspects it may be a hernia which is strangulating his bowel, which could burst at any time.
Dad point blank refuses to go. Obviously Dr cannot force him. Dr tells me if there is any way we can get him to see sense, then call 999 immediately.
Me, my sister, my brother, my dh, my bil, all try to make him see sense.
My dh rings an ambulance anyway.
2 paramedics spent half an hour trying to persuade him to go with them - they laid it on the line ie, if the bowel bursts he would be dead in minutes.
Ambulance crew too had to admit defeat.
My sil's baby is due in a couple of days, my brother is furious with my father.
I am so angry, anxious and utterly stressed out by it all. We all are.
STUPID TOSSER
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I'm a Regular who Needs to Vent Undercover about MY STUPID BLOODY FATHER WHO HAS A DEATHWISH
HeReallyIsAPillock · 05/03/2006 21:46
this must be awful for you 
I know you are really, really annoyed at him but he must be very frightened of something, bless him
I'm so sorry he's being so stubborn - how worrying and frustrating for you.
It's sound advice chapsmum, and it's pretty much what I said to him today.
He admitted that he was wrong not to go in the ambulance yesterday, but said he would do the same again today if I called one . Is adamant that he will sort it all out tomorrow.
Blu - he's on his own - didn't want anyone to stay. My sister lives about 8 houses away and we have charged his mobile and put it by the bed.
I understand if he is scared, but he really is putting himself and us through the mill.
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