is that I really really want a baby.I have health problems a heart condition and I have had 2 kidney transplants in 1985 and 2000.I had my ds in 1994 and I was in the same situation health wise and had a very easy pregnancy but a year after he was born my kidney (transplant)failed unexpectedly and I was eventually on dialysis when he was aged 3 - 6 than I had another transplant in 2000 and have been ok since.I got pregnant 5 weeks after my 2nd transplant a complete mistake and I was advised to have a termination at the time which I did and have never really got over as I did want more children.I have since been told by a junior doctor that I should have gone ahead with that pregnancy as I would have been fine.I am now 40 and still considering having another even though ds is 11.It is literally now or never,we considered adoption but changed our minds.I really thought I was over it all but it has raised his head again and recently my consultant told me that there was no connection between my original transplant failing and the birth of my son it was a coincidence and my kidney would have failed at that time anyway.My new heart doctor says my heart was the same with my last pregnancy I just didn't know and that people with my condition often sail through pregnancy.Now it is just down to me to decide dp will support me regardless but I am worried I am being selfish to bring another child into my crazy medical world otoh my ds has a great life is full of confidence and seems to be well balanced considering some of the times he's seen me ill.BTW dp is 45 aqnd majorly healthy and fit and very hands on I just want to decide and move on Thanks for listening I am feeling it a lot today xxx
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trefusis ·
08/01/2006 13:35
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