I think DD! needs to seen a councellor.

[misdee]

lately when we have been going to see Peter she has complained on tunny ache. there is now temp, no illness etc, but this on-going tummy ache. she is fine at the hospital, but the tummy ache appears on the way home, and invariable she will be in tears later on that night because she misses Peter.

Also the other night, i thought i would have to take dd3 to the hospital, and dd1 become hysterical, shouting and screaming that she was scared, and that she didnt want dd3 to go to the hospital as 'they would keep here there' and she didnt want that.

I really thinks she needs to see someone who can help her come to terms with whats happening. I dont want her to fear the hospital trips, and i dont want her to be scared of visiting peter. atm she only goes in at the weekends anyway as she is too tired after school. I also think she needs more 'playtime' away from the hospital at weekends.

So after all this waffling on, who do i need to contact, would it be the family support at the hospital, or our own GP? i think the family support team may be quicker than going through the GP, but am utterly confused and feel helpless as i cant help my little girls.

[NomDePlume]

It sounds like a counsellor would be a good idea for the girls. I'd go to the family support people and ask them to explain how the system works, ie would you need to get a GP referral letter or anything.

I know it is a totally different situation for you but a friend of mine's son saw a counsellor to help deal with the imminent death (from leukeamia) of his 5 year old younger brother. My friend things it helped him with his grief & confusion immensely.

[starshaker]

no advice really but feel for you id go to the gp and see what he says

[puff]

Don't know anything about the process of referring children for counselling, but it does sound as though the family support team at the hospital would be your best bet initially - they must have experience of helping families trying to cope with the strain of this situation.

Good luck Misdee.

[NomDePlume]

'thinks', not things !

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[misdee]

she has just been in tears