What do you DO on holiday with young kids(57 Posts)
What do you DO on holiday with young kids? Especially if you're on your own?
When I was single I thought of a holiday as exploring somewhere I'd never been to before. Maybe an interesting, historical city or perhaps a beautiful landscape. Plenty of walking, sightseeing and learning about the culture. Or trying a new activity. Not necessarily far-flung or expensive. But basically something active or different.
My DDs are 4 and 1 1/2 and in the summer we'll be revisiting a mediterranean town we go to each year (because my husband's extended family live there). It'll be lovely to see his relatives at the weekend but on the whole I'll be on my own whilst we're there, plus possibly the occasional afternoon with DH.
Before anyone points it out.... I know I'm lucky to get a holiday at all - a change of scene and some extra sunshine. And I realise that I have to change my expectations from pre-marriage/kids. I'm really after more constructive suggestions as to how to keep it interesting for all 3 of us.
I've seen the local sights many times now and we visited all the tourist spots in the country before we had kids. I'll obviously spend some time reading to them but, again, not all day, every day - we might as well be at home. DD1 is also into dancing, drawing and crafts. DD2 likes soft play and dolls. But I can't see how I can included any of that in our holiday. Any ideas?
I'll be hiring a car and there're beautiful views from the roads but parking's difficult away from the apartment. I'll be 20 mins' walk from a small, very busy, but sandy, beach and it's usually sunny and around 24-33 degrees. But I'm really not looking forward to sitting on a crowded beach all day, every day, making sand castles for a whole week....
Should I steel myself to a very
boring long week or has anyone got any bright ideas for making it fun for the kids and myself? I could budget about £20 a day for entertainment.
What would you pack to keep them (and me) happy and what would you plan to get us all out of the apartment?
Thanks for reading all this and for any suggestions.
I tried that Fluffy, not much at all. There IS an indoor public pool too though, so that's another afternoon sorted.
Scrap book making, yes! Good idea. And maybe we could borrow a baking tray, etc. DD1 does really like baking, we do plenty at home.
Oh yes, mustn't forget the blowing bubbles.
Thanks for all the suggestions everyone, this is great.
Recently been on holiday with a 19 month old - stickers were our answer to everything !
Also, if you're staying with family can you not just buy stuff over there and leave it? I'm thinking balls, bucket and spade, various other plastic toys?
We were travelling lightly (well, as lightly as possible with a toddler) so had stickers, a few books and a blow up ball.
DS loved seeing boats but hated being in one (scared) so not sure how much that would work.
Can you say roughly where? Some MNers might live there/know the region.
Reading with interest and nothing to add really apart from the following pearl of wisdom: you can make blowing bubbles yourself by adding a splash of washing up liquid (from DH's family probably?) to water and then use a straw to blow bubbles. might save a bit of luggage.
and tbh, i wouldn't take my 18 month old on a tiny boat, but he's a bit of a liability at the best of times.
have a great time!
I think you slightly need to re-adjust your mindset as this isn't a holiday, its visiting relatives and therefore the expectations and surroundings are different. When we go on holiday with DC, we do do some sightseeing, some beach days etc; when we go to visit grandparents (which can be for a week at a time), we're mooching around at home much more.
Do you rent somewhere to stay or stay with relatives? Whichever, I think the key is to build up a box of holiday toys which, if you're renting somewhere, one of the relatives then looks after between visits. Both sets of grandparents have a box of stuff which lives in the garage and consists of hideous folding plastic pushchair (£2.99 in S'burys), plastic tea set (£2.49 in S'burys), play food, a few little cars, a Happyland type dolls house or farm (eBay; local to relevant grandparents collection; about £7 each) and then crafty things like play doh, scissors, glue, glitter etc. There are also a couple of jigsaws but I realise they don't work as well as, for example, a 12 piece jigsaw was far too hard for one visit, perfect for another but has been ridiculously easy for the last couple of years. Instead, we've now got a games compedium thing with snakes & ladders, ludo, draughts & chess, some of which DD can do now, some of which she'll grow into. This is then the default stuff that they do
when its pouring with rain we're at "home". I don't know if the country you're going to has such an array of cheap toys as the UK does but, for an easy life, I'd be tempted to fill a suitcase for this holiday & pay the extra luggage allowance and know you've got a selection out there for future visits.
You're getting a good list of activities. We often walk to the village shop, buy a postcard and then draw a picture on it to give to a friend when we get home. The scribble often gets discarded before we get home but it passes an hour or so!
If you're staying with relatives, can your DD do some cooking? DD (like all children it seems) loves making cakes so we'll make one & decorate it (either with M&Ms or similar which we've walked to the shop to buy or something I've taken with me).
What sort of outdoor area do you have? Can you either take a paddling pool with you or buy one out there? Or just fill a bucket or something with water & wash dolls/dolls' clothes/the patio etc? Fill a smaller container with water & petals and make perfume?
Do your children speak the language of where you're going? If so, can they have an intense swimming course at the local pool?
I second getting a local guidebook which specialises in things for children to do. When we went on holiday to France last year, we had one and it was perfect on a rainy day as it had a section on rainy things to do (soft play) but also told you how much of, for example, the local zoo was undercover (reptile house, aquarium) & how much it was a dry-weather-only activity.
You do all the same stuff you do at home, except in different surroundings. If you are lucky and have access to a pool, then you will spend alot of time playing with them in the water
ensuring they don't drown.
As a single parent, I would say holidays with small children are fairly exhausting experiences and bear no resemblance to anything you thought of as a holiday pre-kids.
We used to stay with DH's grandmother but she's getting very elderly and infirm now so we thought it best to rent an apartment nearby rather than impose on her.
Part of the reason why it's important for DH to spend time with her and for her to our DDs (v briefly) each day is because she's been ill recently and we obviously don't know what the future holds.
Do you wish you WERE at home or have you particularly enjoyed any holidays?
Good tips there Murtette, thanks.
So many idea here, I think I'll print the thread out.
DDs are learning the language.
I second getting a local guidebook which specialises in things for children to do
If only! Maybe I should start one!!!
Pipe cleaners! They are fab for modelling and light weight. Stacking cups are also good for all sorts of games way past toddler age. Some elastic to play French skipping if old enough. Dominos. Siesta!
Murtette, The tourism website's leisure section recommends casinos and nightclubs
Softy, if I'm honest, no I didn't really enjoy holidays with the DCs when they were little. The journeys used to kill me before we even started. I did all the same stuff I did with them at home only with less home comforts around me. Splashing about in the pool was ok, but I used to be desperate for an actual rest. Maybe it is not so bad if there are two parents.
However, it toughened me up & I appreciate every minute of my holidays with them now they are older. We go exploring, I get to read my book, sunbathe and swim again. We pick places to see together & decide when we want veg days too. It is really great.
Right, pipe cleaners, stacking cups, elastic and dominos added.
Siesta? It might take all week to convince my two... [hmmm]
I did all the same stuff I did with them at home only with less home comforts around me.
I'm worried that's how I'm going to feel.
Baths - DD loves being in the bath so will often randomly have one in the middle of the day when we're away. A few plastic cups & jugs from the kitchen & she's very happy.
Will your DH's grandmother be able to store things for you between trips? Do any of your DC's cousins have toys in the loft or anything you could borrow?
Is DH's grandmother a doting great grandmother who wants to spend time with her great grandchildren? If so, is she able to play snap or dominos or something with your older DD? I would have thought that its fairly easy to play that without much common language. Can your DD "put on a concert" for her (ie sing some nursery rhymes), cook her tea or just paint umpteen pictures for her?
Yes, we can leave things there if we don't need them at home.
She really doesn't like anyone else in her little kitchen. We're renting an apartment partly so that she doesn't have to get us breakfast.
She definitely wants to see the kids, how long for depends on how tired she is. Her near-deafness is more of a barrier than the language is but snap and dominos could be good. Another one for the list.
PostBellumBugsy, From what age did you start to enjoy holidays again?
My DC will spend hours on a beach picking up shells and building sand castles. I bought myself a decent spade with a long handle and we build castles with a trench down to the sea, so when the tide comes in the water rushes round the moat - they love it every time.
Tiny fold away kites they love
We always buy new DVD to watch, and me for my DH and me as well.
Most of the time we spend outdoors on holiday
I found holidays could be quite difficult at times when the DC were pre school unless there was some childcare. I still quite a went away quite a lot because the DC enjoyed them and also I really wanted them to get them used to travelling and change of routine etc. When DS3 was 5 we did our first long haul holiday and it went so well we started to get more adventurous and have had amazing family holidays including 2 of our favourites to Rio and Cape Town.
I had my DC young though so don't really have any pre children holidays to compare them with.
Try not to worry about your trip, think of it more as visiting family than an actual holiday.
Nicolaeus, Definitely taking stickers and a blow up ball, thanks!
I think you slightly need to re-adjust your mindset as this isn't a holiday, its visiting relatives. and 6I found holidays could be quite difficult at times when the DC were pre school^ Wise words Murtette and Fluffy. Maybe that's what I've been struggling with. Expecting it to be a holiday.
Oops, I found holidays could be quite difficult at times when the DC were pre school
"at times" being the key words, not all the time. At other times absolutely amazing having time with the DC and none of the usual distractions and day to day jobs and chores to do.
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