Mumsnet Talk

Hi

I am a new mummy living in the Medway area & am getting really down that I just cant find any like minded people to spend some time with. I am in a civil partnership & our son is 15 weeks old. As soon as people find out that our son has 2 mummy's they back off! Are there any other lesbian or gay parents out there???? God I hope so

Hiya,

Never fear you are not alone! My partner and I are expecting our first baby in less than 11 weeks, we've also been on the look out for same sex couples in the area and it's not been that easy.
We live near Tonbridge and so far I found one lesbian mums 'support group' (for want of a better term) but it's in Surrey which isn't exactly near.
There's also one other post on here on the same subject http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/gay_parents/722909-Any-lesbian-families-in-Kent-want-to-meet-up don't know if this is related to you at all, but at least it's good to know there's more of us out there!
Anyway, would be good to hear from you and I hope this will have lifted your spirits a bit.
Kat.

I can't believe people back off! . I'm in Bromley, Kent and am also a lesbian mum, but in a slightly different situation. I have recently realised I am very much gay and my dd is 6 now. I am slightly concerned about peoples reaction to dd having a step mummy once i get into a long term relationship. Personally i couldn't give a crap what others think about me, but i don't want dd getting stick for it!

What a relief that there are some mummy's out there!
mummies2b - I have checked the post you mentioned & there haven't been any updates or posts on that thread for months...it is nice to know that we are not alone! We live in Chatham so not that far away from you really. I have also looked at the support group in Surrey but it is just too far. I guess I'm just feeling a bit isolated as nearly every baby group I have tried is full of straight mums & dads who I just don't have anything in common with - apart from a baby! You always get the questions like "so what does dad do for work" etc, and as soon as I say that our son has 2 mum's, most just gently then talk to someone else & that's it. I want our son to be able to interact & socialise which is why I go but it's not a nice experience for me. Maybe I'm just sensitive to it. I would like to stay in contact so looking forward to hearing from you.
MNingatmidnight -
I am very much like you in the fact that I also don't care what people think about me, my main concern is that our son has the opportunity like any other child with straight parents to interact & socialise & make some friends.

Hi. I know of a very nice baby group in Rainham and one Chatham, where I am pretty sure everyone is more interested in babies than your relationship . Not sure if that counts as like minded, but would say that all baby groups are weird in their own way, so it is just a case of finding a weird one that suits you.

Well there you go, three of us have picked up on this in less than three days which is positive.
We're in the same school as thought in that we've always been open about our relationship and the iminent new arrival. It's not that we're adverse to baby groups, but it is nice to know there are other people out there who are from more of a 'non conventional' family set up
Ginger80 if you'd like you can e-mail us on kat_60@hotmai.com and perhaps we can meet up or something. We look forward to hearing from you.
Kat.

I noticed this forum before as I often use other areas of mumsnet, but also noticed it wasn't used very often. odd as pthere must be loads of gay and lesbian families on here. Hmm.

I am hoping to get to know some "non conventional" families too, one to be able to share similar experiences but also to make it easier for my daughter to understand that it's perfectly normal to have 2 mummies. i think it'll be harder for her to suddenly have to adjust to this at the age of 6, but I know kids are very flexible and she probably won't ever even mention it.

Lisa
x

Hi Lisa,

The offer extends to you too with the e-mailing.
You're right though, kids are super flexible and I always think that if you don't make a big deal of things then they just get on with. I'm sure if she's got any questions she'll just pipe up and ask!

Kat.

RubysReturn -
Can you let me know the details of these groups please? That would be great.
Lisa - also feel free to contact us as well, the more "non conventional" families we know the better! Our email is harrynkaty@btinternet.com.
Kat - Would be nice to meet up, will email you soon, thanks

x

Kat,

Did you receive our email??

hi there keep checking this forum but see its not used too much surely we are not the only lesb mams on mn!!!

Hi jayjayp

No you are not alone! Where are you from?

hi ginger thank god!!!! thought for a mo i was the only gay in the village!!!! I'm from north yorkshire i live in a small village with my dp and 2 ds's i am horse riding instructor and horse trainer am trying to reach out to like minders on net as am pretty isolated out here u know! i really am the only gay here!!

I know i'm prob miles away from you guys but still like to chat?!!

Hi jayjayp

I'm sure we are not the only gay's in the village but it sometimes feels like that!! Yes, North Yorkshire is miles away but nevermind! We have a 18 week old son who is at the moment driving us crazy with teething & weaning!! I wish he had come with a manual! How do you cope being the only gay in the village?! If you want to email directly to us then feel free, address is harrynkaty@btinternet.com. Hope to hear from you soon....

ginger: thanks for that will email you soon i have 2 ds's the oldest is 12 n youngest is 9 glad to well over teething issues and the like but have another whole box of frogs to play with right now!!!! was at the g.p's today to order extra small condoms for my eldest!!! i know right!!!! doubt he will use them properly prob just blow them up on his head or have posh wank or something, well at least i hope !! some of his m8s are sexually active already was just trying to make sure he prepared for every eventuality but to be true wasnt expecting this so soon!!!

Hey all,

My partner and i have 3 children, we are lesbian mimmues, and are trying to concieve our 4th child *my 2nd* (2 of the children we have are my partners from previous straight relationships)

I have a couple of gay friends in the ketn area, and we are trying to set up a group. Becuase people would be coming from far and wide we were thinking about saturday lunchtime every other weekend.

We personally live in margate, and our friends live in cantebury and maidstone.

If we could set up a group for children of any age, but specific to gay families in the kent area, how likely do you think any of you would be to attend?

Thanks

Vikki

Hi Vikki

Count us in, we live in Chatham.

cool ginger! are you on facebook? im trying to arrange it on there as its the central point for most of us socially inept homo's! lol

Yes on facebook, whats your user name on there so I can find you!

hi am on facebook as jamie paylor pic of me on a horse if u wanna request me as afriend ta lol n hugs to all the gay mummies out there xxxxxx

Hiya Ginger80 congrats on the birth of your boy , I am in Kent and it wouldn't bother me a bit if we met gay parents and their children on our travels.

Maybe it's worth posting on the other meet ups threads too?

Hey!

Haven't checked this thread for a while but am so glad to see the latest threads!
Count us in for any Kent meetings, we're less than five weeks away from becoming mummies but would love to meet up with other people.
I look forward to hearing any further details!!

K&P x

Im on there as vikki childs, picture of my daughter up really close as my profile pic!

If you want me on msn i am angelswithsnipers1987@hotmail.com

Catch ya later x x

Hi there, just about to move to Leeds Castle area from Manchester with our 18 month old daughter and looking for a gay parent's group to join...noticed that there doesn't seem to be anything in the area, can anyone advise? We don't know any other gay families in the area we're moving to but have been blessed to be part of the Rainbow Families group in Manchester where there's more than 50 families (from adoptive gay parents, to single mums, civil partners, anonymous donor insemination to 3 parents families etc!) would be great to make connections and feel more confident about uprooting! Thanks )

Hi there mamma007

We don't live far from where you are moving to & are always looking to make new connections especially with like minded people. There are no groups that I know of which is why I started this link. However, as you can see her2mummies are trying to set one up which will be great. Please keep in contact!

her2mummies

cant seem to find you on facebook for some reason? It comes back with 2 results, one woman from the USA & the other that is in a relationship with a man! HELP!

Thanks Ginger! We're really looking forward to the move and will be great to have some connections before we move

Hi Mamma007.
We are expecting twin in July and live on Merseyside. I heard about Rainbow Families in Manchester but can't find any details on the net.
Any advice on how to make contact with them? We moved up North from Brighton 18months ago and havent found any other lesbian mothers up here yet!
Best of everything for the move btw

Hi there flatpackassemblyDiva, I just had a look at the website for rainbow families and it appears it's no longer in use, but if you email a friend of ours jaynemugglestone@yahoo.co.uk, she should be able to let you know when the rainbow families gang are next meeting up - it's a great group to be a part of! I'm pretty sure Jayne can hook you up! Good luck with the twins! Wow, you're not gonna be able to get out of the house, let alone get to social gatherings!!! Best of luck

Thanks so much mamm007. I will email and see if we can make contact. Yes, everyone keeps telling us that once they arrive we will consider getting time to have a shower to be a major treat let alone social gatherings!

It's odd to consider how much our lives will change and how little you can prepare yourselves for it. One friend with a new baby suggested waking yourself up every hour for 4 weeks as preparation but I think he was joking..

Dear her2mummies, I see you might be/have already set up a social gathering/group for gay mummies in the Kent area? I did try to email you on the angelswithsnipers address but it bounced back, would it be ok to add you on facebook? Many thanks

So...we've made the big move and we're here in Kent! Would be great to meet up with some other gay mums and their kids, anyone fancy getting together in a few weeks time, around Leeds Castle area?

Hi

we live in Tonbridge... anyone still checking this thread? We are going to go to a group that meets in East London but it would be great if there was something going on a little closer to home. We used to live in south west London and met up with a group called South London Lesbian Mums, which was great but it's a bit of trek getting to their meet-ups.

We have one little boy and would really like to make a bit of a network of 'families a bit like us'.

SO.... if anyone wants to meet up for coffee then email us:
alexandra_birmingham@hotmail.com

Hi I have a 4 month old and me and my cp are planning a move to Faversham at Easter so we would love to start making contacts in the Kent area and to meet people...

Hi, Is anyone still checking this post. We are a lesbian couple with a 14 month old boy. We live in Sevenoaks at the moment... having trouble finding and meeting with other gay/lesbain parents. Would be interested in socialising, if anyone still interested?

Hi, if anyone in this thread is still in Kent and want to meet up with other lesbian / gay families, please let me know and i will try to make it happen.

Hi, we are 2 lesbians mums who now have a 2 1/2 year old daughter looking to meet other mums in the kent and medway areas xx

Dear All, I live in the Faversham area with my CP and we have a nearly 3 year old son - i would really like to meet other Lesbian parents so could you let me know if a group has been set up yet or if anyone is interested in meeting up?

Thank you

Hi,
I have recently started a social networking website for all us LGBT parents to make it easier for us to meet other like-minded people http://lesbiangayparents.ning.com Pop a long and have a look - it's free :-)
Claire

Hello Kent parents,

We live in South East London a the moment (gay parents abound!) but are planning to move to Faversham or a nearby village with our nearly 5 year old. Our only reservation is how we will be received there as a gay family, particularly by local schools.

I'd particularly like to hear from JudeN how you find it in Faversham. We've gone and hung out at the playground in the recreation ground to try to get a sense of what the demographic is but am still unsure (apart from having gathered that it is very very white!).

And we'd love to come to a kent-gay-parents meet-up group if one is set up...