I think what freaks people out here is the fact they're married. If they wanted to co-parent and had a different relationship I wonder if that would matter so much, other than the health issues already discussed of course.

or maybe she is just hearing what she didnt want to hear and fucked off.

Is she back yet? Hmmmm... think we've been had.

I wouldn't mix DNA with this man. He can't even abstain from fucking about for three months. The likelihood of him committing to a child, for good times and bad, is not good. How you conduct your marriage is your own business, but adding a child into this mix seems like a bad idea.

She was mad to be considering parenthood with this man. She is. He's not committed either to her or fatherhood.

Yeah but Dittany people did say she was a doormat and mad to be considering parenthood etc and implied that she and he together would be A Bad Idea.

I wholeheartedly agree the STDs and health concerns need to be addressed, I just suggest that the fact that he and/or she sleep with people outside their own relationship isn't in and of itself a reason that they shouldn't have children.

Indeed I suggested they talk to each other about what they really want and how they can achieve it safely.

I fail to see the connection to child consent.

We don't choose our parents and if they do not fit a particular norm then that hardly means they can't be good parents.

It could be argued (and is by some) that a child with gay parents will face a harder time, is anyone suggesting that gay couples are not good parents? I don't think so, so why should a heterosexual couple having an open relationship be stigmatised thus? And how would a child's consent be relevant?

A child does not get to choose the situation they are born into, we as a society hope to protect children from damage. Putting aside health issues for a moment, I see nothing inherent about a couple having an open relationship being damaging to a child. I believe that two adults can be both committed to their child and either not together or together but happy to see other people or together and monogamous or probably several other variations.

I think the health concerns are the single biggest point here, not the nature of the OP's relationship.

(and as for distasteful? well bugger me if they don't fit in!)

I notice the OP has fucked off now.

Forget the biscuit, I actually have nothing to say on this matter except................................

Warrra fackin libertayyyy

Oh and of course - TROLL

I don't think anybody criticised thesquirrel as a potential mother. It was her dh's inability to keep his dick in his pants long enough not to infect his wife or future baby with possible STDs that raised a question over his fitness for or commitment to fatherhood.

Thesquirell, do you get to shag about or is it just your DH? It doesn't seem a very equal partnership if you are not pursuing an open relationship. Are you genuinely happy with this situation or just so scared of losing him that you will tolerate just about anything? If you are truly happy then you should have a baby but perhaps see you GP about how to go about safely (sperm storage etc). If, however, you are terrified of life without and are desperately trying to hold on to him then you should re-think about having a baby. A small child has to be one of the most stressful situations a couple can face. Many happy marriages break up because of the strain.

TBH he sounds a lot more gay than he does bi-sexual. Sorry.