hertfordshire - any lesbian mums?

(38 Posts)
chachamum Tue 15-Jul-08 10:06:17

My partner and I have a 4 month old daughter, and are thinking of moving out of London in the next couple of years, to Hertfordshire, probably to Hertford or Ware. Are there any other lesbian mums in this area? (I know there must be!) We would be interested to hear your experiences, positive and negative, of being a gay parent outside of London. We live in an area of London where there are lots of 'alternative families', so we are still a little nervous about whether it will be harder for our daughter to grow up somewhere where gay families are less visible. Advice please!!

UnderRated Wed 16-Jul-08 02:03:50

Ooo, I grew up in Ware.

Can't help much but it seems like a fairly mixed area these days. No personal experience of this though. There are lots of MNers in Hertfordshire.

MamaChris Wed 16-Jul-08 07:11:25

Don't know anything about Ware, but in a similar position to you - thinking of moving out of London to Cambridgeshire. There're lots of lesbian families on Gingerbeer - you might get a better response there. We did

We have a 5 month old btw. Where in London are you?

chachamum Thu 17-Jul-08 19:27:50

Hi mamachris

Thanks for your message, we are in Hackney (lesbian central!) What about you?

MamaChris Sat 19-Jul-08 19:42:29

Finsbury Park. But ex-Hackney

chachamum Mon 21-Jul-08 09:53:13

Hi mamachris

We've met quite a lot of lesbian mums in the area via Rainbow Parents, who meet monthly in East London - let me know if you want more details?

MamaChris Mon 21-Jul-08 11:37:09

thanks. just found out about this group! might see you there next time

CJ2008 Sun 27-Jul-08 12:05:10

We are moving to St Albans in Hertfordshire. A lot of people move there from London for the same reasons as us/you so I'm hoping we won't be alone.

kee27 Thu 07-Aug-08 00:45:22

u know what hun im stright . but liv in enfield and would say wear is lovley at the end of the day . u r what u r and fuxx what ppl think u have every right . to be mums as well as be with whome . ever u want so gd luck hun were ever u chose to live x

babs10000 Thu 07-Aug-08 00:50:31

hatfield is undderated and cheap - great sixties housing for nothing, great school and London a mere 15 mins away

objectivity Thu 07-Aug-08 01:10:14

I'm in St Albans and it is lovely. Best place I've ever lived. I'm not gay but don't know any other mnetters here, surprisingly,but would love to meet some!

CJ2008 Wed 03-Sep-08 17:31:11

We're now in St Albans - everyone is very nice & polite but it's definately not the same as being gay & pregnant in London. For example, in John Lewis in Welwyn we booked a nursery advice session and they were very confused (but still very nice) about my partner being a woman! I have chickened out of mentioning my status to the GP so far. I'd be interested to know where you end up & how you find it. It's certainly exhausing coming out all over again.

marmite444 Mon 13-Oct-08 13:55:10

hi we are in st albans and i am thinking of starting a baby/pre school group. would you be intersted?

gettingstarted Sat 20-Dec-08 22:34:25

Hi we're in Hemel Hempstead and are currently ttc, I know there's at least a few other gays in the village wink but not found any other parents who haven't been in hetro marriages then come out - a damn easier way of conceiving! envy Let us know if you find anyone else! It is nice up here! grin

twomums Sun 18-Jan-09 20:29:51

Hi Marmite 444 and everyone else
we live in North London and would be keen to meet up in St Albans or anywhere else nearish by. Have you set up the baby/pre school group? We have 2 children, a girl and a boy. We would be more than happy to help with setting something up.

LeninGrad Thu 22-Jan-09 14:16:19

There's a great group in Cambridge for lesbian Mums: www.sisteract.org/mumsandkids.html. Families turn up to activities from all around the region and adjacent counties. There's a Yahoo group/email list too.

sanfran Mon 16-Mar-09 14:02:30

any gay mums near ashford middx

CJ75 Fri 03-Apr-09 09:51:22

Hi Gay mums in or near St Albans

How does anybody fancy meeting up for a coffee to see if there's any interest in a gay/bi mummy group for toddlers/babies/bumps?

Can any one do, say, 1st May 2009 (a friday) at 10am in Borders in Colney Fields (nice coffee and easy parking)

How will we spot each other? My gaydar is poor.

CJ75 Thu 23-Apr-09 10:05:47

Hi

Just in case anyone else wants to come there is an inaugural meet of gay parents (wanna be parents or bumps also welcome) in St Albans on 18th May with 4 local bods meeting up.

There will be a nice range of babies from 4 months ish to 15 months ish......we are meeting at 10am (I will make sure I am there by then but you can be late) at the Borders cafe (1st floor of Borders - lift at back) at Colney Fields, http://londoncolney.borders.co.uk/store/londoncolney/22/

I will have a blue maclaren and a 6 month old girl, I have short brown hair.

Let me know if you will join us so I can look out for you

Clare

cathjen Fri 26-Jun-09 11:50:08

Hi everyone,

I'm a health visitor in Rhyl North Wales- currently assisting the local women's centre on Water Street to promote the visibility of lesbians and lesbian parents.
If anyone has any suggestion or ideas about how we/I can help create a friendly welcoming environment for lesbians to meet I'd be very grateful.
I'm aware that there is homophobia still within the health service and am trying to counter this in my own small way - please let me know if there are things I can do to make it easier for women to talk to me about being lesbian or the difficulties they may be encoutering as a lesbian parent.

melbliss Sat 24-Jul-10 16:58:52

Are any of you interested in hosting a childrens book party???
I live just outside of Ware and have recently started selling childrens books.
If you host a party for your friends you will get special offers and freebies! Well worth having a get together for.
Thank you
Melanie

Kate78W Thu 05-Aug-10 21:26:07

CJ75 or anyone else - did the gay parent/toddler group ever happen? My two boys are far too big for toddler group but I have zero gay network in St Albans and would love to know if there is a hub of any sort?!

zambuk Thu 09-Sep-10 15:03:19

Hello - just want to know if any groups are taking place especially on the weekends as I work fulltime.

zambuk Thu 09-Sep-10 15:07:34

Kate78w - my son is also too old for toddler groups do you want to contact me to arrange something?

Jekeysmum Wed 12-Jan-11 12:30:17

I am in Croxley and was hoping to find other lesbian mums in the Croxley/Rickmansworth area - I think we are the only ones!

hamerse Mon 28-Feb-11 10:52:22

We are in Stevenage and know of at least 2 other families in the stevenage / hitchin area.

Would be great to meet more local rainbow families
we have a daughter of 5 and a son of 2

CJ75 Fri 01-Apr-11 12:10:28

Hi

Just to let you know we've opened a yahoo egroup for the St Albans & surrounding area gay parents and parents to be.

Join here

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/stalbansgayparents/join

Clare

CJ75 Tue 24-Apr-12 13:26:28

Just an update to say since 2011 we have had a group meeting monthly (2nd thursday of month 3-6pm in the marshalswick childrens centre on sherwood avenue in st albans. There are over 30 members of the yahoo group. Another resource set up by a local member that might be useful if you stumble across this thread is A new web group myalternativefamily.com set up to support alternative families at all stages by a local member of the yahoo group

CJ75 Tue 24-Apr-12 13:26:58

Oh and just a good way to keep uptodate is to join the yahoo group

notjustme Sat 05-May-12 23:44:58

We are in Hertford smile It's not exactly the thriving mecca of gay-ness but we've had very little issue with homophobia over the last 10 years!

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CJ75 Sat 18-Aug-12 07:47:20

Hi. Just to update the gay parents group is still going but not with regular meetins, more ad hoc irregular. Clare

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CJ75 Tue 21-Aug-12 09:16:03

Sounds great.....you should also Visit the my alternative family site and mention there, maybe promote it together? See http://www.myalternativefamily.com/

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CJ75 Fri 19-Jul-13 20:40:19

Hi

Just replying (very late) ... The group is meeting informally now and has over 50 members, read about it and see the link to join it here.

http://www.divamag.co.uk/category/comment/lesbian-parents-clare-hancock.aspx

Clare

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