My step sister died last summer, leaving 4 children, aged 4-11. Her partner showed very little interest in the kids, but is now having weekly contact (under supervision). He doesn't want the kids full time.
The kids are currently in foster care, split between two families. My niece is on her own, and wants to live with a friend of her mums, who has put in an application for custody. I don't want to disturb this as it is what she really wants.
My fiance and I have talked about taking some/all of the boys (4-9). We are both under 30 and have no children of our own (yet). My major reservations are that I don't think we can cope with 3, plus our own (he does); my middle nephew has behavioural problems - we both work full time; I don't think I could cope with taking them to see their dad each week and I don't think it is fair on our (unborn) children. Although I think we could cope with 1 (or possibly 2) of my nephews, I don't want to chose between them.
I do want a 'normal' aunt/uncle relationship. My fiance has said he will accept my decision, but I know he wants to have them.
What would you do?
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littlemisstax · 27/07/2009 19:59
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