Argh!!!!
We are currently going through the home study to be foster parents, and have a panel date of March 19th.
We have done the prep groups, had our home checked and are nearly at the end of the home stufy...all this has been done in 6 weeks instead of the 9 months it usually takes as they are desperate for foster parents here.
Our home is perfect, large secure back garden large house spare bedrooms etc, they have absolutely no concerns over our parenting skills, the atmosphere in the house is brill etc.
However it is unlikely we will be recommended and approved...why???
- I have said all along I do not want them contadcting my ex...he was refused any contact with my eldest by court order nearly 10 years ago, was violent and made threats to kill, I had police protection and a home office alarm installed...but they wanted to stir it all up again to ask him if I was a good mum in his eyes?
- My weight loss...they are not happy I have lost 11 stones and that a foster child may stress me and make me eat again. I have NEVER eaten because of stresses over kids...I was raped when I was 17 and made the unconcious decision at that point that fat = unattractive therefore I'd be fat! I had counselling 18 months ago and sorted out my head and have lost all the weight.
Argh! Talk about nit-picking!!!