Hello,
I'm writing this to see if anyone could give myself and my husband some advice.
This is a long story so please try to bear with me.
12 years ago myself and my husband agreed mutually to look after one of my husbands brothers children for a short period of time because they were struggling to cope, he was 16 months old and was 1 of a twin the other being his sister remained with his parents. In between this another child was born. They had 4 older children also and had been involved with social services previously. This arrangement carried on and he became part of our family. Around 12 months later, we had a knock on the door from a social worker asking us if we had him and if they could see him because he had not been seen by a health visitor for some time and their were concerns about his family.
Our little one was at nursery so we asked her to come back when he came out which she did.
She could see how happy he was (Thriving she said) and then told us that his twin sister had been reported to social services by their doctor due to extreme neglect and then the whole family of children were placed on the at risk register and that they were going to be removing his twin from their home into care unless it was possible to place her with us and her twin.
Obviously we wouldn't have let that happen so we agreed that we would take her under extreme resentment from her mother and father. And she was brought to us a week or 2 later.
I cant go into to much detail but their house was not the best and the children's mother and father were seeing other people and the twins and new baby were not even my Husbands brothers children as he had a vasectomy.
We were all kept up to date and went to case conferences and took the twins on regular check ups and so on.
Then shortly after Their mother got breast cancer which ran in the family on her side and to cut a long story short we ended up with the last daughter who was then 12 months old.
We had all the relevant checks with the police and doctors and attended meetings until one day they were satisfied that the 3 younger children were no longer at risk and were in a stable yet overcrowded home and were advised to get a residence order and that was it Goodbye and thank you. No financial help support groups nothing. We were just left to it.
Then we were introduced to a brilliant solicitor in Huddersfield. I'm not sure if we are allowed to use names so I haven't.
The solicitors took the LA to court and they admitted liability settled out of court and we now get full foster carers allowance.
What we wasn't told is that we would have social workers turning up at our door after 12 years and being told we had to go through the fostering process even though we have had them that long. And that our girls had to see social workers which is stressing them out as we have had to go into school and explain that there would be someone from social services getting in touch with them. My elder daughter is a peer mentor and said mum I look after kids with social workers and everyone's going to find out.
They don't want anything to do with them and are very reluctant to talk to them.
I am also a little annoyed to put it politely that they want something to do with us now that they have to pay for them. I also don't think we should have to pass a fostering test after 12 years?
Can anyone suggest anything? Or help in anyway as to what to do.
They wanted us to get a special guardianship order but our solicitor refused point blank saying they were just trying to get us of their hands.
Thank You For reading this extremely long post any advice would be great :)
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zoe180180 · 04/03/2014 17:05
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