We have fostered a little girl for almost a year now,it did look she was going up for adoption but then they did DNA tests and found out it was a different dad who was the farther! She had never met him,but now he knows she is his,he has put him self forward as a carer for her.We are de sated as we wanted to adopt her ourselves. She is so settled and happy and calls us Mummy and daddy,it's going to be heart breaking for all of us,I know they have to consider birth family,they are starting a parent assessment. We have been foster carers fo 13 years,but this little girl is going to totally break my heart when she leaves. I understand in my head that she will be going,but my heart won't believe it! I just love and adore her so much,she makes me laugh everyday,although have to say that she is also a handful (she's two) . It makes me feel sick when social workers ring to discuss what's happening. It was thought that dad would not be able to care for her as the first report social worker did on dad said that he wasn't able to protect her. The judge said too many gaps in the report,so another report was done on dad by an i dependant social worker,this time it came back as positive! Before this we had looked into adopting her and had the gaurdians's blessing to do so.I guess at that point we thought she was going to be ours. Now I just feel so sad all the time and wish I could change things,but I can't.
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Summerwood1 · 08/01/2014 21:56
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