Any advice regarding an 11 year old foster child who keeps his room like a bomb site - or rather makes it like one?
I've tried helping/showing him how to keep it tidy, reasoning with him (that works on most other things), encouraging, bribing, punishing by taking treats away and every other way I can think of. He actively seems to want to make as much mess as possible - spending ages putting rubbish/dirty clothes in cupboards when it would take two seconds to put them in the washing basket/bin. Yes, I have tried providing new bins and laundry baskets - that he uses for clean things. I am not asking for miracles, I make and change his bed, dust and hoover, take out the dirty laundry and put clean clothes away...but I just need a bit of help from him.
Of course the above problem can apply to any child - and has with my other children. However, the reason I am posting in the fostering forum is I worry about it more because of social worker visits. The child's social worker usually asking to have a chat with him in his room (fair enough) and so I always end up doing the room myself. Maybe I have answered my own question here, and he realises that too!!! LOL
In other ways he is delightful, we have no major problems with him. He is well, happy, settled and very much a part of our family. It's just his bedroom!
Ideas please - many thanks!
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cornishsue · 18/12/2012 14:19
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